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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, you’ll get 6 ways to make the most of your time (and minimize regret when you’re 90). “**But first— warm thanks to today’s sponsor, **[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** I’ve always been fascinated by the world of cinema—and the magic that directors can create on screen. That magic is about to be in your hands. Artlist just released the first true AI production studio, and I am absolutely blown away. It’s so easy to create high-quality, cinematic videos and extremely realistic characters. You can even choose cameras, lenses, lighting, angles, and camera movement. If you can imagine it, you can create it. I can’t wait to see the magic you’ll make. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/896868e7-7014-42d6-b77c-10d99a20ab17/Artlist.png?t=1777317831) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** Who do we spend the most time with in life? The answers might surprise you. A while back, I came across some [fascinating data](https://www.bls.gov/tus/database.htm) from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. They measured how much time Americans spend with other people over the course of 90 years. There are six groups of people we spend the most time with. (But the proportions shift _dramatically_ as we age.) Here are 6 ways to minimize regret and make the most of your 90 years: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. TIME WITH YOUR PARENTS:** This decreases sharply after age 20. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/59e5b733-769c-4236-b92d-c8d844b286ab/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Try to live close to the people you love. If you can’t, then try to cherish your moments together. * When apart, call them and say all the things that you’ll wish you told them more. Btw, this essay by Tim Urban is [the most important article I’ve ever read](https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.html). TL;DR: If you only see your parents once a year (and they’re in their 60s)... you might only see them 20 more times. Ever. ——————————————————————————— **2. TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS.** Relatively, you get the least time with friends. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/9bc486bc-e4f7-4cf2-b551-f7bff068fdf1/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Choose your friends wisely. You can only keep a few. * Make sure they bring out the best version of you. ——————————————————————————— **3. TIME WITH YOUR COWORKERS. **Between the ages of 20-56, your time with coworkers spikes tremendously.  View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/4fc9996f-6c5c-4eb5-b70c-b5075faaa80a/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Don’t settle for a job you dislike. Try to “build a life that you don’t need a vacation from.” (Here are my [5 most practical tips to build a career you love](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_gammapartner-madewithgamma-worklifebalance-activity-7332735710157824001-uFjn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ)) * Set healthy boundaries with your time. ——————————————————————————— **4. TIME WITH YOUR PARTNER.** This continually trends upward, peaking after age 58. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/60f1f74a-4fa7-490f-8813-c09de5b50517/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * “Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr. * Find the person who keeps bettering themselves and growing with you. * I wrote a LinkedIn post called [3 actionable tests to choose your life partner](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_how-to-pick-your-life-partner-according-activity-7166788106321383425-_sDa?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ) (and it went viral). The Traffic Test is my favorite. ——————————————————————————— **5. TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN.** This peaks while your kids are young, and then sharply declines. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/49090427-9bb4-4477-895a-ec2317012695/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * Try to be present for those first 18 years. (You may regret it later if you’re not.) * Whenever you feel frustrated with your kids, imagine a future when they’re grown and you don’t get to see them often. I call this the “Back-In-Time Method” and many of you said [this post was the most useful thing I’ve ever written](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7132714044892827649/). (It’s a 3-step method that I do at least once a week.) ——————————————————————————— **6. TIME ALONE.** After 40, people spend an increasing amount of time alone. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/cdd22bd3-0a30-468b-b81d-914b029aaa44/unnamed.png?t=1777308410) Caption: Takeaways: * No surprise—you’ll spend the most time during your life solo. * Invest in self awareness and growth until you love your own company. Mindfulness helps with this btw. I wrote this [LinkedIn post about 6 surprising forms of meditation](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_6-surprising-forms-of-meditation-activity-7052250788156305408-JkkR/) (that don’t involve sitting cross-legged on the floor in silence.) ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Remember—these are just the _average_ trends. There’s nothing more powerful than realizing… you can change this graph at any moment. My hot take? 20% of the people in your life bring you 80% of your happiness. Ask yourself two things: 1). Who are they? 2). Can you spend more time with them this year? When you look back at age 90, you’ll be so glad you did. ——————————————————————————— Much love, Jade P.S. I still can’t believe how quickly our **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)** are selling out. 🥹 Our next cohort starts May 18th, and it’s going to be our best one yet. If you’re curious about growing your brand on LinkedIn, I have good news. **Ben Meer and I are hosting a ****[free masterclass on May 5th](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)****.** The two of us will teach you exactly how to define your brand on social media (so you can make money from it). It will be recorded if you can’t join live. But **[make sure you register here](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**. Pssst. We’ll also send you 3 bonuses that some people would call us crazy to give away for free. See you then! View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/6e98e413-b1ff-485d-b6e1-4ca1e6793378/Build_a_Million_Dollar_LinkedIn_Profile__1_.png?t=1777309733) Caption: ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-quality-time-4016

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, I’m giving you the best secret to increase your luck surface area. “**Today’s email is brought to you by…me. **🥰 It’s wild for me to say this. But in 3 years, I’ve grown from 1,000 to 1 million followers across LinkedIn, Instagram, and my newsletter. It has completely changed my career. _Everyone_ should be growing their personal brand right now. I teamed up with Ben Meer and Colby Kultgen, and we’ve taught our proven system to 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. Our coaching program is called [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/), and our next cohort starts on May 18th. **Ben and I are hosting a**** **[**free masterclass on May 5th.**](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo) We’ll teach you exactly how to define your brand to attract clients and make money on social media. **[Register here for free.](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/7ecd46ff-a2a2-4d6b-9724-a7f3c7050bde/Archimedes_Home_Banner__1_.png?t=1751300847) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** I can’t stop thinking about this quote: “In 1,000 parallel universes, you want to be wealthy in 999 of them. You don’t want to be wealthy in the 50 of them where you got lucky.” — Naval Ravikant When most people think about luck, we’re picturing “blind luck.” Pure chance. Where we were born. Who our parents are. Winning the genetic lottery. That kind of luck is 100% out of your control. But! There are 3 other types of luck that you _can_ control. This was described in great book called [Chase, Chance, and Creativity](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/654401/chase-chance-and-creativity-by-james-h-austin/) by Dr. James Austin. His theory of the “4 kinds of luck” went viral in Silicon Valley thanks to blog posts by [Mark Andreessen](https://pmarchive.com/luck_and_the_entrepreneur.html) and [Naval Ravikant](https://www.navalmanack.com/almanack-of-naval-ravikant/how-to-get-lucky). Here are 3 specific ways to increase your [“luck surface area.”](https://www.codusoperandi.com/posts/increasing-your-luck-surface-area) ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Type 1: Luck from Hustle** This luck comes from persistence, hard work, and a bias towards action. For example: A salesperson sends 100 cold messages. 80 get ignored. 15 say no. 5 say yes. One becomes her biggest client of the year. Was she "lucky"? Sure. But she also created the conditions for luck to happen. _How to train it:_ * Say yes to more things (especially the ones that scare you a little) * Set outreach quotas. 10 DMs a day. 1 coffee chat a week * Brainstorm 20 ideas before committing to one * Stop waiting for "the perfect time." Spoiler: it doesn't exist. **—** **Type 2: Luck from Preparation** If you’re super experienced in a field, you’ll spot a lucky break. Other people won’t even see the opportunity. For example: A venture capitalist invests early in a scrappy startup that everyone else passes on. Five years later, it's a unicorn. The other investors kick themselves. But they didn't get "unlucky"—they just couldn't see what she saw. _How to train it:_ * Pick a niche you genuinely love enough to go deep on * Get 1% better at it every single day (this compounds insanely) * Read everything. Talk to everyone. Become the person who notices patterns others miss. **—** **Type 3: Luck from Uniqueness** This is the rarest (and most powerful) form. Because once you have a strong brand, opportunities start hunting _you_ down. For example: A podcast host becomes so respected in her space that dream guests start DM'ing _her_ asking to come on the show. Instead of chasing them, she built something they wanted to be part of. _How to train it:_ * Show up consistently on a platform where your audience hangs out (LinkedIn is my personal favorite 😉) * Create content that's unmistakably _you_—your voice, your lens, your stories * Get coaching from someone who's done it before. (Shortcuts exist, take them.) ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Hustle until opportunities show up at your door. Deepen your expertise until you spot what others can't. Build a brand so magnetic that luck starts chasing you. The best part? These three compound. Hustle leads to preparation. Preparation leads to uniqueness. Uniqueness leads to opportunities that hustle alone could never unlock. Much love, Jade P.S. Want to master luck from Uniqueness? I have good news. **Ben Meer and I are hosting a **[**free masterclass on May 5th**](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**.** The two of us will teach you exactly how to define your brand on social media (so you can make money from it). It will be recorded if you can’t join live. But make sure you **[register here.](https://luma.com/qq6bphwo)**** **Pssst. We’ll also send you 3 bonuses that some people would call us crazy to give away for free. View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/d5ea58a4-e55c-45a5-8e97-e344a5d517c8/Build_a_Million_Dollar_LinkedIn_Profile__1_.png?t=1776693004) Follow image link: (https://luma.com/qq6bphwo) Caption: ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. 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Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today, I’m giving you the #1 method to shrink your worries (especially when facing a big decision). “**Today’s email is brought to you by…me. **🥰 Specifically, my private coaching program: _**[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**_. It’s the most exclusive members club for people looking to build their LinkedIn brand. I teamed up with [Ben Meer](https://www.linkedin.com/in/benmeer/) and [Colby Kultgen](https://www.linkedin.com/in/colby-kultgen/)—and we’ve taught our proven system to 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. Our next cohort starts on May 18th. (**Only 6 days left** to get a spot at our lowest price!) _**[Read the reviews and apply here](https://joinarchimedes.com/)**_. It takes 3 minutes. Congrats to everyone who has already joined. I’m blown away by this group of CEOs, executives, keynote speakers, founders, coaches. I can’t _wait_ to meet you.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/7ecd46ff-a2a2-4d6b-9724-a7f3c7050bde/Archimedes_Home_Banner__1_.png?t=1751300847) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** One year ago today, I made the decision to leave my career at Google. We’ve all heard the saying, “Fortune favors the bold.” But when it comes to actually putting in the two week’s notice? I didn’t feel bold or courageous. _What if I can't get health insurance? What if I walk away from this salary and regret it forever? What if my business doesn’t work out? _ Here’s the thing I wish someone told me sooner. Fear is a mile wide, but an inch deep. I love the way Leila Hormozi explains it [in this video](https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cy4vLKzLFvL/?hl=en). When we look at something from afar, it’s a daunting ocean. But if we just take that first, tiniest step in? We’ll realize it’s a puddle. We might even laugh, saying “_This_ is what I was so afraid of?” That’s what we’re doing today. We’re putting our toe in the water to realize it’s only an inch deep, and we can easily walk across it. Maybe you: * Know you should leave your job, but you’re afraid of the uncertainty. ([That was me](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_i-have-big-news-after-35-years-at-google-activity-7331646863751733249-RRuZ). 👋) * Need to have a tough conversation, but you’re worried about how the other person will react. * Want to move somewhere new, but you’re worried about starting over. * Think you should end a relationship, but you’re afraid you’ll never meet someone better. Here's the exact exercise I did at my kitchen table before I gave my notice. Put on your rain boots, and step in. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Step 1: Get a pen and paper,** or open a blank note on your laptop. Give yourself 20 minutes of uninterrupted time. **Step 2: Write down the decision** you’re avoiding. Be brutally honest: Mine was: "I want to build my own business and try to land a book deal, but I’m scared of leaving the stability of my job. I'm terrified of making the wrong move." **Step 3: **Ok, take a breath. This is the part where you step in and find out exactly how deep the water is. **Write down the absolute worst case scenario**. Get specific. If everything goes catastrophically wrong, what would it look like? Is the decision irreversible? When I did this, I wrote: "My business could fail. I could burn through my savings. I’d have to get another corporate job." Reading it on paper, I almost laughed. That was it? _That was the monster under the bed?_ **Step 4:** Reality check. **On a scale of 1-10, how likely is that worst case scenario?** Probably not a 10… I rated mine a 2 or 3. And if it did happen, there’s a lot you could do to recover. You're much more resilient and resourceful than you think. **Step 5:** Flip the script. **What if things go **_**right**_**? **What’s the best possible outcome? "I build a coaching business I love. I write a book that helps potentially millions of people. I have location, time, and financial freedom." Rate that upside on a scale of 1-10. Mine was a 10. The upside outweighed the downside by a _landslide_. **Step 6:** Final question: What is it costing you to postpone this decision? If you make zero changes, where will you be in one year? Five years? I wrote: "Still at my desk. Still wondering 'what if.' Still watching other people build the life I want." That last part made me close my laptop and start drafting my resignation. Sometimes the biggest risk is not taking any risk at all. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** I'll be honest—I still procrastinated putting in my two weeks' notice for another 10 days after doing this exercise. Change is hard, even when you know it's right. But one year later? Ben Meer and I both signed major book deals with our dream publishing houses. Our coaching community, [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/), has grown beyond what I dared to imagine. And that "worst case scenario" I was so terrified of never came close to happening. As the saying goes, “The magic you are looking for is in the work you are avoiding.” Whatever decision you've been circling for weeks (or months, or years)—give it 20 minutes at the kitchen table tonight. Get it out of your head and onto a page. You might realize the water is only an inch deep. And what if it all works out…? ——————————————————————————— Much love, Jade **P.S.** In the past few years, my life changed dramatically—and it’s entirely thanks to growing my personal brand on LinkedIn. To everyone who already joined [Archimedes](http://JoinArchimedes.com), Ben and I will be sharing _quite a bit_ about our book deals over the next few months. If you’re not in our coaching community yet, the next cohort starts May 18th! **Only 6 days left to get our Bias For Action discount. **Read tons of member case studies and apply: [JoinArchimedes.com](https://JoinArchimedes.com) I can’t wait to personally help grow your brand (and your dream business) on LinkedIn. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-fearlessness-8fec

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly email for a quiet mind + a rich life. Today I’m sharing why most people give up too soon (_right before_ they’re about to have a big breakthrough) and 3 practical tips to avoid that. “**But first— warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Artlist**](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)**.** [My LinkedIn post today](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7446891324768854016/) was all about the person you’re going to be in 5 years. And I’m getting a lot of questions about how I created the video for it. I could have spent weeks of time and thousands of dollars hiring a drone videographer and a sound editor. Instead, I spent _10 minutes_ thanks to Artlist. It has all the best video footage and AI models in one place. And they just released an AI music generator that is honestly incredible and made my soundtrack in 5 minutes. Learn more and [try it out here](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/d026938a-30fa-4eb3-9b5a-e597015a2581/Artlist.png?t=1775483476) Caption: # **CONTEXT** Most of us expect immediate results. We post on social media and check for likes every few minutes. We launch a business and obsess over early metrics. We try a new skill and give up if we're not immediately good at it. My hot take: Most people give up too soon. The most successful ones know The Bamboo Rule. When bamboo is planted, it shows absolutely _no visible progress_ for five years. (FIVE YEARS!) Nothing breaks through the soil. No sprouts. No evidence of life. But beneath the surface, it's developing an elaborate root system. Then something miraculous happens in year five. The bamboo shoots up 80+ feet in just six weeks. The biggest breakthroughs often follow this exact pattern. Many of us start projects or businesses with enthusiasm. But when we don't see immediate results, we assume it’s not working and give up. Or worse—we dig up our seeds to "see if they're growing," which actually kills our potential. Everyone who’s called an “overnight success” put in years of work and invisible growth to get to that one night. Here's my 3-Step Bamboo Method for a true “growth mindset.” ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **Step 1: Establish "Root Metrics"** Don't focus exclusively on visible outcomes. Instead, choose your "root metrics"—the foundational work that precedes big results. If you're growing your presence on LinkedIn, don't obsess over followers and impressions in your first few months. Instead, track: * Number of posts completed per week (consistency) * Quality connections made with other creators * Skills developed (writing, design, ideation) * Meaningful conversations in comments and messages These build your foundation—even when no one's watching. — **Step 2: Don't Dig Up Your Seeds** Give yourself 90 days minimum before quitting. Many people sabotage themselves with "seed-digging" behaviors: * Checking metrics constantly throughout the day * Deleting posts if they don’t get a lot of impressions immediately * Changing strategies before any of them has time to take root * Comparing your beginning to someone else's middle When you’re tempted to quit, remember: Your breakthrough is so much closer than you think. — **Step 3: Start a Bamboo Group** Find 3-5 other people who are working toward similar goals. Create a weekly check-in where: * Each person shares a small win (skill improvement, connection made) * Everyone commits to specific actions for the coming week * The group celebrates consistency more than visible results This will help keep you accountable when self-doubt inevitably creeps in. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** The most successful creators, entrepreneurs, and authors I've coached all share one trait: they know that extraordinary results require a little patience and consistency. Here's the harsh truth: If you give up too soon, you’ll never break through the soil. Remember this the next time you feel discouraged by a lack of visible progress. Your roots are growing stronger every day. Much love, Jade I’m lucky to have coached 1,100+ of the fastest-growing accounts on LinkedIn. The ones who succeeded? They committed to 12 weeks of posting consistently—and I taught them everything I know in order to get the best results. The next cohort of **[Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/)** starts on May 18th. There are **only 2 weeks left to get our Bias For Action discount!** Many of you know I was in marketing at LinkedIn and Google for the past 10+ years. Growing a personal brand is _the most effective marketing tool_ I’ve ever found. It’s the best way to attract clients to your business, get paid speaking gigs, start coaching, land your dream job or promotion, sell a major book deal, etc. Learn more about building your LinkedIn brand at [JoinArchimedes.com](http://JoinArchimedes.com). The application form only takes 3 minutes to complete. Cheers to planting seeds. 🌱 ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-growth-mindset-222a

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about six surprising ways to quiet your mind when life gets loud. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Replit](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)****.** I’ve been asked this question by quite a few people recently: "What skills should I learn so AI can’t take my job?" So I wrote a post about [_7 skills that make you irreplaceable in 2027_](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_replitpartner-activity-7444356999565258753-vx6H). The most important skill? Adaptability.  The richest people in 10 years will be the ones who adapted most quickly to the changing world around us. They’re the ones who realized that apps no longer take months to build and an expensive team of developers. They can be built by one creative typing what they want into Replit—especially with their just-released model, Agent 4. Plan, design and build an app—all at the same time. Give Replit’s newest model a try [here.](https://replit.com/signup?referral=jadebonacolta)“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: # **CONTEXT** This email is for everyone who could use a little more calm in their lives right now—including me. 😅 Being “mindful” doesn’t have to mean sitting cross-legged on the floor alone in silence. The so-called “point” of meditation is to simply get rid of some clutter in your mind. To do that? Start by _noticing_ all the clutter in there. Here are 6 surprising ways to practice mindfulness: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Walking Meditation** It’s time to debunk a myth. You don’t need to be sitting still in order to practice mindfulness. Here’s how this one works: 1. Go for a walk (ideally in nature). 2. Be mindful of every step you take. Pay attention to your breath. 3. Each time your mind wanders, just notice it. Then gently bring it back to your steps. You’ll feel more calm after just a few minutes of this. **2. Eating Meditation** Yes, you read that correctly. An eating meditation = savoring each bite of your food and being mindful of its taste (rather than rushing through meals to get to the next thing on your list). How it works: 1. Enjoy a meal alone and put your phone away. 2. Eat slowly. Take small bites of your meal and chew 10+ times. 3. Close your eyes. Notice the texture, temperature, flavor. When your mind wanders, simply bring it back. **3. Loving-Kindness Meditation** This one is so powerful. It involves sending positive vibes to yourself and others. How it works: 1. Carve out 10 mins in a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted. 2. Close your eyes and invite more love, health, happiness into your life. 3. Then picture a loved one vividly. Imagine sending _them_ that same love, health, and happiness. **4. Body Scan Meditation ** It’s so useful (yet surprisingly rare) for us to spend 10 minutes thinking about our body without any judgment. How it works: 1. Sit or lay down in a comfortable position. Close your eyes. 2. Slowly “check in” with each part of your body. Notice any sensations or feelings, then move on. 3. Start with your toes and slowly continue up until you reach the top of your head. **5. Sound Meditation ** Play soothing sounds, and pay attention to the sensations created in your body. How it works: 1. Find a comfortable and quiet place. (Noise-canceling headphones come in handy for this.) 2. Play a sound meditation. (I’m a fan of nature playlists on YouTube. [The one I’m using now is called Autumn Forest](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E9r3lGU5VP0).) 🍁 3. If your mind starts to wander, simply bring it back to the sounds. **6. Visualization Meditation ** Imagine yourself on this specific day, 10 years from now. What is your dream life, if you had _zero_ chance of failure? How it works: 1. Grab a pen and paper (or download this [beautiful, free PDF](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing) I made for you). 2. Imagine that it’s March 30, 2036 (exactly 10 years ahead). 3. Describe everything you do, from the moment you wake up. Where are you? Who are you living with? What is your health like? What is your job? How often do you travel? What’s your mindset like? This exercise is so powerful that [I wrote an entire post on it](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_how-to-accelerate-your-dream-career-activity-7287454619654344705-awuQ?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop&rcm=ACoAAAmPgf0B1V08MfKFd45qhdufeuVnOuoJTRQ). Many people told me it was the best thing I’ve shared. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Mindfulness isn’t about _not having_ thoughts. It’s about noticing your thoughts. [Tim Ferriss](https://tim.blog/2015/11/29/magic-of-mindfulness/) often talks about the magic of mindfulness. He once described our daily thoughts as a thunderstorm. Rather than standing in it, meditation is like walking inside your house and getting to observe the storm through the window. Try out these 6 methods. Find the one that gives you the best shelter from the storm. ——————————————————————————— Until next week, Jade P.S. My next coaching cohort of [Archimedes](https://joinarchimedes.com/) _just_ opened up. It starts on May 18th and we have a ton of surprises in store for this group. If you’ve been thinking about growing your personal brand, now is the time. We’ve already had quite a few members claim their spots: CEOs, founders, bestselling authors, keynote speakers, and more. Apply this week at [JoinArchimedes.com](http://JoinArchimedes.com) to take advantage of the Bias For Action Discount. Ben Meer, Colby Kultgen, and I truly can’t wait to meet you and help build your brand on LinkedIn. The three of us will teach you everything we know. ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-mindfulness-88fb

# **CONTEXT** The [World Happiness Report](https://www.worldhappiness.report/) was just released for 2026. And once again, Nordic countries dominate the top 6 spots as the most joyful populations in the world. Sweden holds the 5th position, thanks to a strong focus on public services, social trust and equality, high life expectancy, and low corruption levels. The country also offers a notable balance between urban living and access to nature. I think it’s also thanks to “_[Njuta](https://www.amazon.com/Njuta-Delight-Swedish-Savoring-Moment/dp/0063284081/ref=asc_df_0063284081/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=663407399279&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3917272443779948089&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011966&hvtargid=pla-2191707541181&psc=1&mcid=13f9b354a56e3a8aad8f77d5774c0d62)_” (pronounced nyoo-tah). In Swedish, njuta loosely translates to “savoring” or “delighting in.” It’s all about deeply enjoying the little things in life—and finding ways to **elevate ordinary moments**. Here are 5 ways to bring more “njuta” into your day: ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** **1. Slow mornings** Rather than gulping your coffee while doing five other things… * Carve out 10 minutes of your morning to be completely alone.  * Make your coffee / tea exactly how you like it. Carry it to your favorite corner of your house.  * Sit in the sun and sip it slowly. Read an article or a few pages of a book. “Njuta is to savor a suspended moment in time without pressure or demand.” —Niki Brantmark **2. Ambiance** Swedish homes tend to balance being minimalist and yet warm and inviting. * Install dimmers for all your lights. * Get a candle or two going. * Keep a soft blanket near your couch. A little ambiance can elevate any occasion. (Btw, I wrote this post about [quiet luxury: a minimalist approach to your wardrobe, home design, and lifestyle](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_quiet-luxury-a-minimalist-approach-to-your-activity-7129101717803036672-QkrW).) “One can furnish a room very luxuriously by taking out furniture rather than putting it in.” — Francis Jourdain **3. Cooking** Swedes tend to take their time—with both cooking and eating.  * They eat slowly. * Many know how to make their own bread.  * They only buy produce that’s in season. (I found this [free, seasonal food guide](https://www.seasonalfoodguide.org/).) “A Swede will tell you—if you allow yourself to long for something, it will taste all the sweeter when it lands on your plate.” — Niki Brantmark **4. Background music** Studies show that listening to music helps to reduces stress and improve your mood. * Start to “score” your day (like a movie). * In my home, there is _always_ soft music playing. Here are the [5 Spotify playlists that I use for deep work and focus](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jadebonacolta_life-hack-listen-to-brain-playlists-activity-7159530979663953920-AwZv). It immediately elevates every activity I do. Even the laundry can feel cinematic. **5. Walking in nature** “Despite 88% of Swedes living in towns and cities, they work hard to maintain a strong connection with nature.” — Niki Brantmark * Njuta is often a solo feeling (and easiest to experience when you’re outside). * Just you, walking in a forest or along the shore, noticing subtle sounds. Njuta comes from being quiet. No phone notifications. No talking. No noisy thoughts. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** It doesn’t take life-changing milestones to feel joy. The happiest people know how to elevate all of the little (seemingly insignificant) moments between those big milestones. This week, pick one thing from the Swedes' playbook. Maybe it's a slow morning with a hot drink, or going for a walk in nature. Just take a moment to notice the extraordinary within the ordinary. As Jimmy Johnson said, “The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” There's a quiet wisdom in this—a reminder that the small things have the greatest power to transform our days. ——————————————————————————— Btw, here’s the link to a full book about [Njuta](https://www.amazon.com/Njuta-Delight-Swedish-Savoring-Moment/dp/0063284081/ref=asc_df_0063284081/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=663407399279&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=3917272443779948089&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011966&hvtargid=pla-2191707541181&psc=1&mcid=13f9b354a56e3a8aad8f77d5774c0d62). It makes a great gift. Until next week, Jade P.S. Sending a warm welcome to everyone who joined The Quiet Rich community since last week! _[Learn more about The Quiet Rich here](https://www.thequietrich.co/)_. ☕️ ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-savoring-the-moment-d6a3

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about five books that have stood the test of time. If I were a betting woman, I’d say these are on every billionaire’s bookshelf. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Replit](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)****.** I love things that stand the test of time. Things that were written hundreds, or even _thousands_ of years ago in the case of the Stoics, and are still just as relevant today. This quote attributed to Darwin is a perfect example: _"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent — but the one most responsive to change."_ This is so relevant today. The richest people in 10 years will be the ones who adapted most quickly to the changing world around us. They’re the ones who realized that apps no longer take months to build and an expensive team of developers. They can be built by one creative typing what they want into Replit—especially with their just-released model, Agent 4.  I think Darwin would approve. Give Replit’s newest model a try _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** Marcus Aurelius ruled the Roman Empire nearly 2,000 years ago. He dealt with war, betrayal, plagues, and the pressure of leading millions of people. Every night, he'd sit down and write notes to himself about how to stay calm, stay focused, and not lose his mind. Those journal entries? Still a bestseller in 2026. That bewilders me. Because it means the things that stress us out today—uncertainty, difficult people, self-doubt, lack of motivation—are the exact same things that stressed out a Roman Emperor in 170 AD. And _this_ is why old books are so powerful. Their advice got pressure-tested by millions of readers across 50, 100, 2,000 years. And it’s still helpful today. 5 books that changed (and continue to change) how I think about my life: ——————————————————————————— # **THE 5 BOOKS** **1. **[_**Meditations**_](https://www.amazon.com/Meditations-New-Translation-Modern-Library/dp/0812968255)** — Marcus Aurelius** Written nearly 2,000 years ago by a Roman Emperor… to himself. It was never meant to be published. That's what makes it so raw and honest. It's a personal journal about managing stress, staying grounded, and focusing on what you can control. If you only read one book on this list, make it this one. **2. **[_**How to Win Friends and Influence People**_](https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034)** — Dale Carnegie** Published in 1936 and still one of the best-selling books of all time. Carnegie's core idea? People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care. Every chapter is a masterclass in listening, empathy, and making others feel valued. I re-read it every few years—and every time, I learn something new. That's how you know a book is good. **3. **[_**Man's Search for Meaning**_](https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.phUc2adLzv8edJKcJfYGiYmYQA_wfSFAPr6oNqdjFnbKjiy95ci0EjAEVKg9W5EEpWYY09hMuLSCD7Uil1qO9EC_Q0JaR82sI0d1QaG2rzd7BIB3OBF5ux4sNkljHGEjeAezRd84CS30usf_BSpmtjtHYd1k2ZitHs1mVPhIXeKkJuHT09oogUjFjY_rFyimwPqw-AULD_fQvv8gMpJXfoVX29_Pg8xfTvG5_bW__hg.DQJLnJHqQlTZ6uvYMGR6FmCfDcZLIxRsDKfbJIqEyr0&qid=1773676690&sr=1-1)** — Viktor Frankl** Frankl survived the Holocaust and wrote about how he found purpose in unimaginable suffering. His big insight: you can't always control what happens to you, but you can always control how you respond. Whenever I feel stuck, this book recalibrates my entire perspective. **4. **[_**The Alchemist**_](https://www.amazon.com/Alchemist-Spiritual-Self-Discovery-Novel_Get-Captivating/dp/0062315005/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.wyRbvJyC-p5lQL2OngA4gbGhBoGz0W-NFv2UaGR3nBGZjK-eQv8TR5nSEux-SWY5IlVatrycbE3lXfPLyn06YvmktAoY0d7gaFfm6eaknoEN478aSwdoC9UK2ZPOkcOy4r9qU4o03CVjVx03pjw_XDX3IeXxr2U_AUNgXI5jthF7zFXVFiLKvrE1r2TxChu-smIS6ueEzpyAN5OfGmY2dVF8aBKXwvLfzVNPH7Uf9-U.YaQV0P_CwpiuEc_U05rXgO0dZJVpRHw0unu77-CbMqE&qid=1773676884&sr=8-1)_** **_**— Paulo Coelho** A short, beautiful story about a shepherd who crosses the desert chasing a dream. It reads like a fable but hits like a life lesson. The core message? The journey toward your goal matters just as much as reaching it. I finished it in one sitting and immediately bought a copy for someone else. That's the kind of book it is. **5. **[_**The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People**_](https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1982137274/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SqwOwJ5zN4dTSawslkpGL3HNdNsaU4DRSacbUhSuOe8wb7aGMuW-uiZqaN-sJvD6_gGr9tUpgRNkPQUMOAUzg3v2FWfIO8XMejy5epdlo6w0Iqw83-hCVA2SoaB4kh9d2_vTLnoQw97CSgfuN89E1NE16ooCYL5qtMjo_xRZ5Rr013VWQaNX5zOqnyLt8QDfOfFYs1mdS8VfSN_jYJ0B9gSr1JrppQSJc7XRbofNmnA.rB9GlZtjLCf8mWLhWGxcE-7ifLJCcWfvFN7e3X9EUfo&qid=1773676977&sr=8-1)[** **](https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/1982137274/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.SqwOwJ5zN4dTSawslkpGL3HNdNsaU4DRSacbUhSuOe8wb7aGMuW-uiZqaN-sJvD6_gGr9tUpgRNkPQUMOAUzg3v2FWfIO8XMejy5epdlo6w0Iqw83-hCVA2SoaB4kh9d2_vTLnoQw97CSgfuN89E1NE16ooCYL5qtMjo_xRZ5Rr013VWQaNX5zOqnyLt8QDfOfFYs1mdS8VfSN_jYJ0B9gSr1JrppQSJc7XRbofNmnA.rB9GlZtjLCf8mWLhWGxcE-7ifLJCcWfvFN7e3X9EUfo&qid=1773676977&sr=8-1)**— Stephen Covey** Covey's framework has been a staple in personal development since 1989. My favorite idea from the book? "Begin with the end in mind." It's the same principle behind my [Rich List exercise](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing)— start by imagining your future self, then work backwards to decide how to live today. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Pick one. Just one. Read 10 pages a day (that's roughly 15 minutes), and you'll finish it in less than 30 days. In one month, you'll have finished a book that has shaped the thinking of millions before you. By the end of this summer, you'll have read all five. And here's the best part: these books meet you exactly where you are. Read _The Alchemist_ at age 25 and it's a story about chasing your dreams. Read it again at 45 and it's a story about trusting the journey you've already been on. The words don't change. You do. Forward this to someone who’ll read one of these with you. Happy reading. 📚 Much love, Jade P.S. Speaking of books that could stand the test of time— my friend [Nir Eyal](https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/) (bestselling author of _Indistractable_ and _Hooked_) just released his new book [_Beyond Belief_](https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief/) last week. His core idea? Your beliefs aren't facts—they're tools. And the ones you carry around without questioning might be the very thing holding you back. I think you’ll love it. [Grab a copy here.](https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief/) You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-timeless-books

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Yesterday was International Women’s Day, so today I’m celebrating all of the fearless women in our lives. ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** There are certain women in my life who walk into a room and make it brighter. Completely at ease in their own skin. Laughing a little louder, not apologizing for taking space, unbothered by what anyone thinks of them. Just a deep, unshakeable sense of who they are. I've always been quietly in awe of them. And I noticed what they have in common. Most of them have spent real, intentional time alone. Not lonely. Alone. They've taken themselves to dinner. Packed their life into a suitcase and moved to a new city where they didn’t know anyone. Applied to the thing they weren't "ready" for. Somewhere along the way, they stopped waiting for life to happen to them, and started building it for themselves. That's a version of confidence that no relationship can give you, no job title can grant you, and no amount of external validation can manufacture. I’ve been reflecting on my own journey with this. Some of the most confidence-building moments of my life have been the ones I did entirely on my own—with no one to lean on if it went sideways. Just me, figuring it out. That kind of self-trust isn't something you're born with. It's something you earn. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** 20 things everyone should do alone (at least once): **Solo experiences that build independence:** 1. Take a solo trip to explore a new city 2. Take yourself out to a fancy dinner. Eat at the bar with a good book 3. Spend a Sunday walking through a museum or art gallery, just you 4. Work from a coffee shop alone and strike up a conversation with a stranger 5. Go to a yoga or meditation retreat **Solo experiences that build courage:** 6. Negotiate your salary. You don't get what you deserve; you get what you ask for 7. Apply for the job you don't feel "ready" for 8. Attend a networking event alone and introduce yourself first 9. Set a boundary with someone you love, and hold it 10. Say no to something you're lukewarm about, without guilt or explanation **Solo experiences that build your dreams:** 11. Spend a ["think" weekend](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-direction-2) with no phone. Write down all your goals for the year 12. Spend 30 days learning something completely outside your comfort zone: a language, an instrument, a skill 13. Turn your passion into a business or side hustle 14. Take a course on personal finance and get your investments in order 15. Write down everything you want from life: career, relationships, health, lifestyle. Your ["rich life"](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AK36JEZV5fltCLPpHOHvtKFDFXg3bss3/view?usp=sharing) should feel _slightly unreasonable._ **Solo experiences that build self-love:** 16. Plan a dinner party and host it entirely by yourself 17. Take a boxing or jiu jitsu class 18. Buy yourself flowers on the way home from work. No occasion needed 19. Live alone (even for a little while). Design a home you're proud of 20. Realize that your own company is enough. It always has been. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Of course, you don't have to do everything alone in life. But there is an incredible confidence that comes from knowing—without a shadow of a doubt—that you _could_. Every time you travel somewhere solo, ask for the raise, or hold a boundary you used to cave on, you're depositing something into yourself that no one can ever take back. Self-belief is the most underrated form of wealth there is. As Brianna Pastor puts it: "If anyone is magically going to appear and suddenly make your life better, just know that person is always going to be you." Happy Women's History Month. If you know an incredible woman who has done any of these, share this with her. She deserves to be celebrated. Much love, Jade You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-self-belief

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about a deceptively simple habit to reclaim time and clarity. “**But first—a warm thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** I read a book 10 years ago that feels more relevant today than ever before: _What Got You Here Won’t Get You There_ by Marshall Goldsmith. If we keep doing the same things that have always worked in the past, we’re going to be left behind. Building products is a perfect example of this. It has never been easier to start a company or a side-hustle of your own. Platforms like Replit empower anyone, anywhere, to build a full, production-ready app. Something like this used to cost $100k and a team of developers. Now anyone can describe it in English and watch it come to life in a weekend. The future is in the hands of those who adapt. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** It's 2:47 PM. You're making real progress on that project you've been putting off. Then comes that familiar itch in your palm, the phantom buzz in your pocket. Before you know it, you've spent 45 minutes scrolling through ‘Real or Cake?’ videos, wondering where the time went. Sound familiar? Same. Our phones have become like an all-you-can-eat buffet of distraction. We keep coming back for more even though we know we'll regret it later. And with each helping of mindless scroll, we're eating away at our most valuable resource: our ability to focus. I was intrigued when Stanford neuroscientist Dr. Andrew Huberman shared a deceptively simple method to rebuild our concentration. He calls it the "No-Go" Method. ——————————————————————————— # **METHOD** Here's how it works: The next time you feel that magnetic pull toward your phone—maybe you're waiting for coffee, or there's a lull in conversation—simply think the words "no-go" and let the urge pass. That's it. Seriously. No elaborate techniques, no expensive apps. Just a gentle "no-go," stop your hand from reaching in your pocket, and return to the present moment. That tiny decision to not check your phone? It’s like a _bicep curl_ for your willpower muscle. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Every time you successfully "no-go" is a rep in your mental gym. Just as you wouldn't expect to bench press 200 pounds without training, you can't expect perfect focus right away. Just try to “no-go” at least **1x every hour. ** **Here are some prime moments to practice:** * When you first wake up (Pro tip: Buy a $10 physical alarm clock and charge your phone in another room) * During meals with friends or family * In the middle of deep work sessions As soon as you start training your concentration muscle, you’ll be _shocked_ by how many other areas of your life improve: sharper focus, better productivity, reduced anxiety. You’ll also reclaim countless tiny moments that make up a life well-lived. Much love, Jade P.S. Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it with someone who’ll try this method with you. You can catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-concentration-3410

Welcome to [The Quiet Rich](https://www.thequietrich.co/), your weekly guide to a quiet mind and rich life. Today we’re talking about the #1 person everyone needs in their life (and how to be that person for someone else). “**But first— big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Replit**](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)**.** 3 years ago, I couldn’t see myself as a founder or a writer. I was good at my 9-5 job at Google and was so risk-averse. But if you asked my closest friends? They all saw that future for me. **It’s so important to surround yourself with people who have even bigger dreams for your life than you do.** It has truly never been easier to start your own company. You can build an app in a single weekend thanks to platforms like Replit. It handles the entire mobile stack, from front-end to back-end, and even helps you get published on the App Store. There’s nothing stopping you from a dream to start something of your own. Learn more and try it out _[here](http://replit.com/refer/jadebonacolta)_.“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/0a6e5b64-2891-48ac-9cba-81387e358bb3/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__4_.png?t=1771780884) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** This 1-minute video gives me chills every time I watch it. Youtube: A Love Letter To My Wife @leilahormozi (https://youtu.be/OXleZ-BaEO0?feature=shared) Entrepreneur Alex Hormozi had just lost everything. His final “Hail Mary” bet on his business didn’t work. He sat down with his then-girlfriend, Leila, and told her he was a sinking ship—and that if she wanted to leave, he would understand. She said she would sleep under a bridge with him if it came to that. They’re now worth hundreds of millions. And it’s in part thanks to Leila’s unwavering belief in Alex at his lowest point. A true ride-or-die partner. We all have people in our lives who show up when it's fun, easy, or convenient. Those are daylight friends. **But the truly rare friends?** **They show up for you in your darkest hour when you have nothing to offer in return.** Those are your "day one" people. And they are worth more than any investment you'll ever make. The best way to find dark-hour friends? _Become_ that kind of person for someone else. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** 3 powerful ways to reignite someone’s self-belief: **1. Show up—even when you don't know what to say.** Most people don't abandon their friends in dark moments out of selfishness. They simply don’t want to say the wrong thing. So they say nothing. They wait for the storm to pass, planning to reach out once things get better. But that's not when they need you most. Try something like this: "I've been thinking about you, and I keep picking up my phone and putting it down because I don't know what to say. But I didn't want another day to go by without you knowing I'm here." You don't need a grand gesture. A text. A coffee or takeout dinner dropped at their door. Just something that tells them they’re not alone. — **2. Remind them of their track record.** When someone is in a 3-month dip, they can't see their 3-year climb. That's where you come in and hold up a mirror. Instead of vague encouragement, get specific: "Remember when you faced [similar challenge] back in 2022? You got through it. I was there—I saw you. And remember that unexpectedly good thing that came out of it?” Concrete evidence is so much harder to dismiss than general encouragement. — **3. Give them something to hold on to.** When people are in a dark place, they lose the ability to imagine things getting better. So lend them your vision for their future. Not generic optimism like "things will work out." (They'll ignore that.) Instead: "I genuinely believe that in two years, you're going to look back at this as the moment that changed everything for you." You're not sugarcoating their reality. You're offering a perspective they temporarily can't see on their own. ——————————————————————————— # **WHY IT WORKS** Everyone needs one voice. Just one. One person who believes in them so fully that their own doubt doesn't stand a chance. Think about the Leilas in your life—the people who showed up for you before you had anything to show for yourself. Reach out to one of them this week. Tell them how much they mean to you. You could even forward this email and say you immediately thought of them when you read it. And then ask yourself: Who in your life could use a voice like that right now? One of the greatest gifts you can give another person is the unwavering belief that they're going to make it. ——————————————————————————— All my love, Jade **Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. ** **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Trusting Your Timing](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-trusting-your-timing): “Jade, this one hit me like a ton of bricks, in a good way. I'm sure you'll get lots of responses with the same sentiment. I really appreciate your newsletters and advice. It's been one of many things propelling me along my journey and I'm thankful.“ “One of the best thing I've done this year is signing up for your newsletter… The way you casually explain life’s daily problems with the most practical solutions possible. Thank you.” “I’m not the kind of person who replies to newsletters. But this one especially hit me!” “I truly enjoy your newsletter—it’s the only one that never feels like noise in my inbox and honestly the only one I make time to read. “ “You are an old soul living in a modern world. You have a knack for communicating tried and true wisdom from both ancient and modern masters.” “You are insightful, pragmatic, empathetic, thoughtful, and most importantly, succinct. In a world where there is so much information, I really like the format of your content which is precise but has depth. “ “Love receiving your newsletter every Monday. Although I'm happily retired - for the last 12 years - the content is still relevant for any age.” I appreciate each one of you so very much. ❤️ Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-dark-hour-friends

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today we’re talking about the energy for February: trust your timing. Scroll down for it. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** ****[Artlist](https://artlist.io/?artlist_aid=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_source=affiliate_p&utm_medium=jadebonacolta_3085&utm_campaign=jadebonacolta_3085&_bhlid=49c99d92643e1dbff662ae83f475dc7858b6c52a)****.** I think the most underrated life skill is to question the defaults. The 7 most expensive words in business are “we have always done things this way.” For example, Super Bowl ads have always needed 6 months and millions of dollars to produce. Artlist asked “what if” and produced theirs in 5 days with a small team. Most "impossible" projects are just waiting for someone to ask "what if?" 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Every person who looks like an "overnight success" spent 10 years grinding to get to that one night. But we don't see those 10 years. We only see that night. February is about releasing the pressure of a timeline. Some people get married at 25 and divorced by 29. Some find their life calling at 48 and it's the best thing they've ever built. Some come to a big realization and quit their job at 60. It's all normal. Stop treating your life like a race. If it were a race, this is definitely not a finish line you want to sprint towards. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** Here's your 3-Step February Reset to trust your timing: **Step 1: Delete Instagram for 7 days** Just 7 days. I promise you'll survive. When you remove the comparison loop, you'll stop measuring your worth against curated snapshots of other people's lives. You'll realize how much mental energy you've been wasting on scrolling instead of building. Maybe put a physical copy of a new book on your nightstand. Read a few pages in the morning (to replace the time you used to spend scrolling). Feed your brain healthy things as soon as you wake up. — **Step 2: Keep a "small wins" note** Open your Notes app right now. Title it "Small Wins - February 2026." Every single day for the next 7 days, jot down one thing you're proud of. The great pitch you sent. The boundary you held. The day you showed up at the gym when you didn't feel like it. The tough conversation you finally had. At the end of the week, reread the list. You'll be impressed by how much progress you made when you stop looking sideways at other people's timelines. — **Step 3: Use the 10-10-10 rule** When your inner critic shows up (and it inevitably will), ask yourself: Will this matter in 10 days? 10 months? 10 years? That dinner you burned? Won't matter in 10 days. The project that didn't go perfectly? You won't even remember it in 10 months. The relationship that ended? In 10 years, you'll see it was redirecting you toward something better. This simple filter will help you distinguish between real setbacks and imaginary ones. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** The best things take time. Your career. Your relationships. Your sense of self. No one's handing out awards for hitting life milestones the fastest. The only timeline that matters is yours. So stop apologizing for where you are. Stop explaining why you haven't "figured it out yet." Stop treating your journey like it needs to mirror someone else's. Trust your timing. Good things are coming. 🫶 All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Share it with someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back! **Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. Here are just a few of the _hundreds_ 🥹 of incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [How to Be “Rich” in Relationships](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-relationships): “I’m 52 and have read countless newsletters in my life 😅, but yours truly stands out. Please keep going and keep up your fabulous spirit. Sometimes I even read your lines to my teenage daughters, to remind them of what really matters in life.” “The only fun thing about Monday is waiting for your newsletter.” “Forever grateful for your presence in my inbox Jade! I've been wanting to tell you for some time I'm just a big fan of your content and work here and on LinkedIn! You're the absolute coolest and want to surround myself with more people like you!” “Continue inspiring and empowering others — you’re making such a difference!” “I can honestly tell that you can read my mind. You’re like my pastor at church each week, delivering the message I need to hear. You’re wonderful!” “I love your emails. I read them all and forward them often. Thank you for sharing! Your ideas enrich my life!” I appreciate each one of you so much. Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](http://TheQuietRich.co) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-trusting-your-timing

Welcome to **[The Quiet Rich](https://thequietrich.co/)**, your weekly email for a quiet mind and a rich life. Today you’ll get the best method I’ve found to keep your social cup full. “**Before we dive in, big thanks to today’s sponsor,**** **[**Appy.AI**](https://appy.ai/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta) Some of the most important relationships I made over the past 3 years were because I became a content creator and founder. And I won’t lie—it took _a lot _for me to think of myself as both of those things. (I was good at my 9-5 job, and very averse to risk.) But it has truly never been easier to start your own company (and the upside is infinitely higher). You can literally build a product in a weekend by typing what you want into Appy. It’s adaptive, so it won’t break on even the most complex idea. It just handles all the technical stuff and brings your dream to life. Learn more and try it out [here](https://appy.ai?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=domain_experts_february&utm_content=jade_bonacolta).“ — View image: (https://media.beehiiv.com/cdn-cgi/image/fit=scale-down,format=auto,onerror=redirect,quality=80/uploads/asset/file/65727cfc-fde0-4944-a2e8-52c8b50b8d0a/Grey_and_White_Simple_Modern_Professional_General_Linkedin_Banner__3_.png?t=1770140609) Caption: ——————————————————————————— # **CONTEXT** "One of the greatest tragedies in life is that you are loved more than you will ever know." —Alan Watts Your existence in this world creates so many ripples of goodness. But you'll never hear about most of it. Why? Because we rarely tell people how much we appreciate them. We feel it deeply, but rarely say it out loud. The result? A silent epidemic of people who feel under-appreciated, surrounded by others who genuinely appreciate them. For example: * Someone still thinks about the good advice you gave them months ago * Someone's child asks about you when you haven't visited in a while, because kids can sense genuinely good people * Someone at work finds your presence calming, even when you’re quiet in meetings * Someone wishes they had your perspective on life, even though you feel like you're still figuring it all out * Your willingness to be vulnerable in conversations gives others permission to be real too * There's a group chat where your name comes up fondly when you're not around * The boundaries you set and maintain have inspired someone else to value themselves more Why don’t we tell people how much we appreciate them? We assume the people we care about _know_. It’s obvious, right? (It’s not.) Now’s the time to change that. ——————————————————————————— # **THE METHOD** **The 1-Minute Rule:** Every time someone crosses your mind, spend just 1 minute reaching out to them. * Send a voice note to a friend: _"I was thinking about you today and just wanted to say I'm so glad you're in my life."_ * Text a coworker who helped you solve a problem: _"Hey—I know it was just a quick conversation on Tuesday, but your advice helped so much. Thank you."_ * Call your mom and tell her a specific story: _"Remember when I was 12 and terrified to try out for the tennis team? I still remember the advice you gave me.” _(More parents deserve to hear how their words shaped you.) The beauty of this method? You're not waiting for holidays or birthdays. You're expressing gratitude in real-time, when it matters most. **Why 1 minute?** Because it's short enough that you can't say you’re too busy. No elaborate planning required. Just open your phone and hit send. ——————————————————————————— # **CLOSING THOUGHTS** Life is too short to let words go left unsaid. The compound effect of the 1-Minute Rule is powerful. Relationships deepen. Your social cup always feels full. And you live without regret, because the people in your life knew exactly how much they meant to you. So here's your challenge: Start today. Send one text. Make one call. Tell someone why they matter. One minute is all it takes to close the gap between how much you care and how much they know it. All my love, Jade Enjoyed this week’s newsletter? Forward it to someone who’ll appreciate it. **Or send me a note back!** Seriously, just hit ‘reply.’ I read every single email you send me and it means the world to know when something resonated with you. 🫶 Here are just a few of the incredibly kind replies from last week’s newsletter on [Clean Slates](https://www.thequietrich.co/newsletter/rich-in-clean-slates): “I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Jade.” “Your newsletter is the only one I read whenever it comes in and the one I forward to friends, family and colleagues most often. Thank you for being you!” “Wow Jade!!!! That was so well written and scarily “on the money” **I appreciate each one of you so much.** Catch up on all my writing at [TheQuietRich.co](https://www.thequietrich.co/) ——— You are reading a plain text version of this post. For the best experience, copy and paste this link in your browser to view the post online: https://thequietrich.beehiiv.com/p/rich-in-relationships

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