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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about a deceptively simple habit to reclaim time and clarity. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** I read a book 10 years ago that feels more relevant today than ever before: _What Got You Here Won’t Get You There_ by Marshall Goldsmith. If we keep doing the same things that have always worked in the past, we’re going to be left behind. Building products is a perfect example of this. It has never been easier to start a company or a side-hustle of your own. Platforms like Replit empower anyone, anywhere, to build a full, production-ready app. Something like this used to cost $100k and a team of developers. Now anyone can describe it in English and watch it come to life in a weekend. The future is in the hands of those who adapt. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** It's 2:47 PM. You're making real progress on that project you've been putting off. Then comes that familiar itch in your palm, the phantom buzz in your pocket. Before you know it, you've spent 45 minutes scrolling through ‘Real or Cake?’ videos, wondering where the time went. Sound familiar? Same. Our phones have become like an all-you-can-eat buffet of distraction. We keep coming back for more even though we know we'll regret it later. And with each helping of mindless scroll, we're eating away at our most valuable resource: our ability to focus. I was intrigued when Stanford neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman shared a deceptively simple method to rebuild our concentration. He calls it the "No-Go" Method. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Here's how it works: The next time you feel that magnetic pull toward your phone—maybe you're waiting for coffee, or there's a lull in conversation—simply think the words "no-go" and let the urge pass. That's it. Seriously. No elaborate techniques, no expensive apps. Just a gentle "no-go," stop your hand from reaching in your pocket, and return to the present moment. That tiny decision to not check your phone? It’s like a _bicep curl_ for your willpower muscle. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Every time you successfully "no-go" is a rep in your mental gym. Just as you wouldn't expect to bench press 200 pounds without training, you can't expect perfect focus right away. Just try to “no-go” at least **1x every hour. ** **Here are some prime moments to practice:** * When you first wake up (Pro tip: Buy a $10 physical alarm clock and charge your phone in another room) * During meals with friends or family * In the middle of deep work sessions As soon as you start training your concentration muscle, you’ll be _shocked_ by how many other areas of your life improve: sharper focus, better productivity, reduced anxiety. You’ll also reclaim countless tiny moments that make up a life well-lived. Much love, Jade P.S. Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it with someone who’ll try this method with you. You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-concentration-3410

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about the #1 person everyone needs in their life (and how to be that person for someone else). “**But first— big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** 3 years ago, I couldn’t see myself as a founder or a writer. I was good at my 9-5 job at Google and was so risk-averse. But if you asked my closest friends? They all saw that future for me. **It’s so important to surround yourself with people who have even bigger dreams for your life than you do.** It has truly never been easier to start your own company. You can build an app in a single weekend thanks to platforms like Replit. It handles the entire mobile stack, from front-end to back-end, and even helps you get published on the App Store. There’s nothing stopping you from a dream to start something of your own. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** This 1-minute video gives me chills every time I watch it. Youtube: A Love Letter To My Wife @leilahormozi (https://youtu.be/OXleZ-BaEO0?feature=shared) Entrepreneur Alex Hormozi had just lost everything. His final “Hail Mary” bet on his business didn’t work. He sat down with his then-girlfriend, Leila, and told her he was a sinking ship—and that if she wanted to leave, he would understand. She said she would sleep under a bridge with him if it came to that. They’re now worth hundreds of millions. And it’s in part thanks to Leila’s unwavering belief in Alex at his lowest point. A true ride-or-die partner. We all have people in our lives who show up when it's fun, easy, or convenient. Those are daylight friends. **But the truly rare friends?** **They show up for you in your darkest hour when you have nothing to offer in return.** Those are your "day one" people. And they are worth more than any investment you'll ever make. The best way to find dark-hour friends? _Become_ that kind of person for someone else. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** 3 powerful ways to reignite someone’s self-belief: **1. Show up—even when you don't know what to say.** Most people don't abandon their friends in dark moments out of selfishness. They simply don’t want to say the wrong thing. So they say nothing. They wait for the storm to pass, planning to reach out once things get better. But that's not when they need you most. Try something like this: "I've been thinking about you, and I keep picking up my phone and putting it down because I don't know what to say. But I didn't want another day to go by without you knowing I'm here." You don't need a grand gesture. A text. A coffee or takeout dinner dropped at their door. Just something that tells them they’re not alone. — **2. Remind them of their track record.** When someone is in a 3-month dip, they can't see their 3-year climb. That's where you come in and hold up a mirror. Instead of vague encouragement, get specific: "Remember when you faced [similar challenge] back in 2022? You got through it. I was there—I saw you. And remember that unexpectedly good thing that came out of it?” Concrete evidence is so much harder to dismiss than general encouragement. — **3. Give them something to hold on to.** When people are in a dark place, they lose the ability to imagine things getting better. So lend them your vision for their future. Not generic optimism like "things will work out." (They'll ignore that.) Instead: "I genuinely believe that in two years, you're going to look back at this as the moment that changed everything for you." You're not sugarcoating their reality. You're offering a perspective they temporarily can't see on their own. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Everyone needs one voice. Just one. One person who believes in them so fully that their own doubt doesn't stand a chance. Think about the Leilas in your life—the people who showed up for you before you had anything to show for yourself. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell them how much they mean to you. You could even forward this email and say you immediately thought of them when you read it. And then ask yourself: Who in your life could use a voice like that right now? One of the greatest gifts you can give another person is the unwavering belief that they're going to make it. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade **Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. ** **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Trusting Your Timing](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-trusting-your-timing): “Jade, this one hit me like a ton of bricks, in a good way. I'm sure you'll get lots of responses with the same sentiment. I really appreciate your newsletters and advice. It's been one of many things propelling me along my journey and I'm thankful.“ “One of the best thing I've done this year is signing up for your newsletter… The way you casually explain life’s daily problems with the most practical solutions possible. Thank you.” “I’m not the kind of person who replies to newsletters. But this one especially hit me!” “I truly enjoy your newsletter—it’s the only one that never feels like noise in my inbox and honestly the only one I make time to read. “ “You are an old soul living in a modern world. You have a knack for communicating tried and true wisdom from both ancient and modern masters.” “You are insightful, pragmatic, empathetic, thoughtful, and most importantly, succinct. In a world where there is so much information, I really like the format of your content which is precise but has depth. “ “Love receiving your newsletter every Monday. Although I'm happily retired - for the last 12 years - the content is still relevant for any age.” I appreciate each one of you so very much. ❤️ Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-dark-hour-friends

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today we’re talking about the energy for February: trust your timing. Scroll down for it. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)****.** I think the most underrated life skill is to question the defaults. The 7 most expensive words in business are “we have always done things this way.” For example, Super Bowl ads have always needed 6 months and millions of dollars to produce. Artlist asked “what if” and produced theirs in 5 days with a small team. Most "impossible" projects are just waiting for someone to ask "what if?" Learn more and [try it out here.](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/1cf5fbca-0ae4-4f25-99e8-9dbaeee5c967/Artlist.png?t=1769452061) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** It's 11 PM. You're scrolling through someone's engagement post, promotion announcement, or vacation photos from Bali. And that familiar feeling creeps in—the one that whispers you're falling behind. I’m here to tell you that you’re not. You're not missing some invisible deadline. You're exactly where you need to be. I've been thinking about this a lot lately—how we compare our Chapter 2 to someone else's Chapter 10. We scroll through highlight reels and forget that growth takes time. Every person who looks like an "overnight success" spent 10 years grinding to get to that one night. But we don't see those 10 years. We only see that night. February is about releasing the pressure of a timeline. Some people get married at 25 and divorced by 29. Some find their life calling at 48 and it's the best thing they've ever built. Some come to a big realization and quit their job at 60. It's all normal. Stop treating your life like a race. If it were a race, this is definitely not a finish line you want to sprint towards. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** Here's your 3-Step February Reset to trust your timing: **Step 1: Delete Instagram for 7 days** Just 7 days. I promise you'll survive. When you remove the comparison loop, you'll stop measuring your worth against curated snapshots of other people's lives. You'll realize how much mental energy you've been wasting on scrolling instead of building. Maybe put a physical copy of a new book on your nightstand. Read a few pages in the morning (to replace the time you used to spend scrolling). Feed your brain healthy things as soon as you wake up. — **Step 2: Keep a "small wins" note** Open your Notes app right now. Title it "Small Wins - February 2026." Every single day for the next 7 days, jot down one thing you're proud of. The great pitch you sent. The boundary you held. The day you showed up at the gym when you didn't feel like it. The tough conversation you finally had. At the end of the week, reread the list. You'll be impressed by how much progress you made when you stop looking sideways at other people's timelines. — **Step 3: Use the 10-10-10 rule** When your inner critic shows up (and it inevitably will), ask yourself: Will this matter in 10 days? 10 months? 10 years? That dinner you burned? Won't matter in 10 days. The project that didn't go perfectly? You won't even remember it in 10 months. The relationship that ended? In 10 years, you'll see it was redirecting you toward something better. This simple filter will help you distinguish between real setbacks and imaginary ones. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** The best things take time. Your career. Your relationships. Your sense of self. No one's handing out awards for hitting life milestones the fastest. The only timeline that matters is yours. So stop apologizing for where you are. Stop explaining why you haven't "figured it out yet." Stop treating your journey like it needs to mirror someone else's. Trust your timing. Good things are coming. 🫶 All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Relationships](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-relationships): “I’m 52 and have read countless newsletters in my life 😅, but yours truly stands out. Please keep going and keep up your fabulous spirit. Sometimes I even read your lines to my teenage daughters, to remind them of what really matters in life.” “The only fun thing about Monday is waiting for your newsletter.” “Forever grateful for your presence in my inbox Jade! I've been wanting to tell you for some time I'm just a big fan of your content and work here and on LinkedIn! You're the absolute coolest and want to surround myself with more people like you!” “Continue inspiring and empowering others — you’re making such a difference!” “I can honestly tell that you can read my mind. You’re like my pastor at church each week, delivering the message I need to hear. You’re wonderful!” “I love your emails. I read them all and forward them often. Thank you for sharing! Your ideas enrich my life!” I appreciate each one of you so much. Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-trusting-your-timing

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today you’ll get the best method I’ve found to keep your social cup full. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Appy.AI**](https://appy.ai/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta) Some of the most important relationships I made over the past 3 years were because I became a content creator and founder. And I won’t lie—it took _a lot _for me to think of myself as both of those things. (I was good at my 9-5 job, and very averse to risk.) But it has truly never been easier to start your own company (and the upside is infinitely higher). You can literally build a product in a weekend by typing what you want into Appy. It’s adaptive, so it won’t break on even the most complex idea. It just handles all the technical stuff and brings your dream to life. Learn more and try it out [here](https://appy.ai?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/65727cfc-fde0-4944-a2e8-52c8b50b8d0a/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__3_.png?t=1770140609) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** "One of the greatest tragedies in life is that you are loved more than you will ever know." —Alan Watts Your existence in this world creates so many ripples of goodness. But you'll never hear about most of it. Why? Because we rarely tell people how much we appreciate them. We feel it deeply, but rarely say it out loud. The result? A silent epidemic of people who feel under-appreciated, surrounded by others who genuinely appreciate them. For example: * Someone still thinks about the good advice you gave them months ago * Someone's child asks about you when you haven't visited in a while, because kids can sense genuinely good people * Someone at work finds your presence calming, even when you’re quiet in meetings * Someone wishes they had your perspective on life, even though you feel like you're still figuring it all out * Your willingness to be vulnerable in conversations gives others permission to be real too * There's a group chat where your name comes up fondly when you're not around * The boundaries you set and maintain have inspired someone else to value themselves more Why don’t we tell people how much we appreciate them? We assume the people we care about _know_. It’s obvious, right? (It’s not.) Now’s the time to change that. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** **The 1-Minute Rule:** Every time someone crosses your mind, spend just 1 minute reaching out to them. * Send a voice note to a friend: _"I was thinking about you today and just wanted to say I'm so glad you're in my life."_ * Text a coworker who helped you solve a problem: _"Hey—I know it was just a quick conversation on Tuesday, but your advice helped so much. Thank you."_ * Call your mom and tell her a specific story: _"Remember when I was 12 and terrified to try out for the tennis team? I still remember the advice you gave me.” _(More parents deserve to hear how their words shaped you.) The beauty of this method? You're not waiting for holidays or birthdays. You're expressing gratitude in real-time, when it matters most. **Why 1 minute?** Because it's short enough that you can't say you’re too busy. No elaborate planning required. Just open your phone and hit send. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Life is too short to let words go left unsaid. The compound effect of the 1-Minute Rule is powerful. Relationships deepen. Your social cup always feels full. And you live without regret, because the people in your life knew exactly how much they meant to you. So here's your challenge: Start today. Send one text. Make one call. Tell someone why they matter. One minute is all it takes to close the gap between how much you care and how much they know it. All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it to someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back!** Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. 🫶 Here are just a few of the incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [Clean Slates](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-clean-slates): “I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Jade.” “Your newsletter is the only one I read whenever it comes in and the one I forward to friends, family and colleagues most often. Thank you for being you!” “Wow Jade!!!! That was so well written and scarily “on the money” **I appreciate each one of you so much.** Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-relationships

Congrats! You're now part of an exclusive community of top performers who aspire to be quietly rich. Enjoy my [free workbook](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing), _The Rich List:_ 50 peak moments you want to have in the next 10 years. (PDF) ——————————————————————————— **What's The Quiet Rich?** “Rich” doesn’t mean just having money. The Quiet Rich also want to be: * rich in _time_ * rich in _health_ * rich in _self-awareness_ * rich in _strong_ _relationships_ “Quiet” doesn’t mean living in monk mode. The Quiet Rich have: * quiet _minds_ (free of self-criticism or regret) * quiet _confidence_ (they’re self-assured, not arrogant) * quiet _goals_ (they move in silence, and don't desire mainstream fame). **8 habits that the quietly rich **_**don’t**_** do: (****[LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_8-things-that-the-quietly-rich-dont-do-activity-7183447012271370240-AARz)**** | ****[Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/p/CuJ3bgVg3M4/)****)** ——————————————————————————— **Here's what to expect:** Every Monday, you'll get a short email from me with 1 actionable tip for a quietly rich life. I'll only share the things that will make the _most_ impact. (Your time is too valuable for anything less.) **To make sure you get all of my emails:** 1. **Reply “thanks” to this email.** 2. If this email landed in your Spam or Promotions folder,** drag and drop it to your 'Primary' inbox**. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/2fb94fba-8307-48c9-976c-e31bc0b6b198/Screenshot_2023-06-25_at_5.07.23_PM.png) Caption: **If you don't do the above, you may miss all the emails from me.** Taking the steps above will let your email provider know that you want to receive my emails. Much love, Jade P.S. While you're waiting for the next newsletter, get started with these: * [6 life-changing books everyone should read](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1B19DaDVGWTII08YXw2G1Nibf6VMNQdsG/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [5 brain playlists to supercharge your focus](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1aqHxA9XDU2GCsairb2v31ouJhiCzHcqh/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [7 Italian concepts that will change your life](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ApyWtJVt--RTOIU6NjwxrQWi-luxZOr3/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [9 things I’ve stopped saying at work](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1wWUab4kVHXs8Wlxa5H7A5ppQP9ECqvHm/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [8 of the most powerful TED Talks of all time](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1VHZx8XSz5LZXC7-EuqkyAJGdQHOZ6FTX/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [The 6 golden rules of great sleep](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1M-dXeT5QJTFTk3jJ_tbW21itlUF5eHdd/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [How to minimize regret when you’re 90: 6 life graphs](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1tujVN9deBJh_S7dFhU6MCZN1Yx2Jnm60/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [The Past Year Review method (to set your 2024 goals)](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1T0tsnnFk7TYDOm-iWMJS-tPIAZcH6eGW/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [The #1 secret for managing your team](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1OWtSPN4CXFuHXO0_u1hYYWKA51X8Rgw6/view?usp=drive_link) (PDF) * [The 10-Year Plan to accelerate your dream life ](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iUseZS6US9DnV950VXfgKKGrYDuDtQ9g/view?usp=drive_link)(PDF) And come say hi on [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/jadebonacolta/) and [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/jadebonacolta/). 👋🏼