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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, I’m giving you the one reminder we all need when the going gets tough. “**But first, I’ve been giving all my close friends one piece of advice lately:** Grow your personal brand—especially on LinkedIn. It has never been more important than it is right now. In an AI world where things are more and more uncertain, the people with strong brands and an audience of true fans will always win. If you want my proven playbook, I’ll teach you everything I know in **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**. In no time, you’ll be attracting new followers and dream opportunities. Our next cohort starts on July 27th, but there’s **only one week left to get a big discount. **Learn more and read the kind of results my members are getting at **[JoinArchimedes.com](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/7ecd46ff-a2a2-4d6b-9724-a7f3c7050bde/Archimedes_Home_Banner__1_.png?t=1751300847) Caption: # **CONTEXT** I'm writing this on not nearly enough sleep. 😅 My past month has been an ambitious stretch. On top of running Archimedes, I've been finalizing edits on the manuscript of my book. And I chose to illustrate all of the art for my book myself. All wonderful things! Genuinely. I'm so grateful to get to do this. But as a debut author, this is stretching me far outside my comfort zone. If I’m honest with you, the voice in the back of my head has relentless: “You’re not ready.” “Who do you think you are?” “You’re not qualified.” Sound familiar at all? Last week, I came across this wonderful line from Vex King: "So, you're telling me that every time you thought you couldn't get through something difficult, you did. And now, you're back here thinking you won't succeed? Trust your track record, my friend." It was exactly what I needed. Turns out I have 100% success rate at getting through difficult times. (And you do too! How do I know? Because you’re still here. ❤️) We all have an impressive track record. But we conveniently forget it at the exact moment we need it most. Your brain has a negativity bias that's thousands of years old. It was designed to keep you safe from predators, not to help you conjure up the courage to illustrate your own book, or start that side project. Here are 3 practical tips to overcome self-doubt: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Start Collecting Proof** Open your phone right now and start a note called "I can do hard things." Every time you overcome a challenge—big or small—add it to this list: * The impossible project you delivered on time * The client you won over, despite all odds * That tough conversation you finally had * The speech you gave, even though your knees were shaking * The time you got rejected and applied again anyway You’re creating an irrefutable stack of evidence that you are, in fact, someone who does hard things. — **2. Make Your Wins Undeniable** Your brain is a master at dismissing your achievements as "luck" or "not that impressive." So don’t let it argue. Add proof to your archive: * Screenshots of positive feedback * Photos of completed projects * Voice memos of proud moments * Emails where someone thanked you for your impact Make it impossible for your brain to dismiss. — **3. Build a Weekly Reminder System** Set a recurring calendar notification on Monday mornings with this message: "Trust your track record.” And the next time imposter syndrome creeps in, scroll through your "Hard Things" archive for just 2 minutes. This tiny ritual rewires your brain to trust your capabilities instead of your fears. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** When I think about the achievements I’m most proud of, none of them happened during a time of total comfort. Not one. They came when I pushed through the uncertainty. When I did the thing I genuinely wasn’t sure I could do. So the next time you face something that feels insurmountable, remember: this isn't the first impossible thing you've stared down. You've overcome everything life has thrown at you so far. And just like all the others, you'll find your way through this one too. Much love, Jade P.S. If you’re undecided on Archimedes, hear me out. I almost didn’t start posting on LinkedIn 3 years ago. “What are people going to think?” “I don’t have time.” “I’ll just start later.” If I had listened to any of those thoughts, I wouldn’t have grown from 1,000 to 1,000,000 followers in 3 years, started a thriving coaching business, landed the book deal of my dreams, and left my career at Google to work for myself. You’re so much closer than you think. Apply now. I really hope I get to meet you next month. 🤞 [JoinArchimedes.com](https://joinarchimedes.com/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-self-trust

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get the monthly ritual I’ve have been doing for ages. “But first, Ben and I are celebrating something BIG today. 🥹 **His book,**** **_[**How To Be Good At Life**](https://geni.us/howtobegoodatlife)_** ****is officially available to pre-order!!!** I have watched this man pour his heart and soul into every page of this book over the last 3 years. I’ve read every version of every chapter. It’s by far the best self-help book since_ Atomic Habits._ The book officially ships on October 6th. But! Ben wanted to give you something special even sooner. **If you pre-order it today, you’ll get instant access to his course: **[**Year of Systems**](https://benmeer.com/yearofsystems/). It’s 52 weeks of bite-sized systems that make life feel so much more effortless. Think: a system for remembering birthdays or a system for spending less time on your phone. They're all so good. The course is only free for the first 5,000 people, so I really wouldn’t wait! 1,000+ have been claimed in the last 24 hours.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/2115b259-fa80-4aa0-bbcf-86796e5e5519/image.png?t=1781465846) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** In my experience, relationships don’t usually end from one big betrayal. They're more often caused by a thousand tiny things left unsaid. Like…the appreciation you meant to say out loud, but never did because you just assumed they knew. Or the tiny annoyances that you swallowed, but grew into big ones. And by the time you finally sit down to talk, resentment has been compounding for weeks. I found the #1 way to get ahead of all that. It’s called "Life Dinner," a ritual created by venture capitalist [Brad Feld](https://feld.com/archives/2008/03/life-dinner/). On the 1st of every month, he and his wife Amy go out to dinner. It's not a date night per se. It's more of a deliberate time to reflect on the month behind them and the one ahead. Ben and I borrowed this idea… then made it our own. Ours is part-personal reflection, part-joint reflection. Here's exactly how we run it. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** The logistics are easy: * Set a recurring calendar invite for the 1st of every month. It can take as little as 20 minutes, but block out 1-2 hours in case the conversation goes deep. (The best ones do.) * We like to choose a new restaurant each time, as we continue to explore Miami, but you could easily do this at home. After we put in our order with the server, we take turns answering three sets of questions: **1. Personal Reflection on Last Month** * What am I proud of myself for doing this month? * What could I have done better? * What am I worried about for next month? **2. Relationship Reflection on Last Month** * What's one thing I appreciated about you this month? * What could have gone better in our relationship? * How do we want to improve moving forward? **3. Personal Goals for Next Month** * What do I hope to achieve over the next 4 weeks? This last one is so powerful. Saying your goals out loud to someone who loves you = built-in accountability. It’s kind of like a monthly version of [The Hugh Jackman Method I’ve written about](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_a-2-minute-morning-habit-in-bed-changed-activity-7335285054438301697--Nec/) to have the perfect day. Pro tip: Write it down. I keep my Life Dinner thoughts in a note on my phone. I usually jot down a few things before dinner so I show up more mindfully. And at the end of the year, I have 12 monthly reflections that are so interesting to look back on. It’s a highlight reel of how I grew, what I overcame, and how our relationship evolved. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** One pushback I hear: "You don’t need a 'system' for your relationship. You should just talk every day." And hey—if you've been married for years, have kids, and still find time for deeper discussions every single day? I’m so happy for you! But I don't think that's the norm. It’s so easy for deep conversation to get buried under logistics, to-do lists, and "is the dishwasher clean or dirty?" A monthly Life Dinner carves out space to reflect and keep building the relationship of your dreams. Pssst. “Life Dinner” is Week 29 of Ben's [Year of Systems](https://benmeer.com/yearofsystems/) course! If you liked this system, you’re going to absolutely LOVE the other 51 that Ben put together for your relationships, health, career, mindset, and more. **How to claim your course:** 1. [Pre-order the book from any retailer](https://benmeer.com/book/).  2. Copy and paste your order number [here on Ben’s cool website](https://benmeer.com/book/#course). 3. As soon as it's verified, you get an email with instant access to Year of Systems! ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade P.S. Forward this email to someone you want to do Life Dinner with. ❤️ And if you enjoyed this method, hit reply! I personally read every single note you send me. I got the _kindest_ email replies about last week’s newsletter about [6 old-soul habits to bring back this summer.](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-an-old-soul) Here were a few of them. 🥹 * “Thanks, Jade. I think this article is one of my favorites to-date, of yours. Brilliant!” —Aimee * “Jade, this was exactly what I needed to read today. 'Offline is the new luxury' is my new summer motto.” —DS * “I'm twice your age but continue to be one of your readers. Your writings are truly informative. 👍" —Teddy * “Greetings from a subscriber of yours from Italy. I appreciate all of your content - thank you for all that you give us, and for free! This email from yesterday though is PURE GOLD.” —Andrea * “Every time I read your newsletter, it’s like you wrote this personally for me....thank you so much, Jade! Whenever I'm upset, I read one of your newsletter and it works like magic....so much love to you!” —Radhika * “You described the life I want in this latest newsletter. I had forgotten it is still possible. ❤️” —Megan Thank you to every single one of you who took the time to reply. I can’t tell you how much it warms my soul. _You_ are what makes this journey so meaningful. You can catch up on all [The Quiet Rich newsletters](https://www.thequietrich.co/) here. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-life-dinners

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get 6 old-soul habits to bring back this summer. ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** What if our grandparents had it right all along? They started their mornings with the newspaper and coffee—not scrolling through social media. They cooked Sunday dinners from scratch. They walked to the store and actually talked to their neighbors along the way. Fast forward to today. We've got every convenience imaginable, yet we're more anxious, distracted, and lonely than ever. Why? Because our nervous systems were never designed for this. Constant notifications. Breaking news alerts. Dating app swipes. The happiest people I know have figured out what our grandparents knew instinctively: offline is the new luxury. When the phone was tied with a cord, we all felt so much more free. Let's bring a little of that freedom back this summer. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** 6 “old soul” habits to start this summer: 1. Instead of asking ChatGPT for a simple recipe, **ask your mom**, your sibling, or your friends who love to cook. 2. Instead of Ubering eggs at the last minute, **knock on your neighbor’s door**. They’re happy to help, and it’s really delightful to build a small community with the people who live close to you. 3. Instead of texting a friend “happy birthday,” **call them and chat for a while**. You’ll be so glad to hear their voice. And they'll remember your call _long_ after they've forgotten the 17 emoji-filled texts they got. 4. Instead of doom-scrolling in bed at night, r**ead a few chapters of a really good book**. It does wonders for your mind (and your quality of sleep). 5. Instead of listening to a podcast on every walk, **give your mind some whitespace**. You’ll get the best ideas. 6. Instead of checking emails in line at the coffee shop, **smile and say hi to the person next to you**. You never know what it could lead to. A new friend. A business opportunity. A moment that makes someone's day. Or maybe just a small reminder that the world is still full of kind people. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Old-soul habits require a tiny bit more effort upfront, but they pay enormous dividends in the long run. Calling your mom takes longer than asking AI for a recipe. But she’ll feel closer to you and you'll remember the call for days. Knocking on your neighbor's door could feel slightly awkward at first. But that small moment of courage may turn into years of friendship. Reading a book takes more focus than scrolling. But it nourishes your mind in a way that no algorithm ever could. We live in a world that’s pulling us further apart from each other. It promises you convenience, but it doesn’t mention the cost hidden in fine print at the bottom. Connection. There’s a wonderful story about Kurt Vonnegut that sums it up perfectly. He told his wife he's going out to buy an envelope: "Oh, she says, well, you're not a poor man. You know, why don't you go online and buy a hundred envelopes and put them in the closet? And so I pretend not to hear her. And go out to get an envelope because I'm going to have a hell of a good time in the process of buying one envelope. I meet a lot of people. And see some great looking babies. And a fire engine goes by. And I give them the thumbs up. And I'll ask a woman what kind of dog that is. And, and I don't know. The moral of the story is we're here on Earth to fart around. And, of course, the computers will do us out of that. And what the computer people don't realize, or they don't care, is we're dancing animals. You know, we love to move around. And it's like we're not supposed to dance anymore. Let’s all get up and move around a bit right now…" I’m wishing you a summer full of priceless, in-person memories and moments that matter. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade P.S. Did you enjoy this? Forward it to someone who will appreciate it. ❤️ You can catch up on all [The Quiet Rich newsletters](https://www.thequietrich.co/) here. I got the _kindest_ email replies about last week’s newsletter: “[the time of your life](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-the-time-of-your-life).” Here were a few of them. “I just wanted to leave a little note to say I adore your newsletter and it continues to inspire, not just in content but also in values and format. Already looking forward to the next one.” —Josefine “LOVED this one!!!!” —Allison “I am going to be 40 in another 4 months. A heartfelt ‘Thank You’ for the jolt—it was exactly what I needed.” —Priya “Been subscribed to your newsletter for a few months now. The latest one particularly resonated. You killed it with the 8am theory. “ —Vishal “Jade, this is my favorite newsletter to date, and it make sense that it was a unique idea of yours. Very touching and beautiful.” —Melanie I absolutely love hearing from you. If any of my writing resonates, hit reply! I read every single note you send me. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-an-old-soul

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get _the most interesting theory_ I’ve come up with in a while. I couldn’t wait to share this with you. This is for anyone who has ever felt like they’re “behind” in life. Scroll down for it. “**But first—warm thanks to today’s sponsor, **[**Artlist**](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** It’s been one year since I walked away from my career at Google to bet on myself. I became a professional creator and author, and I often get asked which AI tools are worth the hype. I’m impressed by Artlist’s new AI Agent. It’s so easy to create high-quality, cinematic images and videos just by typing what you want in plain English. It's the closest thing I've found to having a professional studio in your pocket. If you can imagine it, you can create it. I can’t wait to see the magic you’ll make. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/896868e7-7014-42d6-b77c-10d99a20ab17/Artlist.png?t=1777317831) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** When I came up with this idea the other week, it stopped me in my tracks. I call it The 8 AM Theory. If your life were a 24-hour day, it’d only be 8 AM when you turn 30. Think about that. The first third of your life—every memory, every milestone—is only midnight to 8 AM. 8 AM is when most people are just getting started! They’re pouring the first cup of coffee. They’re deciding what kind of day they want to have. 8 AM isn't behind schedule. 8 AM is the beginning. And yet, we live in a culture that tells you if you haven't "made it" by 30, you're late. If you're switching careers at 40, you're lost. If you're starting over at 50, you're brave (by which they mean foolish). Thankfully, not one bit of that is true. Here’s why: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Let’s assume you live a long, full life of 90 years. Here's how your life maps to that 24-hour day. * Age 10 = 2:40 AM * Age 20 = 5:20 AM * Age 30 = 8:00 AM * Age 40 = 10:40 AM * Age 50 = 1:20 PM * Age 60 = 4:00 PM * Age 70 = 6:40 PM * Age 80 = 9:20 PM Find your age on that list. Sit with your time for a moment. Let’s say you’re 55? You might occasionally catch yourself with this quiet feeling that you're “behind.” That the window is closing. That it might be too late. But it’s only 2:40pm! You’re _just_ entering the loveliest part of the afternoon. The day is warm and wide open. You still have so much time to learn the new skill, start the business, write the book, repair the relationship, find new love. You have so much time to become the person you’re meant to be. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** I've come to believe that different times of day are good for different things. The early morning (age 0–20) is still nighttime. You're just a kid. The moon and stars are still out, and you’re filled with dreams. The morning (20s–40s) is when you start building. You’re good at experimenting because the stakes are small. The more energy you pour in here, the easier the rest of your day becomes. The afternoon (40s–60s) is for mastering. This is when everything you built in the morning starts to compound. Experience, relationships, perspective. Try not to rush this part. Enjoy it. The evening (60s–90s) is for savoring. Slower, richer, more intentional. After the sun sets, it might get a little quieter, and that's okay. There's a wonderful kind of peace in the evening that the morning doesn't have. You spend it with the people you love, doing the things you love. But right now? Most of you reading this are so early—somewhere between breakfast and dinner. So ask yourself honestly: are you making the most of this time of day? Or are you still thinking about what you wish you’d done in the hours that already passed? The morning person who spends their whole afternoon wishing they were back in bed misses the best part of the day. Don't be that person. After all, you’re just getting started. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade P.S. Did you enjoy this? Forward it to someone who will appreciate it. ❤️ You can catch up on all [The Quiet Rich newsletters](https://www.thequietrich.co/) here. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-the-time-of-your-life

# **CONTEXT** "Your brain is like a Ferrari. You wouldn't put cheap fuel in a Ferrari, would you? So why would you put cheap food in your brain?" I’ve always loved that metaphor from Dr. Daniel Amen. Your "diet" isn't just what you eat. It's what you watch, the books you read, the podcasts you listen to, the accounts you follow, the people you spend time with. Your brain is snacking on all of it. The scary part? Unlike physical junk food (which makes you feel sluggish immediately), mental junk food is sneaky. You don't notice the damage for months… until one day you realize you feel anxious, unmotivated, and stuck. You can't quite figure out why. Here are the 3 changes I've made to "clean up" my mental diet and feed my mind tastier things: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Do a quarterly "social media audit."** Open Instagram, TikTok, X, or whatever platform you use most. Scroll through every account you're following and ask one question: _"Do I feel better or worse after I see their posts?"_ If the answer is "worse"—unfollow. No guilt. No second-guessing. This isn't personal. Pay close attention to the accounts that make you feel like your body, your partner, or your income isn't good enough. Those are mental calories with zero nutritional value. Then, intentionally follow five new accounts that align with the goals you actually want to hit this year. Want to get stronger? Follow strength coaches. Want to start a business? Follow founders one or two steps ahead of you. (Btw, [I post my greatest methods on Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/jadebonacolta/) for a quietly rich life.) Your feed should feel like a mentor, not a mirror that distorts your self-worth. —— **2. Listen to one "surprising" book or podcast every month.** Many of us only consume content that confirms what we already think. It's comfortable. But it's also a recipe for becoming intellectually lazy. Every month, pick one book or podcast that you wouldn't normally choose. Maybe it's a topic you know little about (history, philosophy, neuroscience, personal finance). Maybe it's an opposing viewpoint. Maybe it's a completely new genre. You don't have to agree with everything you read. It might not change your mind, but it will certainly strengthen your beliefs. Critical thinking is a muscle. The only way to build it is to expose it to friction. If you’re looking for a great read, my friend Bruce Feiler just launched his new book, [_A Time To Gathe_](https://www.amazon.com/Time-Gather-Ritual-Created-World/dp/0593656431/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0)[r](https://www.amazon.com/Time-Gather-Ritual-Created-World/dp/0593656431/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0). I think you’ll love it. He traveled to 16 countries across 6 continents to study the importance of rituals, gatherings, and celebrating more moments with the people you love. —— **3. Audit the 5 people you spend the most time with.** Jim Rohn famously said you're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. The older I get, the more obvious this becomes. Look at your inner circle. Are they growth-oriented? Do they celebrate your wins (without secretly resenting them)? Do they push you toward your goals—or pull you back toward your old habits? You might not have to cut anyone out. But you should be intentional about _adding_ the right people in. Get into rooms where your dream is already someone else's reality. Join the mastermind. Attend the retreat. Reach out to that person you admire on LinkedIn. This is entirely why Ben Meer and I started [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/) as a private members club. The right rooms shift your career trajectory forever. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** I've been sitting with this thought lately: We spend so much time obsessing over the outputs in life… the promotion, the body, the dream relationship. But how much time do we spend _curating_ the inputs that get us there? We want to start the dream business, but we don’t audit what we read. We want to switch careers, but we don't audit who we’re spending time with. We want a focused, joyful mind, but we don't audit what we let into it. Henry Ford once said, "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got." You can't out-hustle a bad mental diet or an inner circle that believes your dreams are unrealistic. Your mind is the most expensive real estate you own. Be ruthless about who (and what) gets to live there rent-free. Much love, Jade ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-mind-fuel

Welcome to The Quiet Rich, your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today you’re getting the two questions that advanced my career the most. # **CONTEXT** I worked at LinkedIn for less than 7 years, and was promoted 5 times. That’s 3x faster than my peers were promoted. (Business Insider published an entire [feature on me ](https://www.businessinsider.com/linkedin-big-tech-employee-promotion-strategy-more-responsibilities-2025-6)related to this stat.) So I’m here to share all my secrets. Everyone’s heard the saying: "Dress for the job you want, not the job you have." But to me, that’s about far more than your clothes. It's about taking on the mindset, responsibilities, and executive presence of someone at the next seniority level (before you officially have that title). Most people—logically—wait for a promotion to start operating at a more senior level. But that’s why they stay stuck. Here's the harsh reality: Your manager can't promote you based on potential. They need proof that you can already handle the responsibilities. That's how I figured out this simple two-question framework. It completely changed how I approached getting promoted. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Step 1: Ask the right questions** Set up a 1:1 with your manager for a "career conversation" and ask these two questions: 1. "What are the expectations of my current role?" 2. "How would those expectations change if I was one level more senior?" Get clear on _exactly_ what separates your current position from the one you want. Many big companies have manager guides (for performance reviews) with the expectations at each seniority level. For example: * An Associate identifies problems. A Senior Associate identifies them AND proposes solutions. * An Associate builds presentations. A Senior Associate builds AND delivers them to stakeholders. * An Associate is an individual contributor. A Senior Associate ALSO mentors others. If your company doesn’t have a document like this? No problem. * **Request specific examples** from your manager of what success looks like in the role you're targeting. The more detailed they are, the better. * **Review formal job descriptions** for both positions to identify key differences in responsibilities, required skills, and expected impact. * **Speak with coworkers who recently made the same jump** you're hoping to make and ask what specifically changed in their day-to-day work. The goal is to move beyond vague aspirations ("I want to act more senior") to concrete understanding ("Senior Associates are expected to mentor junior team members, contribute to strategic planning, and solve complex problems with minimal oversight"). ––– **Step 2: Close the gap strategically** Once you understand the difference, start doing the work of the next level—even without the title. * **Look for stretch assignments** that align with more senior expectations, even if they're not formally part of your current job description. Volunteer to present to stakeholders. Offer to mentor newer team members. * Remember that _this isn't about doing more of the same work_—it's about doing _different_ work that demonstrates your readiness for greater responsibility. * **Build executive presence **by studying those more senior to you. * Before you walk into a meeting, hone your body language. Phone away, stand tall, shoulders back, firm handshake, smile when you walk in, and you'll own the room. Prep a few strong questions to ask your stakeholders. It’s about arriving prepared and actively listening. * **Lead without authority, **even as an individual contributor * Volunteer to run Employee Resource Groups. Facilitate team meetings or offer to take notes and distribute action items. Become the go-to person for specific knowledge areas or skills. These allow decision-makers to literally see you in a leadership capacity. ––– **Step 3: Make your impact visible** Never assume your manager has noticed everything you're doing. Give them visibility into your wins during weekly 1:1s. Btw, that list of wins will literally become the business case for your promotion. Seriously, keep a running document of: * Projects where you exceeded expectations * Ways you took initiative beyond your current role * Positive feedback from colleagues or clients Try to quantify your impact with metrics that matter to your manager. ——————————————————————————— # **COMMON PITFALLS TO AVOID** 1. **Burning out: **Before you start taking on extra work, make sure you REALLY want that promotion. The fastest path to burnout is working extra hard on something you don't actually care about. In other words, don't keep climbing the ladder simply because there are rungs in front of you. Look up and make sure that's where you want to go. 2. **Neglecting the actual responsibilities of your role: **Make sure you’ve mastered your core role before taking on stretch projects. If you let any balls drop when reaching for something bigger, you might ironically end up with a poor performance review (rather than a promotion). 3. **Not checking back in:** Schedule a career development meeting with your manager at least once a quarter (every 3 months) to check in on your performance and your path to promotion. Ask for their feedback regularly to keep your expectations aligned. The people who get promoted aren't necessarily the smartest or hardest working—they're the ones who make it easiest for their managers to see them at the next level. Start acting like you already have the job you want. Your promotion will follow. Enjoyed this? Forward it to someone who deserves a promotion. ❤️ You can also read the [other newsletters from The Quiet Rich here](https://www.thequietrich.co/). ——————————————————————————— Until next week, Jade P.S. **Congratulations to everyone who joined the May Archimedes Cohort! **🎉 Happy Day One! You just received your full membership access from me via email. And I can’t wait to meet you all in our Welcome Call tomorrow with Ben and Colby. Cheers to writing this next chapter of your story. I can already tell it’s going to be a very good one, because you’re the author. **Missed your chance to join?** If you already applied and got accepted, I’m happy to hold your spot for the next cohort, starting late July. Just keep an eye out for an email from me when we launch it. If you haven’t applied yet, visit [JoinArchimedes.com](https://joinarchimedes.com/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-promotions

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get the 7 most interesting questions to ask your loved ones the next time you see them. (Happy Mother’s Day to everyone who celebrated this weekend.) “**But first—warm thanks to today’s sponsor, **[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** It’s been one year since I walked away from my career at Google to bet on myself. I became a full-time creator and author, and I often get asked which AI tools are worth the hype. I’m very impressed by Artlist’s new AI Agent. It’s so easy to craft high-quality, cinematic images and videos for social media just by typing what you want in plain English. It's the closest thing I've found to having a creative director in my pocket. If you can imagine it, you can create it. I can’t wait to see the magic you’ll make. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/896868e7-7014-42d6-b77c-10d99a20ab17/Artlist.png?t=1777317831) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** I started a secret habit that I wish I'd done years ago. Every time I visit my grandmother, I hit record on my phone. Not the whole visit—just the moments when she starts telling a story. I love the way she describes meeting my grandfather. Or the polka dot dress she once wore in Sanremo that had Italian men chasing her in her twenties. Or the way she laughs at her own jokes before the punchline. I do the same with my mom now. Sometimes she catches me and rolls her eyes. But days later, after I’ve flown back to Miami and I’m missing them both, I watch those little moments suspended in time. So many moments pass by without us realizing how important they were to pay attention to. I want to cherish all of their stories, and how their laugh sounds, and the way they pronounce certain words. Because one day (many, many, many years in the future), those recordings will be the closest thing I have to one more conversation. When I started doing this, I also realized something. It’s easy for conversations with our parents or grandparents to stay on the surface. "How was your day?" "Did you eat?" "Drive safe." We default to logistics. We assume there's always the next visit. So I started asking better questions. To me, every conversation is a chance to glimpse the past versions of my mom and grandmother I never got to meet. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Here are 7 questions to ask your loved ones the next time you see them. Record it if you can. You’ll be so glad you did. **1. What were you like at my age?** Not the highlight reel. The real version—your dreams, your fears, the version of you I never got to meet. **2. Is there a different version of your life you almost lived?** A different city, a different person, a different path? What pulled you here? **3. What's a memory of me as a child that you've never told me about?** Watch her face light up. She's about to tell you a story she hasn't thought about in years. **4. What's the best advice **_**your**_** mom gave you?** There's a piece of wisdom she's been waiting to pass on. It’s the most valuable kind of heirloom. You just need to ask. **5. When did you first feel like an adult?** Did you feel ready when you had kids? (The answer might surprise you.) **6. What's the toughest thing you've been through that I don't know about?** With this one, you'll see a different side of her. The resilient, brave, strong side that existed long before you did. **7. If you could go back 30 years and tell yourself one thing, what would it be?** Write the answer to this one down. Re-read it every few years. Its meaning will continue to evolve with you. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** You don't need a fancy setup—just the camera on your phone. Prop it up in the corner of the room. And start to notice all their specific words, their hand gestures, the things only they would say. Last week, I wrote about [memory dividends](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-priceless-memories). They’re the extra joy we experience every time we think of a fond memory. And the experiences we cherish most aren't always the big vacations or milestone celebrations. Sometimes they're a Sunday afternoon conversation with a loved one, when she told you something you didn't know about her. One day, you'd give anything for one more conversation. Don't wait. Call your mom. Call your grandmother. Tell her you love her. Life is too short to let any words go unsaid. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade P.S. My mom and grandmother have been my biggest supporters during some pretty dramatic life changes over the past 3 years. I left my full-time career at Google to start a coaching business, and then landed the book deal of my dreams. It’s entirely thanks to growing my personal brand. And I want to teach you exactly how I did it. I can’t believe how quickly our last few spots in **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)** are selling out. 🥹 My coaching program starts NEXT WEEK on May 18th, and it’s going to be our best one yet. If you applied and got in, congratulations! There are only 4 days left to claim your spot. The checkout link is in your acceptance email. Haven’t applied yet? There’s still time to fill out the 3 minute form at [JoinArchimedes.com](https://JoinArchimedes.com) I can’t wait to personally help grow your brand (and your dream business). It’s closer than you think, my friend. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-time-with-your-elders

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we're talking about being "rich" in priceless memories (and no regrets). “**Before we dive in, a warm thanks to**** **[**HubSpot**](https://clickhubspot.com/7c79e3)** ****for making today’s newsletter possible.** I sat down with HubSpot last month and shared my 5 best tips to become a people magnet. I truly believe executive presence is quiet—not loud. And these five tips are guaranteed to draw people in. [Read the full article here](https://clickhubspot.com/7c79e3) (and download a handy one-page cheat sheet to share with your team). It’s completely free.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/ce2cbcac-0224-46be-aecb-bae6d5253dc6/Screenshot_2026-04-28_at_9.17.53_AM.png?t=1777382278) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** I keep thinking about this quote: "Your life is the sum of your experiences. When you look back on your life, the richness of those experiences will determine how full a life you've led." —Bill Perkins Harsh truth: your window for certain travel experiences is quietly closing. * **Want to take your aging parents on a vacation?** At some point, they won’t be comfortable sitting on a long flight or walking long distances. * **Dream of backpacking through Europe?** If you keep waiting, you may have too many responsibilities to take that much time off. * **That motorcycle tour across Morocco? **After you have kids, your risk tolerance might change forever. ([I’m so glad I did this in my 20s](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_how-to-build-mental-toughness-the-misogi-activity-7127277187354759169-3lqR). 🏍️) We don't think about it this way, but every dream experience has an expiration date. To me, travel isn't just about seeing new places. It's about collecting memories that you’ll tell stories about _for years. _Bill Perkins calls this ["memory dividends." ](https://peterattiamd.com/billperkins/) When you experience something wonderful (like a vacation), you get joy from it in the moment. But the joy doesn't stop there. You come home and people ask how it was. You show them photos. You smile telling stories. You fondly remember it years later when someone mentions that place. The time you spent in Japan at 25? Of course it was fun in the moment. But it also gave you stories to tell at dinner parties and memories to cherish for decades. The trip is the memory. All those extra moments of joy are "memory dividends," or the extra payout you get every time you recall the memory. **Important note:** These experiences don't have to be grand or expensive. Some of your most priceless memories may come from recording a conversation with your grandparents as they tell stories about their life. Or hosting a small fundraiser for a cause you care about. Or surprising your partner with a date night you've always wanted to try. This exercise is about maximizing _your_ happiness and fulfillment in the long-run. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Here’s my 3-step exercise to become rich in memories. It’s _probably_ the best thing you could do with the next 10 minutes of your day. Just saying. **Step 1: Create your “Rich List”** Grab a pen and paper (or [download my free workbook called “The Rich List”](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing) and do this on your computer so you never lose it). Write down at least 20 experiences you want to have in the next 10 years (e.g., places you want to travel to, skills you want to learn, ways you want to give back to your loved ones and community, personal growth goals, etc). Think of the things you’d _really_ regret not doing at least once. Be bold. Curious what mine are? I included my personal list in that [PDF](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing): 52 things I most want to experience across my Career, Health, Relationships, Lifestyle, and Social Good.) — **Step 2: Write down the “Expiration Date”** Next to each of the travel things on that list, write down the age when you’ll probably not be able to do it. For example, I really want to ski Zermatt in the Swiss Alps. (This is one of many examples from _**[my personal travel list. (Free PDF here)](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pWvuYgSWR75lOzu5mgBUR8pH062Qk6FT/view?usp=sharing)**_ But I’m guessing by the time I’m 60, I’ll no longer want to take the physical risk of skiing double blacks. Be honest about the physical, mental, and life-stage requirements for each experience. — **Step 3. Commit to a Month + Year** Here’s the important part. Decide _exactly when_ you will prioritize those. Literally, write down the month and year you plan to do it. (Getting my skis ready for February 2027. ⛷️) My challenge to you: **Book one of those experiences between July - September this year.** Most people put off the planning, assuming that they can “always do it next year.” But there will come a year when you can’t… And if you do it earlier, it will serve you for years to come. David Brooks referred to this as building “[identity capital](https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/02/opinion/david-brooks-life-hacks.html).” He wrote, “In your 20s, do three fascinating things that dinner companions will want to ask you about for the rest of your life.” **One small ask before you go:** I'll be traveling through Italy this summer, and I'd love your help. 🇮🇹 **What's one "hidden gem" place in Italy that you absolutely adore? **It could be a hotel, restaurant, coffee shop, specific food to eat, museum, etc. Hit reply to this email! 🙏 Something like: _"Palermo! Go to dinner at Villa Igiea."_ I can’t wait to hear about your favorite Italian hidden gems. ❤️ ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Your “Rich List” isn’t _just_ about the experiences themselves. **It’s about the people you share them with.** Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge fan of solo travel. But when you share an experience with a loved one, you both earn “memory dividends” every time you reflect on it together. Most people approach summer travel backwards. They wait for the "perfect time" when they have more money, more vacation days, or less work to do. But if we’re honest? That perfect time rarely comes. I’ll leave you with this final thought: “Yes, you need money to survive in retirement, but the _main_ thing you’ll be retiring on will be your memories—so make sure you invest enough in those.” –Bill Perkins. Enjoyed this? Forward it to someone in your life who you want to have priceless moments with this summer. ❤️ And read the [other newsletters from The Quiet Rich here](https://www.thequietrich.co/). ——————————————————————————— Until next week, Jade **P.S.** Curious how to make more time for travel? Honestly, it helps to work for yourself… My life changed dramatically over the past 3 years. I started a coaching business, landed a book deal, and left my full-time career at Google. And it’s entirely thanks to growing my personal brand on LinkedIn. If you want to grow your brand but don’t know where to start, I have fun news. **Ben Meer and I are hosting a free webinar TOMORROW** on how to define your niche on LinkedIn and start attracting dream clients and opportunities directly to your inbox. **900+ people already got their spot. ****[Register here for free.](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)** I can’t wait to see you there. Pssst. We’re giving away 3 free gifts that I desperately wish I had when I started posting online. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/26e6c6a8-7379-4d42-889a-c5ece7505d73/Screenshot_2026-04-22_at_10.56.52_AM.png?t=1777920053) Follow image link: (https://luma.com/qq6bphwo) Caption: ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. 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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get 6 ways to make the most of your time (and minimize regret when you’re 90). “**But first— warm thanks to today’s sponsor, **[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** I’ve always been fascinated by the world of cinema—and the magic that directors can create on screen. That magic is about to be in your hands. Artlist just released the first true AI production studio, and I am absolutely blown away. It’s so easy to create high-quality, cinematic videos and extremely realistic characters. You can even choose cameras, lenses, lighting, angles, and camera movement. If you can imagine it, you can create it. I can’t wait to see the magic you’ll make. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/896868e7-7014-42d6-b77c-10d99a20ab17/Artlist.png?t=1777317831) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** Who do we spend the most time with in life? The answers might surprise you. A while back, I came across some [fascinating data](https://www.bls.gov/tus/database.htm) from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. They measured how much time Americans spend with other people over the course of 90 years. There are six groups of people we spend the most time with. (But the proportions shift _dramatically_ as we age.) Here are 6 ways to minimize regret and make the most of your 90 years: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. TIME WITH YOUR PARENTS:** This decreases sharply after age 20. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/59e5b733-769c-4236-b92d-c8d844b286ab/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Try to live close to the people you love. If you can’t, then try to cherish your moments together. * When apart, call them and say all the things that you’ll wish you told them more. Btw, this essay by Tim Urban is [the most important article I’ve ever read](https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.html). TL;DR: If you only see your parents once a year (and they’re in their 60s)... you might only see them 20 more times. Ever. ——————————————————————————— **2. TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS.** Relatively, you get the least time with friends. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/9bc486bc-e4f7-4cf2-b551-f7bff068fdf1/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Choose your friends wisely. You can only keep a few. * Make sure they bring out the best version of you. ——————————————————————————— **3. TIME WITH YOUR COWORKERS. **Between the ages of 20-56, your time with coworkers spikes tremendously.  View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/4fc9996f-6c5c-4eb5-b70c-b5075faaa80a/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Don’t settle for a job you dislike. Try to “build a life that you don’t need a vacation from.” (Here are my [5 most practical tips to build a career you love](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_gammapartner-madewithgamma-worklifebalance-activity-7332735710157824001-uFjn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ)) * Set healthy boundaries with your time. ——————————————————————————— **4. TIME WITH YOUR PARTNER.** This continually trends upward, peaking after age 58. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/60f1f74a-4fa7-490f-8813-c09de5b50517/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * “Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr. * Find the person who keeps bettering themselves and growing with you. * I wrote a LinkedIn post called [3 actionable tests to choose your life partner](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_how-to-pick-your-life-partner-according-activity-7166788106321383425-_sDa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ) (and it went viral). The Traffic Test is my favorite. ——————————————————————————— **5. TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.** This peaks while your kids are young, and then sharply declines. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/49090427-9bb4-4477-895a-ec2317012695/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Try to be present for those first 18 years. (You may regret it later if you’re not.) * Whenever you feel frustrated with your kids, imagine a future when they’re grown and you don’t get to see them often. I call this the “Back-In-Time Method” and many of you said [this post was the most useful thing I’ve ever written](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7132714044892827649/). (It’s a 3-step method that I do at least once a week.) ——————————————————————————— **6. TIME ALONE.** After 40, people spend an increasing amount of time alone. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/cdd22bd3-0a30-468b-b81d-914b029aaa44/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * No surprise—you’ll spend the most time during your life solo. * Invest in self awareness and growth until you love your own company. Mindfulness helps with this btw. I wrote this [LinkedIn post about 6 surprising forms of meditation](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_6-surprising-forms-of-meditation-activity-7052250788156305408-JkkR/) (that don’t involve sitting cross-legged on the floor in silence.) ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Remember—these are just the _average_ trends. There’s nothing more powerful than realizing… you can change this graph at any moment. My hot take? 20% of the people in your life bring you 80% of your happiness. Ask yourself two things: 1). Who are they? 2). Can you spend more time with them this year? When you look back at age 90, you’ll be so glad you did. ——————————————————————————— Much love, Jade P.S. I still can’t believe how quickly our **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)** are selling out. 🥹 Our next cohort starts May 18th, and it’s going to be our best one yet. If you’re curious about growing your brand on LinkedIn, I have good news. **Ben Meer and I are hosting a ****[free masterclass on May 5th](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)****.** The two of us will teach you exactly how to define your brand on social media (so you can make money from it). It will be recorded if you can’t join live. But **[make sure you register here](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**. Pssst. We’ll also send you 3 bonuses that some people would call us crazy to give away for free. See you then! View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/6e98e413-b1ff-485d-b6e1-4ca1e6793378/Build_a_Million_Dollar_LinkedIn_Profile__1_.png?t=1777309733) Caption: ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-quality-time-4016

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, I’m giving you the best secret to increase your luck surface area. “**Today’s email is brought to you by…me. **🥰 It’s wild for me to say this. But in 3 years, I’ve grown from 1,000 to 1 million followers across LinkedIn, Instagram, and my newsletter. It has completely changed my career. _Everyone_ should be growing their personal brand right now. I teamed up with Ben Meer and Colby Kultgen, and we’ve taught our proven system to 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. Our coaching program is called [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/), and our next cohort starts on May 18th. **Ben and I are hosting a**** **[**free masterclass on May 5th.**](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo) We’ll teach you exactly how to define your brand to attract clients and make money on social media. **[Register here for free.](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/7ecd46ff-a2a2-4d6b-9724-a7f3c7050bde/Archimedes_Home_Banner__1_.png?t=1751300847) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** I can’t stop thinking about this quote: “In 1,000 parallel universes, you want to be wealthy in 999 of them. You don’t want to be wealthy in the 50 of them where you got lucky.” — Naval Ravikant When most people think about luck, we’re picturing “blind luck.” Pure chance. Where we were born. Who our parents are. Winning the genetic lottery. That kind of luck is 100% out of your control. But! There are 3 other types of luck that you _can_ control. This was described in great book called [Chase, Chance, and Creativity](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/654401/chase-chance-and-creativity-by-james-h-austin/) by Dr. James Austin. His theory of the “4 kinds of luck” went viral in Silicon Valley thanks to blog posts by [Mark Andreessen](https://pmarchive.com/luck_and_the_entrepreneur.html) and [Naval Ravikant](https://www.navalmanack.com/almanack-of-naval-ravikant/how-to-get-lucky). Here are 3 specific ways to increase your [“luck surface area.”](https://www.codusoperandi.com/posts/increasing-your-luck-surface-area) ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Type 1: Luck from Hustle** This luck comes from persistence, hard work, and a bias towards action. For example: A salesperson sends 100 cold messages. 80 get ignored. 15 say no. 5 say yes. One becomes her biggest client of the year. Was she "lucky"? Sure. But she also created the conditions for luck to happen. _How to train it:_ * Say yes to more things (especially the ones that scare you a little) * Set outreach quotas. 10 DMs a day. 1 coffee chat a week * Brainstorm 20 ideas before committing to one * Stop waiting for "the perfect time." Spoiler: it doesn't exist. **—** **Type 2: Luck from Preparation** If you’re super experienced in a field, you’ll spot a lucky break. Other people won’t even see the opportunity. For example: A venture capitalist invests early in a scrappy startup that everyone else passes on. Five years later, it's a unicorn. The other investors kick themselves. But they didn't get "unlucky"—they just couldn't see what she saw. _How to train it:_ * Pick a niche you genuinely love enough to go deep on * Get 1% better at it every single day (this compounds insanely) * Read everything. Talk to everyone. Become the person who notices patterns others miss. **—** **Type 3: Luck from Uniqueness** This is the rarest (and most powerful) form. Because once you have a strong brand, opportunities start hunting _you_ down. For example: A podcast host becomes so respected in her space that dream guests start DM'ing _her_ asking to come on the show. Instead of chasing them, she built something they wanted to be part of. _How to train it:_ * Show up consistently on a platform where your audience hangs out (LinkedIn is my personal favorite 😉) * Create content that's unmistakably _you_—your voice, your lens, your stories * Get coaching from someone who's done it before. (Shortcuts exist, take them.) ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Hustle until opportunities show up at your door. Deepen your expertise until you spot what others can't. Build a brand so magnetic that luck starts chasing you. The best part? These three compound. Hustle leads to preparation. Preparation leads to uniqueness. Uniqueness leads to opportunities that hustle alone could never unlock. Much love, Jade P.S. Want to master luck from Uniqueness? I have good news. **Ben Meer and I are hosting a **[**free masterclass on May 5th**](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**.** The two of us will teach you exactly how to define your brand on social media (so you can make money from it). It will be recorded if you can’t join live. But make sure you **[register here.](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**** **Pssst. We’ll also send you 3 bonuses that some people would call us crazy to give away for free. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/d5ea58a4-e55c-45a5-8e97-e344a5d517c8/Build_a_Million_Dollar_LinkedIn_Profile__1_.png?t=1776693004) Follow image link: (https://luma.com/qq6bphwo) Caption: ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. 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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, I’m giving you the #1 method to shrink your worries (especially when facing a big decision). “**Today’s email is brought to you by…me. **🥰 Specifically, my private coaching program: _**[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**_. It’s the most exclusive members club for people looking to build their LinkedIn brand. I teamed up with [Ben Meer](https://www.linkedin.com/in/benmeer/) and [Colby Kultgen](https://www.linkedin.com/in/colby-kultgen/)—and we’ve taught our proven system to 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. Our next cohort starts on May 18th. (**Only 6 days left** to get a spot at our lowest price!) _**[Read the reviews and apply here](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**_. It takes 3 minutes. Congrats to everyone who has already joined. I’m blown away by this group of CEOs, executives, keynote speakers, founders, coaches. I can’t _wait_ to meet you.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/7ecd46ff-a2a2-4d6b-9724-a7f3c7050bde/Archimedes_Home_Banner__1_.png?t=1751300847) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** One year ago today, I made the decision to leave my career at Google. We’ve all heard the saying, “Fortune favors the bold.” But when it comes to actually putting in the two week’s notice? I didn’t feel bold or courageous. _What if I can't get health insurance? What if I walk away from this salary and regret it forever? What if my business doesn’t work out? _ Here’s the thing I wish someone told me sooner. Fear is a mile wide, but an inch deep. I love the way Leila Hormozi explains it [in this video](https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cy4vLKzLFvL/?hl=en). When we look at something from afar, it’s a daunting ocean. But if we just take that first, tiniest step in? We’ll realize it’s a puddle. We might even laugh, saying “_This_ is what I was so afraid of?” That’s what we’re doing today. We’re putting our toe in the water to realize it’s only an inch deep, and we can easily walk across it. Maybe you: * Know you should leave your job, but you’re afraid of the uncertainty. ([That was me](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_i-have-big-news-after-35-years-at-google-activity-7331646863751733249-RRuZ). 👋) * Need to have a tough conversation, but you’re worried about how the other person will react. * Want to move somewhere new, but you’re worried about starting over. * Think you should end a relationship, but you’re afraid you’ll never meet someone better. Here's the exact exercise I did at my kitchen table before I gave my notice. Put on your rain boots, and step in. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Step 1: Get a pen and paper,** or open a blank note on your laptop. Give yourself 20 minutes of uninterrupted time. **Step 2: Write down the decision** you’re avoiding. Be brutally honest: Mine was: "I want to build my own business and try to land a book deal, but I’m scared of leaving the stability of my job. I'm terrified of making the wrong move." **Step 3: **Ok, take a breath. This is the part where you step in and find out exactly how deep the water is. **Write down the absolute worst case scenario**. Get specific. If everything goes catastrophically wrong, what would it look like? Is the decision irreversible? When I did this, I wrote: "My business could fail. I could burn through my savings. I’d have to get another corporate job." Reading it on paper, I almost laughed. That was it? _That was the monster under the bed?_ **Step 4:** Reality check. **On a scale of 1-10, how likely is that worst case scenario?** Probably not a 10… I rated mine a 2 or 3. And if it did happen, there’s a lot you could do to recover. You're much more resilient and resourceful than you think. **Step 5:** Flip the script. **What if things go **_**right**_**? **What’s the best possible outcome? "I build a coaching business I love. I write a book that helps potentially millions of people. I have location, time, and financial freedom." Rate that upside on a scale of 1-10. Mine was a 10. The upside outweighed the downside by a _landslide_. **Step 6:** Final question: What is it costing you to postpone this decision? If you make zero changes, where will you be in one year? Five years? I wrote: "Still at my desk. Still wondering 'what if.' Still watching other people build the life I want." That last part made me close my laptop and start drafting my resignation. Sometimes the biggest risk is not taking any risk at all. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** I'll be honest—I still procrastinated putting in my two weeks' notice for another 10 days after doing this exercise. Change is hard, even when you know it's right. But one year later? Ben Meer and I both signed major book deals with our dream publishing houses. Our coaching community, [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/), has grown beyond what I dared to imagine. And that "worst case scenario" I was so terrified of never came close to happening. As the saying goes, “The magic you are looking for is in the work you are avoiding.” Whatever decision you've been circling for weeks (or months, or years)—give it 20 minutes at the kitchen table tonight. Get it out of your head and onto a page. You might realize the water is only an inch deep. And what if it all works out…? ——————————————————————————— Much love, Jade **P.S.** In the past few years, my life changed dramatically—and it’s entirely thanks to growing my personal brand on LinkedIn. To everyone who already joined [Archimedes](http://JoinArchimedes.com), Ben and I will be sharing _quite a bit_ about our book deals over the next few months. If you’re not in our coaching community yet, the next cohort starts May 18th! **Only 6 days left to get our Bias For Action discount. **Read tons of member case studies and apply: [JoinArchimedes.com](https://JoinArchimedes.com) I can’t wait to personally help grow your brand (and your dream business) on LinkedIn. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-fearlessness-8fec

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly email for a quiet mind + a rich life. Today I’m sharing why most people give up too soon (_right before_ they’re about to have a big breakthrough) and 3 practical tips to avoid that. “**But first— warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Artlist**](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** [My LinkedIn post today](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7446891324768854016/) was all about the person you’re going to be in 5 years. And I’m getting a lot of questions about how I created the video for it. I could have spent weeks of time and thousands of dollars hiring a drone videographer and a sound editor. Instead, I spent _10 minutes_ thanks to Artlist. It has all the best video footage and AI models in one place. And they just released an AI music generator that is honestly incredible and made my soundtrack in 5 minutes. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/d026938a-30fa-4eb3-9b5a-e597015a2581/Artlist.png?t=1775483476) Caption: # **CONTEXT** Most of us expect immediate results. We post on social media and check for likes every few minutes. We launch a business and obsess over early metrics. We try a new skill and give up if we're not immediately good at it. My hot take: Most people give up too soon. The most successful ones know The Bamboo Rule. When bamboo is planted, it shows absolutely _no visible progress_ for five years. (FIVE YEARS!) Nothing breaks through the soil. No sprouts. No evidence of life. But beneath the surface, it's developing an elaborate root system. Then something miraculous happens in year five. The bamboo shoots up 80+ feet in just six weeks. The biggest breakthroughs often follow this exact pattern. Many of us start projects or businesses with enthusiasm. But when we don't see immediate results, we assume it’s not working and give up. Or worse—we dig up our seeds to "see if they're growing," which actually kills our potential. Everyone who’s called an “overnight success” put in years of work and invisible growth to get to that one night. Here's my 3-Step Bamboo Method for a true “growth mindset.” ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Step 1: Establish "Root Metrics"** Don't focus exclusively on visible outcomes. Instead, choose your "root metrics"—the foundational work that precedes big results. If you're growing your presence on LinkedIn, don't obsess over followers and impressions in your first few months. Instead, track: * Number of posts completed per week (consistency) * Quality connections made with other creators * Skills developed (writing, design, ideation) * Meaningful conversations in comments and messages These build your foundation—even when no one's watching. — **Step 2: Don't Dig Up Your Seeds** Give yourself 90 days minimum before quitting. Many people sabotage themselves with "seed-digging" behaviors: * Checking metrics constantly throughout the day * Deleting posts if they don’t get a lot of impressions immediately * Changing strategies before any of them has time to take root * Comparing your beginning to someone else's middle When you’re tempted to quit, remember: Your breakthrough is so much closer than you think. — **Step 3: Start a Bamboo Group** Find 3-5 other people who are working toward similar goals. Create a weekly check-in where: * Each person shares a small win (skill improvement, connection made) * Everyone commits to specific actions for the coming week * The group celebrates consistency more than visible results This will help keep you accountable when self-doubt inevitably creeps in. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** The most successful creators, entrepreneurs, and authors I've coached all share one trait: they know that extraordinary results require a little patience and consistency. Here's the harsh truth: If you give up too soon, you’ll never break through the soil. Remember this the next time you feel discouraged by a lack of visible progress. Your roots are growing stronger every day. Much love, Jade I’m lucky to have coached 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. The ones who succeeded? They committed to 12 weeks of posting consistently—and I taught them everything I know in order to get the best results. The next cohort of **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)** starts on May 18th. There are **only 2 weeks left to get our Bias For Action discount!** Many of you know I was in marketing at LinkedIn and Google for the past 10+ years. Growing a personal brand is _the most effective marketing tool_ I’ve ever found. It’s the best way to attract clients to your business, get paid speaking gigs, start coaching, land your dream job or promotion, sell a major book deal, etc. Learn more about building your LinkedIn brand at [JoinArchimedes.com](http://JoinArchimedes.com). The application form only takes 3 minutes to complete. Cheers to planting seeds. 🌱 ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-growth-mindset-222a

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about six surprising ways to quiet your mind when life gets loud. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Replit](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)****.** I’ve been asked this question by quite a few people recently: "What skills should I learn so AI can’t take my job?" So I wrote a post about [_7 skills that make you irreplaceable in 2027_](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_replitpartner-activity-7444356999565258753-vx6H). The most important skill? Adaptability.  The richest people in 10 years will be the ones who adapted most quickly to the changing world around us. They’re the ones who realized that apps no longer take months to build and an expensive team of developers. They can be built by one creative typing what they want into Replit—especially with their just-released model, Agent 4. Plan, design and build an app—all at the same time. Give Replit’s newest model a try [here.](https://replit.com/signup?referral=jadebonacolta)“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: # **CONTEXT** This email is for everyone who could use a little more calm in their lives right now—including me. 😅 Being “mindful” doesn’t have to mean sitting cross-legged on the floor alone in silence. The so-called “point” of meditation is to simply get rid of some clutter in your mind. To do that? Start by _noticing_ all the clutter in there. Here are 6 surprising ways to practice mindfulness: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Walking Meditation** It’s time to debunk a myth. You don’t need to be sitting still in order to practice mindfulness. Here’s how this one works: 1. Go for a walk (ideally in nature). 2. Be mindful of every step you take. Pay attention to your breath. 3. Each time your mind wanders, just notice it. Then gently bring it back to your steps. You’ll feel more calm after just a few minutes of this. **2. Eating Meditation** Yes, you read that correctly. An eating meditation = savoring each bite of your food and being mindful of its taste (rather than rushing through meals to get to the next thing on your list). How it works: 1. Enjoy a meal alone and put your phone away. 2. Eat slowly. Take small bites of your meal and chew 10+ times. 3. Close your eyes. Notice the texture, temperature, flavor. When your mind wanders, simply bring it back. **3. Loving-Kindness Meditation** This one is so powerful. It involves sending positive vibes to yourself and others. How it works: 1. Carve out 10 mins in a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted. 2. Close your eyes and invite more love, health, happiness into your life. 3. Then picture a loved one vividly. Imagine sending _them_ that same love, health, and happiness. **4. Body Scan Meditation ** It’s so useful (yet surprisingly rare) for us to spend 10 minutes thinking about our body without any judgment. How it works: 1. Sit or lay down in a comfortable position. Close your eyes. 2. Slowly “check in” with each part of your body. Notice any sensations or feelings, then move on. 3. Start with your toes and slowly continue up until you reach the top of your head. **5. Sound Meditation ** Play soothing sounds, and pay attention to the sensations created in your body. How it works: 1. Find a comfortable and quiet place. (Noise-canceling headphones come in handy for this.) 2. Play a sound meditation. (I’m a fan of nature playlists on YouTube. [The one I’m using now is called Autumn Forest](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9r3lGU5VP0).) 🍁 3. If your mind starts to wander, simply bring it back to the sounds. **6. Visualization Meditation ** Imagine yourself on this specific day, 10 years from now. What is your dream life, if you had _zero_ chance of failure? How it works: 1. Grab a pen and paper (or download this [beautiful, free PDF](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing) I made for you). 2. Imagine that it’s March 30, 2036 (exactly 10 years ahead). 3. Describe everything you do, from the moment you wake up. Where are you? Who are you living with? What is your health like? What is your job? How often do you travel? What’s your mindset like? This exercise is so powerful that [I wrote an entire post on it](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_how-to-accelerate-your-dream-career-activity-7287454619654344705-awuQ?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ). Many people told me it was the best thing I’ve shared. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Mindfulness isn’t about _not having_ thoughts. It’s about noticing your thoughts. [Tim Ferriss](https://tim.blog/2015/11/29/magic-of-mindfulness/) often talks about the magic of mindfulness. He once described our daily thoughts as a thunderstorm. Rather than standing in it, meditation is like walking inside your house and getting to observe the storm through the window. Try out these 6 methods. Find the one that gives you the best shelter from the storm. ——————————————————————————— Until next week, Jade P.S. My next coaching cohort of [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/) _just_ opened up. It starts on May 18th and we have a ton of surprises in store for this group. If you’ve been thinking about growing your personal brand, now is the time. We’ve already had quite a few members claim their spots: CEOs, founders, bestselling authors, keynote speakers, and more. Apply this week at [JoinArchimedes.com](http://JoinArchimedes.com) to take advantage of the Bias For Action Discount. Ben Meer, Colby Kultgen, and I truly can’t wait to meet you and help build your brand on LinkedIn. The three of us will teach you everything we know. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-mindfulness-88fb

# **CONTEXT** The [World Happiness Report](https://www.worldhappiness.report/) was just released for 2026. And once again, Nordic countries dominate the top 6 spots as the most joyful populations in the world. Sweden holds the 5th position, thanks to a strong focus on public services, social trust and equality, high life expectancy, and low corruption levels. The country also offers a notable balance between urban living and access to nature. I think it’s also thanks to “_[Njuta](https://www.amazon.com/Njuta-Delight-Swedish-Savoring-Moment/dp/0063284081/ref=asc_df_0063284081/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=663407399279&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3917272443779948089&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011966&hvtargid=pla-2191707541181&psc=1&mcid=13f9b354a56e3a8aad8f77d5774c0d62)_” (pronounced nyoo-tah). In Swedish, njuta loosely translates to “savoring” or “delighting in.” It’s all about deeply enjoying the little things in life—and finding ways to **elevate ordinary moments**. Here are 5 ways to bring more “njuta” into your day: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Slow mornings** Rather than gulping your coffee while doing five other things… * Carve out 10 minutes of your morning to be completely alone.  * Make your coffee / tea exactly how you like it. Carry it to your favorite corner of your house.  * Sit in the sun and sip it slowly. Read an article or a few pages of a book. “Njuta is to savor a suspended moment in time without pressure or demand.” —Niki Brantmark **2. Ambiance** Swedish homes tend to balance being minimalist and yet warm and inviting. * Install dimmers for all your lights. * Get a candle or two going. * Keep a soft blanket near your couch. A little ambiance can elevate any occasion. (Btw, I wrote this post about [quiet luxury: a minimalist approach to your wardrobe, home design, and lifestyle](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_quiet-luxury-a-minimalist-approach-to-your-activity-7129101717803036672-QkrW).) “One can furnish a room very luxuriously by taking out furniture rather than putting it in.” — Francis Jourdain **3. Cooking** Swedes tend to take their time—with both cooking and eating.  * They eat slowly. * Many know how to make their own bread.  * They only buy produce that’s in season. (I found this [free, seasonal food guide](https://www.seasonalfoodguide.org/).) “A Swede will tell you—if you allow yourself to long for something, it will taste all the sweeter when it lands on your plate.” — Niki Brantmark **4. Background music** Studies show that listening to music helps to reduces stress and improve your mood. * Start to “score” your day (like a movie). * In my home, there is _always_ soft music playing. Here are the [5 Spotify playlists that I use for deep work and focus](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_life-hack-listen-to-brain-playlists-activity-7159530979663953920-AwZv). It immediately elevates every activity I do. Even the laundry can feel cinematic. **5. Walking in nature** “Despite 88% of Swedes living in towns and cities, they work hard to maintain a strong connection with nature.” — Niki Brantmark * Njuta is often a solo feeling (and easiest to experience when you’re outside). * Just you, walking in a forest or along the shore, noticing subtle sounds. Njuta comes from being quiet. No phone notifications. No talking. No noisy thoughts. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** It doesn’t take life-changing milestones to feel joy. The happiest people know how to elevate all of the little (seemingly insignificant) moments between those big milestones. This week, pick one thing from the Swedes' playbook. Maybe it's a slow morning with a hot drink, or going for a walk in nature. Just take a moment to notice the extraordinary within the ordinary. As Jimmy Johnson said, “The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” There's a quiet wisdom in this—a reminder that the small things have the greatest power to transform our days. ——————————————————————————— Btw, here’s the link to a full book about [Njuta](https://www.amazon.com/Njuta-Delight-Swedish-Savoring-Moment/dp/0063284081/ref=asc_df_0063284081/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=663407399279&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3917272443779948089&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011966&hvtargid=pla-2191707541181&psc=1&mcid=13f9b354a56e3a8aad8f77d5774c0d62). It makes a great gift. Until next week, Jade P.S. Sending a warm welcome to everyone who joined The Quiet Rich community since last week! _[Learn more about The Quiet Rich here](https://www.thequietrich.co/)_. ☕️ ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-savoring-the-moment-d6a3

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about five books that have stood the test of time. If I were a betting woman, I’d say these are on every billionaire’s bookshelf. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Replit](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)****.** I love things that stand the test of time. Things that were written hundreds, or even _thousands_ of years ago in the case of the Stoics, and are still just as relevant today. This quote attributed to Darwin is a perfect example: _"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent — but the one most responsive to change."_ This is so relevant today. The richest people in 10 years will be the ones who adapted most quickly to the changing world around us. They’re the ones who realized that apps no longer take months to build and an expensive team of developers. They can be built by one creative typing what they want into Replit—especially with their just-released model, Agent 4.  I think Darwin would approve. Give Replit’s newest model a try _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** Marcus Aurelius ruled the Roman Empire nearly 2,000 years ago. He dealt with war, betrayal, plagues, and the pressure of leading millions of people. Every night, he'd sit down and write notes to himself about how to stay calm, stay focused, and not lose his mind. Those journal entries? Still a bestseller in 2026. That bewilders me. Because it means the things that stress us out today—uncertainty, difficult people, self-doubt, lack of motivation—are the exact same things that stressed out a Roman Emperor in 170 AD. And _this_ is why old books are so powerful. Their advice got pressure-tested by millions of readers across 50, 100, 2,000 years. And it’s still helpful today. 5 books that changed (and continue to change) how I think about my life: ——————————————————————————— # **THE 5 BOOKS** **1. **[_**Meditations**_](https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-New-Translation-Modern-Library/dp/0812968255)** — Marcus Aurelius** Written nearly 2,000 years ago by a Roman Emperor… to himself. It was never meant to be published. That's what makes it so raw and honest. It's a personal journal about managing stress, staying grounded, and focusing on what you can control. If you only read one book on this list, make it this one. **2. **[_**How to Win Friends and Influence People**_](https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034)** — Dale Carnegie** Published in 1936 and still one of the best-selling books of all time. Carnegie's core idea? People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Every chapter is a masterclass in listening, empathy, and making others feel valued. I re-read it every few years—and every time, I learn something new. That's how you know a book is good. **3. **[_**Man's Search for Meaning**_](https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.phUc2adLzv8edJKcJfYGiYmYQA_wfSFAPr6oNqdjFnbKjiy95ci0EjAEVKg9W5EEpWYY09hMuLSCD7Uil1qO9EC_Q0JaR82sI0d1QaG2rzd7BIB3OBF5ux4sNkljHGEjeAezRd84CS30usf_BSpmtjtHYd1k2ZitHs1mVPhIXeKkJuHT09oogUjFjY_rFyimwPqw-AULD_fQvv8gMpJXfoVX29_Pg8xfTvG5_bW__hg.DQJLnJHqQlTZ6uvYMGR6FmCfDcZLIxRsDKfbJIqEyr0&qid=1773676690&sr=1-1)** — Viktor Frankl** Frankl survived the Holocaust and wrote about how he found purpose in unimaginable suffering. His big insight: you can't always control what happens to you, but you can always control how you respond. Whenever I feel stuck, this book recalibrates my entire perspective. **4. **[_**The Alchemist**_](https://www.amazon.com/Alchemist-Spiritual-Self-Discovery-Novel_Get-Captivating/dp/0062315005/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.wyRbvJyC-p5lQL2OngA4gbGhBoGz0W-NFv2UaGR3nBGZjK-eQv8TR5nSEux-SWY5IlVatrycbE3lXfPLyn06YvmktAoY0d7gaFfm6eaknoEN478aSwdoC9UK2ZPOkcOy4r9qU4o03CVjVx03pjw_XDX3IeXxr2U_AUNgXI5jthF7zFXVFiLKvrE1r2TxChu-smIS6ueEzpyAN5OfGmY2dVF8aBKXwvLfzVNPH7Uf9-U.YaQV0P_CwpiuEc_U05rXgO0dZJVpRHw0unu77-CbMqE&qid=1773676884&sr=8-1)_** **_**— Paulo Coelho** A short, beautiful story about a shepherd who crosses the desert chasing a dream. It reads like a fable but hits like a life lesson. The core message? The journey toward your goal matters just as much as reaching it. I finished it in one sitting and immediately bought a copy for someone else. That's the kind of book it is. **5. **[_**The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People**_](https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1982137274/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SqwOwJ5zN4dTSawslkpGL3HNdNsaU4DRSacbUhSuOe8wb7aGMuW-uiZqaN-sJvD6_gGr9tUpgRNkPQUMOAUzg3v2FWfIO8XMejy5epdlo6w0Iqw83-hCVA2SoaB4kh9d2_vTLnoQw97CSgfuN89E1NE16ooCYL5qtMjo_xRZ5Rr013VWQaNX5zOqnyLt8QDfOfFYs1mdS8VfSN_jYJ0B9gSr1JrppQSJc7XRbofNmnA.rB9GlZtjLCf8mWLhWGxcE-7ifLJCcWfvFN7e3X9EUfo&qid=1773676977&sr=8-1)[** **](https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1982137274/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SqwOwJ5zN4dTSawslkpGL3HNdNsaU4DRSacbUhSuOe8wb7aGMuW-uiZqaN-sJvD6_gGr9tUpgRNkPQUMOAUzg3v2FWfIO8XMejy5epdlo6w0Iqw83-hCVA2SoaB4kh9d2_vTLnoQw97CSgfuN89E1NE16ooCYL5qtMjo_xRZ5Rr013VWQaNX5zOqnyLt8QDfOfFYs1mdS8VfSN_jYJ0B9gSr1JrppQSJc7XRbofNmnA.rB9GlZtjLCf8mWLhWGxcE-7ifLJCcWfvFN7e3X9EUfo&qid=1773676977&sr=8-1)**— Stephen Covey** Covey's framework has been a staple in personal development since 1989. My favorite idea from the book? "Begin with the end in mind." It's the same principle behind my [Rich List exercise](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing)— start by imagining your future self, then work backwards to decide how to live today. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Pick one. Just one. Read 10 pages a day (that's roughly 15 minutes), and you'll finish it in less than 30 days. In one month, you'll have finished a book that has shaped the thinking of millions before you. By the end of this summer, you'll have read all five. And here's the best part: these books meet you exactly where you are. Read _The Alchemist_ at age 25 and it's a story about chasing your dreams. Read it again at 45 and it's a story about trusting the journey you've already been on. The words don't change. You do. Forward this to someone who’ll read one of these with you. Happy reading. 📚 Much love, Jade P.S. Speaking of books that could stand the test of time— my friend [Nir Eyal](https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/) (bestselling author of _Indistractable_ and _Hooked_) just released his new book [_Beyond Belief_](https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief/) last week. His core idea? Your beliefs aren't facts—they're tools. And the ones you carry around without questioning might be the very thing holding you back. I think you’ll love it. [Grab a copy here.](https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief/) You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-timeless-books

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Yesterday was International Women’s Day, so today I’m celebrating all of the fearless women in our lives. ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** There are certain women in my life who walk into a room and make it brighter. Completely at ease in their own skin. Laughing a little louder, not apologizing for taking space, unbothered by what anyone thinks of them. Just a deep, unshakeable sense of who they are. I've always been quietly in awe of them. And I noticed what they have in common. Most of them have spent real, intentional time alone. Not lonely. Alone. They've taken themselves to dinner. Packed their life into a suitcase and moved to a new city where they didn’t know anyone. Applied to the thing they weren't "ready" for. Somewhere along the way, they stopped waiting for life to happen to them, and started building it for themselves. That's a version of confidence that no relationship can give you, no job title can grant you, and no amount of external validation can manufacture. I’ve been reflecting on my own journey with this. Some of the most confidence-building moments of my life have been the ones I did entirely on my own—with no one to lean on if it went sideways. Just me, figuring it out. That kind of self-trust isn't something you're born with. It's something you earn. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** 20 things everyone should do alone (at least once): **Solo experiences that build independence:** 1. Take a solo trip to explore a new city 2. Take yourself out to a fancy dinner. Eat at the bar with a good book 3. Spend a Sunday walking through a museum or art gallery, just you 4. Work from a coffee shop alone and strike up a conversation with a stranger 5. Go to a yoga or meditation retreat **Solo experiences that build courage:** 6. Negotiate your salary. You don't get what you deserve; you get what you ask for 7. Apply for the job you don't feel "ready" for 8. Attend a networking event alone and introduce yourself first 9. Set a boundary with someone you love, and hold it 10. Say no to something you're lukewarm about, without guilt or explanation **Solo experiences that build your dreams:** 11. Spend a ["think" weekend](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-direction-2) with no phone. Write down all your goals for the year 12. Spend 30 days learning something completely outside your comfort zone: a language, an instrument, a skill 13. Turn your passion into a business or side hustle 14. Take a course on personal finance and get your investments in order 15. Write down everything you want from life: career, relationships, health, lifestyle. Your ["rich life"](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing) should feel _slightly unreasonable._ **Solo experiences that build self-love:** 16. Plan a dinner party and host it entirely by yourself 17. Take a boxing or jiu jitsu class 18. Buy yourself flowers on the way home from work. No occasion needed 19. Live alone (even for a little while). Design a home you're proud of 20. Realize that your own company is enough. It always has been. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Of course, you don't have to do everything alone in life. But there is an incredible confidence that comes from knowing—without a shadow of a doubt—that you _could_. Every time you travel somewhere solo, ask for the raise, or hold a boundary you used to cave on, you're depositing something into yourself that no one can ever take back. Self-belief is the most underrated form of wealth there is. As Brianna Pastor puts it: "If anyone is magically going to appear and suddenly make your life better, just know that person is always going to be you." Happy Women's History Month. If you know an incredible woman who has done any of these, share this with her. She deserves to be celebrated. Much love, Jade You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-self-belief

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about a deceptively simple habit to reclaim time and clarity. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** I read a book 10 years ago that feels more relevant today than ever before: _What Got You Here Won’t Get You There_ by Marshall Goldsmith. If we keep doing the same things that have always worked in the past, we’re going to be left behind. Building products is a perfect example of this. It has never been easier to start a company or a side-hustle of your own. Platforms like Replit empower anyone, anywhere, to build a full, production-ready app. Something like this used to cost $100k and a team of developers. Now anyone can describe it in English and watch it come to life in a weekend. The future is in the hands of those who adapt. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** It's 2:47 PM. You're making real progress on that project you've been putting off. Then comes that familiar itch in your palm, the phantom buzz in your pocket. Before you know it, you've spent 45 minutes scrolling through ‘Real or Cake?’ videos, wondering where the time went. Sound familiar? Same. Our phones have become like an all-you-can-eat buffet of distraction. We keep coming back for more even though we know we'll regret it later. And with each helping of mindless scroll, we're eating away at our most valuable resource: our ability to focus. I was intrigued when Stanford neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman shared a deceptively simple method to rebuild our concentration. He calls it the "No-Go" Method. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Here's how it works: The next time you feel that magnetic pull toward your phone—maybe you're waiting for coffee, or there's a lull in conversation—simply think the words "no-go" and let the urge pass. That's it. Seriously. No elaborate techniques, no expensive apps. Just a gentle "no-go," stop your hand from reaching in your pocket, and return to the present moment. That tiny decision to not check your phone? It’s like a _bicep curl_ for your willpower muscle. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Every time you successfully "no-go" is a rep in your mental gym. Just as you wouldn't expect to bench press 200 pounds without training, you can't expect perfect focus right away. Just try to “no-go” at least **1x every hour. ** **Here are some prime moments to practice:** * When you first wake up (Pro tip: Buy a $10 physical alarm clock and charge your phone in another room) * During meals with friends or family * In the middle of deep work sessions As soon as you start training your concentration muscle, you’ll be _shocked_ by how many other areas of your life improve: sharper focus, better productivity, reduced anxiety. You’ll also reclaim countless tiny moments that make up a life well-lived. Much love, Jade P.S. Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it with someone who’ll try this method with you. You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-concentration-3410

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about the #1 person everyone needs in their life (and how to be that person for someone else). “**But first— big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** 3 years ago, I couldn’t see myself as a founder or a writer. I was good at my 9-5 job at Google and was so risk-averse. But if you asked my closest friends? They all saw that future for me. **It’s so important to surround yourself with people who have even bigger dreams for your life than you do.** It has truly never been easier to start your own company. You can build an app in a single weekend thanks to platforms like Replit. It handles the entire mobile stack, from front-end to back-end, and even helps you get published on the App Store. There’s nothing stopping you from a dream to start something of your own. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** This 1-minute video gives me chills every time I watch it. Youtube: A Love Letter To My Wife @leilahormozi (https://youtu.be/OXleZ-BaEO0?feature=shared) Entrepreneur Alex Hormozi had just lost everything. His final “Hail Mary” bet on his business didn’t work. He sat down with his then-girlfriend, Leila, and told her he was a sinking ship—and that if she wanted to leave, he would understand. She said she would sleep under a bridge with him if it came to that. They’re now worth hundreds of millions. And it’s in part thanks to Leila’s unwavering belief in Alex at his lowest point. A true ride-or-die partner. We all have people in our lives who show up when it's fun, easy, or convenient. Those are daylight friends. **But the truly rare friends?** **They show up for you in your darkest hour when you have nothing to offer in return.** Those are your "day one" people. And they are worth more than any investment you'll ever make. The best way to find dark-hour friends? _Become_ that kind of person for someone else. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** 3 powerful ways to reignite someone’s self-belief: **1. Show up—even when you don't know what to say.** Most people don't abandon their friends in dark moments out of selfishness. They simply don’t want to say the wrong thing. So they say nothing. They wait for the storm to pass, planning to reach out once things get better. But that's not when they need you most. Try something like this: "I've been thinking about you, and I keep picking up my phone and putting it down because I don't know what to say. But I didn't want another day to go by without you knowing I'm here." You don't need a grand gesture. A text. A coffee or takeout dinner dropped at their door. Just something that tells them they’re not alone. — **2. Remind them of their track record.** When someone is in a 3-month dip, they can't see their 3-year climb. That's where you come in and hold up a mirror. Instead of vague encouragement, get specific: "Remember when you faced [similar challenge] back in 2022? You got through it. I was there—I saw you. And remember that unexpectedly good thing that came out of it?” Concrete evidence is so much harder to dismiss than general encouragement. — **3. Give them something to hold on to.** When people are in a dark place, they lose the ability to imagine things getting better. So lend them your vision for their future. Not generic optimism like "things will work out." (They'll ignore that.) Instead: "I genuinely believe that in two years, you're going to look back at this as the moment that changed everything for you." You're not sugarcoating their reality. You're offering a perspective they temporarily can't see on their own. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Everyone needs one voice. Just one. One person who believes in them so fully that their own doubt doesn't stand a chance. Think about the Leilas in your life—the people who showed up for you before you had anything to show for yourself. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell them how much they mean to you. You could even forward this email and say you immediately thought of them when you read it. And then ask yourself: Who in your life could use a voice like that right now? One of the greatest gifts you can give another person is the unwavering belief that they're going to make it. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade **Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. ** **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Trusting Your Timing](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-trusting-your-timing): “Jade, this one hit me like a ton of bricks, in a good way. I'm sure you'll get lots of responses with the same sentiment. I really appreciate your newsletters and advice. It's been one of many things propelling me along my journey and I'm thankful.“ “One of the best thing I've done this year is signing up for your newsletter… The way you casually explain life’s daily problems with the most practical solutions possible. Thank you.” “I’m not the kind of person who replies to newsletters. But this one especially hit me!” “I truly enjoy your newsletter—it’s the only one that never feels like noise in my inbox and honestly the only one I make time to read. “ “You are an old soul living in a modern world. You have a knack for communicating tried and true wisdom from both ancient and modern masters.” “You are insightful, pragmatic, empathetic, thoughtful, and most importantly, succinct. In a world where there is so much information, I really like the format of your content which is precise but has depth. “ “Love receiving your newsletter every Monday. Although I'm happily retired - for the last 12 years - the content is still relevant for any age.” I appreciate each one of you so very much. ❤️ Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-dark-hour-friends

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today we’re talking about the energy for February: trust your timing. Scroll down for it. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)****.** I think the most underrated life skill is to question the defaults. The 7 most expensive words in business are “we have always done things this way.” For example, Super Bowl ads have always needed 6 months and millions of dollars to produce. Artlist asked “what if” and produced theirs in 5 days with a small team. Most "impossible" projects are just waiting for someone to ask "what if?" Learn more and [try it out here.](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/1cf5fbca-0ae4-4f25-99e8-9dbaeee5c967/Artlist.png?t=1769452061) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** It's 11 PM. You're scrolling through someone's engagement post, promotion announcement, or vacation photos from Bali. And that familiar feeling creeps in—the one that whispers you're falling behind. I’m here to tell you that you’re not. You're not missing some invisible deadline. You're exactly where you need to be. I've been thinking about this a lot lately—how we compare our Chapter 2 to someone else's Chapter 10. We scroll through highlight reels and forget that growth takes time. Every person who looks like an "overnight success" spent 10 years grinding to get to that one night. But we don't see those 10 years. We only see that night. February is about releasing the pressure of a timeline. Some people get married at 25 and divorced by 29. Some find their life calling at 48 and it's the best thing they've ever built. Some come to a big realization and quit their job at 60. It's all normal. Stop treating your life like a race. If it were a race, this is definitely not a finish line you want to sprint towards. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** Here's your 3-Step February Reset to trust your timing: **Step 1: Delete Instagram for 7 days** Just 7 days. I promise you'll survive. When you remove the comparison loop, you'll stop measuring your worth against curated snapshots of other people's lives. You'll realize how much mental energy you've been wasting on scrolling instead of building. Maybe put a physical copy of a new book on your nightstand. Read a few pages in the morning (to replace the time you used to spend scrolling). Feed your brain healthy things as soon as you wake up. — **Step 2: Keep a "small wins" note** Open your Notes app right now. Title it "Small Wins - February 2026." Every single day for the next 7 days, jot down one thing you're proud of. The great pitch you sent. The boundary you held. The day you showed up at the gym when you didn't feel like it. The tough conversation you finally had. At the end of the week, reread the list. You'll be impressed by how much progress you made when you stop looking sideways at other people's timelines. — **Step 3: Use the 10-10-10 rule** When your inner critic shows up (and it inevitably will), ask yourself: Will this matter in 10 days? 10 months? 10 years? That dinner you burned? Won't matter in 10 days. The project that didn't go perfectly? You won't even remember it in 10 months. The relationship that ended? In 10 years, you'll see it was redirecting you toward something better. This simple filter will help you distinguish between real setbacks and imaginary ones. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** The best things take time. Your career. Your relationships. Your sense of self. No one's handing out awards for hitting life milestones the fastest. The only timeline that matters is yours. So stop apologizing for where you are. Stop explaining why you haven't "figured it out yet." Stop treating your journey like it needs to mirror someone else's. Trust your timing. Good things are coming. 🫶 All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Relationships](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-relationships): “I’m 52 and have read countless newsletters in my life 😅, but yours truly stands out. Please keep going and keep up your fabulous spirit. Sometimes I even read your lines to my teenage daughters, to remind them of what really matters in life.” “The only fun thing about Monday is waiting for your newsletter.” “Forever grateful for your presence in my inbox Jade! I've been wanting to tell you for some time I'm just a big fan of your content and work here and on LinkedIn! You're the absolute coolest and want to surround myself with more people like you!” “Continue inspiring and empowering others — you’re making such a difference!” “I can honestly tell that you can read my mind. You’re like my pastor at church each week, delivering the message I need to hear. You’re wonderful!” “I love your emails. I read them all and forward them often. Thank you for sharing! Your ideas enrich my life!” I appreciate each one of you so much. Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-trusting-your-timing

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today you’ll get the best method I’ve found to keep your social cup full. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Appy.AI**](https://appy.ai/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta) Some of the most important relationships I made over the past 3 years were because I became a content creator and founder. And I won’t lie—it took _a lot _for me to think of myself as both of those things. (I was good at my 9-5 job, and very averse to risk.) But it has truly never been easier to start your own company (and the upside is infinitely higher). You can literally build a product in a weekend by typing what you want into Appy. It’s adaptive, so it won’t break on even the most complex idea. It just handles all the technical stuff and brings your dream to life. Learn more and try it out [here](https://appy.ai?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/65727cfc-fde0-4944-a2e8-52c8b50b8d0a/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__3_.png?t=1770140609) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** "One of the greatest tragedies in life is that you are loved more than you will ever know." —Alan Watts Your existence in this world creates so many ripples of goodness. But you'll never hear about most of it. Why? Because we rarely tell people how much we appreciate them. We feel it deeply, but rarely say it out loud. The result? A silent epidemic of people who feel under-appreciated, surrounded by others who genuinely appreciate them. For example: * Someone still thinks about the good advice you gave them months ago * Someone's child asks about you when you haven't visited in a while, because kids can sense genuinely good people * Someone at work finds your presence calming, even when you’re quiet in meetings * Someone wishes they had your perspective on life, even though you feel like you're still figuring it all out * Your willingness to be vulnerable in conversations gives others permission to be real too * There's a group chat where your name comes up fondly when you're not around * The boundaries you set and maintain have inspired someone else to value themselves more Why don’t we tell people how much we appreciate them? We assume the people we care about _know_. It’s obvious, right? (It’s not.) Now’s the time to change that. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** **The 1-Minute Rule:** Every time someone crosses your mind, spend just 1 minute reaching out to them. * Send a voice note to a friend: _"I was thinking about you today and just wanted to say I'm so glad you're in my life."_ * Text a coworker who helped you solve a problem: _"Hey—I know it was just a quick conversation on Tuesday, but your advice helped so much. Thank you."_ * Call your mom and tell her a specific story: _"Remember when I was 12 and terrified to try out for the tennis team? I still remember the advice you gave me.” _(More parents deserve to hear how their words shaped you.) The beauty of this method? You're not waiting for holidays or birthdays. You're expressing gratitude in real-time, when it matters most. **Why 1 minute?** Because it's short enough that you can't say you’re too busy. No elaborate planning required. Just open your phone and hit send. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Life is too short to let words go left unsaid. The compound effect of the 1-Minute Rule is powerful. Relationships deepen. Your social cup always feels full. And you live without regret, because the people in your life knew exactly how much they meant to you. So here's your challenge: Start today. Send one text. Make one call. Tell someone why they matter. One minute is all it takes to close the gap between how much you care and how much they know it. All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it to someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back!** Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. 🫶 Here are just a few of the incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [Clean Slates](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-clean-slates): “I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Jade.” “Your newsletter is the only one I read whenever it comes in and the one I forward to friends, family and colleagues most often. Thank you for being you!” “Wow Jade!!!! That was so well written and scarily “on the money” **I appreciate each one of you so much.** Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-relationships

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