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Last Call for the Monkey Train  ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­ Hello there Maude, I have two newsletters. This one is more of a "just the facts" and updates/news. In that spirit:​​Just a quickie reminder that the coaching psychology and education workshop**, Flying Monkeys: Coaching to Escape the System ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d/x0hph6he69o07wa5/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9kZWVwcHJhY3RpY2U= )is this Saturday, May 30th. You can register through about 6am PDT on Saturday morning, in case you decide at 5:59 AM that it’s for you. Before hand is also welcome.​ Gratitude to my friend and one-time summer camp, bunk mate, Magda Pecsenye for forwarding me the perfect cartoon for the Flying Monkeys psychology!​​I’m having a blast putting it together, and as of about 32 minutes ago, 94% of folks who did my last workshop, have enrolled in this one. That bodes well. And thanks! You honor me and it’s supercool I get to teach this to you. And if the workshop isn’t your thing, we’re still cool. I like you. Stick around, as there maybe something here for your teeth to sink into on the horizon.​​​I’ll be back next week with fresh writing on Substack ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d/e0hph7h7gq6onqb8/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaWJ1Y2tsZXkuc3Vic3RhY2suY29tLw== ) and some, I believe, very cool news which I'll share here, too.​​**Recorded live, includes playbook and exercises you can do with your clients/patients/students, depending on what you do :) You can listen/watch indefinitely, if you’d like to. All summer. With popcorn. At the pool. ​REGISTER HERE ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d/x0hph6he69o07wa5/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9kZWVwcHJhY3RpY2U= )​​​As always, Context. Nuance. Discernment.​​With gratitude, Randi It’s hard to take a selfie while looking pensive but feeling ridiculous about even taking a selfie in your cabin at your retreat in the Lofoten Islands in Northern Norway. In the words of the great Maya Angelou, “and still, I rise”. ​ Randi Buckley is a California-based coaching psychologist, MCC-credentialed coach with 25 years of experience, a doctoral researcher at a fancy English University studying a variety of coaching interventions as identity transformation, transformative education, and the creator of A Year of Healthy Boundaries and The Deep Practice coaching skills trainings. She works with coaches, therapists, HR professionals, and leaders who want to go deeper — into the psychology, the theory, and the work underneath the work. More at randibuckley.com ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d/7qh7h8h97wq54zcz/aHR0cDovL3d3dy5yYW5kaWJ1Y2tsZXkuY29t ). Blah, Blah. I dislike writing in the third person and love sea otters, street tacos, and dark chocolate. ​ ​​​ ​​ ​ ​ ​ Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d ) | Update your profile ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/xmulvd67wns6hpvz5plc5h2e4e28qinhp9d ) | 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950

How to Coach the Escape from It (Yourself or others)  ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­ Hello there Maude, You know this client. (Uh… perhaps you are this person, too.) They/you did the work. Real work. They got clear on what matters to them, made a decision that was actually theirs, started showing up differently. You were proud of them. They were proud of themselves. And then, within days (sometimes hours), the calls started. The texts. The “just checking in.” The carefully worded concern from a sister, a colleague, an old friend who hasn’t reached out in months but suddenly has opinions. Dude: The Boss!​​The subtext, always: you’re not who we need you to be. Your client (or you) comes back and says, “Maybe I was wrong.” But they weren’t wrong.​They ran into something most coaching training never covers, and a lot of training doesn’t even know about: the system’s immune response. Here’s what I mean by that. Every person exists inside a system. Family, friendships, workplace, culture, community. And that system behaves exactly like a spider’s web. Not poetically. Structurally. A spider’s web is an engineering marvel of distributed tension. Every strand is connected to every other strand. The whole structure is calibrated so precisely that when one thread vibrates, the entire web registers it. That’s the point. That’s the design. The spider doesn’t need to watch every corner of the web. It just needs to feel movement. Photo by J Yeo on Unsplash Your client is a strand in their web. And the moment they move, the whole system feels the vibration. Now here’s the part that matters for your coaching (or your life): the web doesn’t vibrate because something went wrong. It vibrates because that’s exactly how it’s built to function. The system is performing perfectly. It detected a disturbance and it’s responding. The web has no interest in whether the movement is growth or collapse, healthy or destructive, courageous or catastrophic. It only registers: something moved that wasn’t supposed to move. So the system sends its enforcers. I call them the Flying Monkeys, because I love a metaphor and also because it’s accurate. The people around you/your client aren’t villains (per se). They’re conscripts. Recruited, usually without knowing it, by a system that needs everyone to stay exactly where they are. The Flying Monkeys don’t come for people who stay put. They come the moment someone starts to change. And they almost always include the faces of the people your client loves most. The concern that’s actually control.​The guilt trip dressed up as care.​The shame so quiet your client can’t even name it, just feels it like a weight in their chest when they try to hold their new ground.​That’s not personal failing.​​That’s the web doing what webs do. Tightening around the vibration.​And if you don’t know this, can’t see it, or are a professional not trained for it, if feels like YOUR failure. This is Biomimicry at its most uncomfortable. Nature loves stasis. We are part of nature, and so we move the way nature moves, which means our social systems resist disruption the way a body fights a fever, the way a web tightens around a thread that dares to pull loose. The response isn’t personal. It’s mechanical. But it’s extraordinarily powerful, and if you don’t see it for what it is, it will convince your client they failed when they were actually, finally, succeeding. And here’s what makes this tricky to coach: you can’t just cut the strand free. A thread ripped from a web damages the web and the thread. Your client doesn’t want to destroy their relationships. They want to move within the web differently. They want to change the tension without collapsing the whole structure. That requires understanding the architecture, not just encouraging the movement. This is the part most coaching training skips. Not maliciously. It’s just not in the curriculum. We’re trained beautifully in the personal work: values 😉, authenticity, decision-making, all the lovely interior stuff. But the moment your client hits systemic pushback? We’re mostly suggesting they believe harder. Hold the boundary firmer (expert here: probably not the move). Work on their mindset. And that’s not wrong, exactly. It’s just not the whole picture. Because what they’re facing isn’t a belief problem. It’s a systems problem. And those are different animals entirely. There’s actual psychology behind this. Research. Mechanisms. The way norm enforcement operates invisibly. How shame functions as a social technology so sophisticated your client doesn’t even recognize it as shame. Which cultural scripts are doing the heavy lifting while everyone thinks they’re just being helpful. Why the pushback arrives from every direction at once, like vibrations running along every strand simultaneously, and feels so disorienting that even smart, capable people start doubting their own clarity. When we can see the web, when we can see the whole formation and not just the monkey standing in front of us, something shifts. Change doesn’t just become possible. It becomes sustainable. Not the client who white-knuckles a new boundary for three weeks before quietly folding back into the shape the web requires. The client who learns to move within the system skillfully enough to actually walk free. Now, honestly? Maybe this essay is enough. Maybe just reading this helps you recognize something you’ve been watching in your practice and gives you a name for it. If so, good. That’s worth something. Take it and use it. YAY! But if you want to go further, if you want two hours inside the psychology that drives all of this, the specific coaching tools to work with systemic resistance, and actual exercises you can bring into your practice the following week, that’s what I’m teaching on May 30th. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The Flying Monkeys: Coaching to Escape the System A Buckley Method® Coaching Psychology & Education Training ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ​ Saturday, May 30th. Two hours. Live on Zoom. $97. Recording and playbook included. Limited seats. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For coaches, therapists, HR professionals, and anyone who finds themselves coaching people through change but was never formally trained for it. A few participants in the last workshop told me they got more usable psychology in those two hours than across all their certifications combined. I won’t promise that for you, but I will promise rigor, depth, and the kind of fun that happens when a room full of smart people finally get language for the thing they’ve been watching but couldn’t name. I cite the research. I’ll bring it. We won’t gesticulate to air about “research” and have that be good enough. This is the final workshop in the current series. It’s leading to something quite special. ​REGISTER HERE ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/92uxwvlkm2cnh6mvm3vh9hzqkrm0ouwhzm2/3ohphkh3lr32dlbr/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9kZWVwcHJhY3RpY2U= )​​Thanks and take care of that web!​​As always, Context. Nuance. Discernment.​​With gratitude, Randi ​ Randi Buckley is a California-based, MCC-credentialed coach with 25 years of experience, a doctoral researcher at a fancy English University studying a variety of coaching interventions as identity transformation, transformative education, and the creator of A Year of Healthy Boundaries and The Deep Practice coaching skills trainings. She works with coaches, therapists, HR professionals, and leaders who want to go deeper — into the psychology, the theory, and the work underneath the work. 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(This is not about hair.)  ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏ ͏­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­ Hiya Maude! Today’s note is for the perfectionists. You know who you are — the ones who delay because something isn’t quite right yet, or because it could, theoretically, always be better. Yesterday, in our community coaching group, In The Room, one of my freakin’ brilliant clients (who gave permission that I can share) was ready to make a BIG, BADDIE, EVOLUTIONARY MOVE and then waved her perfectionism flag. ​​She said, roughly verbatim: “The new website is ready to go. It’s been ten years of shifts and revisions, and it finally reflects the work and who I work with now. Except... I think I could nail down the messaging even better. Tweak the words. Better describe the results, the process, who I am, why I do this...” And here’s the thing: she probably could. That’s the nature of some things. They hold the permanent possibility of more. Which means the loop never closes on its own. One more certification! A few more pounds! Just one more tweak! We all know this story — perfectionists especially, and those of us who work with them. I wanted to give her something that might actually close the loop. So I made an analogy. “Have you ever thought about chopping your hair off?” Tentative pause. “Yes?” “But you’ve been putting it off because you know you want shorter hair — just not exactly which style, and not quite sure what to tell the person with the scissors. So you wait. Even though you know you want to take eight inches off. Here’s what I’d say: go get the chop. Get the cut. See how it feels. You know you want to go lighter, so do that part. And then, once you’re living in it, you’ll know far more specifically what you want and you can go back for a trim… which you’ll be getting nonetheless. The shorter length might even be what shows you what you want the style to do. So: get the cut, feel it out while enjoying the lightness, then go back for the trim when you know more.” I suspect you, as did she, knew immediately that we weren’t talking about hair. So we applied it. Her new website goes live Friday. In a few weeks, she’ll go back for a “trim” — revisit the copy, make any changes that feel more aligned, the kind that can only be revealed by the experience of having actually been live. She didn’t need more from me after that. She got it. Time and experience will tell her what the trim needs to be, if anything at all. The haircut isn’t about the hair. The website isn’t about the website. And you already know what your eight inches is. Go get the chop. A few things before you go: 🎧 You can eavesdrop on live coaching — and they said yes. Several wonderful folks have given permission for you to listen in on their real sessions. Multiple recordings, real conversations, nothing staged. If you’re a coach, therapist, HR professional, or someone who just finds the inside of a coaching conversation genuinely useful — this might be the most valuable thing I offer that you didn’t know existed. Tune into RANDI RADIO! ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/0vu9l85de3b9h95modntlhv77wd6wbnh9o7/kkhmh6hnvqplgocl/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaWJ1Y2tsZXkuc3Vic3RhY2suY29tL3BvZGNhc3Q= )​ 📅 In The Room is where that haircut conversation happened. It’s our community coaching group. Our next enrollment window will open in August. 🧠 The Value of Values workshop was, frankly, franfreakingfabulous — and the next in the series continues. Saturday, May 23rd: Flying Monkeys — by popular request (those in the Values workshop asking for even more on one of the topics). ​The Deep Practice trainings are the coaching psychology and skills that didn’t make it into most coach training programs. Built for coaches, HR professionals, therapists doing more coaching work, and anyone coaching without formal training. Flying Monkeys registration will open this weekend. Two hours, packed with tangible goodness. That’s it from me. Now go make the appointment.​As always, Context. Nuance. Discernment.​With gratitude, Randi Me. Super. Jetlagged. Randi Buckley is a California-based, MCC-credentialed coach with 25 years of experience, a doctoral researcher at a fancy English University studying a variety of coaching interventions as identity transformation, transformative education, and the creator of A Year of Healthy Boundaries and The Deep Practice coaching skills trainings. She works with coaches, therapists, HR professionals, and leaders who want to go deeper — into the psychology, the theory, and the work underneath the work. 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Hello Friends, Most of you know me through boundaries work. Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, A Year of Healthy Boundaries, the research, the writing, all of it. Some of you may have also seen this on Substack but as I rarely cross-post, if so, hello from both directions. My signature program helped nearly a thousand people. I built work I was proud of. Genuinely good weaving. And then I pulled it off the loom. Not because it was wrong. Because I kept seeing the pattern it was trying to become. The doctoral research showed me what was underneath — the mechanisms of transformation I'd been intuiting for decades but couldn't yet name. The original threads were always sound. The new weaving holds all of them. It's just that now you can see the whole design. I'm reweaving the good work back into something bigger, something stronger, and something with deeper impact. Part of that design is this: the gap between a client naming their values and those values actually changing anything. The session that feels powerful in the room and then somehow doesn't survive the week. The client who names integrity, family, and freedom with real feeling — and then goes right back to the seventy-hour weeks and the relationship they've been outgrowing for two years. I've been watching this pattern for twenty-five years. My doctoral research gave me precise language for why it happens. Most values work, even very good values work, operates at one specific level. There are additional layers underneath where the actual change happens. Research has confirmed a significant gap there. And almost no coach training touches it. So I'm doing something about it. And it's part of The Buckley Method®. ​ On Saturday, May 2nd I'm teaching a two-hour workshop called The Value of Values Work. It's a Buckley Method workshop, which means we go underneath the values conversation and into the psychology, the research, and the specific patterns that explain why the work lands when it does and slips past the surface when it doesn't. We'll cover my original research including Values–Boundaries Paradox, Values Vertigo, and a handful of original exercises built for real coaching conversations with real clients. You'll leave with something specific to do the next time a client names their values beautifully and then nothing changes. This is for coaches, therapists, practitioners, leaders, and anyone who finds themselves in coaching conversations whether they've had formal training or not. Two hours. Live on Zoom. $97. Recording and playbook included. Cameras optional. I'd love to have you in the room.​Check it out and register: ​THE VALUE of VALUES Workshop: For coaches, therapists, leaders, and those who find themselves coaching but never trained for it. ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u9q02mpvb9h2owkr8fqhpqellegurh29k/08hwh9h2rmxq25il/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9kZWVwcHJhY3RpY2U= )​ With gratitude,​Randi P.S. If you've been watching my work for a while and this feels like the moment to do something with it, Saturday May 2nd is a good place to start. I'll bring the tea and grape Ollipop. (I'm obsessed.)​​ ​​ ​ ​ ​ Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/p9u9q02mpvb9h2owkr8fqhpqellegurh29k ) | Update your profile ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/p9u9q02mpvb9h2owkr8fqhpqellegurh29k ) | 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950

Hello Maude, ​ A few years ago something kept happening in my courses. People would get coached, or witness someone else get coached, and leave changed. Because something had shifted for everyone and in how they were holding it. Being in the room worked, comforted, and championed, on several levels. We started calling it the magic of witnessing. And eventually we realized: this is its own thing. It deserves its own container. That’s how In The Room was born. Grounded medicine. A soft place to land that also has a spine. I’ve been offering it quietly to a small circle for a while now. And I keep coming back to the same feeling: this is exactly the kind of room the world needs more of right now. Not because things are hard — though they are — but because we were built for hard. We just need somewhere to remember that. So I’m opening the doors wider... and with a sliding scale. And I want you in. Here’s what it actually is: Six live coaching sessions every month- two time options most weeks so you can come when it works for you. Come to all of them or drop in when something is alive for you. No attendance requirements. No catching up. Each session: you bring what’s real, I coach, the community witnesses. And here’s what happens: I don’t circle your story. I go for the jugular of truth; the clarity beneath the fog, the structural tension underneath the noise. After 25 years of doing this, I know where to listen. Accountability here isn’t a program feature that feels like a flogging rod. It’s accountability to yourself; to who you are, who you were, and who you’re becoming. Coaching In The Room is a craft, not a disciple of a framework or a guru. It meets you in the moment with exactly what you need. Some days you’re in the chair getting coached. Some days you witness quietly- and leave just as moved. ​ Both matter. Both do something real. You don’t have to perform. You don’t have to say anything. You can witness quietly as a force of nature. Held in community and seen individually. We build the future we desire while navigating the present. At home. At work. In secret. In public. To meet you on the days where the world feels like too much and then emerge remembering you were born for it. To create it. To shape it. That’s what we do In The Room. ​ In The Room is offered on a sliding scale: $250 or $350/month. Three-month commitment, then month-to-month for as long as it serves you. If you want to commit to six months and pay in full, you get one private session with me included — valued at $450 and typically booked weeks out. This enrollment window is open until April 6th, or until we reach capacity. When it closes, it closes. The next window opens when we’re ready. If something real is happening in your life right now: a decision, a transition, a season of unusual weight, you don’t have to navigate it alone. ​ Would you like to get in the room with me? -->GET IN THE ROOM (or learn more ;) ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9/e0hph7h7vq7mqkb8/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20tc3ByaW5n ) GET IN THE ROOM (or learn more ;) ( https://www.randibuckley.com/intheroom-spring )Because sometimes the most radical thing you can do is be in a room where someone actually sees you. With gratitude, Randi​ ​ Point Lobos, CA. A favorite hike near our home. ​ ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9/7qh7h8h9lw9dwoiz/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9 ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9 )​

Hello Maude, ​ I’ll be honest with you. Opening something new right now feels a little strange. The world is heavy. Many of us are carrying a lot — watching events unfold, wondering where things are headed, and trying to make sense of what comes next. Marketing anything in that context can feel… a little surreal. And yet, as I hold my vision for what is possible for us, I keep coming back to this: The thing I’m opening is literally a place where people can bring the real things happening in their lives and receive thoughtful coaching in the presence of others who are also doing the work. Which feels less like marketing and more like… pointing at the fire exit. So here we are. Despite everything, I still have a deep sense of hope for the future. Not the passive kind of hope that waits for things to get better on their own but the kind that is built. Built through thoughtful people continuing to reflect, to grow, to make meaningful decisions about how they live and lead their lives. And in my experience, that kind of thinking rarely happens in isolation. It happens in rooms where people can say the real things out loud. Where complexity is welcome. Where perspective widens, compassion appears, and possibilities begin to emerge that weren’t visible before. Community isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s one of the ways we find our footing and build what comes next. Over the past decade of coaching, I’ve noticed something else. The deepest transformations rarely happen during the teaching. They happen during live coaching. It’s the closest thing I’ve found to bringing real 1:1 coaching into a room where everyone can learn from the work. One person brings something real into the room — a decision, a relationship tension, a question they can’t quite resolve — and we work with it together in real time. Everyone else in the room witnesses the coaching as it unfolds. And even when someone else is being coached, something often lands for everyone listening. An insight. A recognition. A shift. That’s the quiet power of coaching in community. Last year I began offering a version of this space to a small circle of alumni. No curriculum. No formal program. Just a room where people could bring what was real in their lives and receive coaching while others witnessed and learned alongside them. The impact was profound. It quickly became one of my favorite ways to work. So I decided to open the room a little wider. It’s called In The Room ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9/kkhmh6hnrp969gal/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20= ). ​ Here’s what it looks like in practice: At least six live coaching sessions each month, offered at two different times so you can attend when life cooperates. Each session includes real coaching. Some weeks you may be the one bringing something forward and receiving coaching. Other weeks you may simply witness someone else’s work and realize their question was somehow also yours. Both experiences are powerful. And because enrollment is open, if you decide to join you can start as soon as next week’s sessions. ​ Here’s what Claire said about being in the room: “Any room with Randi in it is a room you want to be in. Randi’s wisdom and ability to coach you through almost anything is such a gift, and to be able to benefit from this in the company of the exquisite humans she brings together makes In The Room one of the best investments I’ve ever made. I often show up thinking I don’t have anything for coaching that week, and inevitably realize I am also dealing with the same challenges others have brought for coaching. Even when I’m not the one being coached, I benefit immensely from hearing others being coached so expertly by Randi. I always leave feeling refreshed and reenergised.” — Claire Mahon Human Rights Attorney, Geneva — The investment is $300/month. I remain committed to an offer that makes coaching as accessible as I can. If this resonates, I’d love to have you in the room. And if it doesn’t, you know me: No worries! But please find your people somewhere. Find a place where you can bring the real things you’re carrying. Get support. Receive reflection. Have your goodness mirrored back to you. Because this is a complicated time to be a person. And you don’t have to navigate it alone. You can read about In The Room here: ​https://www.randibuckley.com/intheroom ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9/kkhmh6hnrp969gal/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20= )​ ​ Personal coaching, grounded in "not too much" community. 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Hello Maude, ​ Over the past few weeks, several of my coaching conversations have included a version of this: “It feels like a double bind,” she said. “If I don’t resolve this, something in me will die. And if I do nothing, I’ll have died with it unresolved.” If you’ve related, you know the feeling of not wanting something unfinished to become the story that defines you. Not dramatic. Not theatrical. A real sentence spoken quietly with weight and fatigue. I recognize it myself. There are seasons when time feels abstract and forgiving. This does not feel like one of them. There are decisions that press against the ribs. Risks that feel like they will either expand a life or narrow it. Unfinished conversations that hum beneath everything else. So when someone says, “I don’t want to die with this unresolved,” what I hear underneath it is this: I don’t want this to define me. Not my capacity. Not my love. Not my integrity. That is not melodrama. That is the fear of living inside the wrong story. When something begins to feel like it could define us, we do not become decisive. We become careful. We hold still. We rehearse outcomes. And the longer it stays unspoken, the more permanent it feels. ​Silence turns fear into identity. I do not have a prescription for resolution. Some things do not resolve cleanly. Some mistakes cannot be undone. But I do know this: Verdicts harden in isolation. And authorship returns in movement, the shift from living inside a script to writing your own. Not the kind that performs competence. The kind that risks being seen mid-process. Sometimes that movement is a boundary. Sometimes it is a decision made without full certainty. Sometimes it is simply saying, “I am more afraid of this defining me than I have wanted to admit.” Spoken out loud. In the presence of someone who does not rush to fix you. That shifts something. Not because the past disappears. But because you are no longer alone inside your story. And if something in you has been pressing against the ribs, you probably already know what it is. With gratitude, Randi PS: A new episode of Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9/wnh2hghqn6xglnu7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) has dropped — another live Witness coaching session where you can listen in as Grace works through a decision that has been pressing on her for a while. If you’ve ever wondered if you could step away and things could run without you, you might recognize something here. ​ ​ ​ ​ ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9/8ghqhohoznq97vck/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9 ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9 )​

Hello Maude! ​ I have something for you! Keep reading. ​ If you've been around these parts for a while, you'll undoubtedly heard me talk about how boundaries, and human behavior in general, is not easily altered with a hack here and there. We're complex! We're layered! And then I have my whole, holy trinity of Context, Nuance, and Discernment. ​ ​AND YET...​ ​ My students (over 1000 of them) and clients often tell me this little device I crafted is a game changer. This is what I want to offer you today. Actually, through February 21st. ​ It's something you might have heard me say before, but as I introduce The Boundary Edit Kit ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/m2h7h5h3v78wxdam/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaS1idWNrbGV5LWNvYWNoaW5nLmtpdC5jb20vOWJlZTRjMzU4NA== ) (I love a good double entendre!), you'll receive an audio recording explaining it and five follow up notes that address the challenges, concerns, frustrations, and how to implement this edit and tool. It might not be a solution to everything, but it can be a dang game changer and a re-orienting to you, start. ​ Starting Feb. 22nd, it will be something folks can purchase, but for now, and out of gratitude, it's my offering to you. ​ ​To get it, go here: ​ ​Get The Boundary Edit Kit ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/m2h7h5h3v78wxdam/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaS1idWNrbGV5LWNvYWNoaW5nLmtpdC5jb20vOWJlZTRjMzU4NA== )​ I sincerely hope you enjoy it! It was very fun to make with you in mind. ​ I'll be in touch in a few days with the next edition of Randi Radio. With gratitude, ​ Randi ​ ​ ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/dpheh0hevm0rxpfm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en )​

Hello Maude, I’m entering a new era, and I’d like to tell you about it. Even more, I hope you’ll join me. As I’ve alluded to, we’re on the edge of a new era collectively, and that will take work to craft, curate, nurture, and metabolize. I see my work fitting into that. I see you fitting into so much of what is possible and what we’re becoming. In the muck of all that is, I see a bright horizon. We’re not there yet, but we were born for these times. Still, we need new perspectives, new ways, and each other to do it. Why a new era for me? It’s mixed and layered. And it’s time. After retiring Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, delivering and presenting dissertation #1, and stepping away from most, if not all of sharing my work on social media, I’m shedding skins of the past. These things served well. They are solid in their own right. And we move forward, don’t we? Over the next few days and weeks, you’ll see and perhaps experience what that looks like for us together. I was going to write it all out in a tidy overview, but as I sit here with you now, it feels like this moment is less about telling and more about showing. So let me share what’s current, new as of today, and what’s coming later this week. Today, I am super duper stoked to tell you about Witness Coaching Sessions ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) (new thing #1). Listen in! These are fully consented, ethical coaching sessions where you get to listen in and witness the coaching itself. I am a huge fan of witnessing, and it’s been part of my community coaching offerings for nearly two decades. It’s even seeping into my research. There is so much available in witnessing, being present to another person’s coaching without fixing, advising, or performing. Today, Marie’s session is dropping on Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) (new thing #2). I invite you to listen and notice what moves in you. Can you relate? I might not coach you the way I coached Marie. Coaching is about revealing and facilitating your learning about yourself. And there is plenty here to take in as Marie talks about her stuckness and loss of spark in her work post Covid. I had a great time with her, and I suspect you will too. In a few days, we’ll release Grace’s session. Then Tammi’s. I’ll also weave in other episodes, me riffing on current events, coaching, people, and the things we’re living through. Over 100 of you applied to be coached for a Witness Coaching session. Thank you. Truly. I’ll continue reaching out and scheduling sessions in the weeks and months ahead. When you visit Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ), you’ll also see a link to apply if you’d like to record a session yourself. On Friday, it’s my birthday. I can’t believe I even admitted that, as I’m not a birthday person. Not in a “I hope they remember and surprise me” way, but more in a “Is this day done yet?!” way. And yet, here we are. I mention it because rather than centering me, I’m offering a gift to you. On Friday, I’m releasing, sharing, unveiling, whatever we’re calling it, the Top Boundary Tool I can offer (new thing #3). Now here’s the thing. I am not about boundary hacks, scripts, or tips. I’m about depth psychology, values, and identity. And yet, time and again, people tell me this particular tool is profoundly helpful, whether you’re just getting your bearings or need to re ground yourself in healthy boundaries. The tool, along with a five email follow up, will be available for about a week before I gate it, along with this newsletter (new thing #4). (You're good to go.) There’s more to come. Much more. But that’s plenty for now. I’m brimming with new era energy. And if you’re not quite feeling yours yet, I invite you In The Room with us. Lean into what’s here as we navigate the turbulent waters of this moment and make our way toward a shore built on hope, values, justice, and excellence. As I pull away from sharing my work on social media, feeling a bit like violinist Joshua Bell playing in a DC Metro station, I’ll be sharing more here. Via email (Honestly and to be fair, new thing #5.), Randi Radio, workshops around the world, and select podcasts. I’m really glad you’re here. Check out Marie’s Witness Coaching Session ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ), and I’ll send you the link to opt in, my birthday gift to you, to the World’s Best Boundary Tool this weekend. Context. Nuance. Discernment. ​ ​With gratitude, ​Randi ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7 ) | Update your profile ( https://preferences.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7 ) | 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/e0hph7h76p9x2qt8/aHR0cHM6Ly9idWlsdHdpdGgua2l0LmNvbT91dG1fY2FtcGFpZ249cG93ZXJlZGJ5JnV0bV9jb250ZW50PWVtYWlsJnV0bV9tZWRpdW09cmVmZXJyYWwmdXRtX3NvdXJjZT1keW5hbWlj )