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Hello Maude, ​ A few years ago something kept happening in my courses. People would get coached, or witness someone else get coached, and leave changed. Because something had shifted for everyone and in how they were holding it. Being in the room worked, comforted, and championed, on several levels. We started calling it the magic of witnessing. And eventually we realized: this is its own thing. It deserves its own container. That’s how In The Room was born. Grounded medicine. A soft place to land that also has a spine. I’ve been offering it quietly to a small circle for a while now. And I keep coming back to the same feeling: this is exactly the kind of room the world needs more of right now. Not because things are hard — though they are — but because we were built for hard. We just need somewhere to remember that. So I’m opening the doors wider... and with a sliding scale. And I want you in. Here’s what it actually is: Six live coaching sessions every month- two time options most weeks so you can come when it works for you. Come to all of them or drop in when something is alive for you. No attendance requirements. No catching up. Each session: you bring what’s real, I coach, the community witnesses. And here’s what happens: I don’t circle your story. I go for the jugular of truth; the clarity beneath the fog, the structural tension underneath the noise. After 25 years of doing this, I know where to listen. Accountability here isn’t a program feature that feels like a flogging rod. It’s accountability to yourself; to who you are, who you were, and who you’re becoming. Coaching In The Room is a craft, not a disciple of a framework or a guru. It meets you in the moment with exactly what you need. Some days you’re in the chair getting coached. Some days you witness quietly- and leave just as moved. ​ Both matter. Both do something real. You don’t have to perform. You don’t have to say anything. You can witness quietly as a force of nature. Held in community and seen individually. We build the future we desire while navigating the present. At home. At work. In secret. In public. To meet you on the days where the world feels like too much and then emerge remembering you were born for it. To create it. To shape it. That’s what we do In The Room. ​ In The Room is offered on a sliding scale: $250 or $350/month. Three-month commitment, then month-to-month for as long as it serves you. If you want to commit to six months and pay in full, you get one private session with me included — valued at $450 and typically booked weeks out. This enrollment window is open until April 6th, or until we reach capacity. When it closes, it closes. The next window opens when we’re ready. If something real is happening in your life right now: a decision, a transition, a season of unusual weight, you don’t have to navigate it alone. ​ Would you like to get in the room with me? -->GET IN THE ROOM (or learn more ;) ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9/e0hph7h7vq7mqkb8/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20tc3ByaW5n ) GET IN THE ROOM (or learn more ;) ( https://www.randibuckley.com/intheroom-spring )Because sometimes the most radical thing you can do is be in a room where someone actually sees you. With gratitude, Randi​ ​ Point Lobos, CA. A favorite hike near our home. ​ ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9/7qh7h8h9lw9dwoiz/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9 ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh692w2rcvhqwvg76whohqx9 )​

Hello Maude, ​ I’ll be honest with you. Opening something new right now feels a little strange. The world is heavy. Many of us are carrying a lot — watching events unfold, wondering where things are headed, and trying to make sense of what comes next. Marketing anything in that context can feel… a little surreal. And yet, as I hold my vision for what is possible for us, I keep coming back to this: The thing I’m opening is literally a place where people can bring the real things happening in their lives and receive thoughtful coaching in the presence of others who are also doing the work. Which feels less like marketing and more like… pointing at the fire exit. So here we are. Despite everything, I still have a deep sense of hope for the future. Not the passive kind of hope that waits for things to get better on their own but the kind that is built. Built through thoughtful people continuing to reflect, to grow, to make meaningful decisions about how they live and lead their lives. And in my experience, that kind of thinking rarely happens in isolation. It happens in rooms where people can say the real things out loud. Where complexity is welcome. Where perspective widens, compassion appears, and possibilities begin to emerge that weren’t visible before. Community isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s one of the ways we find our footing and build what comes next. Over the past decade of coaching, I’ve noticed something else. The deepest transformations rarely happen during the teaching. They happen during live coaching. It’s the closest thing I’ve found to bringing real 1:1 coaching into a room where everyone can learn from the work. One person brings something real into the room — a decision, a relationship tension, a question they can’t quite resolve — and we work with it together in real time. Everyone else in the room witnesses the coaching as it unfolds. And even when someone else is being coached, something often lands for everyone listening. An insight. A recognition. A shift. That’s the quiet power of coaching in community. Last year I began offering a version of this space to a small circle of alumni. No curriculum. No formal program. Just a room where people could bring what was real in their lives and receive coaching while others witnessed and learned alongside them. The impact was profound. It quickly became one of my favorite ways to work. So I decided to open the room a little wider. It’s called In The Room ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9/kkhmh6hnrp969gal/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20= ). ​ Here’s what it looks like in practice: At least six live coaching sessions each month, offered at two different times so you can attend when life cooperates. Each session includes real coaching. Some weeks you may be the one bringing something forward and receiving coaching. Other weeks you may simply witness someone else’s work and realize their question was somehow also yours. Both experiences are powerful. And because enrollment is open, if you decide to join you can start as soon as next week’s sessions. ​ Here’s what Claire said about being in the room: “Any room with Randi in it is a room you want to be in. Randi’s wisdom and ability to coach you through almost anything is such a gift, and to be able to benefit from this in the company of the exquisite humans she brings together makes In The Room one of the best investments I’ve ever made. I often show up thinking I don’t have anything for coaching that week, and inevitably realize I am also dealing with the same challenges others have brought for coaching. Even when I’m not the one being coached, I benefit immensely from hearing others being coached so expertly by Randi. I always leave feeling refreshed and reenergised.” — Claire Mahon Human Rights Attorney, Geneva — The investment is $300/month. I remain committed to an offer that makes coaching as accessible as I can. If this resonates, I’d love to have you in the room. And if it doesn’t, you know me: No worries! But please find your people somewhere. Find a place where you can bring the real things you’re carrying. Get support. Receive reflection. Have your goodness mirrored back to you. Because this is a complicated time to be a person. And you don’t have to navigate it alone. You can read about In The Room here: ​https://www.randibuckley.com/intheroom ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9/kkhmh6hnrp969gal/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9pbnRoZXJvb20= )​ ​ Personal coaching, grounded in "not too much" community. With gratitude, Randi​ ​ ​ ​ ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9/58hvh7hgqw9k9va6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9 ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh698rm8hvhqwk5kd4bohqx9 )​

Hello Maude, ​ Over the past few weeks, several of my coaching conversations have included a version of this: “It feels like a double bind,” she said. “If I don’t resolve this, something in me will die. And if I do nothing, I’ll have died with it unresolved.” If you’ve related, you know the feeling of not wanting something unfinished to become the story that defines you. Not dramatic. Not theatrical. A real sentence spoken quietly with weight and fatigue. I recognize it myself. There are seasons when time feels abstract and forgiving. This does not feel like one of them. There are decisions that press against the ribs. Risks that feel like they will either expand a life or narrow it. Unfinished conversations that hum beneath everything else. So when someone says, “I don’t want to die with this unresolved,” what I hear underneath it is this: I don’t want this to define me. Not my capacity. Not my love. Not my integrity. That is not melodrama. That is the fear of living inside the wrong story. When something begins to feel like it could define us, we do not become decisive. We become careful. We hold still. We rehearse outcomes. And the longer it stays unspoken, the more permanent it feels. ​Silence turns fear into identity. I do not have a prescription for resolution. Some things do not resolve cleanly. Some mistakes cannot be undone. But I do know this: Verdicts harden in isolation. And authorship returns in movement, the shift from living inside a script to writing your own. Not the kind that performs competence. The kind that risks being seen mid-process. Sometimes that movement is a boundary. Sometimes it is a decision made without full certainty. Sometimes it is simply saying, “I am more afraid of this defining me than I have wanted to admit.” Spoken out loud. In the presence of someone who does not rush to fix you. That shifts something. Not because the past disappears. But because you are no longer alone inside your story. And if something in you has been pressing against the ribs, you probably already know what it is. With gratitude, Randi PS: A new episode of Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9/wnh2hghqn6xglnu7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) has dropped — another live Witness coaching session where you can listen in as Grace works through a decision that has been pressing on her for a while. If you’ve ever wondered if you could step away and things could run without you, you might recognize something here. ​ ​ ​ ​ ( https://eb184829.click.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9/8ghqhohoznq97vck/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9 ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.kit-mail3.com/o8uwgzn6e8fqh693lxqivhqwmmzv9uohqx9 )​

Hello Maude! ​ I have something for you! Keep reading. ​ If you've been around these parts for a while, you'll undoubtedly heard me talk about how boundaries, and human behavior in general, is not easily altered with a hack here and there. We're complex! We're layered! And then I have my whole, holy trinity of Context, Nuance, and Discernment. ​ ​AND YET...​ ​ My students (over 1000 of them) and clients often tell me this little device I crafted is a game changer. This is what I want to offer you today. Actually, through February 21st. ​ It's something you might have heard me say before, but as I introduce The Boundary Edit Kit ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/m2h7h5h3v78wxdam/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaS1idWNrbGV5LWNvYWNoaW5nLmtpdC5jb20vOWJlZTRjMzU4NA== ) (I love a good double entendre!), you'll receive an audio recording explaining it and five follow up notes that address the challenges, concerns, frustrations, and how to implement this edit and tool. It might not be a solution to everything, but it can be a dang game changer and a re-orienting to you, start. ​ Starting Feb. 22nd, it will be something folks can purchase, but for now, and out of gratitude, it's my offering to you. ​ ​To get it, go here: ​ ​Get The Boundary Edit Kit ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/m2h7h5h3v78wxdam/aHR0cHM6Ly9yYW5kaS1idWNrbGV5LWNvYWNoaW5nLmtpdC5jb20vOWJlZTRjMzU4NA== )​ I sincerely hope you enjoy it! It was very fun to make with you in mind. ​ I'll be in touch in a few days with the next edition of Randi Radio. With gratitude, ​ Randi ​ ​ ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en/dpheh0hevm0rxpfm/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3JhbmRpLWJ1Y2tsZXktNTg4NTAxNy8= ) ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en ) · Preferences ( https://preferences.convertkit-mail2.com/75uzwv4nr2s8h6q3ox4szhwrrmr66bnh5en )​

Hello Maude, I’m entering a new era, and I’d like to tell you about it. Even more, I hope you’ll join me. As I’ve alluded to, we’re on the edge of a new era collectively, and that will take work to craft, curate, nurture, and metabolize. I see my work fitting into that. I see you fitting into so much of what is possible and what we’re becoming. In the muck of all that is, I see a bright horizon. We’re not there yet, but we were born for these times. Still, we need new perspectives, new ways, and each other to do it. Why a new era for me? It’s mixed and layered. And it’s time. After retiring Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, delivering and presenting dissertation #1, and stepping away from most, if not all of sharing my work on social media, I’m shedding skins of the past. These things served well. They are solid in their own right. And we move forward, don’t we? Over the next few days and weeks, you’ll see and perhaps experience what that looks like for us together. I was going to write it all out in a tidy overview, but as I sit here with you now, it feels like this moment is less about telling and more about showing. So let me share what’s current, new as of today, and what’s coming later this week. Today, I am super duper stoked to tell you about Witness Coaching Sessions ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) (new thing #1). Listen in! These are fully consented, ethical coaching sessions where you get to listen in and witness the coaching itself. I am a huge fan of witnessing, and it’s been part of my community coaching offerings for nearly two decades. It’s even seeping into my research. There is so much available in witnessing, being present to another person’s coaching without fixing, advising, or performing. Today, Marie’s session is dropping on Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ) (new thing #2). I invite you to listen and notice what moves in you. Can you relate? I might not coach you the way I coached Marie. Coaching is about revealing and facilitating your learning about yourself. And there is plenty here to take in as Marie talks about her stuckness and loss of spark in her work post Covid. I had a great time with her, and I suspect you will too. In a few days, we’ll release Grace’s session. Then Tammi’s. I’ll also weave in other episodes, me riffing on current events, coaching, people, and the things we’re living through. Over 100 of you applied to be coached for a Witness Coaching session. Thank you. Truly. I’ll continue reaching out and scheduling sessions in the weeks and months ahead. When you visit Randi Radio ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ), you’ll also see a link to apply if you’d like to record a session yourself. On Friday, it’s my birthday. I can’t believe I even admitted that, as I’m not a birthday person. Not in a “I hope they remember and surprise me” way, but more in a “Is this day done yet?!” way. And yet, here we are. I mention it because rather than centering me, I’m offering a gift to you. On Friday, I’m releasing, sharing, unveiling, whatever we’re calling it, the Top Boundary Tool I can offer (new thing #3). Now here’s the thing. I am not about boundary hacks, scripts, or tips. I’m about depth psychology, values, and identity. And yet, time and again, people tell me this particular tool is profoundly helpful, whether you’re just getting your bearings or need to re ground yourself in healthy boundaries. The tool, along with a five email follow up, will be available for about a week before I gate it, along with this newsletter (new thing #4). (You're good to go.) There’s more to come. Much more. But that’s plenty for now. I’m brimming with new era energy. And if you’re not quite feeling yours yet, I invite you In The Room with us. Lean into what’s here as we navigate the turbulent waters of this moment and make our way toward a shore built on hope, values, justice, and excellence. As I pull away from sharing my work on social media, feeling a bit like violinist Joshua Bell playing in a DC Metro station, I’ll be sharing more here. Via email (Honestly and to be fair, new thing #5.), Randi Radio, workshops around the world, and select podcasts. I’m really glad you’re here. Check out Marie’s Witness Coaching Session ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/l2hehmhle05gzot6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFuZGlidWNrbGV5LmNvbS9yYW5kaXJhZGlv ), and I’ll send you the link to opt in, my birthday gift to you, to the World’s Best Boundary Tool this weekend. Context. Nuance. Discernment. ​ ​With gratitude, ​Randi ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​Unsubscribe ( https://eb184829.unsubscribe.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7 ) | Update your profile ( https://preferences.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7 ) | 800 Lighthouse AVE, Box 2043, Pacific Grove, California 93950 ( https://eb184829.click.convertkit-mail2.com/0vu9l85de3b9h9vdor2slhv88r855snh9o7/e0hph7h76p9x2qt8/aHR0cHM6Ly9idWlsdHdpdGgua2l0LmNvbT91dG1fY2FtcGFpZ249cG93ZXJlZGJ5JnV0bV9jb250ZW50PWVtYWlsJnV0bV9tZWRpdW09cmVmZXJyYWwmdXRtX3NvdXJjZT1keW5hbWlj )