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Can I share something personal? I’ve felt so lonely in the most crowded places.    And I thought this was weird so I felt BOTH lonely and sad and hopeless.    I had the mistaken belief that loneliness happens when you are alone. Nope. Loneliness is a pesky beast and isn’t that simple.   First, are some astounding facts: * Roughly 1 in 4 adults worldwide report feeling lonely. * An estimated 333 million people report chronic loneliness. * Loneliness has been declared a global public health epidemic. So this is not a small problem – and YOU are not alone if you feel lonely!   This has become my personal and professional mission.   We had a Science of People team retreat in March and discussed our company mission: Combatting loneliness is our new driving force.   Second, loneliness is about connection.   I was the most lonely in college, surrounded by people, with a packed social calendar and lots of ‘friends.’ This had nothing to do with the amount of people around me and everything to do with the fact that I felt I didn’t belong.   More recently, I’ve struggled to find other working Moms who are facing the same crushing challenges of trying to manage it all.   This had nothing to do with the fact that I do have wonderful friends, and everything to do with the fact that I feel I can’t share the burden, frustrations and heartache with people who will deeply understand.   I’m working on this WITH you. I’ve been sharing this behind the scenes with my lovely People School students ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F6+lonely&utm_content=lonely&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) and it is what gave me the idea to do a Romance themed month.   Love is a skill and it is how we can combat loneliness.   And just like any skill - public speaking, leadership, confidence - it can be learned, practiced, and improved.    That's why I'm running my first-ever 30-Day Romance Challenge inside People School.   30 days. One small, science-backed romantic challenge per day.    This challenge was designed for three kinds of people:   * If you're SINGLE: We'll help you understand what's been blocking connection, how to attract the right person, and how to date with intention instead of anxiety. * If you're DATING: We'll help you decode whether this is the right person, how to deepen the bond, and how to navigate those terrifying early-relationship questions. * If you're in a RELATIONSHIP: We'll help you reignite the spark, understand your partner on a deeper level, and build the kind of love that actually lasts.   You don't need to be in the "right" place to start. You just need to start.   → YES! I'm ready to transform ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F6+lonely&utm_content=lonely&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) my ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F6+lonely&utm_content=lonely&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )love life this April ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F6+lonely&utm_content=lonely&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   Right now, students inside People School are already completing their daily challenges. 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Can I be your matchmaker?     Two weeks ago I got the best news ever: Two of our People School students got married ❤️❤️❤️ This is my second student couple (shoutout to Sylvi and Dave!) and now I’m addicted to pairing people up. Are YOU next?! Today starts our 30 Day Romance Challenge ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F1+Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_content=Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) For daters → Unique tips support you and re-orient your dating journey. For couples → 30 days of romance challenges to level-up your connection. This is where they met at my event:     Meet George and Gaby (who is a fabulous Wedding Photographer if you need one!) I asked George for the whole story and if I could share it with you and he said yes. I love this story because it is both Rom-Com worthy and a fight for their connection:   “I actually thought Gaby didn't want to talk to me when I first said hi to her in the morning. She told me she just needed her coffee to wake up. Then I was hoping to catch her at the happy hour to get to know her more, but she drove off to Dallas because she had a wedding to shoot the next day. Thankfully, before she left, she asked to take a picture with me, got my number, and we've been texting and talking ever since. I said the only way this was going to work was if we saw each other every month, so we committed to flying between Dallas and NY.”   Your romance story might not be an obvious one. It might mean taking risks, getting out of your comfort zone and flying across the country. But they found their love!   Can I help you with your love story?   Now here’s the thing:   "Most people overestimate what they can do in a day and underestimate what they can do in 30."   The 30-Day Romance Challenge is built on this exact principle. Each challenge is designed to take less than 15 minutes - but the cumulative effect? Transformational.   Thousands of people have gone through People School and changed how they connect with others. I usually focus on career and professional success, but for this month I am taking over all the People School curriculum to focus on LOVE.   I have NEVER done this before so please join us if this is one of your goals! Today is day one. Don't miss it.   → I'm in! Take me to the Challenge → ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F1+Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_content=Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   $300 Off People School with code "ROMANCE" The challenge starts TODAY!   To your success in love, Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Every day in April you get a new challenge. You don't have to figure love out alone. We do this together.   P.P.S. Not sure if People School is right for you? Talk to our ambassador! Book a Call with Us 📞 ( https://cal.com/team/science-of-people/people-school?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F1+Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_content=Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZ1J_wCPl7fDGp8SlAAKpQ== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=4%2F1+Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_content=Romance+Challenge+Starts+Today&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).

This will make you laugh   Hi Maude,   I decided to humiliate myself for your enjoyment – and also to prove an important point.   There are two types of people at dinner: Dog Personality v Cat Personality   Which are you? ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DWR9xzBEsNQ/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DWR9xzBEsNQ/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) You need to know which you are! This is essential for successful dates - whether you are in a longterm relationship or single.    Dogs are so excited they can miss the mark.  Cats under communicate and accidentally push people away.   It doesn’t have to be this way! We are starting our 30 Day Romance Challenge for People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) students in 2 days! Every day I am going to send you a delightful, unique and level-up challenge to do as a dater or with your partner (I will have challenges for both single and coupled folks).   This dog v cat one was silly, but I’m taking this challenge quite seriously. So seriously in fact I’m offering $300 off if you join People School today. Let’s level-up our love!   $300 Off People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Code: ROMANCE *The challenge starts 4/1*   🚨 Special Announcement: Be a referral partner with us We are looking for special partners to help refer People School and earn a 20% commission - $499 per enrollment. If you would like to join, simply reply to this email! To your success,   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Not sure if People School is right for you? Talk to our ambassador! Give us a call! ( https://cal.com/team/science-of-people/people-school?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) 📞   Conversation Starter of the Week Are you a cat or a dog on a date?   ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZ1ABGIzPbd9L490Os51dQ== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F30++lol&utm_content=lol&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).

A key lesson in relationships   Hi Maude,   I used to be the one who organized everything. The group chats. The dinner parties. The person who remembered everyone’s birthdays and showed up with the right bottle of snack and stayed until the end. I had so much energy for people.   And then, gradually, I didn’t.   I started declining more invitations. My call list is shorter. More and more group chats have gone dormant. I stopped reaching out as much.    It’s been a quiet shift. Have you felt it too?   According to the research BOTH men and women get less extroverted overtime. If this is happening to you or you’re watching this happen to someone you love, your first instinct is probably to worry. Or to apologize for it — or wonder if something’s wrong with you.   But this can be an important shift and an opportunity.   We hear a lot about aging bodies…but we don’t often hear about how our personality ages.   Have you noticed this about yourself or anyone in your life? * “My social circle has shrunk!” * “I can’t stand small talk anymore. I’m just too tired.” * “I used to be so social, but now I’m a homebody.” Across decades of personality research using the Big Five model — the most rigorously validated framework in psychology (I talk about this in Captivate) ( https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Science-Succeeding-People/dp/0399564497/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F26+Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_content=Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) — one of the most consistent findings is that extroversion tends to decline as people age.   This is true for both men and women, but the pattern plays out differently across genders, and for very interesting reasons.   What’s actually declining isn’t our capacity for connection.   It’s two specific components of extroversion: * Sensation-seeking — the appetite for novelty, stimulation, and high-energy social environments * Social dominance — the drive to be at the center of the room, to lead, to hold social attention What tends to stay stable, or even increase, is warmth, empathy, and the depth of close relationships. We don’t stop being interested in people. We stop being interested in all people, all the time.   Stanford psychologist Laura Carstensen’s landmark Socioemotional Selectivity Theory explains this elegantly:   "As people age and their sense of time becomes more finite, they naturally begin to optimize social energy for meaning and quality rather than breadth and novelty."   Our social circles shrink — but deliberately, not accidentally. Our relationships that remain tend to be deeper, more honest, and more reciprocal.   In other words: we’re not losing our social self. We’re editing it.   This is the most important nuance in this entire conversation, and it’s the one most people miss.   There is a world of difference between someone who is pulling back because they are choosing depth over breadth — and a person who is withdrawing because they are lonely, depressed, grieving, or losing themselves.   From the outside, they can look identical. Both cancel plans. Both are harder to reach. Both seem to need less company.   The difference is this: * Intentional selectivity feels like clarity. You know what you want. The aloneness feels restoring, not punishing. When you do connect, your fully present and genuinely glad to be there. * Involuntary withdrawal feels like fog. You want connection but can’t seem to reach for it. The aloneness feels heavy. You don’t look forward to the things you used to love. Even the good moments feel flat. * I want to help you with both. I want you to have more intentional selectivity, more clarity and more connection in the relationships you choose to have time for. * I want to help you prevent and fight involuntary withdrawal by giving you new tools to connect. As you probably know, I’m starting a 30 Day Romance Challenge on April 1st. I am doing this because I truly want people to feel more connected and intentionally selective.   All month in People School we will be taking challenges and talking about our relationships in a new way.   → If you are single, I would love to give you some new tools for dating. (And maybe even practice with other single students – we had our second student couple get married last month!)   → If you are coupled, I would love to have you take the challenge together and spark a new level-up.   Enroll Now! ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F26+Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_content=Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Use code ROMANCE for $300 off To your success,   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. I talked about personality changes in my recent (unique) interview with the comedian and author Laura Clery. Check it out:   What’s your social superpower? ( https://youtu.be/6z_9lOdJ4A0?si=Lxpnh6zYPEF0KvYY&t=3803&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F26+Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_content=Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   ( https://youtu.be/6z_9lOdJ4A0?si=Lxpnh6zYPEF0KvYY&t=3803&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F26+Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_content=Women+get+less+extroverted+over+time&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   * Awkwardness as a Daily Recovery (4:25): Awkwardness isn’t a permanent state—it’s something we recover from daily. Social confidence is about how quickly you bounce back. * Social Underthinking vs. Overthinking (5:03): Some of us overanalyze every interaction, while others jump in without thinking. Even factors like birth order can shape how we show up socially. * The Power of Excitement (19:17): Instead of trying to calm anxiety, reframe it as excitement. Research shows this shift can significantly boost performance. * The Social Blueprint (24:16): Don’t rely on generic mantras—have a plan. Knowing what you might ask or share reduces social pressure. * Identifying Social Strengths (32:46): Everyone has natural strengths—whether it’s one-on-one connection or commanding a room. Lean into yours. * Warmth and Competence (42:19): Charisma comes from balancing warmth (likability) with competence (capability). * Reading Social Cues (46:28): Look for subtle signals—like a lip purse (withholding) or a mouth shrug (doubt)—to understand what’s not being said. * The Small Talk Diet (1:14:43): Skip autopilot questions like “How are you?” and ask about what people are excited about instead. * Dismissing Awkward Moments (1:16:45): Awkward moments happen. The key is to acknowledge them and move on quickly without dwelling. 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The surprising truth     Hi Maude, “They are so lucky to have each other.” This can be you. I want to teach you how to create your own luck in love. If you’re single, how to expand your luck to find your person. If you’re in a relationship, how to reset and renew your connection. I have a radically different approach to dating and romance. It centers on this: the people we call "lucky in love" aren't lucky at all. They just learned something the rest of us weren't taught. They learned that love is a skill. Not a feeling that strikes you like lightning. Not a numbers game you play until fate deals you the right card. A learnable, practicable, improvable skill — just like public speaking, or leadership, or cooking a great meal. And this distinction changes everything. You can't control luck. But you can build skills. And the research proves this: The better your people skills, the better your relationships  …and the easier your dating. …better dates, easier talks, clear boundaries, no hidden emotions or games. This is exactly why I'm running the first-ever 30-Day Romance Challenge ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F23+How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_content=How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) inside People School this April. Every day in April, you'll get one specific, science-backed challenge designed to build the exact skills that the "lucky in love" people have naturally figured out — reading attraction signals, creating real connection, communicating in a way that draws people closer instead of pushing them away. Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship that's lost some of its spark — this challenge was built for you. 30 days. One challenge per day. Real behavioral science, not vague advice. April is coming fast. Spots are limited and I want a community that's genuinely committed to doing the work. →Join the 30-Day Romance Challenge at People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F23+How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_content=How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Use the code “ROMANCE" for $300 off 💞 Expires April 15th The people who find and keep great love didn't get lucky. They were intentional. This April, so can you. Special Note: This challenge is for both daters and those in relationships! I will have challenges for each, every day of the month in April. To your success in love, Vanessa Van Edwards P.S. — Every day in April you get a new challenge. You don't have to figure love out alone. We do this together. Not only will you meet other people, coaches join me for live office hours, but you also get to mingle with other growth-minded singles! Yes, I am hoping for a People School wedding one day! Conversation Starter of the Week Are you lucky in love? Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZ0cSqAB1CtfNzKfJKGXwQ== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F23+How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_content=How+to+be+lucky+in+love&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).

Level-Up Your Love Life with me!   Hi Friend!   I've been bitten by the love bug. I have two BIG goals for the month of April:   #1 If you are single, I want to teach you a radically different approach to finding your person. Please let me help.   #2 If you are in a relationship but it’s feeling a little stuck or stale, I want to teach you how to level up your connection. Please let me help.   Usually in People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ), I’m teaching you about leveling up your work life and confidence. But for one month only I am switching it all up. For April we will have… * Live Class on Leveling-Up Love…with a radically different approach to romance. * Meet Other High Achieving Singles Folks…looking for love. The People School community is incredible and I feel like there could be some amazing partners in there for you–or at least people to learn from. We will have singles live calls and ways to meet each other. * 30 Daily Challenges: We will send you one romance challenge every day. One for daters and one for those in relationships. * Loving encouragement from our community and a fresh start…If you've been struggling or feeling lonely, I am doing this challenge for you. I’ve NEVER done this before, but I really, really want to do something BIG. Join us for this Romance Challenge with a special discount code.   $300 Off People School with code ROMANCE ( https://community.scienceofpeople.com/checkout/people-school?coupon_code=ROMANCE&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) *Expires April 15* To your success,   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. If you have a friend who could use this, will you forward this email to them? I'd love to have them. 💛   About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZ0LVo1I4hkb0CMSXezqTg== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F20+30+Day+Romance+Challenge&utm_content=Text+Only+Version&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).

I haven’t been single for 20 years and I still found these interesting   Hi Maude,   I haven’t been single for a very long time (20 years) but I still found this study super intriguing. I also think it made me a better matchmaker (which would have been my profession if this one didn’t work out).   Researcher Jeffrey Hall spent years studying how people express romantic interest, and what he found is fascinating: there are five distinct flirting styles, and each one has its own strengths, blind spots, and signals that can be completely missed by the wrong audience.   I’m doing a 30 Day Romance Challenge inside of People School for the entire month of April.   My goal is to help you level-up your love if you are in a relationship and FIND YOUR PERSON if you are dating. I have some big plans.   Ok, lets be real I also want single People School students to meet each other – I do still really want to be a matchmaker. 🪄   And I NEVER do this but I am so excited about this love experiment that I am offering a $300 coupon for my folks looking to level-up love.    30 Day Romance Challenge in People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F18+5+Types+of+Flirtation&utm_content=5+Types+of+Flirtation&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Use code "ROMANCE" for $300 off ❤️   Let’s start with breaking down the 5 flirting styles AND talk about how your style might play out in a long-term relationship or marriage.   #1 The Physical Flirt   This style is all about body language, proximity, eye contact, light touch, mirroring.   Physical flirts don't necessarily say much, but their presence communicates a lot.   They tend to create intense chemistry quickly, and relationships that form from this style often have a strong physical spark early on.   BUT physical flirting can be misread, or missed entirely if the other person isn't tuned in to nonverbal cues.   If this is you (dating): Make sure your verbal interest occasionally backs up your physical signals, especially with someone who's more words-than-body-language oriented.   If this is you or your partner (longterm): My guess is that physical flirts have a touch love language. Dr. Hall did not study this, but I have seen this to be true.    #2 The Playful Flirt   This is the person who's always a little bit on, witty, teasing, light.   They flirt the way some people make small talk: effortlessly, and sometimes without even meaning anything serious by it.   This can be a super fun style BUT there needs to be substance behind the witty banter.   I think the kids call this style “Rizz” but I’m guessing (I’m an old millennial, feel like an Xer, act like a Boomer often).   If this is you (dating): When you're genuinely interested in someone, dial up the specificity. Make it clear this moment is different from your usual banter. And ask deep questions too – not just the silly stuff.   If this is you or your partner (longterm): You are actually sitting on one of the most powerful tools in a long-term relationship: humor and play. Research on lasting couples consistently shows that shared laughter is one of the strongest predictors of relationship satisfaction. So be playful - don’t lose this with flirting!   #3 The Sincere Flirt   This is my personal favorite, and honestly, the most underrated style.   Sincere flirts create connection through genuine curiosity and emotional attentiveness. They ask real questions. They remember what you said last time. They make you feel seen.   And Dr. Hall found that THIS style does the best longterm.   If this is you (dating): Don't be afraid to make your interest a little more explicit. "I really enjoy talking with you" goes a long way. Ask some deeper conversation starters. I will be giving a ton in our 30 Day romance challenge.   If this is you or your partner (longterm): Your superpower is making people feel deeply known — and that is something long-term relationships desperately need, because familiarity can quietly replace curiosity over time.   The action step here isn't big: just ask one question this week that you don't already know the answer to. Not "how was your day," something real. What's been on their mind lately? What do they wish they had more time for? Don’t get into conversation autopilot with your partner!   #4 The Traditional Flirt   Traditional flirts follow a script: one person pursues, the other receives.   They tend to be more reserved about expressing interest first, they prefer to signal availability and let the other person make a move.   This style can build beautiful slow-burn connection, but it can also create a lot of waiting, ambiguity, and missed opportunities, especially when two traditional flirts end up interested in each other and both hold back, wondering why the other person isn't making a move.   If this is you (dating): The clearest green light you can give is making yourself consistently, visibly available and warm, and being willing to meet in the middle.   If this is you or your partner (longterm): Don’t get stuck in your roles - if they are working, great. But make sure to check-in on them during monthly date nights.   #5 The Polite Flirt   This person follows all the social rules, stays well within boundaries, and shows interest in very measured, careful ways. They're rarely accused of being "too much." They're thoughtful, considerate, and slow to signal.   But this comes at a cost: Their interest is often completely invisible.   The person they like may genuinely have no idea.   If this is you (dating): One small step outside your comfort zone — holding eye contact a beat longer, or saying "I'd really like to see you again" — can change everything.   Your subtlety reads as disinterest to most people. 🚨   If this is you or your partner (longterm): Polite flirts make extraordinarily considerate partners — they're attuned, respectful, and rarely overbearing. 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Guess the cover   Hi Friend!   I've spent nearly two decades researching this book. And I am so so excited to share with you — the title and cover of my next book are...   CONVERSATION How to Be Instantly Likeable in Any Interaction   Now let’s have some fun…Can you GUESS which is my next cover?   #1   #2   #3   #4 Want to see the winner? Check out the brand new Amazon page! ( https://www.amazon.com/Conversation-How-Instantly-Likeable-Interaction/dp/B0GS7YCNG9/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   See the Winning Cover 🏆 ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Pre-Order Your Copy Today ➡️ ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   I know it’s not out just yet, but I would be super super grateful if you’re willing to pre-order.   In the publishing world a pre-order is incredibly important. If you love this newsletter or my tips, you will LOVE this book.   It’s my best yet! 💚   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. I’m narrating the audiobook ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GS8G9893/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) in the next few weeks so if you prefer to listen I would be honored for a pre-order as well!   Conversation Starter of the Week Are you a dazzling conversationalist? About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZz3mSEb-zddHPrRsWDRjw== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F16+My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_content=My+next+book+is%E2%80%A6&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).

Who always wins based on behavioral science   Hi Maude,   Picture this. 💭   Twenty-three strangers are locked in a Scottish castle, and they have one job: figure out who among them is secretly plotting their elimination, before those people eliminate them first.   The killers sit at the same breakfast table. They hug you in the hallway. They do silly challenges on a loch with you.   And every night, while you're sleeping, they meet in a tower to decide which one of your friends to “murder” next.   This is The Traitors, and if you haven't watched it yet, clear your weekend. After watching the four US Seasons I figured out the trick to winning.   Here's the thing I can't stop thinking about...   After watching the four US seasons (I’ll watch UK as soon as I have time), I have a theory... and it's backed by behavioral science.   The most likable person always wins.   Not the most strategic. Not the most experienced. Not the most paranoid or perceptive.   The person who makes everyone feel warm and safe and glad they're there.   We like people who are easy to be around. The kind of person you want on your team immediately.    I’m NOT going to give any spoilers because if you haven’t watched it I want you to learn some behavioral science while you do and LEARN from it.   Why likability breaks your lie detector   Here's what the science says: humans detect lies at roughly 54% accuracy. Barely better than a coin flip. But that number drops even further when we like the person we're evaluating.   This is because of something called the halo effect, a well-documented cognitive bias where our positive feelings about someone bleed into all of our judgments about them.   When you like someone, your brain automatically filters their behavior through a generous lens.   A suspicious pause becomes "thoughtful." A deflection becomes "humble." A story that doesn't add up becomes "they must just be nervous."   And underneath that is something even more powerful: cognitive dissonance.   Once you've laughed with someone, confided in them, decided in your gut that they're good... your brain will work overtime to reject evidence that proves otherwise. Because accepting that someone could be a Traitor means accepting that your own instincts failed you. And that is genuinely uncomfortable to sit with.   A quick analysis of player Rob Rausch being a human lie detector ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DVZnHE-EsZW/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=TLA+3%2F9+You+MUST+watch+this+show&utm_content=You+MUST+watch+this+show&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DVZnHE-EsZW/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=TLA+3%2F9+You+MUST+watch+this+show&utm_content=You+MUST+watch+this+show&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) The Traitors is a game show, but this pattern shows up everywhere. In hiring decisions, negotiations, and even friendships.   The people who harm us most are rarely the ones who feel suspicious. They're the ones who feel safe.   So here's what I want you to practice this week: separating warmth from trustworthiness.   Warmth is how someone makes you feel. Trustworthiness is whether they act in your interest over time.   These often overlap, but they don't always.   The most charming people in your life are worth a second, clearer look. Not with suspicion, but with honesty.   Ask yourself: does this person's behavior match their warmth? Or am I holding the halo up for them?   Your instincts are a starting point. They are not a conclusion. (And if you haven't started Season 4 yet — no spoilers from me. Just watch it.)   If you want to understand this better I would love to have you in People School. 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You know the type.   Every conversation turns into a battle.  Every disagreement becomes a crisis.  Every attempt to de-escalate gets twisted into new ammunition.    You walk away from interactions with them feeling exhausted, confused, and somehow at fault, even when you know, logically, that you did nothing wrong.   These are high conflict people (HCPs). And if you don't know how to spot them, you'll spend years of your life trying to reason your way out of situations that reason can't fix.   The question is, what makes someone High Conflict?   High conflict people aren't just difficult, they're wired differently when it comes to blame.   Where most people can reflect on their role in a problem, HCPs have an almost compulsive need to externalize — to find a target and pin everything on them (that target is often you.)   Common traits include: * All-or-nothing thinking. You're either fully with them or completely against them. There's no middle ground. * Unmanaged emotions. Reactions are disproportionate, a small slight becomes a catastrophic betrayal. * Extreme behavior. They escalate in ways that most people find shocking — public outbursts, legal threats, smear campaigns. * A preoccupation with blame. The conversation always ends up focused on who's at fault, never on solving the problem. I sat down with Jack Neel ( https://youtu.be/U2Ufk-kw2SY?si=0plJSqdOjedInso0&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) to break this topic open (and so much more)...   ( https://youtu.be/U2Ufk-kw2SY?si=0plJSqdOjedInso0&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) I also see if Jack can spot my lie…   The entire summary if you want to jump to it: * 01:20 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=80s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Why First Impressions Matter More Than You Think * 03:20 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=200s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) You Should Know What People Assume About You * 08:50 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=530s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How Can You Tell What People Assume About You? * 12:30 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=750s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) The Body Language That Guarantees Failure in Life * 21:45 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=1305s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Can You Smell Fear on a Person? * 23:55 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=1435s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How Your Hands Subtly Reveal Your Real Intentions * 27:45 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=1665s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Vanessa Tests if Jack Can Spot a Lie * 32:55 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=1975s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Can You Predict Someone’s Divorce By Their Smile * 36:35 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=2195s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Why Contempt Destroys Relationships * 39:20 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=2360s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Why High Conflict People Are the Most Dangerous * 43:25 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=2605s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How to Cut Negative People Out of Your Life * 47:40 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=2860s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) People Pleasers And Powerful Relationships * 50:45 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=3045s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) What To Do if Someone Tries to Intimidate You? * 52:15 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=3135s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How to Reclaim Power in a Negotiation * 57:50 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=3470s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How Much of Your Personality is Genetic? * 01:00:15 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=3615s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Why Smart & Attractive People Fail to Communicate * 01:02:30 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=3750s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How Do You Guarantee You Never Get Approached * 01:11:20 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=4280s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Can You Read Intention in Body Language? * 01:15:30 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=4530s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) How People Reveal Their Insecurities * 01:21:00 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=4860s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Can You Tell If Someone’s Trying to Manipulate You? * 01:23:15 ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2Ufk-kw2SY&t=4995s&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=3%2F2+High+Conflict+People&utm_content=High+Conflict+People&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Advice to Improve Communication Skills To your success,   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. 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Hi Maude,   I could not figure out how to make money.   This was in 2012 when I was running Science of People and I was having trouble paying the bills. This was torture because I LOVED teaching, posting advice videos and blogging, but I did not know how to monetize.   I hated selling. I wanted to give everything away for free.   Turns out this doesn’t work. 🫠     Then a friend introduced me to Russell Brunson’s work. WOW. This. changed. my. life.    I didn’t know him, but it didn’t matter, he put out such amazing content, that by consuming everything he wrote he became my virtual role model. Then a few weeks ago I saw he LIKED ONE OF MY REELS.   I nearly collapsed on the floor. Then I immediately slid into his DMs telling him how much of a role model he has been for me. And then…he replied! And asked me on his podcast to talk about the science behind my business.   This talk was a career highlight for me and I hope it is helpful for you too: Hidden Science of Selling Without Being Salesy ( https://podcasts.apple.com/bg/podcast/vanessa-van-edwards-on-the-hidden-science-of/id1315130618?i=1000748886931&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2%2F23+My+role+model&utm_content=My+role+model&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   ( https://podcasts.apple.com/bg/podcast/vanessa-van-edwards-on-the-hidden-science-of/id1315130618?i=1000748886931&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2%2F23+My+role+model&utm_content=My+role+model&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. 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Hi Maude,   This is a hard email to write because friendship is supposed to be a safe place.   So when a friendship starts to feel heavy… confusing… draining… or quietly painful, it can mess with your mind.   My Grandma once told me: you don’t have to keep watering a relationship that keeps you thirsty.   But it’s so hard to end a relationship. So I wanted to give you some kind tools to end a relationship that might not be serving you.   And sometimes friendships just go stale. It’s not always dramatic.   Sometimes it’s just… a slow mismatch. You grow apart. They change. You change.   So today I want to talk about something we don’t have a script for: Friendship breakups.   And how, sometimes, choosing distance is actually the most loving thing you can do, for both of you.   First: a truth that will set you free Not every friendship is meant to last forever.   Some friendships are for a season. Some are for a version of you. Some are for survival, when you needed someone, anyone, who understood you.   And then… you grow. They grow. Or one of you doesn’t.   And suddenly, the friendship starts to feel like you’re trying to squeeze into jeans from three years ago.   It’s not evil. It’s just… too small now.   Here are a few signs your friendship might be shifting into an ending (or at least a major reset):   1) You feel worse after you see them   Not tired from socializing…but emotionally bruised. You replay the conversation. You doubt yourself. You feel smaller.   That’s information–pay attention.   2) It’s become one-sided   You’re always initiating. Always supporting. Always explaining.   And you’re starting to realize: you’re not in a friendship—you’re in a role. An unpaid therapist. A dumping ground.   You should not feel you have to play a role.   3) You can’t be fully yourself around them anymore   You’re filtering. Performing. Hiding good news. Downplaying your growth so you don’t trigger their judgment or jealousy.   That’s not connection. That’s self-editing.   4) Dread   If you see their name pop into your phone, what do you feel?    If you see their name on your calendar, what do you do? Are you excited? Or filled with dread?    You don’t want to see them. You feel like you should.   And “should” is not a friendship strategy. It’s a guilt strategy.   5) Your values have quietly diverged   Sometimes it’s not personality. It’s not conflict. It’s values. And values are the roots of friendship.   If the roots don’t match anymore, the relationship can’t keep growing in the same direction.   An ending can be a gift.   Dragging out a friendship you’ve outgrown doesn’t protect anyone. It usually creates more resentment, passive distance, and emotional confusion.   Sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is stop pretending everything is fine when it isn’t.   If you’re considering a friendship breakup… try this first   You don’t have to go nuclear. You can start with a friendship reset.   Here are three options, depending on the situation:   Option 1: The gentle fade (for low-stakes friendships)   This is okay when the friendship isn’t harmful, just no longer aligned.   → Respond slower → Initiate less → Let the distance happen naturally   Once you do this, do you notice that you miss them? Think of them? Do they change or get better?   Great, reengage!   Option 2: The boundary upgrade (for draining friendships)   Try naming the pattern with a simple limit:   → “I can’t do late-night emotional calls anymore, but I love you and I’m here for you in other ways.” → “I’m trying to protect my energy right now, so I’m being more intentional with plans.” You’re not rejecting them. You’re protecting you.   Option 3: The direct closure (for painful or toxic dynamics)   Sometimes you need a clean end.   A script that works: “I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting, and I don’t think this friendship is healthy for me anymore. I’m grateful for what we’ve shared, but I need to step back. I truly wish you well.”   This is the part I want you to remember if you’re feeling guilty: Saying no to the wrong people, will give you room to say yes to the right people.   If you need space, take it. Something wonderful might fill it.   And staying in a misaligned friendship doesn’t just drain you…it also keeps them stuck.   Sometimes losing access to you is the wake-up call they need. And even if it isn’t…You are still allowed to choose peace.   A final reminder: You can be a kind person…and still choose a hard ending. You can love someone…and still know they’re not safe for you. You can be grateful…and still move on.   Letting go doesn’t mean the friendship wasn’t real. It just means you’re honoring what’s real now. To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. If you needed a sign on a relationship…this email is it.    Conversation Starter of the Week What makes a good friend?   Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. If you needed a sign on a relationship…this email is it.    Conversation Starter of the Week What makes a good friend?   💡 Did this resonate with you? 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Hi Maude,   Here are my meeting pet peeves: * “Let’s wait for everyone to hop on.” = Why are we punishing the on time people!? * Everyone talks about the weather for the first five minutes (fake smiles all around 😬) * “Who wants to go next?” [Crickets 🦗] * No agenda, topic tangents, no way of getting back on track * You-know-who hijacks the topic …ok fine, that last bullet is usually me. I sometimes have a lot to say. I need meeting guard rails. We all do!   Why are we not taught how to have a good meeting?   If you are in any kind of professional role, meetings are required.   So today I want to give you a few science-backed, non-obvious ways to make your one-on-one meetings actually impactful. Let’s make meetings feel better: 1) Set-up a GOOD Routine   🛑 Stop starting your meetings with “How are you?” or “Been Busy.” This will immediately produce 5 minutes of autopilot small talk.   ✅ Instead make a ritual. "Tell me something good." Everyone has to QUICKLY go around share one good thing - big or small. It’s super engaging and a way to celebrate wins.   ➡️ Forward this email to your team and ask to try this new ritual.   2) Assign who goes next   🛑 How do you politely say: “Are you done?” You can’t really. Endless turn takers are meeting drainers and often you don’t know if they are done or WHO should go next. So they ramble and then say, “Who wants to go next?”    Awkward.   ✅ On our team we have a rule. You go, you wrap yourself up and then you assign someone next. Sounds like this:   “Wow, great job everyone on our launch. Thanks for your help. That’s it for me. Marti, do you want to update us on Vanessa’s event calendar?”   Done.   3) KPIs = Key Performance Indicators   Everyone should have updates in key areas of the business, their tasks or their role. Don’t know what they are? Start there.   The best way to measure success and feel like a meeting is going well is to:   → Measure, track and celebrate progress. KPIs are going well? Great, share it and celebrate it. → Measure, track and problem solve together. KPIs not going well? Problem solve as a team, go into solution mode and get into it together.   4) Ask for “friction,” not “feedback”   Feedback questions often get polite answers.   Instead, ask a question that invites truth without making it awkward:   “Where is this feeling harder than it should?”   This does two things: → It gives them permission to talk about obstacles. → It signals that struggle isn’t failure, it’s data. This is a magic phrase because “Harder than it should” removes blame and focuses on the system, not the person.   5) Use a 3-part momentum check   If you want a one-on-one to feel productive, you need momentum.   Use this structure: 1) What’s working? 2) What’s stuck? 3) What’s next?   Why it works: Our brains love progress markers.   This keeps the conversation from spiraling into vague feelings and turns it into forward motion. (And yes, it works in friendships and relationships too.)   If someone is overwhelmed, don’t ask them to decide everything.   Ask for the smallest next decision. Try: ✅ “What’s the next 10% of this?” ✅ “What’s the next move that would make you feel lighter?”   Why it works: big decisions trigger threat responses. Tiny decisions restore agency.   Agency is one of the fastest ways to reduce stress and increase motivation.   6) The most underrated meeting skill: protect the last 2 minutes   Here’s a weird thing about the brain: We remember endings more than middles.   So if you can, protect the last two minutes and do one of these: ✅ Appreciation: “Here’s something I’ve noticed you doing really well…” ✅ Support: “Where can I make things easier for you this week?” ✅ Connection: “What’s something you’re looking forward to outside of work?” Mini Challenge: Forward this email to someone you have meetings with and ask which tip they want to try in your next meeting.   And see what happens.    I have a feeling your meetings are about to get a lot more effective. To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Did you just get forwarded this email? It’s a pleasure to meet you! I am Vanessa and I am a behavioral researcher.   My goal is to make you more effective using the science of people skills. 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Hi Maude,   The source of most social anxiety is this: Worrying what people think of you.   We worry people won’t like us, and that makes us try to hard.   We worry we are being weird, which makes us paranoid and actually act weird.   In this way awkwardness can be a bad loop.   I was in this loop...   And my mentor stopped me. She was like: ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DTv4Oe0juvw/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2%2F3++Worrying+what+people+think+about+you%3F&utm_content=Worrying+what+people+think+about+you%3F&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   It doesn’t matter what people say about you… …unless you believe what they’re saying.   This changed the way I move through the world. It made me realize the hard truth: People will have opinions. Lots of them.   About your work, your choices, your personality, your pace, your ambition, your parenting, your goals, your boundaries, your confidence.   Some will be kind. Some will be careless. Some will be wildly wrong.   But the only opinions that truly shape your identity are the ones you internalize.   And that’s where most of us get stuck. We don’t just hear feedback. We absorb it.   Unless we decide to stop.   I have one goal with this email: Stop internalizing other people’s worries about you.   Most of the negative thoughts we carry were never yours to begin with.   They were someone else’s emotional projection that accidentally became your inner voice.   So today I want to give you a practice I use whenever someone’s opinion starts to stick.   When a comment hits you hard, ask:   1) Is this true? Not “does it hurt?” Not “does it scare me?” Just: Is it True?  2) Is this useful? Does it make you better, clearer, wiser, kinder, stronger? 3) Is this mine? Or am I carrying someone else’s insecurity like it’s a fact? Because criticism isn’t always information. Sometimes it’s just noise.   Here’s the part I don’t want you to forget: → You are allowed to reject stories that don’t serve you. → You can take feedback without taking on an identity. → You can listen without letting it label you. → You can consider without absorbing. → And if someone misunderstands you? That’s not a life sentence. That’s just… a moment.   So the next time someone says something about you that lands like a punch, pause and remember:   Their words aren’t your reality.   Your belief is. And you get to choose what you believe. To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. If you’ve been carrying around someone else’s opinion like it’s a diagnosis, consider this your permission slip to put it down. You don’t have to prove them wrong… you just have to stop proving them right.   💡 Did this resonate with you? 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Hi Maude,   My family and I are BIG into goals. On New Year’s we all shared our goals and I was super inspired by my brother’s goal. He gave me permission to share it with you.    Here we are circa 1993. 💛    One thing you should know is that my older brother is the BEST. He is funny and kind and so patient and I love him so much. Ok, enough gushiness. Here’s what he said:   “I want to reach out to 3 people every day. Call, text, FaceTime. Just reach out to people I haven’t connected with in a while to tell them I am thinking of them.”   He didn’t realize this is actually MY FAVORITE game:   Friendship Roulette.   How it works: 1. Open your contacts. 2. Scroll with your eyes closed (or set a 10-second timer and stop when it buzzes). 3. Whoever you land on… you reach out. You can use any of these: → “Was just thinking of you. How’s life? What’s been good?” → “I was playing friendship roulette and landed on your name! Would love an update. Here’s mine…”   That’s it. No overthinking. No “I should write the perfect text.”   Why this works:   Your brain treats outreach like a high-stakes decision (What if I bother them? What if it’s awkward? What if we have nothing to say?).   Friendship Roulette removes the pressure by making it a game—and gives you a clear next step.   And the best part?   Even if you don’t meet up, that one message can reopen a door that’s been quietly closing. And this has tremendous social benefits to you (and them)! You never know who you need in your life at the right moment. Or who needs a reach out.   I made a quick video breaking it down (plus the exact scripts to use so it feels effortless).   Friendship Roulette ( https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-gPWMfUrNHQ?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F26++Friendship+roulette&utm_content=Friendship+roulette&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  ( https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-gPWMfUrNHQ?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F26++Friendship+roulette&utm_content=Friendship+roulette&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  Try it today. Seriously, one “spin.” You’ll be surprised who you’re glad you reached. Thanks for my brother for this inspiration! To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Would you like to come to my class at Harvard University? 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Hi Maude,   I was so delighted and surprised a few weeks ago when my little sister (Hi Haley!) told me I gave her the best advice…however I literally had no idea what it was.   Me: Really?! What did I say?   Haley: You told me to just say hi to everyone. Don’t wait for them. Don’t overthink it. Just say hi to everyone you walk by.   Me: Wow. Has it worked?   Haley: Yes! It was hard at first then it made me so many friends. There’s no downside. Worst outcome is someone just doesn’t say hi back…but usually they just missed it and will say hi the next time.   Can you make saying “Hi!” your new social habit? 👋 ( https://media1.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExa2lzcnpuN3l4MzJ3YjQ0Z3ZnZGZtNjd6cmZwaXRhNzc4NHF0NmtxdiZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/yrhhmre5fN2PtRujfo/giphy.gif?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) It immediately makes you more likable AND it is a gift to someone else. You never know when someone is having a bad day…or is feeling lonely…or needs a friendly face. Be that friendly face. To your success, Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Are you in SoCal and love social media? We’re hiring! ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DTgCY-nDkC_/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) If you’re someone who’s curious about people, culture, and storytelling, I’d love to hear from you. Apply here! ( https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vT_b6U69qpJSkae6TWV5JO93KcBdTBUkrgbZl9EI8jFehUx_YwVonZvPbQAbku6eLz0GkvxngS8ry_2/pub?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   Conversation Starter of the Week What is the best advice you have ever given? Received?    ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZvXvjh6SpKvpTEB54baYw== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F19+Advice+for+my+sister&utm_content=Advice+for+my+sister&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   1810 E Sahara Ave STE 75101 Las Vegas NV 89104 United States

Hi Maude,   Here’s my nightmare social scenario:   A person says, “Hello.”    I say, “Hi, nice to meet you.”   They say, “We’ve met before.”   Cue instant social death and an hour of social babbling trying to recover. BTW this was bad for me, but also embarrassing for them and cued them to think, “Am I not memorable?”   Doh! What a social fail.   The *only* good thing to come from this horror was that I made a rule for myself that I am sharing with you:   NEVER EVER SAY NICE TO MEET YOU …always say, “Nice to see you.”   This is conversational insurance. Just in case you have met before it SAVES YOU BOTH FROM HUMILIATION.   I shared this tip as well as a secret conversation trick my husband and I have (if I introduce him first I do not know the person’s name and he knows to ask for me).   And it went totally viral! 35 million views and counting. 🤯   Check it out: ( https://www.instagram.com/p/DSvJHzLDula/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )To your success, Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. And if you are new to this newsletter because of this lovely clip- welcome! I have so many more tips for you! I send out a newsletter every Monday with a tip and conversation starter you can use.   Conversation Starter of the Week Do you have conversation tricks with your bestie, partner or wingman? Make some!   ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZuzsYT3vka-HM4sXTXo3w== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F12+Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_content=Never%2C+ever+say+%E2%80%9Cnice+to+meet+you%E2%80%9D&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   1810 E Sahara Ave STE 75101 Las Vegas NV 89104 United States

Hi Maude,   I don't like the “hustle harder” or “push through” mindsets.    What if… things were easier?   Not because life gets magically simple.     But because you stop carrying the hidden weight of unclear communication.   Because here’s what no one tells you:   A lot of what feels “hard” isn’t the task.     It’s the people part around the task. Miscommunication. Sticky situations. Bad boundaries…   → The meeting that drains you because you don’t know how to jump in   → The relationship tension because you keep missing each other   → The promotion conversation you avoid because you don’t know how to ask   → The networking event where you feel awkward and overthink every word   → The boundary you need to set, but don’t want to sound “mean”     People skills make many things easier—because they reduce friction.     They help you walk into rooms with a plan, not a prayer.   In 3 hours, the price of People School increases 25%.   People School is designed to help you: → know what to say (without spiraling) → come across warm and competent (so you’re liked and respected) → build connection faster (without being fake) → handle tough conversations with calm confidence   If you’ve been thinking about joining, this is the last chance to get in before the 25% increase.   Enroll here to Lock In Lower Pricing ➡️ ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   What would get easier in your life if your next conversation went better than your last one?   To your success, Vanessa & The Science of People Team    P.S. The most common thing I hear from students is: “I wish I did this sooner.” If you’ve ever said that about anything meaningful in your life, this is your moment to choose “sooner.”   ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZumSBgzPEnIAYx2tvR0cQ== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=9+PM+1%2F9+What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_content=What+if+it+things+were+easier&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   1810 E Sahara Ave STE 75101 Las Vegas NV 89104 United States

Hi Maude,   Do you want to meet other incredible professionals? Build your network? 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Hi Maude,   A quick update (and a big moment): our first Certified People Coach Program cohort is officially full.   I’m thrilled, and honestly a little emotional, because this inaugural group is exactly what we hoped for: brave, experiment-minded humans who want to be fiercely helpful and bring real people skills into the world.   If you are interested in our next cohort, the waitlist is now open, and it’s the best way to:   → Be the first to know when applications reopen → Get early access to program details + dates → Receive any priority updates (spots, deadlines, info sessions) 👉 Join the waitlist here ( https://coach.scienceofpeople.com/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) To your success, Vanessa & The Science of People Team    P.S. If you haven’t already, I strongly recommend you read my book Cues ( https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593332199/?tag=rrulecom-20&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) as it is one of the textbooks for the program and will give you a flavor for what to expect.   About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZugAdC94eVeO_ftCWtw3A== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F8+People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_content=People+Coach+Program+is+FULL+%28waitlist+open%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   1810 E Sahara Ave STE 75101 Las Vegas NV 89104 United States

Hi Maude,   Don’t miss this: People School's ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F7+In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_content=In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) price goes up 25% in 2 days (January 9, 2026).   And I don’t want you to miss the current price if you’ve been thinking, “I should do this… I just need the right time.”   Because here’s what I know after years of studying people skills:   ❌ “The right time” isn’t a date on the calendar.   ✅ It’s the moment you decide you’re done playing small in your relationships, your career, and your life.   If any of these have been true lately… → You walk away from conversations thinking, “Why did I say it like that?” → You overthink texts, meetings, or networking and wish you felt more natural → You want to be more confident and charismatic—but you don’t want to be fake → You’re tired of being misunderstood, overlooked, or underestimated   …then People School was built for you.   What People School actually does   It gives you a step-by-step system to become someone who: → speaks with clarity (even under pressure) → reads people accurately (without spiraling) → builds warmth and competence (the real charisma combo) → makes better first impressions—and deeper second impressions → stops “rehearsing life” and starts showing up in it   This isn’t hype. It’s skills. And skills compound. The part most people don’t realize   When people say they want “confidence,” what they usually mean is: “I want proof I can handle people.”   That proof comes from reps. Tools. Practice. Feedback.   And that’s exactly what People School is designed to give you. If you’ve been circling it, let me make this easy: Join now at the current price.   Then you can go through it at your pace, knowing you didn’t pay more just because you waited.   → Enroll in People School here ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F7+In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_content=In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   And People School has a 7-day guarantee.   So you can try it, see if it’s the right fit, and decide with real information—not fear.   In 2 days, the price increases 25% because of all the amazing new tools we have added. Check them all out on the program page. ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F7+In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_content=In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   I would love to help you! To your success, Vanessa & The Science of People Team    P.S. If you’re feeling the “I’ll do it later” voice… just remember: later is usually more expensive—in money, yes, but also in missed opportunities, awkward moments, and relationships that stay surface-level. If People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F7+In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_content=In+2+days%2C+People+School+price+goes+up+25%25&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) is on your list, this is your clean moment to say yes.    P.P.S Got questions? Reply back so we can help! 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Hi Maude,   I recently did a thought experiment and would love for you to do it with me:   Who is the most successful person you know?   Now, full disclosure: I used to have a very narrow view of success with a focus on wealth and material things (yikes, I know). But then I began to notice an alarming pattern:   The 5 wealthiest people I knew were the least happy.    They were busy.  They were lonely. They were WORRIED. All. the. time.   This was a big turning point for me in how I structured my entire life (and goals). I began to broaden my definition of success.   May I invite you to do the same?   Here’s how:   Now, think about the most successful person you know with these filters:   → Who laughs every day? → Who has the strongest group of friends? → Who’s able to say no without guilt? → Who loves their work? → Who has freedom of time?   I realized ~1% of people I know fit this definition of success. I wanted to learn everything from them.    I noticed these folks had very unique skills–and most of them were soft skills. Like:   They NEVER engage in boring small talk (waste of time and not fulfilling)   They DO NOT do stuff they dread. (A magical ability to say no by being both firm and kind)   They are RUTHLESS about how they spend their time (and with WHO)   As I began to study this 1% of people…and slowly adopt their skills, I felt a complete personal transformation.   And it didn’t take a major life reset or career change. I started to focus on small wins with big impact.    I would love to help you learn these hacks too. My most transformational program is People School. 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So if you’ve been considering joining now is the perfect time.   Want a sneak peek?   I would love to share our November Office Hours ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/november2025/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F5+The+1%25+strategy&utm_content=The+1%25+strategy&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) with you so you can get a feel for our live sessions.   04:06 - AI Tool Demo: Gamma for Presentations 12:32 - 2026 Monthly Themes and Momentum 16:23 - New AI People Skills Index (PSI) Test 25:20 - Challenge: Be a Life Experimenter 31:19 - New AI Resume and Career Tools 37:12 - Q&A: Simplifying Ideas for Impact 42:06 - Q&A: Informal Approach to Finding a Mentor 49:11 - Q&A: Warmth vs. Competence and Vocal Mirroring 50:27 - Log Line Workshop and Feedback 53:11 - "Wow of the Month": Generational Personality Trends   The Price of People School is Going Up in 4 Days! 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Hi Maude,   When people asked me, “So, what do you want to be when you grow up?” I always said: teacher.   Communication Coach was not a job title back then, but it is a new way of teaching. And little did I know I would end up shaping a dream career that didn’t exist when I was a kid.   This is truly one of the most unique career paths.   Whether you want to be a People Coach ( https://coach.scienceofpeople.com/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F2+Be+a+Communication+Coach&utm_content=Be+a+Communication+Coach&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) inside your organization or use it in your existing coaching practice, there are some incredible truths about this line of work.    Can I tell you more about it to see if it sparks something in you?   You are a goal optimizer.   Are you obsessed with resolutions?   If you love working with people’s goals, stoking their dreams and brainstorming solutions, then communication coaching is for you. Basically you’re tying communication to whatever goal someone has and helping them with it – if they want a raise, it’s rapport building with their boss. If they want a soulmate, it’s authentic banter during dates.   Communication is more about goals than we realize.   You dream BIG.   Communication is both a broad and specific skill - it’s powerful because it can help in all areas of someone’s life but also can transform a specific social tick or habit.   In this way, Communication Coaches have to think big and dream big. Communication Coaching is limitless – it can help so many people in so many ways, the key is figuring out where you want to wield its power to help others.   Your currency is confidence.   Communication coaching is about service. The goal is helping others feel more confident and comfortable in their skills. Our mission is to gift confidence in every session, every workshop, every tip.   We just launched this Certified People Coach Program—inviting a small group to shape the program from the inside.   If you apply in the next 24 hours you’ll get founder pricing, priority access, public recognition as a founding coach, and a direct line into our roadmap (you’ll help us build what People Coaches actually need in the real world).   If you’ve ever thought, “I already guide people… I want a real framework + credentials to do it with confidence,” this is your moment.   Founder pricing is over tomorrow! So please, don’t wait!   Apply Here ➡️ ( https://coach.scienceofpeople.com/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=1%2F2+Be+a+Communication+Coach&utm_content=Be+a+Communication+Coach&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) *Apply before tomorrow at midnight for $1,000 off*   To your success,   P.S. 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people school logo  Hi Maude,   I always used to think something was wrong with me that I couldn't just pretend to be more outgoing. I am so NOT extroverted that I call myself a social vegan…I avoid meet. Aka recovering awkward person. Aka anxious ambivert.   I often feel like this: ( https://www.instagram.com/p/C-SjriONVDn/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )Is it even worth trying to make new friends as an adult? Yes!   It can be hard to meet new people and it can be intimidating to make new friends as an adult, but I have a solution!   I should think of finding new friends just like we think about hunting for a soulmate.   ****************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************** How to Make Friends as An Adult ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-make-friends/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ******************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************   ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-make-friends/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  To your success,  Vanessa Van Edwards   P.S. Want more help? I would love to support you as you make incredible friendships! When you join People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) I will answer your questions in live Office hours, support your goals, and give you tons of practical tools.  Facebook ( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Twitter ( https://twitter.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )Instagram ( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?hl=en&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )LinkedIn ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )YouTube ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj9QBB4bNTv29f4oFIreNmw?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQAALOlhwGxpYcBAZt0ELuAgQcTXZWs8UIhPQ== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=Email+14&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   Sent with ❤️ from Austin, TX Science of People 2028 E Ben White Blvd #240-4020 Austin, TX, 78741

Hi Maude,   This year my word is: Courage.   What’s yours?   We’re making big moves and totally transparently: they scare me! I shared the full story in my Goal-Setting Class yesterday. 👉 Watch it here ( https://www.youtube.com/live/yHW4ZTdZmP4?si=Ydid_wb-vj-KaWl_&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=TS+12%2F30+What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_content=What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   If you only take one thing from this class, take this: Your goals don’t just need motivation—they need support.   I would be honored to support you in with your goals next year.   If you want to hit any goal in 2026, career, health, love, friendships, leadership, I can help.   I have helped hundreds of thousands of students achieve their goals:   “Your class(es) about personal interactions saved my career. My self-awareness when interacting with other improved 100% due to your lessons.” -Jim E   “Because of People School, I will be able to choose how I want interactions to go, rather than feeling at the mercy of others. You’ve given me hope that I can change.” -Liz   “What People School helped me with the most is alleviating my social anxiety. (And that is why I purchased the course) The interactions I have had are a far cry from the stress inducing, sometimes panic attack inducing, interactions of the past. I am more confident, reading people with better accuracy, and applying what I’ve learned. This is life changing!” -Stacy C.    If you’re ready to build the skills that make goals easier across the board, People School is the next step.   It’s where we train the exact tools that help you show up with warmth + competence, earn trust faster, and create opportunities through connection.   Explore People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=TS+12%2F30+What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_content=What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) *The Price of People School is going up January 9th*   I just announced our first 6 themes for the year - we have live classes and experts coming in for each one!   January: Balance  → Grounding your personal and professional goals without overwhelm   February: LinkedIn  → Featuring a workshop with a LinkedIn expert to makeover your profile   March: Networking  → Speed networking sessions and help building your network   April: Romance  → Focusing on dating, flirtation, and long-term couples   May: Interviewing  → Job seeking skills and showcasing your talents   June: Self-Promotion  → How to talk about your successes in a new way   Do you want to be the one helping others?   Consider skipping to the next step:   Get Certified with Us ( https://coach.scienceofpeople.com/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=TS+12%2F30+What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_content=What%E2%80%99s+your+word&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) *3 Spots Left* To your success,   P.S. 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************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************** 🗓️ We’re live today! If you’re joining the New Year Goal Setting Webinar, here’s what I want you to know before we start: you do not need a perfect plan. You just need a workable one. ************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************** Join Live Here! ( https://www.youtube.com/live/yHW4ZTdZmP4?si=Ydid_wb-vj-KaWl_&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) In the next few minutes, I’ll help you plan for 2026. And if you can’t stay the whole time, come anyway—I’ll send the replay. See you in there, Vanessa Van Edwards Conversation Starter of the Week:  If 2026 could feel different in one way, what would you choose? About ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/about/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )     Speaking ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/speaking/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )    Training ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessavanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ( https://www.tiktok.com/@vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )( https://x.com/vvanedwards?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Hey - I like you! And I really enjoy creating training for you. Hit reply if you need anything, we are always here for you. Of course, you can unsubscribe ( https://track.customer.io/unsubscribe/dgSYxwQDALOlhwGxpYcBAZtrOMJM5R5XAVX34d5Sbg== ) just please be careful, because that means I can't deliver your emails anymore, even for things you asked or paid for, since all our services are tied to your email address. But you can reach me anytime at support@scienceofpeople.com ( support@scienceofpeople.com?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=12%2F29+We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_content=We%E2%80%99re+going+live+%F0%9F%8E%89+%28bring+your+2026+goals%29&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   1810 E Sahara Ave STE 75101 Las Vegas NV 89104 United States

people school logo  Hi Maude,   Successful communicators have a secret approach to interactions.    …but it’s not a mystery anymore! I cracked the people code and now I’m sharing it with you. When I figured this out, it changed my life…and I hope it will change yours.   Here are 5 habits of highly effective communicators.   ***************************************** Habit #1: Say no to secretly toxic people *****************************************   Do you find yourself canceling on the same people over and over again?    When you look at your calendar is there something you are dreading?    You might have an energy vampire!    These folks drain your energy, take your time and do not support your success–but it’s super hard to identify them.    Here’s the problem: It’s almost impossible to achieve your goals if your time and social battery is being wasted by emotional moochers or toxic people. Before I can teach you the social strategies to reach the right people, we have to say no to the wrong people. Right now:   Say no to people you dread. Look at your calendar. Is there something (or someone) you are dreading seeing? Kindly cancel. Do not apologize. Then take that time to learn ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io#free-trainings ) and invest in yourself.   ********************************** Habit #2: Be positively contagious **********************************  Did you know that emotions are contagious between people? This was the big idea I shared in my TEDx Talk, which over 4 million people have watched (I still can’t believe how viral this video went!) See the 3 things you can do to impact people in a positive way:   ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ My TEDx London Talk ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ted/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------  ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ted/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  ***************************************** Habit #3: Lean into your social strengths *****************************************  You do NOT have to pretend to be outgoing to be likable. I will teach you to leverage your natural social strengths. There are different social strategies you can employ depending on your individual strengths. Which bucket do you fall into? * Adventurous Introverts: You are thoughtful and have great ideas, but don’t like to share or collaborate in a group setting. You prefer to brainstorm and strategize in private. You recharge in solo time. Listening and reading people is your potential superpower ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-read-people/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ). * Ambitious Ambiverts: You fall in between introvert and extrovert.This flexibility is incredibly helpful. When needed, you can lead a room, hold conversation and present…but it exhausts you. Difficult people drain your social battery fast. Dealing with difficult people ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/difficult-people/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) could be your secret superpower. * Goal-Oriented Extroverts: You are naturally excellent with people – you just need to know how to direct your talent. You are an igniter for others because you can gift social energy to others. Make sure you are never underestimated for your social talent. ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/underestimated/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )   ************************************ Habit #4: Elevate your dreambuilders ************************************   Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with? Now for the more important question–do they actually make you better? Dreambuilders are people in your life who support your growth, level you up, and push you to achieve your dreams. Be purposeful about who you are spending the most time with. Schedule weekly–and if you can, daily time with at least one of your dreambuilders. Share your goals with them.    Right now: Schedule a time to see a dreambuilder and tell them your big goal.    → Not sure how to leverage your dreambuilders? I will teach you how to deepen connection with them.   → Don’t have a true dreambuilder in your life? Don’t worry, I will teach you how to build a supportive network of friends and peers.   ******************************************* Habit #5: Become a master conversationalist *******************************************  Conversation is a skill that will be useful for you no matter your goals, no matter your career, no matter your age. EVERYONE should know how to:   💪 Speak so people listen   🤐 Avoid awkward silences   🚫 Change small talk into BIG talk   I struggled with conversation for a long time. Then I began to study the patterns of successful conversationalists and realized there are easy to avoid conversation traps and blueprints to use whenever you interact. I would love to teach you how to: * Establish a confident presence in just 10 seconds * Sound confident and assertive in any conversation * Use an easy opening formula to get any conversation off to a great start * Get past one-word answers and encourage people to open up * Stop being boring and be more engaging * Handle difficult conversations with confidence and tact Enroll in People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/people-school/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=5+Habits+of+Highly+Effective+Communicators&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Tomorrow, I have a gift for you 🥰…well 5 actually. 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people school logo  Hi Maude,   I want to tell you something important: I like you! 💛 Those are three words we ALL need to hear more often.   I’m so grateful you found me. My goal is to help you. In fact, reply right now and tell me your biggest goal. I’d love to hear from you. On a personal note, I used to feel very unlikable. I felt awkward in conversations. I was regularly overlooked and underestimated. And mostly, I never felt like I could truly be myself with other people.   Everything changed when I learned the science of people. In case we haven’t met yet, I'm Vanessa Van Edwards, and I help high-achievers use people skills to achieve their career, social, and personal goals.   I do this in my two bestselling books (Captivate ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) & Cues ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/cues/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )), on my YouTube channel ( https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) (which has over 90 million views) and in my advanced communication course: People School ( https://www.scienceofpeople.com/training/?adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ).   Want to start learning right now? Here are some of my most popular interviews:   --------------------------------------- The Diary of a CEO with Steven Bartlett --------------------------------------- Play ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHUrdELKjDw&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  ------------------------------- Khloé Kardashian in Wonderland ------------------------------- Play ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5Zqej5Ymbg&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io )  --------------------- Jay Shetty On Purpose --------------------- Play ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d3fkpYlR7fU&adt_ei=b%40email.gomodulr.com&utm_campaign=2024+Intro&utm_content=I+like+you&utm_medium=email_action&utm_source=customer.io ) Here’s my big idea: You can learn to be highly effective with people. …even if you’re not naturally gifted with social skills. …even if you’re not outgoing (I specialize in helping introverts and ambiverts thrive in communication with their natural strengths). I know first-hand what it’s like to try to pretend to be an extrovert when you’re not. It’s exhausting and it doesn’t work. I know what it’s like to have great ideas, but not know how to share them. There is a better way. You can be both likable and assertive. You can learn to be an expert communicator in every situation. You can build incredible relationships with your colleagues, boss, friends, and partner.   ******************* What You Can Expect *******************   Starting now, I’m going to teach you to stand apart from the crowd in any room, start any conversation, pitch any idea, and create opportunity every time you have a conversation — by mastering your people skills.  You’ll learn my science-based techniques (and hard-learned strategies), that I’ve been paid millions of dollars to teach at companies like Google, Amazon, Nike, and to over 600,000+ high achievers all over the world.  I’ve personally used these skills to go from never knowing what to say, constantly being passed over, and always questioning myself in social situations, to:    👉 Speaking in front of thousands of people with purpose, clarity, and comfort and on national outlets like CBS Mornings, The Jennifer Hudson Show, and TedX London.   👉 Teaching people skills at Fortune 500 companies and educational institutions like Stanford and MIT — and feeling incredibly honored to see the powerful changes it makes in my student's lives.    👉Running a business with a team of high-performing people and having the time and ability to disconnect and keep my passion projects alive.   My hope is that you’ll join my 600,000+ students in getting results like these:   “Got the job!! $30k more per year!” - Keith M. “Strangers approached me and said that they were impressed with how engaging and confident I seemed.” - Mary R “I spoke and I could tell they were actually listening to me instead of just waiting to talk.” - Daniel M. “It's official! I landed the role and achieved my 1 year goal!!!” - Claudia W.   I’m not going to teach you people skills the traditional “self-help” way. I won’t give you a list of a thousand things to remember to do (without ways to implement them) or share opinions that work for me (but haven’t been tried anywhere else).  Instead, I’ll share strategies backed by research and tested by thousands of my students.  In the coming weeks you’ll learn:  * To prime every conversation for success, before you even show up. * How one of my students got a $100k raise and promotion — using people skills. * To replace your self-sabotaging social beliefs with beneficial ones that help you grow. * To increase your influence, income, and impact using science based skills. For now, there’s one thing you must know before we begin diving deep into developing your people skills:   You don’t have to be a natural. I’ve successfully helped thousands of people understand the unspoken rules of the “social game” so they can stop having frustrating, boring, or meaningless conversations and start intentionally driving their conversations and lives forward.  In the 15+ years I’ve spent researching and teaching people skills, I’ve learned the biggest barrier to success is the belief that you’re either born with people skills or you’re not. It’s simply not true. Thousands of my students are proof of it.  Armed with science and a step-by-step process, I’ve watched:  * Introverts go from feeling robotic and out-of-place to being powerful and purposeful in their communication without having to sacrifice who they are. * Overwhelmed high performers go from being burnt out and underappreciated to collaborative, indispensable team leaders. * Average folks, just like me, use social skills to reach their goals faster and achieve things they never thought possible. I’ve even helped “naturals” perfect their talents and understand what it is they do so they can do it intentionally.  If you’re one of the people who believes “this is as good as it gets” when it comes to your people skills, I want you to know that you can (and will) become a master of people skills. I’ll show you how over the next few days — starting now.    ************* What’s Next *************  Next up, I’ll share with you the single most important thing you can do to be more effective with people.   I’ll also send you a few more foundational skills teaching you the first principles of mastering your communication skills (and some surprise goodies too.)   After that, you will get one actionable people skill and conversation start in your inbox every Monday. 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