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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/58hvh8ugrogvmot7u4/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/25h2h9u3k03v2eb8u4/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ ********************** About my last email... ********************** When I was in high school, my mom and I would often have the same playful exchange. I'd share a story about something I said or did, shoot her a knowing smile after, and she'd roll her eyes or tell me to watch myself, because my head was growing too big to fit through the door. "Ma," I'd always fire back. "I don't have an ego. I just like how awesome I am!" Then everybody in the whole room would laugh. Okay fine, my mom and I would laugh. Okay fine, I would laugh. Because I like how awesome I am. And then I became a creator. Hoo boy, did that put my ego (err, awesomeness) in check! Whether I was writing or, later, hosting podcasts and docuseries or, even later, giving keynotes, I was forced to confront the harsh reality of developing my ideas into something, anything, capable of resonating. Because the truth is we rarely "have" resonant ideas. We have to develop them. Which requires us to aerate them and iterate on them once we do. Ideas are these mysterious living things. They need oxygen. We need to expose them to light before they're sturdy, powerful, thriving things. If we want something to grow, well, we have to ensure we've got something genuinely growable. Imagine that! (No seriously, please imagine that. The world is too full of people trying to force generic ideas to spread...) Given the humbling reality of creating things (and trying to make them actually great), I think it matters that we strut once in awhile. We need moments to really feel ourselves. A cocky smile. A knowing glance. A story we can't wait to share because I mean, come on, it feels good to feel good and we ought to give ourselves permission to share moments when we felt good—or overcame what felt bad. We should swap stories of something we said or did before shooting a friend or family member a knowing smile. This brings me to last week's email, where I announced the idea for my next book and the start of my process to create it. 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I thought I'd written a halfway decent empathy statement too, modeled after the park bench scene in Good Will Hunting (which made me cackle to myself as I wrote it). But the response I got was, well... A fraction of the responses I got last week (thank you!) ​ I haven't even had time to respond to those emails, I've been so busy with the Green Room ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/n2hohquvz5v836s0ug/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlLw== ) retreat in Boston. (Shouts to all the members who trusted me enough with their speaking businesses and their ideas/speeches to enroll and to fly out here for a couple days of fun and hard work!) After that experience, I'm exhausted but my cup is full, and I couldn't find it within myself to write an essay at the level you're expecting this week, but I wanted to take a moment to say THANK YOU for the response to my book idea. But as with all ideas, the actual work is aerating and iterating en route to consistently resonating. Last week, I took one step in that direction. I gave my tiny little spark some additional oxygen, and VOOOF! A burst of fire. That felt validating, but it's also insufficient when the goal is to create a bonfire, not a single flame. Here's how you can contribute more oxygen to this idea: I'm looking for 3 types of stories from professional keynote speakers to include in the book right now. These will not be the only stories I feature, but the only way to figure this out is to do the thing, so these are just the 3 types of stories I already know I need to gather. I'll find more clarity for myself and build out the book from there. * BREAKING IN 🚪 How'd you get started? What was your first paid gig? I want stories about starting, but specifically so. Not the journey. The moment. The surprise inquiry, the accidental gig, the "wait, hold on, did you say you will pay me to do this?" realization. The crazier, the better! I don't want to hear about how you parlayed your amazing history as an executive or your bestselling book or your summiting of Mount Everest into a gig. I want to hear about how naive, reactive, or foolish you were when you started. I want to hear crazy, surprising, but true tales of how it began for you. * BOMBING HARD 😭 Comedians don't swap stories on podcasts about how they crushed every gig. They laugh about when they bombed—and how that forged them, improving their mentalities, their skill, their material. What's the worst you've ever bombed on a stage? (Me, I'll never forget the one guy glaring up at me as I ate it on stage. He looked like if Pixar created a fire chief, complete with a bristly moustache covering his mouth, like a spiky comb facing down, glued onto his upper lip, arms folded over his beer belly.) What about you? * BUILDING A LIFE ❤️ I once told a speaker about my wife being pregnant with baby #2, and he said, "Oh, you're having kids on purpose! Yeah, most people who do this work don't..." If I'm going to honor my promise that this book is less "what to do" and more "what it's like," then we can't solely focus on the moments between leaving home and returning after a gig. I have to include what you confront in your head, your heart, and your home as you build your life, not just your pipeline. Mental health challenges, relationship struggles, your conflicting sources of identity (how you see yourself vs. how the audience sees you vs. how your loved ones see you and the whiplash of moving between the three). I need stories of despair, of triumph, of breaking up, of getting back together, of installing weird but effective little agreements or guidelines or practices to make life happen, not just gigs. As a dad of two young kids, I also really want stories of becoming and remaining a good and involved parent while being a professional speaker—especially from other dads! If you have any of these stories, please submit a brief summary ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/48hvh7um4qm5rgaqu7/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlL2Jvb2staW50ZXJ2aWV3P3NvdXJjZT1jb3B5X2xpbms= ). I want to hear what was surprising, eye-opening, or hard about it. No generic sob stories or case studies, please. I want specific, real, and memorable. I promise to honor and respect you (and your loved ones, if they appear) by telling your story with a delicate hand. This is not a book of cautionary tales. This is a book meant to honor the folks doing this work, including you! (PS: Thank you to friends who have already expressed their interest in contributing their stories, like Mitch Joel, Mel Deziel, and Mark Schaefer. I owe you all replies!) I promise to keep this initial spark glowing until it remains a roaring fire, aerating what I'm doing along the way, right here in this space. Again, thank you. I've written online since 2005. To have an idea I feel so personally invested in pursuing also connect as deeply as it did last week is rare. The path forward is going to humble me, but I've gotten somewhat used to it. It helps to have you in my corner. I can picture the future too. They we are, standing together on some floral patterned hotel carpet in Atlanta ... or surrounded by glass and black iron beams in a redesigned factory in Boston ... or stealing a quiet moment at a bar in Cleveland. There we are, sharing stories of something we said or did, laughing to ourselves. We don't have egos. We just love how awesome we are. That's all from me for now! Reminder to please subscribe to my YouTube channel ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/wnh2h6uqevq5w8alux/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vamF5YWN1bnpv ) and my podcast ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh65l7ddh9hz052q25b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/reh8h9umgvm20kh6u6/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3BvZGNhc3Q= ). I'm off next week but will return in two Fridays. In the meantime, remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox in next Friday! 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/58hvh8ugde9z8xu7u4/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/25h2h9u3p5oezwu8u4/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ ************************* I'm writing my next book! ************************* Today, I'm sharing a little update about this big next step for me, as well as sharing a little material I've drafted to help clarify the book concept, almost like a messy prologue I could use later. I'm sharing this stuff many months before I actually finish the draft for four reasons: * Stories. I'm on the hunt, and if you're a paid speaker at any career stage with some stories to tell, please fill out this form! ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/qvh8h8udmx6055hguk/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlL2Jvb2staW50ZXJ2aWV3 ) If you know others, please forward them that link. * Accountability. By finally talking about it publicly, I'm making an implied promise to you and to myself that I will at long last commit the time and say no to other things as as result. * Marketing. Most people wait until something is almost or already public to talk about it. That's a huge mistake. Sharing ideas early, before we feel ready, is how we sharpen them and validate them. It's also a great way to build anticipation so the launch is more successful. (Imagine a chef who wants to open a restaurant but never lets anyone taste any dishes before putting them on the menu and never talks about the restaurant before opening night. That's a recipe (eh? ehhh?) for disaster. * Breathing. I feel like I'm suffocating, friend. I haven't written a book since 2018 (Break the Wheel: Question Best Practices, Hone Your Intuition, and Do Your Best Work ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/g3hnhwum8vzk58b3u9/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2JyZWFrLXRoZS13aGVlbA== ).) I also haven't given myself permission to write much lately, at least not in a deep, uninterrupted way. Thankfully, the business is doing exceptionally well, the family is settled and happy after we moved last year, and I'm SO ready to feel my fingers on the keyboard each day, as the voice in my head becomes the voice on the page. (Flow. I can't wait for flow.) Crucially, I've also made peace with something which has troubled me for awhile. There's a book everyone says I should write, and then there's the book I'm actually writing. The book everyone says I should write is the basic advice book about my topic, resonance. I'm very proud of the premise I own in people's minds (resonance over reach) and all the IP built on top of it. I'll continue to write about that of course. But when someone tells me, "You should write that book, Jay," it's not because they want to read it. It's because they believe it's the best direction for my business and for me personally. They're wrong on both counts. Turns out there's a difference between a book you should write and a book you need to write. *** ************************* The book I need to write: ************************* -------------------------------------------------------------- I'm writing the Kitchen Confidential of professional speaking. -------------------------------------------------------------- Man, just writing that to you feels so freeing! It's out there now. It's also really fun to think about too, isn't it? If you haven't read it, Kitchen Confidential is the creative nonfiction book from Anthony Bourdain recounting his adventures working in restaurants as a cook. Anyone who knows me knows I'm a huge Bourdain fan. (Can't wait to see the A24 movie about his early life next month!) The thing is, my book won't just be my stories. Mine will dot the chapters for sure, but most of the stories will be from other speakers: friends, mentors, heroes, newcomers to my network ... maybe even you. (Fill out this form if you've got stories from the trenches to tell. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/qvh8h8udmx6055hguk/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlL2Jvb2staW50ZXJ2aWV3 )) This is a book for actual pros who get it—and anyone who wants to break in or peer in. I also believe this is a missing artifact in the world of public speaking. There are lots of books for beginners, most of which focus on the fear or skill of public speaking. There are lots of books about the theory, covering rhetorical devices and story structure and such. A handful of books also exist to help professional speakers build their businesses, mosts of which are really bad, some of which are okay, and only one of which I recommend routinely, because it's truly great: The Referable Speaker ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/9qhzhdudv72lmoizu3/aHR0cHM6Ly9ib29rc2hvcC5vcmcvcC9ib29rcy90aGUtcmVmZXJhYmxlLXNwZWFrZXIteW91ci1ndWlkZS10by1idWlsZGluZy1hLXN1c3RhaW5hYmxlLXNwZWFraW5nLWNhcmVlci1uby1mYW1lLXJlcXVpcmVkLWFuZHJldy1kYXZpcy81OWI1NzI3ZmE4MzE5MzFhP2Vhbj05NzgxNzc0NTgxMTg2JmJrc2hwLWFzdHJvPXQ= ) from Michael Port and pal Andrew Davis. But there is no book of stories by the pros, for the pros. I think about it like this: Plenty of books tell you what to do. This book will show you what it's like. I want to write a book I'd personally read. A book my friends would read. A book a speaker flying to Scottsdale for another gig would read, laughing and nodding along as they devour each chapter before storing their tray table and putting their seat back in the upright position. I imagine a group of speakers swapping stories in a Vegas green room before someone mentions hearing this story about this speaker in this book. "Oh I've read that! Great book!" Then the others who haven't read it immediately take out their phones. This book will take you past the pablum, showing you what happens in the real world to real speakers. Speakers like you, behind you, ahead of you. That is the book I want to write. The book I need to write. I'm calling it... ******************* Bag Full of Dongles ******************* ----------------------------------------------------------------- Adventures in the Weird, Wonderful World of Professional Speaking ----------------------------------------------------------------- Because the truth is, this work isn't all the glamor shots from the stage. More often, it feels like lugging around a bag full of dongles–and if you instantly chuckled at the title, then you get it. You’re an insider. Part of the tribe. This book is for you. For us. It seeks to honor your work and speak to your reality much more than any other book about speaking, whose pages offer plenty of frameworks, advice, and tips, but simply don’t capture the truth about this work. We need to capture the reality, not just to entertain us (though these pages will–and the catharsis matters to speakers who can sometimes feel lonely). More than that, it’s only in hearing real stories from real speakers that professionals like us really learn. This happens in green rooms. It happens over drinks and dinners at the event. But it doesn’t happen often enough. In writing this book, I'll press all of those learned, felt experiences and lessons into an artifact which can be passed between speakers, making your business easier and more enjoyable to build—and the entire industry more transparent and accessible to more voices and more types of people. You’ll scribble down ideas from your peers and your heroes to apply to your next gig, and you’ll smile as you stand backstage and realize every moment over the past few days resembled the book you just read. Because art imitates life, and in this case, that life is yours. This is our Kitchen Confidential. This is our truth—a combination of love letters, cautionary tales, and woulda-coulda-shouldas from real pros doing real work. * * * ****************************** Empathy statement for the book ****************************** I'm a big believer in writing about the feeling of a major project, like a show or a book, before you create the actual thing. The world of Hollywood productions often uses things like log lines and empathy statements to clarify a new series, so years ago, I borrowed the idea to create my version of empathy statements (longwinded as mine tend to be) to anchor the project. It's a kind of “starter dough” for the rest of what I create. The flavor, the consistency, the taste of the thing is guided by the empathy statement, as I answer an important audience question: “Why should I care?” Here's the empathy statement for Bag Full of Dongles: If you asked most speaking coaches about stagecraft, they'd probably give you a solid framework. The three Ps. The five Cs. Something with a pyramid. They've read every book. They've watched every viral TED Talk at 1.5x speed. They can tell you about vocal variety and the power pause and why you should never put more than six words on a slide. But I bet they can't tell you what it smells like in a green room. They've never actually sat there on a couch from the 1970s and watched a face you've only seen on YouTube walk in, sit down, and talk to you like a peer. Because in the green room, you're all peers. If I asked them about what it takes to be a great speaker, they'd probably give you a syllabus of their personal favorites. They may have even been booked a few times. But they've felt that specific kind of silence in a cavernous ballroom at 7am, standing at the back while the AV crew argues about the confidence monitor, knowing you’ve got 60 minutes until you have to channel the mediocre breakfast burrito room service delivered into an extraordinary experience for 400 real estate agents. Ask a training organization about client relationships, and they'll give you five outreach scripts and their template for testimonial requests. But they've never gotten an email from a brand's L&D leader before heading to the airport—Hey, Sam, sorry for the last-minute change but—asking if you can cut 10 minutes and tweak the topic slightly and make sure you are being “practical” and maybe weave in a slide about that big new tech product in B2B marketing. And they've never felt the urge to write back in shouty-caps how you really feel about the request, but instead you say yes, absolutely, no problem, because you're a goddamn pro and you know giving the signature talk is still the plan, because it’s been intentionally built and constantly validated to resonate to any room, with any crowd, no matter what. They have no idea what it means to walk out of a venue and negotiate between two versions of themselves. Out of the expo hall and back to the room or rental car, face barely moving after more animation than Pixar, energy returned to a calm baseline—or battery levels blinking red. For 45 minutes, you were a superhero. Now you're back moving through the earth as a mere mortal. But you're no longer sure which version of yourself is the "real" one. Not when you feel the most alive you ever feel once you plant two feet firmly on a stage and hold a clicker in your hand and sense a room fixated on you. Not when you know all the moves of that one signature bit which creates an applause break mid-speech every time. Not when giving a talk makes you feel present in a way you almost never feel anywhere else. Is that the real you? Or is it the one walking out alone? The one eating yet another basic burger or sad salad, scrolling your phone on bleached white sheets, setting three alarms for 4:20, 4:25, 4:30 in the morning. They'll tell you this work requires sacrifice. But they've never argued with their spouse late into the night, between diaper changes and bottle feedings, as you swear you're leaving your family because you're doing this for your family, when deep down you know you're doing it for you. Because it's making you money and it's also a drug, and you're dependent and addicted. And you don't know what else to do. Lots of people want to help speakers, but they've never had to do the math on whether there's time to eat a quick meal in Nashville before catching an Uber to the airport to fly to Atlanta, once you factor in giving your talk AND doing your Q&A after AND talking to a line of people near the coffee station AND figuring out a polite way to tell that one person currently sharing their life story to move it along because you have a line of people waiting for you and a flight to catch to Atlanta … so you can do this all again tomorrow. They've written about stage presence. But they've never stood backstage before speaking to 2,000 dentists and gone completely still inside, not because you're nervous but because you're loading. "Please welcome to the stage—" It's showtime, and you're right where you're meant to be. There you have it! I'm on my way. Thanks for the nudge. Reminder: if you're a speaker with stories to tell about this work and this life, consider filling out this form. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/p9u25wkr4wf9h2nvprmtqhpmnzk8nienvdqek43o03qz2v2vxdd2p47wgxxxk9xx7ek3on6qepk0q235e0k4p4lg25zmn0kqleewn3z8znde4wmer8oxlz4xo82cgn7ql/qvh8h8udmx6055hguk/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlL2Jvb2staW50ZXJ2aWV3 )​ I'll start scheduling interviews later this year. That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox in next Friday! 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/qvh8h8udm5nx9kfguk/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/9qhzhdudvm97o8czu3/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ Hello, my friend! I'm at peak levels of excitement because something I've wanted to build for years is finally happening. In two weeks, the first retreat for the Green Room takes place. The Green Room is my group program for professional speakers to build their businesses together, doing the right work, in the right order, according to how revenue + impact actually happen. Later this month, we gather in Boston to run our talks, capture video footage, improve our positioning and bookability, and connect as human beings without any algorithms or screens in the way. I'm so grateful to be doing this work, and I'll be forming the next small group later this year. Learn more about the Green Room and consider applying to enroll here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/3ohphdu35lzwewipun/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luZ3JlZW5yb29tLm5vdGlvbi5zaXRlLw== ). Perfect for speakers who are charging (or should soon be charging) $10k+ per gig. * Today, I wanted to share two videos I'm really proud to have produced recently, because they debunk two major things that hold back people from booking more and better speeches and turning their expertise and ideas into both a sustainable business and a meaningful level of impact. ​ ********************************************** Why People Often Struggle to Earn Speaker Fees ********************************************** I remember thinking, Oh, you're talking about me, and you don't seem to know or care. I was having coffee with another speaker during a break at a marketing conference. He had been a social media avatar to me for several years, and now we were swapping stories about sharing stages. Except mine sounded like, "I can't believe I get to...!" and his sounded like, "Can you believe I have to...?" This particular speaker was formerly an executive at a massive and very famous brand. He'd won awards. He'd opened events on the keynote stage. But then a funny thing happened: He left the brand, and his speaking leads promptly dried up. "Can you believe I have to convince these event planners to book me? Meanwhile, they book all these speakers who have never held the jobs I've held!" Oh, you're talking about me, and you don't seem to know or care. I remember nodding along, trying to stay agreeable, but all I could think was, Yeah, because you were only ever hired for your logo. Not his ideas. Not his performance. Not his willingness to serve event organizers or attendees. He was the classic big-brand exec speaker, appearing so an event could sell tickets. "Look who's speaking! People from LEGO! Marriott! GE! Google!" But there's a very big difference between being a "fill seats" speaker and actually doing the job a speaker is meant to do: fill minds and hearts. Unfortunately, in the years since transitioning my business from full-time speaking to helping others improve their talks, speaking skills, and speaking revenue, I've only seen the mentality of that former exec more often, not less. Right now, it's showing up in my inbox in the form of "big name" entrepreneurs. They always saunter over with the same request: "Can you help me get booked more? Paid more? Can you help me speak more?" Whenever I talk to them, what I learn quickly is they mean something slightly different. "Can you get me on stages so then I can show up and speak?" Nope. No I cannot. I can help people do all sorts of things, including get paid (or get paid more) to speak. What I most certainly cannot and will not entertain is that, by virtue of doing something successful over there, you are now suddenly qualified to book a stage and speak to a crowd over here. These are wholly different things. Your past success has a lot less influence over an event organizers' decision than you think. Your online following, fame, and even your expertise are not the main factors. The following isn't needed. The fame is marginally useful. The expertise is table stakes. No, something else makes a speaking flywheel turn and revenue happen. Today, I wanted to do 2 things: * Attack and break down this attitude I see too often: "Well, I'm successful, so naturally, they should book me." * Debunk how keynote speaking (especially paid speaking) actually happens. It's not what most assume. To do this, we created 2 videos. I'm going to be producing a lot more videos this year too, so if you like what you see, please subscribe to my YouTube channel. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/n2hohquv9prd7wc0ug/aHR0cHM6Ly95b3V0dWJlLmNvbS9qYXlhY3Vuem8= )​ For now, here two new videos to address those 2 ideas: ​ ---------------------------------------------------------------- Why even "big name" entrepreneurs often fail at public speaking: ---------------------------------------------------------------- ​This is the video ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/48hvh7umdegox5hqu7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1oYzU3QlJ4ZTJaWQ== ) I wish I had available to send that former executive. He didn't seem to understand all the work required of him to justify continued bookings, from premise and IP development to signature speech development to improving his delivery on stage to improving his attitude around the room in order to serve event and meeting planners and, of course, attendees and teams. This video is not about him per se. It was honestly inspired by a few entrepreneurs with big businesses contacting me and asking about the right marketing and selling systems their assistants could use to pitch them. Wrong move, friends! ​ ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/48hvh7umdegox5hqu7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1oYzU3QlJ4ZTJaWQ== )​ --------------------------------------------------------------------- Paid keynotes are NOT about fame; here's how to grow speaking revenue --------------------------------------------------------------------- This is the message I tell every single prospective client and every prospective member of my group program, the Green Room. Because almost invariably, people trying to get paid to speak begin by focusing on the wrong 2 things. ​ ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh62dz2etvhqpr2xnzal324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/reh8h9umlrx867i6u6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1FdVJxSG84OEJ0SQ== )​ Keynote speaking is a hard business to build, but it's not nearly as hard as people assume. It's also like anything else: it's hard because building a sustainable, growing business of any kind is hard. But it's arguably less understood than other types of businesses. Even still, just like you can decide to build a design agency or an executive coaching business or a creator business teaching others to cook healthy meals, you can decide to build a keynote speaking business. But you have to avoid a ton of traps placed by predatory service providers and even well-meaning people who are sorely misinformed about this space. I hope these videos can help set you on the right path to success, and if you're struggling, stressed, or have any questions at all, hit reply. Your emails go directly to me. ​ That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox in next Friday! 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/8kuwv69e46foh2mqr8wakhkopoqx2ho9dk4o0qeg7e4nxdxdzkkxrqvm6zzz0wzzvo0eg954or074xelo70qrqp6xln89704poom9en2n9koqm8o32gzpnqzg2xbq7wl2/7qh7h2u923o3m5u9u6/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/8kuwv69e46foh2mqr8wakhkopoqx2ho9dk4o0qeg7e4nxdxdzkkxrqvm6zzz0wzzvo0eg954or074xelo70qrqp6xln89704poom9en2n9koqm8o32gzpnqzg2xbq7wl2/x0hph3uevxwxlqtgul/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ 👋 Hello, my friend! I'm on vacation this week but wanted to revisit this gem of a post. It's something I revisit from time to time and still gets sent to me with kind words attached. (Thank you to Austin Church for resurfacing to me this week.) This essay was written in October of 2021. We were deep into the pandemic, and I was a few months into learning how to parent two kids instead of just one. It's no exaggeration to say that this essay changed my life. Not instantly, mind you, but in building a body of work, some things feel like bigger boulders added to the pile. After all, the premise driving my business and public platform to day is "think resonance over reach." But you don't land on your premise without constant aeration and iteration publicly. That's what this essay represents. A rep. A stab. An attempt to use writing for what it is: a means of thinking. The only way to figure things out is to write it out, or talk it out, or podcast it out, or however you get it out of your head and your docs and your search for perfection. Like a standup comedian at a small comedy clubs, this is me working things out. The exact language I use today is slightly different in some cases. I've got stronger IP now. But this essay represents a major step towards clarity for me personally and for my business. *** ******************************************************************************* What is reach? What is resonance? 2 revealing definitions to inform better work ******************************************************************************* [October 7, 2021] “What does it take to resonate?” I can’t stop thinking about that question. It’s with me when I work. It’s with me when I (try to) sleep. It’s with me when I jog. Poorly. For too short a distance. Wondering just how many more pints of ice cream I’ve eaten compared to runs taken throughout the pandemic. (Ice cream is winning by the slim margin of 578 to 4. #BodyByBenAndJerry) We all want our work to have an impact. We want to make things that matter — to our careers, our companies, and our communities. Yet too often, we can be found running around like chickens with our heads cut off, scrambling to be more visible or more relevant, agonizing over reach — the thing that feels impactful to us in the short-term. But is it? --------------------- The Road to Resonance --------------------- Over the past few weeks, I’ve written about what it takes to create something so resonant, others declare, “That’s my favorite.” Today, I’d like to take a step back before we go any further to try and define two concepts at the core of our exploration: reach and resonance. Like quality and quantity, they’re often pitted against each other, though I’d argue they exist on two different spectra. Your focus on one may affect your ability to attain the other, sure, but they aren’t natural opposites. So what is reach? What is resonance? It’s worth aligning around some shared language and definitions before proceeding any further. Here’s my stab at defining each, though I welcome your take too: Reach is how many people see you. Resonance is how much they care. “Reach” is very familiar to most of us in business, whether or not we consider ourselves makers and marketers or not. We want to reach our audiences, our subscribers, our prospects and customers and clients. We want to reach more recruits to the team or even reach our own coworkers, whether we seek buy-in from bosses or alignment from the team. The metaphorical motion of reach that you hear people say quite often paints a picture of some very overconfident individuals: “get in front of.” We want to "get in front of” our audience. Okay. Fine. To what end? In marketing — my original home — we talk about awareness a ton. That’s how we “get in front of” more prospects. A bigger top of funnel. More people know we exist. We favor the net-new individual entering our atmosphere, rather than those who decide, "Yanno, THAT seems like a great place to land" — to say nothing of the folks already hopping out of the plane and bear-hugging us because, "Wow, is it good to see you!" (I suppose that process could be described as going through the middle of funnel, which is a concept as understood by marketers as my toddler understands NFTs.) (Okay fine: as understood by marketers as I understand NFTs.) Most organizations agonize over expanding the top of the funnel or converting people at the bottom. The real magic happens when we start with casual observers and learn to turn them into passionate (and vocal) fans. My point is this: Awareness is a proxy for what we really want. We want affinity. We don’t just want others to be aware of us. We want them to love us — and to inform their choices and actions thanks to that emotional bias in our favor. Additionally, we often talk about “grabbing” attention, when that’s just a proxy for what we really need. We need to hold it. The best makers and marketers today know how to hold attention. People who don’t understand how to do this ask questions like, “How long should a podcast be?” People who do understand this also understand that people will listen to two-hour episodes if they love the show enough. So they focus on the “love” part instead of the other, more superficial questions. They understand: Great marketing isn’t about who arrives. It’s about who stays. But again, this can apply across sectors and job functions. What good is being top-of-mind if their very next reaction is a resounding “meh”? Instead of being top-of-mind, what if we spent more time thinking about depth of soul? THAT is the reaction resonant work so often triggers. “OH MY GOD, you’re speaking to my soul!” * * * Today, reach has become a much more popular thing to pursue because it feels like both a panacea and a good place to hide. It’s a panacea because, we think, if only tons and tons of people knew about this project, brand, product, service (or knew about ME), the rest would take care of itself. Or so we think. It’s a good place to hide because it lets us off the hook. Just think of the alternative. If the job is to make the things we’re building BETTER — better stories, a better mission, better content, products, experiences — then it’s all on us. If “make it better” is the key to our success, well then, we have only ourselves to blame if we don’t. But if reach is the key? We can hide. We feel safe. We think, “This thing is already great! It’s just that not enough people know about it. We tried. It’s not working. It’s the algorithm. It’s the noise. It’s the marketing budget. It’s the ever-changing channels at our disposal. We did our jobs. THEY didn’t respond. We need to reach more of them.” If we want results, and the path to those results requires us to be better? And then we still don’t see the results we crave? Our fault. Focusing on “better” or “deeper” or “more original” or “more positive change” puts us squarely on the hook. The endless desire for greater reach — and the complaint that we lack it — is a good place to hide. Being on the hook means recognizing just how easy it is to reach SOME people — and just how rarely we resonate with that audience deeply enough to serve them OR our own causes. After all, if 500 people listen to your podcast once a week, but they neither share out to new listeners nor take one more step in with you to subscribe to your email list (for example) … is the problem reaching more listeners? Or is the problem resonating more deeply with the ones you already have? Are your biggest fans bringing you new fans? Shouldn’t they? If your company can’t hire top talent at market rate but instead needs to throw more money and crazy perks at new recruits to lure them from the competition … is the problem the number of people you’re interviewing, or the quality? Are you a magnet for the best? Are they already leaning in your favor even before you speak to them? Shouldn’t they? In most cases, resonance is the answer. Not reach. But that's far scarier to admit. * * * Look, I understand: there’s nuance here. Reach is part of the equation. But it’s just a part. It might be a starting point, though I’d argue it’s better as the end point. (You resonate with a few, and they go tell more. Deeper resonance makes broader reach easier, though you can choose whether or not that matters by then.) When we obsess over reach first and foremost, it’s often because we have unrealistic goals placed upon us. Why should your newsletter about some niche topic keep growing at breakneck speed — or at all? Sometimes, a thing is as big as it’s meant to be. But even if we recognize reach isn’t a panacea, and even if we’re willing to be on the hook for our work and our results, all the pressure others put on us (or we put on ourselves) can cause us to cling to our desire for more reach even still. So maybe the problem is actually how we communicate about these ideas. Maybe we historically lacked the language (I’m trying to provide some!) and the mental models, techniques, stories, and tools to advocate for anything better. Maybe advocating for “better” means bringing your peers, boss, or clients with you, or maybe it’s about convincing yourself. All I know is, each time I talk to someone about resonance, I get the most foundational of questions at this stage in my investigation, often from a place of frustration or fear. “Well, what even IS resonance? I can tell when I reach more people. How do I know when I’m resonating more deeply?” Great questions. What even is resonance? Hell, what’s reach? I think we can answer somewhat confidently: Reach is how many people see you. Resonance is how much they care. As for how we can tell if we’re resonating? We have to shift how we measure, from the things that can be bought to the things that must be earned. [Present Day Jay is proud to report I actually did go on to write about this about three years later. Check out this pivotal piece: A 6-Point System for Measuring Resonance. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/8kuwv69e46foh2mqr8wakhkopoqx2ho9dk4o0qeg7e4nxdxdzkkxrqvm6zzz0wzzvo0eg954or074xelo70qrqp6xln89704poom9en2n9koqm8o32gzpnqzg2xbq7wl2/9qhzhdudvnpn2xczu3/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvYXJlLXlvdXItaWRlYXMtd29ydGgtZGV2ZWxvcGluZy1mdXJ0aGVyLWEtNi1wb2ludC1zeXN0ZW0tZm9yLW1lYXN1cmluZy1yZXNvbmFuY2U= )] For now, ask yourself: Is the goal for more people to see the work? Or to care? Those are not the same things, nor is their “caring” a guarantee. We’re often overconfident about that part. But maybe that’s our problem. Instead of marketing more, what if we mattered more? Growing reach seems to be the thing everyone wants to learn today. I believe resonance is just as learnable. It’s a craft. It’s within our control. And it might just be more important to learn. That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox in next Friday! 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/9qhzhdudvg2qneczu3/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/3ohphdu35qdov8tpun/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ ************ Only Bangers ************ I'm about to head out for a long overdue week off with my family to relax and "not work." (Wait, why did we put quotes around that?) Because I will "not be working" for the "entire week." (Hold on, we just—) Yep. (I mean, for starters, am I the real Jay here in these parentheses or are you? Or am I the dominant voice and you're the version of me who can't stop thinking about work and still feels pretty PTSD'ed by the pandemic destroying our speaking business and although we just successfully slogged through 3 years of ridiculously hard reinvention ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/n2hohquv9no8edf0ug/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVpbnZlbnRpb24= ) to build a new advisory business which today is bigger than anything we've ever built, we're still worried it could all suddenly drop to zero at any second?) Yes. (Cool. Also that cleared up nothing for our readers.) Let's move on. (Good plan.) As I said (in excruciating fashion): I'm taking a week "off." Or maybe even off. So in the meantime, I wanted to share some videos and essays which you and other readers have decided fit the same description: ​ ​ This tickles me to no end. Without further ado (or asides), a list of bangers... ​ --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​Content ARCs: How to stop filling fees and start owning your ideas in the market ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/48hvh7umd025wzbqu7/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvY29udGVudC1hcmNzLW93bi15b3VyLWlkZWFz )​ --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- * Read this essay if you're tired of the clickbait game, the frenetic-feeling approach to marketing, and the checkbox awaiting you as you publish piece after piece, post after post, then repurpose those things into even more. If you want to compete on the influence and impact of your marketing, not the volume of your marketing, start here. ​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ​Speaking as a Superpower: How to give better talks to bigger audiences, online and in person [Full Keynote] ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/wnh2h6uq2ro5m5slux/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1FQ2hVOGlYT2RYQQ== )​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ * One of the most enjoyable talks I've ever given at my friend Joe Pulizzi's event, CEX (which sunset for a time but is now coming back in 2027 ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/reh8h9umlq52k3u6u6/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuY2V4LmV2ZW50cy8= ) thanks to Darrell Vesterfelt, which is great). ​ ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​How to book more and better keynotes over the next 12 months ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/08hwhgu26m7onxtpu5/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LXRvLWdvLWZyb20tc3BvcmFkaWMtcGFpZC1zcGVha2luZy10by1hLWNvbnNpc3RlbnQtcGlwZWxpbmUtb2Yta2V5bm90ZXM= )​ ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- * The world of professional speaking breaks people's brains. When someone tells me they're looking to increase their paid bookings, invariably, they point to the same few things they're doing—none of which are the most effective next steps to take! It drives me crazy, so I wrote this piece. ​ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​Why "big names" fail at paid speaking [Video] ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/8ghqh3uo6g50wpulu9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1oYzU3QlJ4ZTJaWQ== )​ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​ ​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​How to attract more fulfilling clients ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/vqh3hmuo9nkxmdiwul/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LXRvLWF0dHJhY3QtbW9yZS1mdWxmaWxsaW5nLWNsaWVudHM= )​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- * Do you want to fulfill the work handed to you, or do you want to book more fulfilling work? That's the central tension right now at the heart of my conversations with many entrepreneurial experts today. They have substance. They're good at their thing. They want to grow a business more easily around that thing. Yet they're constantly chasing and reacting. I want more people with real substance and expertise to become the voice others seek out. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ​The worst entrepreneur advice [Video] ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/l2heh6ulmok0qkhgu0/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vc2hvcnRzL3kxdk5yT0ZpWmo4 )​ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- * I've gotten this advice throughout my career. It really bothered me at first. Today, I chuckle at it. ​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ​Last week's piece on why Robin Williams had the best take on AI slop and infinite noise ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/zlu5dmwexmsnhkqrxn7sphwl7qrvwhq795xq8nwmdwx4p9p9k55prn0g2kkk8vkk0q8wm73xqr8dxpwzqd8nrnl2pz4o7d8xlqqg7w4e475qngoq6emkl4nkmepc3mvqg/m2h7h6u36ong2otluq/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cveW91ci1tb3ZlLWNoaWVm )​ ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ * In the film Good Will Hunting, as his character Sean spoke to Will on a park bench, Robin Williams delivered the best and perhaps only perspective we need to understand the role of the human in today's world, though he couldn't have known it at the time. People really seemed to appreciate this last week, so I wanted to share! ​ Programming change: I'm taking next week off from writing the newsletter. Back later in July! Also, if you're a keynote speaker looking to build your business, I'm also hosting the next roundtable of peers early August, talking shop about the nitty gritty of paid speaking. Just reply if you want to join the call! We get around 15-20 folks each time, and it always leads to things you can immediately apply to your work to get more and better bookings. * I'll also be putting together the next small group to join my year-long revenue accelerator and mastermind of professional speakers, the Green Room, later this fall. Happy to share info upon request. This is a paid program, invite- and application-only. That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox in 2 weeks! 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Sean (played by Robin Williams) is sitting next to Will (Matt Damon) on a bench in Boston Public Garden. I live in the area, so I know it well. It’s impossibly green, surrounded by willow trees and a sparkling pond and parents chasing their kids who are chasing some mallards who are chasing their ducklings. If you pause the movie scene at just the right moment, you can actually see the exact spot my wife and I took our wedding photos as we tortured 14 of our closest friends in 96-degree humidity one July afternoon. ​ In this particular moment of the film, Robin Williams delivers a legendary speech. The entire thing is worth watching ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/g3hnhwum8dqxe9s3u9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj04R1kzc080N1lZbw== ) (allow for five minutes of sitting still afterwards), but here's the transcript, with my own emphasis added. If I asked you about art, you’d probably give me the skinny on every art book ever written. Michelangelo? You know a lot about him. Life’s work, political aspirations, him and the pope, sexual orientation, the whole works, right? But I bet you can’t tell me what it smells like in the Sistine Chapel. You’ve never actually stood there and looked up at that beautiful ceiling. Seen that. ​ If I asked you about women, you’d probably give me a syllabus of your personal favorites. You may have even been laid a few times. But you can’t tell me what it feels like to wake up next to a woman and feel truly happy. ​ You’re a tough kid. I ask you about war, and you’d probably, uh, throw Shakespeare at me, right? “Once more into the breach, dear friends.” But you’ve never been near one. You’ve never held your best friend’s head in your lap and watched him gasp his last breath, looking to you for help. ​ And if I asked you about love you probably quote me a sonnet. But you’ve never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on earth just for you, who could rescue you from the depths of hell. ​ And you wouldn’t know what it’s like to be her angel and to have that love for her to be there forever. Through anything. Through cancer. You wouldn’t know about sleeping sitting up in a hospital room for two months holding her hand because the doctors could see in your eyes that the term "visiting hours" doesn't apply to you. ​ You don’t know about real loss, because that only occurs when you love something more than you love yourself. I doubt you’ve ever dared to love anybody that much. ​ I look at you; I don’t see an intelligent, confident man; I see a cocky, scared shitless kid. But you’re a genius, Will. No one denies that. No one could possibly understand the depths of you. But you presume to know everything about me because you saw a painting of mine and you ripped my fuckin’ life apart. ​ You’re an orphan right? Do you think I’d know the first thing about how hard your life has been, how you feel, who you are because I read Oliver Twist? Does that encapsulate you? ​ Personally, I don’t give a shit about all that, because you know what? I can’t learn anything from you I can’t read in some fuckin’ book. Unless you wanna talk about you. Who you are. And I’m fascinated. I’m in. But you don’t wanna do that, do you, sport? You’re terrified of what you might say. ​ Your move, chief. *** (Five minutes of stillness later...) *** Okay, I'm ready to talk about it. Without saying it, he's saying it. There's a difference. There's a difference between expertise and wisdom, between theory and experience, between knowing and living. Will has the first in spades. He's the human equivalent of ChatGPT, that's for sure. That gives him a smug attitude that because he's read the books and knows the theories, he's smart and capable and good. But Sean has something Will lacks. Experience. He's actually lived all those things firsthand. War, love, sickness, loss, hopes, dreams, failures, successes. Meanwhile, Will has never been outside Boston, and he's scared to let himself get close to anyone enough to get hurt. That's this moment, summed up. That's what WE do as humans and why YOU matter right now, arguably more than ever. AI has read the internet. It can't read the room. It hasn't lived a life. It knows. It does not feel nor experience. Because it does not live. But you do, and right now, there are endless voices convincing you to stop living, mostly so they can sell you their "secrets" to success or their "magic" tools which profess to know the answers you couldn't possibly know yourself. We've reached a dangerous moment. This moment threatens to convince too many of us that our lived experiences do not matter. I see it often. An artist will claim something like, "AI has never fallen in love. It has never failed then persisted, with scar tissue emerging and dreams still in tact." Then people roll their eyes. I get it. I hear it. I know it feels squishy and easy to dismiss. Like a gnat buzzing your ear on a park bench. So let's make it more concrete, shall we? There is a very real difference between reading about war and being in war. Can we agree? Reading about love and being in love are fundamentally different things. Yes? Reading Oliver Twist [giant "Not Equal To" symbol] being an orphan. Knowing and living are different. And right now, the mere idea of "knowing" is winning out, when it's hilariously insufficient to do anything effective or meaningful or good. The internet and many voices using it would have us convinced that because there's so much to know and because someone else knows more and because a software tool can tell you things it "knows," then all of that should cause you to sit down, shut up, stop feeling confident in what you've done or seen or felt. Because what's your life in the face of infinite knowledge? Turns out, everything. Okay fine, we're still too theoretical and artsy fartsy for some. I hate it, but I get it. Set aside Sean's lines and look at Robin Williams's performance. Step out of the story and examine the acting. Robin Williams was given a script. Any other actor could have been handed that script, but ZERO other actors would have performed it like that. The script has all the words, but he brought the words to life. What's more, he did so by drawing on his own life. That's how artists function. That's why they can produce things that shock and astound and terrify and bewitch people (h/t to Bourdain for that line ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/3ohphdu35opvqlcpun/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1oTk1SMDB2Ti1tSQ== )). Actors and other artists make choices for how to embody and convey the emotions of the thing, not just "correctly" arrange information for dissemination. I've heard it said that scientific discovery would happen regardless of who does it. Science is the search for truth about how the world works. Given enough time and resources, Scientist #2 would have discovered the same truth that Scientist #1 discovered. Art is different. No two artists would produce the same exact thing. Given enough time and resources, no two actors would have independently landed on the same exact creation, nor even the same subtle element or moment in that scene or piece or project. Because it's not about the search for external truth. It's about the synthesis of that truth into meaning. It's all internal. And zero humans have lived the same lives beat-for-beat. That shit matters in our work. I don't care if you write blog posts for a Fortune 500, host a podcast about HR, write books about storytelling, or paint in your garage. It's all art. Because art is about making sense of human feelings and existence by confronting the internal, turning it into meaning others can access. Teach a tactic in a social feed or sculpt the next great statue for a museum in Rome, it doesn't matter. It flows through YOU in ways big and small. Ignore the "YOU" part at your own peril. Robin Williams certainly didn't. Where did his performance come from? How did those moments take shape? Only the actor could tell you, and actually, he probably couldn't. It was sensed more than it was consciously considered, but the alchemy required his lived experiences. Maybe the pause came from a childhood memory of scuffing his knees as he wrestled on the driveway with a friend. "Get tougher, Robin!" The glances away from Will might come from a lost love which the Hollywood Reporter never told us the man experienced. His face muscles weren't trembling so much as echoing all the trauma he'd endured. He's not remembering his life. He's re-living it. So much work we encounter online today feels like a script the creator forgot to act. The words are there, but they're lifeless. Then the market said, "Here's a tool to produce more of that stuff, and remember: you can't do anything better than this. Because it's hard, and something that is hard is bad, and also you are bad—until you use our tools!" They want to distill everything down to a science. It's our job to elevate it to an art. It turns out AI and people both rely on LLMs as their foundations. AI has large language models. People have little life moments. But we simply don't draw on ours consistently or confidently enough. Doing so would be their nightmare. They don't know how to sell the dream to people too busy daydreaming. They can't dominate our lives if we're actually living. It's that stuff which makes our work matter and makes us each matter too, and this moment demands more of it from you and from me. The newcomer to a field or topic, the expert with 40 years' experience, the unknown voice, the broadly known storyteller—it doesn't matter. Drawing on our lives and using our own "LLMs" are what this world needs in an era defined by AI slop and strip-mining every corner of life for eyeballs and dollars. Plenty of others have similar expertise and skills. Plenty of others talk about similar topics. But how you SEE the world separates you. Said better: how YOU see the world. Everyone's got a script, but very few understand how to bring the words to life. Your audience can't learn anything from you that they can't read in a fuckin' book ... or post or video or AI snippet. Unless you wanna talk about you. Who you are. Then I'm fascinated. I'm in. But you don't wanna do that, do you? You're terrified of what you might say. Your move, chief. ​ ​ Save or share this essay: ​jayacunzo.com/blog/your-move-chief ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/wnh2h6uq2508r0flux/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cveW91ci1tb3ZlLWNoaWVm )​ ------------------------- What's Resonating with Me ------------------------- 1/ THIS ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/vqh3hmuo9xw8p2swul/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vc2hvcnRzLzJXU1JKUS1RWUNJ ) clip from Matt Damon builds on my essay above. Apparently, an artist was trying to petition the city of Boston to put a bronze statue of Robin-as-Sean on the same bench, so that when people feel lonely, they could sit and talk to him. I adore that idea. (It's unclear but looks unlikely that the statue is moving forward unfortunately.) I mean, that's what it's all about, friends. That's why we put our ideas out into the world. To be of use. To serve. Yes, we find ways to monetize it so we can live great lives, but we're not here to arbitrage a market vulnerability for a quick buck or promise people a chat bot can deliver them the entire universe. Speaking of the snake oil salesmen at the head of the AI industry... ​ 2/ Younger people aren't rejecting AI. They're rejecting the people behind it. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/7qh7h2u92kn3omc9u6/aHR0cHM6Ly9kb21lc3RpY3Byb3BhZ2FuZGEuc3Vic3RhY2suY29tL3AvdGhlLWtpZHMtYXJlLWEtbm90LXJlamVjdGluZy1haS10aGV5cmU_cj1oMDVkciZ1dG1fY2FtcGFpZ249cG9zdCZ1dG1fbWVkaXVtPWVtYWlsJnRyaWVkUmVkaXJlY3Q9dHJ1ZQ== )​ I loved this piece from fellow Bostonian Richard Banfield. Richard and his partner Devon McDonald run a big-hearted organization centering on in-person retreats called Second Harvest ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/e5u7q4dxe4i7hl3zwves8h85wvdlpu52n345pgdqod4xwnwn833wegv97888p088v5pdq2k45epo4wd65opgegm7w6xz2op4m5592dxrx235g9z5lrq8mxg8qrwtz5o79/6qhehoul8k907nu9uk/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuc2Vjb25kaGFydmVzdC5jby8= ), which helps you design the second chapter of your career and life. The article is well-worth your time. That's what art does, friend. It helps you finally make sense of that connection between the internal and external. The piece gave language and emotion to something I've been feeling for a long time. ​ Whew, this was a fun one. I felt myself pouring out a lot. I hope you enjoyed it! Don't tell me if you didn't. I'm still sitting here in silence, thinking about Robin's words... That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/kkhmh2unqxp4e0tku7/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/7qh7h2u97ne38ra9u6/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ Before we get started today: I'm investing more in my videos on YouTube and my podcast. 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I'm a Seth fan, and I was fortunate to interview him on my podcast in a very atypical way ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/p8hehqu40qe8detru3/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LXN0b3JpZXMtaGFwcGVuLTE2LXNldGgtZ29kaW4= ) which he seemed to enjoy. But in that moment speaking to Margo, well before my interview with Seth, I was in a sour place. I griped about how it's so easy for "people like him" to remain calm and nuanced and slow, doing only what he wants, the way he wants. "After all," I spat, "he sold an email marketing company to Yahoo back in the day and doesn't need the money anymore. He became an influencer and a thought leader before everyone and their cat was trying to do that." (And on and on I ranted.) Again, I was in a dark spot in my business at the time. Nothing was coming easy. I was jealous, nothing more. Margo calmly and correctly replied, "Yes, that might be true, but what Seth and others like him are really good at doing which nobody talks about is something else." Today, I want you to start embracing this "something else" Margo teased. In doing so, you'll rethink a popular marketing idea (that demand is something you "generate" or "create"). You'll also forever see the word "differentiation" differently and better. We'll start at the end: don't be different. *** "Be different." We hear it all the time. Maybe we think it and pursue it. But I think it's gotten away from us. It's devolved into a second term—a close cousin of differentiation which arrives with a bottle of tequila, neon orange sunglasses, and the promise of a good time. STAND OUT. We have to STAND OUT, guys. STAND OUT from the noise, the competition, the slop. Alright, I'm trying to bring some nuance to a social media fight here, which is like bringing tequila, neon orange sunglasses, and the promise of a good time to a funeral. I realize that. But we need it. (Not the funeral stuff. We don't need that. Though if you swap the liquor for wine and attend some Italian receptions...) I don't think you want to stand out. I think you want to stand apart. You don't want to be the victor at a game that isn't worth playing. If you're the same as your peers and competitors and you shout louder, hype harder, spend more, dilute your brand to get there? If you're the lowest price or most clickbaity voice, you're standing out. Is that what we want? We need to rethink some things, my friend. Let's start by swapping the root word from a better one. What causes the misinterpretation of "differentiation" is the word different. Be different. Differentiation. Not so fast. When we try to "be different," we're asking an implied question which isn't actually the most important question to ask: * Different from whom? The competition. But that shouldn't be our primary focus. When it is, people often try all kinds of crazy stunts and gimmicks to "stand out." They work overtime to eke out their existence. Or they jump onto trends ("I'm an AI-powered XYZ"), convincing themselves they've found their defensible moat against competitors. Maybe. But that moat is the width of my pinky finger. Being "the first" or "the only" stops mattering when the next one comes along. And it will. This is all to say nothing of the sensationalism to stand out. "STEAL my simple secrets..." It's all the product of trying to be different. We ask the wrong implied question. The better question to ask lies underneath the real reason Margo told me Seth Godin is a great entrepreneur. *** As we swapped voice notes on the subject (or what I sometimes call "podcasting at each other"), Margo continued. "More than anything, he's just really good at picking good markets. Then he moves people in those markets his direction." In other words, he escapes two unnecessary extremes which many entrepreneurs attempt, neither of which is the right approach: * Creating new demand. (It's easier to capture existing demand.) * Create new categories. (It's easier to lead existing categories.) For someone as genuinely creative and "differentiated" as Seth Godin, his real superpower is observation. He understands the culture and the people in it. He sees what they're trying to achieve and where they struggle. He doesn't stand behind a boulder and try to shove it into motion. He trots up alongside a boulder rolling downhill, then nudges it towards a better target. He has a vision for where things should go. Absolutely he does. But he doesn't try to get people started. He redirects them. If the boulder metaphor isn't working for you, think of a river. What river is already flowing? Where are there competitors and budgets already established? That's a good market. You don't actually want "whitespace" when it comes to the customer you serve or the problem you solve. You want to find a flowing river and step into it. But to be a leader, you also don't want to just let the river wash over you. Plenty of businesses exist and perform just fine doing it that way, albeit they're at the mercy of the moment, and what happens when the moment passes? They're commodities, not leaders. To be a leader, you step into a river which is already flowing ... then redirect it. I think of my favorite keynote speakers and authors. They recognize an audience arrives to their speech with existing goals and problems—things the audience already knows they want or need. But then the speech effectively shows them something deeper, something more genuinely useful and transformational: * "You think the problem is this. It's really THIS." * "You think you need this. You really need THIS." This is why I always ask speakers I meet: What's the deeper problem you solve? What's your distinct premise for solving it? They need to challenge conventional wisdom and to give people something better. They break patterns (which is what an exceptional speech is built to do ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/kkhmh2unqxp42diku7/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NwZWFraW5nLXJlc291cmNlcw== )). They create a before-and-after effect. In asking them about the deeper problem and solution, I'm effectively asking them, "How do you redirect the river?" I don't want them to create new categories or develop jargon nobody understands. I want them to logically argue for their own ideas in ways that get buy-in. Because that's how real change happens. They're in-motion, but heading the wrong way. Redirect them your way. Pick good markets. Then learn to lead the right people in the right direction. Step into the river and redirect a section of it towards your vision for what would be better. The entire river won't change course. You don't need that to happen, nor is it likely to do so. But if you can find what people are already trying to achieve and what's in their way, then show them how YOU see it, you become a leader, not just a commodified competitor. You stop chasing and become the one the right people will seek out. Because you don't "stand out." To them, you stand apart. Back to "different." Given everything we've learned today, let's try a new word moving forward. I like "refreshing." Remember, when we think about being different, we think about the wrong implied question. ("Different from whom?") That sends us into a downward spiral of stunts and gimmicks and shouting and hyping, all because we're focused on our competitors. But if we wanted to be refreshing instead of different, we ask a better implied question: * Refreshing to whom? The audience. The client. The customer. The community. We think about the culture and the people in it. We see what they're trying to achieve and where they struggle. We don't stand behind a boulder and try to shove it into motion. We trot up alongside a boulder rolling downhill, then nudge it towards a better target. We bring a vision for where things should go. Absolutely we do. But we don't try to get people started. We redirect them. Towards easier, simpler, clearer, more enjoyable, more attainable. We move people in-motion towards something better and, in doing so, build our own businesses better too. How refreshing. ------------------------- What's Resonating with Me ------------------------- 1/ This warmed my heart during a time of too much division None of us have any excuses. We can be leaders and make the world better in all the tiny little things we do. Just take MD Hossain, a New York resident who went viral after a fun moment during the NBA Finals between my New York Knicks and the San Antonio Spurs. ​This is utterly delightful. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/58hvh8ug86wlona7u4/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS9yZWVsL0RaWFdyS3JpQ094Lz9pZ3NoPU1XVnhORE54TjNWamVqSXpjZyUzRCUzRA== ) Just listen to what he says when interviewed after. (He was back for more ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/25h2h9u3zmxn0gh8u4/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS9yZWVsL0RaYnFLVmloV1lmLz9pZ3NoPWNUWTFkbWx3Y21jNVlqbGg= ) after the next Knicks game.) MD for President 😊 ​ 2/ This will also make your day brighter My friend and collaborator Melanie Deziel creates these stunning miniature scenes and dioramas ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/mvup394869a5hq6z3w2bmhrxwoop0bqez8pq970rn0pl4z4zo88427gvwooo9doogq90rexpq29np406qn97275w46lken9p5qqve0lmle8q7vkq3mro5l7orm4ce7gpx/qvh8h8ud5k3q22hguk/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudGlrdG9rLmNvbS9AbWRlemllbA== ) which sort of break your brain when you realize they aren't real. But they are: * Made by hand * With love * From a human * Just for fun More of these types of side projects, please! "The real skill is judgment. Knowing when AI helps. 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That’s it. For instance, I've been watching multiple different speakers on Instagram shift their approach from teaching these really important ideas (which also get lots of traction judging by their engagement and their keynote bookings, btw) to instead teach you how to use Claude, ChatGPT, or Gemini. Le Sigh. It feels similar to what Anthony Bourdain observed many years ago in food TV. He said most of his peers looked the same or did boring, cliché work for the same reason: ​ They were scared to NOT be on TV anymore. Too scared to do anything real, original, deep, or authentically themselves. They were so worried they'd lose this coveted role of TV show host, they compromised away everything just to stay in that world. ​ I see that from some peers and friends of mine I consider to be genuine thought leaders and brilliant creators. It seems to me they're behaving in a way similar to those TV hosts Bourdain critiqued. These individuals got used to the attention they received being public personalities (and all that comes with that attention) that they've decided to just switch their focus and even change their entire public identity to being "AI-powered" or "AI expert" or an AI teacher of some kind. Or perhaps they see others getting a burst of attention. Or maybe they crave more fame and faster for ... reasons? Weren't you hugged enough as a kid? Maybe not. That makes me sad. Seems to me our current political administration acts like the Never Hugged Enough All-Stars. Lots of celebrities too. Maybe it's logical that some very established thought leaders are the same way. (Parents, hug and kiss your kids and say "I love you" more, please. Looking at you, fellow dads.) Anyway, my point is that these folks aren't even talking about "AI" per se. They're clearly NOT real experts in the field. They aren't technologists or academics in the field. They just ... teach you about someone else's app. On repeat. That's a product marketer. That's a glorified Help Center. ​ It makes me very sad. Some of our brightest and boldest thinkers have taken jobs as unpaid marketers for a few giant tech companies, instead of developing and sharing big ideas that actually matter in this world. ​ Unsurprisingly, my conclusion (similar to how I've felt for many years observing the industry): We need more Bourdains in this space. ​ ---------------------------------------------- PART II: POINTING MY ANGER AT THE RIGHT PEOPLE ---------------------------------------------- The CEO of Suno (ShatGPT for music) is on-record during a media appearance saying that it’s too hard to make music because you have to practice a lot and get really good at instruments or production software. Oh you mean you have to do things to do things? Got it. Right. WTF? What is wrong with these people? (Oh you mean they'll say anything to make someone buy their product to grow unnaturally quickly and pay back investors who can't possibly justify their valuations without forced growth? Got it. Right.) What a truly wild stance to take. “It’s hard. That means you can’t do it. Also you’re bad at it.” NEWSFLASH 🚨 Being good at things is hard. Something is also meaningful because it is hard. The phrase is “iron sharpens iron” not “soggy noodles … comments on LinkedIn posts for you?” (I was always bad at classic analogies. Let's see: AI is to creativity just as poking my eyeball with a rusty fork is to… I'm stumped. Maybe I can ask spicy autocomplete to help me.) WE INTERRUPT THIS REPORT WITH BREAKING NEWS ⚠️ Just because something is hard doesn't mean it can't be enjoyable! Turns out you can actually enjoy and even grow to love the process of learning ... and trying ... and messing up ... and trying again ... and tinkering ... and playing! And if things DO get hard (which they will), then good news: millions of professionals and creators exist and share their ideas, often for free, to teach us how to do hard, creative things in ways that are fun and accessible. Often, these same people create books and podcasts and newsletters and courses and YouTube videos and toys. Dinky little side projects also encouraged. Those are highly enjoyable as well. (Not side "hustles." Not everything needs to be monetized. But side projects. Where you play and muck about and discover stuff and increase your surface area for good ideas and serendipitous connections and introspection and insight and personal style.) It’s getting so hard not to become entirely cynical and just declare, “Too many people are soft (soggy?) and don’t want to do hard things but want the rewards that come with doing hard things.” Maybe it's some of that. Other times, I have this other, slightly more generous thought, still camped out in Cynics Park: “If you’re not good at a creative thing and can’t tolerate the process to get good at it, do another thing. Find what you ARE good at and what you DO enjoy.” But mostly, I think I've figured out where to focus my anger. Lately, I am incandescent with rage at the folks who founded these companies and sell these tools, mostly for one reason: They tell you can't. They make you truly believe you can't. Then they sell you the only way they swear you can: buy their tools. In other words, these people are experts NOT in AI (not really) but in preying on people’s insecurities. To simultaneously quote Bugs Bunny and date myself, "You do realize ... this means war." Every individual soul on planet Earth has within them so much possibility and creativity within them. The reason I know that for a fact? Because every individual soul on planet Earth lives a life. That life is full of experiences and emotions, much of it unfolding externally around them and even more (an infinite amount more) happening inside them. Then, along come these virtue-less people and companies to tell us to ignore all of that. Their absolute nightmare is someone who is happy in the mess of making. Someone who considers it play. Someone who has a rich inner life and explores it—and relishes in doing so. They can't find your weakness to exploit. If you dance with your own insecurities and bad drafts and say instead, "I see you, I feel you, and let's move forward anyway," then the technobabble coming from these selfish "leaders" can't take affect. So then they surround their message about the product with an even more important one. Because fine, okay, you're untouchable by the promise that a tool can help you skip the bad parts, but surely you don't want to get left behind. More predatory messaging. First, they try to tell you, "This stuff is hard." Guess what? They're correct. On that, I'm aligned with them. Any conscious human who attempts to write or speak or paint or sculpt or film things or host things or edit things or CREATE things would tell you it's hard. But next, they tell you, "And because it's hard, it's to be avoided until we can make it easy. It's hard, therefore it's bad." That catches a ton of the market, but not enough to justify billions and trillions of dollars and whatever grand delusions are writing the stories in their heads. So their final master stroke is FOMO. "This stuff is hard AND that means it's bad and you're probably bad but we can make it easy AND even if you like doing it the hard way, you shouldn't because you don't want to get left behind." You know where I stand on that last bit (and if you don't, watch it here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh6mwz2pcvhqeg3o9esl324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/58hvh8ug8x8r7dt7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj11NGJFeU4tX0dEdw== )). That’s what I hate the most about this moment. The convincing of so many humans that whenever something is hard, it’s bad and broken. Not only that, WE are. Le Second Sigh. I don't know, my friend. Sometimes I genuinely don't know. Maybe I give people too much credit. I realize some folks only create things as a hollow tactic. They got into the game for fame or applause or dollars, not the love of the game. Those people really do want to avoid the process entirely, because they don't care about the process and also don't see how it connects so inextricably to the result. For me, the process is the point. I started giving speeches because I LOVE speaking. I started writing because I LOVE writing. That’s why I also get better outcomes than most! The harder it got, the more my love actually grew. I watch people at the top of their game talking shop with each other, punching up each others' work, and I feel inspired. I think, Wow, they're doing exactly what I'm doing! Trial and error. Drafting, tasting, adjusting. That's amazing! I don't need to grow a third arm or meet a magic wizard who can save me. They are doing what I'm doing ... but better. Which means I can get better. I see my creative heroes, and I think, THAT is POSSIBLE! Dear reader, if you don’t love the process, they won’t love the product. If you don’t feel something while creating it, they won’t feel anything while experiencing it. I’m tired of tech companies preying on our insecurities and tired of them professing to have a "solution" to something that isn't broken. The creative process is. not. broken. So they have to convince you that it is. If that doesn't work, they convince you that YOU are. If that still doesn't work, well then *scoff* ... you're gonna get left behind. It's as strange as it is saddening to see tech founders who clearly don’t understand or appreciate creativity profess to enable it. That would be as strange as an antisocial jerk building a social netw—hey, wait a second. 😝 Making good things means making lots of bad things. But YOU aren’t bad. You’re just doing creative work. I know it’s hard. But that’s what makes it meaningful. Keep doing the work. ------------------------- What's Resonating with Me ------------------------- ​ 1/ Stand-Up Roundtable My happy place is watching comedians at the top of their game talking shop with each other. For that reason, I love watching roundtables on YouTube. Here's a new one I really liked ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh6mwz2pcvhqeg3o9esl324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/25h2h9u3z9zkdkt8/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1LbWtrT3ZxRmc5bw== ) featuring Nikki Glaser, Wanda Sykes, Marc Maron, Julio Torress, and Leanne Morgan. So. Good. ​ 2/ What AI literacy really means My friend Ann Handley has a brilliant take ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/o8un75dvo5fqh6mwz2pcvhqeg3o9esl324wldk8x58wrg2g2v44gpkn07vvvdzvvnld8x3qwlpd5wg8ml5dkpk67gmre35dw6ll038r9r34lk0elo9xv6rkvx9gc40nw2/qvh8h8ud5w59nksg/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2ZlZWQvdXBkYXRlL3VybjpsaTphY3Rpdml0eTo3NDY1NDQ0ODUwMzE0ODYyNTk0Lw== ) on this. My favorite part: "The real skill is judgment. Knowing when AI helps. Knowing when it shortcuts the very struggle that teaches us something. Knowing when speed is useful... and when it actually erodes agency, creativity, trust, understanding. "It's doing things the long, hard, human-fumbling-in-the-dark way when there's value in that hard way. It's choosing the long road in a shortcut world when the process of the work is the joy of the work." ​ That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox next week! 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My friend, I'm telling you, I've done this work long enough and been on stages big enough that I've met people with legions of fans ... who have no idea just how much of a jerk their idol is. Not those three. And that's just to name a few. Today, I want you to add another name to the list along with me: Simone Stolzoff. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/z2hgh7uev88m2nfz/aHR0cHM6Ly9zaW1vbmVzdG9sem9mZi5jb20v )​ Also today, Simo has agreed to answer some of my questions about the process of developing his latest memorable premise driving his latest incredible book. But first, who is this mystery man? In short, he's a pizza bagel. Just like me. ​ ------------------------------------------------------------------ Meet Simo (He has a good enough job, and he knows how to not know) ------------------------------------------------------------------ Simo's Instagram handle (thepizza_bagel ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/p8hehqu40llpw6hr/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS90aGVwaXp6YV9iYWdlbC8= )) reflects his heritage. It's one he and I share: we're both Italian and Jewish. (Get it? Pizza. Bagel.) Me, I'm three-quarters Italian and one-quarter Jewish, which means I'm 75% overconfident and 25% overly sarcastic. It's a potent blend! Thank God I found public speaking to channel it, or I just might vibrate off this planet. But this isn't about me. (Glances at the masthead.) I swear. Simone (pronounced "seh-MO-nay") is a journalist, author, and speaker. He writes about the intersection of work, identity, and meaning—exploring how our professional lives shape who we are and how we connect to others. His writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, Wired, and National Geographic, and he's now written two wonderful books: * ​The Good Enough Job: Reclaiming Life from Work ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/6qhehoulgdd38gc9/aHR0cHM6Ly9zaW1vbmVzdG9sem9mZi5jb20vdGhlLWdvb2QtZW5vdWdoLWpvYg== ) (which became a #1 bestselling work-life balance book) * ​How to Not Know: The Value of Uncertainty in a World that Demands Answers ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/58hvh8ug8zz4dra7/aHR0cHM6Ly9zaW1vbmVzdG9sem9mZi5jb20vaG93LXRvLW5vdC1rbm93 ) (his latest and greatest) He's also delivered a TED Talk on the main stage of TED's second tentpole event, alongside their original conference. It's called TED Next, not to be confused with TEDx, a brand that has unfortunately been diluted over time. On my podcast, you can actually hear Simo present the full draft ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/qvh8h8ud500lmlsg/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvd29ya2luZy1vdXQtYS1uZXctdGVkLXRhbGstd2l0aC1hdXRob3ItYW1wLWpvdXJuYWxpc3Qtc2ltb25lLXN0b2x6b2ZmLWhvdy1zdG9yaWVzLWhhcHBlbi0xMQ== ) of his TED Talk, as we looked for ways to improve it heading into the big day. All this to say, Simo is the real deal. He's also just ... real. He's a good dude. He offered to drive me from SFO to Napa for a speaking engagement after we'd had 1 call together. He's always offering ways to support my work. He texts me when the Knicks are doing well or when his Warriors trample them (that's how he spends down his Good-Dude Points with me). He's also humble and hungry and seeks the advice of his peers and friends and sometimes randos named Jay to improve his public speaking. He is just the kind of person you wish the internet and the Business Influencer Industrial Complex featured more often. It's nice to see someone's good dudeness get rewarded. As he launches his book, How to Not Know, I asked Simo to teach us about his process developing this premise and ensuring it's both something he loves AND others love too. The following has been lightly edited for clarity and brevity. ​ *** ​ 1/ Why did you personally want to pursue this premise? Thinking back to the beginning, what were you thinking about, frustrated by, curious about, noticing? One thing I've learned about standing out in the marketplace of ideas is that you have to challenge the status quo in some way. That's why you see the thesis of so many nonfiction books adhere to the formula: most people think X, but actually Y. For me, the X in that equation is that "uncertainty is a problem," and as a result, I saw so many charlatans on the internet trying to solve it. "This is when the market is going to crash." "This is who is going to win the election or the game." But I knew, both from my lived experience and research, that certainty about the future is a fallacy. So, I wrote the book to help people get better at accepting—and even appreciating—what they don't know. ​ * KEEP LEARNING: 👋 Jay here! If you want to find and develop your own premise and ensure it challenges the status quo, try the XY Premise Pitch. Learn more about this framework and see more examples here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/9qhzhdudmllev7bz/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVzb25hbmNlLXBhcnQxLXByZW1pc2U= ). ​ 2/ What did you THINK was true about this idea you're exploring ... and what did you end up realizing along the way, which changed your POV on the concept? I originally came into the book thinking I would write a manifesto for the virtue of uncertainty, but something shifted as I talked to experts and reported out the chapters. I came to appreciate how certainty in some aspects of our lives makes it easier to hold uncertainty in others—that is to say, a fulfilling life requires both certainty and uncertainty. So, in addition to chapters about the value of increasing our tolerance for uncertainty, the book also has chapters about the risk of too much uncertainty in our lives. For example, one of my favorite chapters is about someone with severe OCD, which is sometimes referred to as "the doubting disease." ​ * KEEP LEARNING: Get an inside look at how an early premise of mine evolved and how it helped me grow my public speaking business and my public platform here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/n2hohquvpkklz8h0/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LWktYnJva2UtdGhyb3VnaC10aGUtdW5hdm9pZGFibHktbWVzc3ktcHJvY2Vzcy10by1kZXZlbG9wLW15LXByZW1pc2U= ). ​ 3/ What advantages did you bring or what favorite little tactics did you execute to ensure you fully understood and developed IP around an idea like this? One piece of advice I give to aspiring nonfiction authors is to try to create some priority terminology. This doesn't mean that your book has to be riddled with made-up words, just that when you name a topic or phenomenon, it helps you think more originally. For me, I initially named the three parts of my book the three "horsemen of delusion," three cognitive biases that motivate us to grasp for false certainty. (My editor thought the term "horsemen of delusion" was too highfalutin, so we ended up calling them the three certainty traps.) ​ * KEEP LEARNING: Read more about why you should come up with original, ownable language (and the 3 ownable, repeatable quotes you might want to build to own your ideas publicly and increase your audience influence). That's here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/reh8h9umreeogvb6/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVzb25hbmNlLXBhcnQyLW1lc3NhZ2U= ). ​ 4/ Others have explored the idea of uncertainty before. How do you see it differently? When writing a nonfiction book proposal, authors must include "comp titles," successful books that are similar to yours, so you can prove that there's an audience. Coming up with comps is incredibly helpful to help you position and differentiate your angle. Here is an example of one of the comps I used for How to Not Know: Like Daniel Pink's The Power of Regret, COMFORTABLY UNCERTAIN [Jay's note: this is Simo's early working title for How to Not Know] will buck conventional wisdom about a common source of anxiety and stress. Unlike The Power of Regret, this book will primarily rely on immersive narratives rather than surveys and data to convey its message. ​ * KEEP LEARNING: If you need more and better stories, consider these types ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/8ghqh3uovxx7m5hl/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvNi10eXBlcy1vZi1zdG9yaWVzLXRvLWNvbGxlY3QtdG8tcmVzb25hdGUtZGVlcGVyLWFuZC1pbnNwaXJlLWFjdGlvbg== ) to spark ideas and try this method ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/vqh3hmuo7ddqznuw/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvc2l4LXdheS1zdG9yaWVzLWhvdy10by10dXJuLXlvdXItb2JzZXJ2YXRpb25zLWludG8tcG93ZXJmdWwtc3Rvcmllcy1hdWRpZW5jZXMtbG92ZQ== ) to develop material into stories. ​ 5/ It's one thing to write a great book. It's another to monetize your IP (at least partially) with keynotes relating to the book. What can you teach us about the translation between the two? It's almost cliché among nonfiction authors to think of books like "very heavy business cards." But while a book can certainly help you land keynotes, consulting gigs, and new business, it's important that the additional products you offer speak uniquely to the customers of that medium. For example, when it comes to corporate speaking, it's important to have a topic that ties directly to a metric C-suite leaders care about. So, for a topic like "uncertainty," there's one version of the talk that focuses on uncertainty tolerance as a tool for innovation. There's another that's about employee mental health and wellbeing. There's another about management and leadership, and so on. For me, the metric that my talk most closely ties back to is retention. Employees who are anxious about the future are less likely to produce their best work and are more likely to leave. Though I still use research from my book in my talks, I frame my keynotes differently than how I might frame the book itself. ​ * KEEP LEARNING: If you're trying to grow your speaking business or just have a greater impact with the talk coming up, here's my treasure trove of free resources for keynote speakers. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/l2heh6ul9zzd83ig/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NwZWFraW5nLXJlc291cmNlcw== )​ ​ ------------------------- What's Resonating with Me ------------------------- Pay 👏 The 👏 Creators 👏 ---------------------- I am building a business and designing a life where I will pay individual artists good money for their good work or to create good work for me. The AI superfans can shout at me all they want. I want to pay humans for their creativity, even if people claim I could have used ShatGPT. (Shoutout to Ann Handley for bringing that term to my attention. Apparently it was trending on Threads. "Why do we say AI slop when ShatGPT was right there?" Agreed.) Anywhoville, here are 2 creators I really loved paying in the last few weeks: ​ 1/ Licensing music from indie musician Embleton for my show! I'm really excited about the relaunch of my podcast. And the new name. And the new cover art. But I'm MOST excited about the new theme music! Music truly makes a show, and I've always cackled to myself while editing when the music aligns perfectly with someone's voice. 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Between kids and my phone, I've not really read fiction in a long while. That changed when I encountered the work of Aaron Hall and his delightful fantasy/comedy The Legend of Uh. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/p8hehqu40llpn6sr/aHR0cHM6Ly9hYXJvbm5oYWxsLm15c2hvcGlmeS5jb20vcHJvZHVjdHMvdGhlLWxlZ2VuZC1vZi11aC1wYXBlcmJhY2stMQ== ) It's just fun. It isn't literature, isn't making me better at my job (yet it very much is). I've found a few lines to make me blink twice and a couple errors that shouldn't be there. None of that matters. It's FUN. Aaron is also a brilliant marketer. On Instagram, he started a series called Caveman Cooking ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/6qhehoulgdd3mgi9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS9wL0RXNHJLSjlFakNMLw== ), which my kids love, and his other videos are just as smart to promote his books. (Here's one ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxpl840u6h64z6705u3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/58hvh8ug8zz4rrt7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS9yZWVsL0RZRUdIdTN0emtELw== ) about the writing process which made me laugh.) ​ ************************************************** My friend, you can just ... decide ... to do this. ************************************************** We can choose to spend time and money to support creatives and artists and people we love. This entire newsletter edition was that, top to bottom. * Like, share, comment on the things your favorite creators post. * Leave a rating and review for their show. * Open that email and click a link, even if you don't have time to read the thing this week. * It takes mere seconds to make others feel good and to communicate to tech platforms, "This person is worthy." It shouldn't be like this. But it is. The question is, what will your role be? There's never been a better time to find and support good humans and the magic they make. What do you love? WHO do you love? What's stopping you from supporting them? Consuming their work isn't enough. Let them know. Let OTHERS know. Share your voice, your platform, your dollars. Do something small for 1 creator that they'll appreciate—and do it right now. That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox next week! 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​ ​ A weekly newsletter by me, Jay Acunzo ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/g3hnhwum57nz0vh3/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tLw== ), helping you compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Become a stronger speaker, storyteller, and public voice—without losing your soul—as you differentiate easier and resonate deeper. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/9qhzhdudmkx28kiz/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL25ld3NsZXR0ZXI= )​ *************************** Why the newsletter rebrand? *************************** Hello, my friend! You've likely noticed the fresh coat of paint. Here's why: As my business and platform have both grown (deep dive on my reinvention here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/n2hohquvpwgo4xf0/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVpbnZlbnRpb24= )), I need to ensure there's less noise in my model and more alignment in what I do privately and how I show up publicly. My dream isn't to build a massive firm with 20 employees. I want to build a business that has enough margin in finances, time, and headspace for me that I can become my own biggest patron and fund whatever creative projects I want to create! So given the recent growth, the need for alignment, and the vision for where I'm going, I've decided to go all-in on an idea I'm known for and truly adore. It's an idea others love hearing when I speak to it, yet for some reason, I've not really overtly claimed it enough: RESONANCE. As I'll say to anyone who listens, my entire premise is to help people think resonance over reach to succeed. Here are the things which have gotten more focused on that idea and more aligned thanks to it: * My group coaching and mastermind program now aligns neatly with my 1:1 advisory services. Same audience/clientele, and the two offerings can feed into and out of each other. Learn more about the Green Room ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/48hvh7umez9239tq/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL3Bvc3RzL2pheWFjdW56b19zcGVha2Vycy1pcy10aGlzLXlvdXItcm9vbS10aGUtZ3JlZW4tcm9vbS11Z2NQb3N0LTc0NTgyNzI0OTYzNzU2NzI4MzMtRWhDYi8= ). I close applications in a week. * I've rebranded this newsletter (How to Resonate) but also my podcast (Why They Resonate). * I've updated my signature keynote ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/wnh2h6uqp94odvsl/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2tleW5vdGVz ), Resonance Over Reach: How to Compete on the Influence of Your Ideas, Not the Volume of Your Marketing. I've even booked a few talks to give this new speech already. * Lastly, I've landed on the direction for my next book, and I couldn't be more giddy. I've always wanted a way to do something that felt more "insider" to the people I aim to serve, with stories and advice and frameworks but NOT in the bland business book style. I think I've found it and will talk more about it soon. Everything I do now feels totally aligned, and I feel way more energized as a result. Thanks for joining me on this journey and supporting me however you do! If you're looking for a 10-second way to support me, please leave a rating for the relaunched show on Apple Podcasts ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/reh8h9umr975pes6/aHR0cHM6Ly9wb2RjYXN0cy5hcHBsZS5jb20vdXMvcG9kY2FzdC93aHktdGhleS1yZXNvbmF0ZS9pZDE3MzY1ODY3NzA= ) and/or Spotify ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/08hwhgu250x747fp/aHR0cHM6Ly9vcGVuLnNwb3RpZnkuY29tL3Nob3cvMnhNdHkyTzRHQmNHOEY3eVN1ZGVYbA== ). ************************************************************* A Creative Human's Response to Obnoxious Voices Online Today: ************************************************************* “You’re gonna get left behind!” Leave me behind. I’m begging you. Please. Where you’re headed is not where I’m going. Leave me behind and let me dance with those who remain. Leave me here, joyful to have some companions who believe the process is the point, not the end result. (This is also a better way to see our best results.) Let me sit here in silence without your incessant nagging, so I can notice the world and turn that infinite source of quiet inspiration into stories. Let me agonize over ideas and drafts meant to stir hearts and engage minds, not merely fill feeds. Let me sit with my thoughts in the morning with some good bread and great coffee as I daydream about the next project or piece or sentence or word. Leave me to sip my favorite bourbon after a dinner made with love. I’m busy enjoying the feeling of a pen in my hand as it suggests the next great What If. Go away, please and thank you, so I can cackle to myself. One burst is for you as you miss the point of this work entirely, and one laugh is for me, as I visualize my work entering a world starved for deeper and better—forever grateful for the sameness, making it easier to stand out. (More bourbon for me and my friends here!) Leave me behind, please. Journey so far away from me, I can’t hear your opinions, processed through the Business Celebrity Industrial Complex just enough that you’re ready to pass off those words as your own. (It’s an epidemic these days, huh? But the cure is mere inches off the screen—any direction will do.) (Oh, and while we’re at it, KEEP MY EM DASHES OUT YO DAMN MOUTH.) I don’t find this moment exciting or chaotic or unnerving or transformational. I find it boring. Overly predictable. And boring. So get on with it already. Leave me behind. Just take the tedium with you. Bloviate down the road, over the hills, and far away. Manufacture mediocrity somewhere else. Don’t get all that beige, bland dust all over my space here. Leave me behind. Go in peace, but go with haste. I’ve got important work to do on this earth—and I don’t have time to waste. Leave me here. Let me dance with those who remain. Yes, you and I create “content,” but we are not the same. Keep moving, please. Go far and fast, until I’m nothing but a speck—happy and excited without your fire hose of drek. You say I’m in trouble, that I am doomed, but here is where I’ll stay. And before you say another word: you promised you’d go away. “You’ll get left behind,” you say again. Your final helpful try. Ah, I see! I get it now! Thanks for sharing. 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It's really disheartening for me to watch my author friends work so hard to research, write, and launch their books, only to witness what usually what happens after: not enough. Not enough recognition, not enough opportunities, not enough income. Even for folks with decent income, it's always a friction-filled uphill sprint. It doesn't feel smooth or repeatable enough. The Author-ity Collective is a space built for business authors who are ready to make their book work as hard as they do, with annual retreats, mastermind sessions, tools, connections, and everything you need to turn your book into a thriving business. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/m2h7h6u3pk9nxmal/aHR0cHM6Ly9hc3Nlc3NtZW50LmNocmlzZHVja2VyLmNvbS9jb2xsZWN0aXZlLXdhaXRsaXN0 ) (Waitlist) ​ 2/ My new favorite lav mic: My friends at Wistia reviewed a mic ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/dphehmuegzk7x5sl/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1LaHFCaC1YdmxWTQ== ) awhile ago, then I got to use one when I shot some videos at their office last year. It's stunning how something so small and easy to use captures audio this clean and clear. I love mine. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/e0hph0u7g9enz5c7/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuYW1hem9uLmNvbS9kcC9CMENQN1A0UlJRP3JlZj1wcHhfeW8yb3ZfZHRfYl9mZWRfYXNpbl90aXRsZQ== )​ ​ 3/ It takes a lot of work to make a joke this silly and unhinged: I love studying comics, both by watching them and listening to them discuss their craft. I've watched this bit ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/7qh7h2u97v84edu9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaW5zdGFncmFtLmNvbS9wL0RYcDNnNVlEOEhnLw== ) from comedian Jack Tucker about 100 times. It's wild and hilarious, and yet if you understand the craft, you know it took dedication and a delicate hand to actually write it so it works. ​ That's all from me for now. Remember: Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. ​ I'll be back in your inbox next week! Jay ​ ​ Public Speaking Advisor (Services ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/owhkhwuwv3n8epsq/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NlcnZpY2Vz )) Author & Keynote Speaker Host, How to Resonate (Apple ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/reh8h9umr975pes6/aHR0cHM6Ly9wb2RjYXN0cy5hcHBsZS5jb20vdXMvcG9kY2FzdC93aHktdGhleS1yZXNvbmF0ZS9pZDE3MzY1ODY3NzA= ) | Spotify ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/k0u2g3qdn3f6h5qrvr5slhopo0l3xs0rd7v0xw53m5vnpdpd677pkwe4z666x266e0x53r9v0kxmvp5l0mxwkwgzplnqrmxvg004r5nonr70w4q08o36gnw63opbnm7ve/08hwhgu250x747fp/aHR0cHM6Ly9vcGVuLnNwb3RpZnkuY29tL3Nob3cvMnhNdHkyTzRHQmNHOEY3eVN1ZGVYbA== )) ​ PS: If you enjoy my writing and want to support this newsletter, pick your favorite below. 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It's a chance to speak openly and honestly about what you're going through and hear others in your same position—plus some friends of mine who have been in this world for decades. If this is a room you'd like to be in, reply and let me know. The next call is in a couple weeks. *** ************************************************************** The Single Italian Word Which Says So Much About Creative Work ************************************************************** Every so often, I encounter a word that perfectly summarizes something I've been trying to say to the world. This week, it was a little Italian concept, which is perfect, because so am I. The concept is sprezzatura. While the literal translation is actually "studied carelessness," the meaning is far more powerful to me. The word has come to mean "accomplishing difficult tasks while hiding the effort that went into them." I like a simpler, more colloquial way of saying it: Making hard things looks easy. Sprezzatura. I first discovered the word when checking the Instagram bio of a chef friend of mine, Mike Lombardi. We went to high school together, and he's gone on to start two incredible Italian restaurants in the Boston area. (If you ever get the chance, run don't walk to eat at both SRV and Si Cara.) In Mike's bio, there's just one word. Sprezzatura. That sent me down a rabbit hole of research and reflection, and I'm here to present my findings. This one is for my fellow word nerds! *** ------------------ This says so much. ------------------ In addition to being a powerful concept to understand (more on that shortly), it's also really freaking fun to say. Sprezzatura. For the unfamiliar, the double-z in Italian sounds like "-ts" in English. That's why mozzarella is pronounced "MOTS-a-rella" and not "MOZZZZZZ-a-rella." Though real ones simply say moots. Sprezzatura is pronounced "SPRETS-a-toora." Like I said, it's just plain fun to say. But it's even more fun to learn about and inspiring to pursue. Think about its meaning for a second: making hard things look easy. Is there any better signal of mastery of craft? Is there any better way to impress an audience, a prospect, a client, a peer? Is there any better feeling as a creator? I'll answer all of these in Italian: No. I think about speeches I give. Yes, it feels really good to be good at something that others find difficult in general, but it's the little moments and moves which get me geek-level excited to make a difficult thing look effortless. To me as a performer, storyteller, and teacher, there's no better feeling than knowing every little move I can make on stage and what reactions will come of it—all while others assume I'm doing it for the first time on stage. I know that one somber moment of that one story will make the room quiet—an "extra-quiet" kind of quiet which can only be experienced when hundreds or thousands of people in a room stay silent simultaneously. No better feeling. I know that one joke will trigger a few awkward chuckles at first, but then if I hold it a bit, the punchline really arrives, and the laughter will roll. I also know if I acknowledge how bad the joke was, I'll get a second round of laughter. I've figured that out! That's crazy to me! That's insanely addicting to understand and to experience! I know that ranty section in the middle of my talk—the one where I emulate what it feels like to do marketing and create content on the internet today—will trigger a mid-speech applause break. Are you serious right now?! We can intentionally do this stuff as creators? Yes! It's hard, but we can make it look easy, as I run out of breath to end my rant, stick the landing using a callback from the start of it, and keel over, panting, while people applaud. (I've done this 9 times in front of live crowds. I'm 9 for 9 in applause breaks.) The thing is, regardless of what YOU do creatively, YOU have similar things you've mastered. YOU make things others find difficult look oh-so-effortless, and those are the things which make YOU feel magnetic to THEM. The think, "Oh my goodness, they're amazing. I want to spend time with them. I need to talk to them, follow them, hire them, tell others about them." Sprezzatura: Making hard things look easy. Since learning this word, I've seen it show up everywhere. Of course, I see it through the work you and I do, but it applies to any professional at the top of their game. For instance, I'm a huge sports fan. Ever watch an NBA player warming up? Steph Curry can casually hit a full-court shot before heading back into the locker room. Or how about during the game? Jalen Brunson can slither and slice his way between three defenders, all a foot taller than him, making them careen wildly towards the floor, as he casually flips the ball through the hoop. Sprezzatura. Ever see Simone Biles sprint and leap and flip across the floor? Allegedly, we are both human beings, when in reality, she is a literal superhero, and I sprained my shoulder sleeping wrong. She's the human equivalent of a shock-absorbent spring. Meanwhile, spring in Boston makes me sneeze hard enough, my back gives out. Sprezzatura. Ever witness a gorgeous swing from a home run hitter? Aaron Judge or Shohei Ohtani make hundreds of choices in a fraction of a second for whether and how to swing at a white blur screaming at 100 miles an hour towards their bodies ... then they casually crush the ball 500 feet the other way into the night, all with an impossible air of nonchalance. Sprezzatura. It's not just sports either. How about musicians? Yo-Yo Ma is clearly an alien sent here for one purpose: to play an extraterrestrial version of what we humans call a cello, equipped with a technology capable of transporting your soul into the cosmos. Meanwhile, my father-in-law tells stories of banishing my wife to the bathroom to practice as a child. Also, can someone please tell me how Adele can make those sounds with the same organs I have in my upper respiratory system?Ever watch Lindsey Stirling perform? She plays violin and dances with such extreme skill and an energy level I can only describe as "fastforwarding a video of a squirrel on cocaine." She does this for hours on-end, with energy to spare. Then you see me, walking up a slight hill while talking on the phone for 30 seconds. "You... you talk now, Dad. I need... a break. Or ... or the hospital." From athletes to artists, speakers to writers, surgeons to chefs, parents to landscapers—anyone who has truly mastered what they do seem to possess a kind of superhuman sorcery mere mortals can't understand, as these people ply their trades and deliver moments capable of inspiring legions of fans and lasting change. How? Sprezzatura. They make hard things look easy. *** ----------------------------------- The surprising history of the word. ----------------------------------- The term itself is often attributed to a guy named Baldassare Castiglione, though the idea is far older. Castiglione was a Renaissance era author. He was the Count of Casatico and an influential voice in the early 16th century around various European courts, thanks to his book il Cortegiano or "The Book of the Courtier," which talks about the etiquette and morality of people who attended royal court as a king or queen's companion or advisor. But again, the idea predates the word itself. * Cicero practiced sprezzatura in his orations—an idea Stoics call neglentia diligens, or "studied negligence." * The ancient Roman poet Ovid, writing centuries before Castiglione and likely inspiring his thinking, once wrote, "Ars est celare artem" ("the purpose of art is to conceal itself"). * Aristotle talked about something similar to the concept with his idea of "the golden mean," which says that true excellence lives in the space between extremes, never straining toward either edge. (I think about this idea a lot when it comes to confidence, strength, and power. As a man, I believe these things are carried calmly. If you have true confidence, strength, or power, you don't need to be showy or loud about it—an idea many men, especially public-facing men, need to remember. The more aggressive and insistent they get, the less confidence, strength, or power they actually possess. Never forget that.) Anyway, back to Castiglione, the 16th-century consigliere to courtiers. (That was a fun sentence. Please thank your eyeballs for looking at it.) The Book of the Courtier was written as a series of conversations among courtiers debating the qualities of the ideal nobleman. Castiglione gave language to a quality his cohort had long admired but never tried to define—something influential voices often do (hint, hint). He called it "a certain nonchalance, so as to conceal all art and make whatever one does or says appear to be without effort and almost without any thought about it." This quality was declared the one universal rule of graceful behavior. Sprezzatura. Then the idea spread across Europe. (Castiglione was an OG memelord.) (Don't worry, I also hated that joke.) Raphael tried to embody sprezzatura in his paintings. Mannerist sculptors like Cellini pursued the ideal in bronze. Shakespeare and Ben Jonson wove it into their scripts and characters, and yes I did cackle to myself writing a line like, "Raphael, Cellini, Shakespeare, Ben Jonson." Sprezzatura also has close cousins in other languages. In French, you might say je ne sais quoi to describe a certain effortless or ineffable quality or essence. In Japanese, the word iki refers to something chic or stylish but subtly so, without revealing the effort that normally goes into making something chic or stylish. Eventually, the Oxford English Dictionary defined Castiglione's idea as "studied carelessness." But it's so much more powerful than that. As with all words, the meaning matters more than the definition, and sometimes, the two aren't identical. Sprezzatura: Making hard things look easy. *** ------------------------- Why this matters so much. ------------------------- I think this one word ought to be our constant goal. In our work, we aim to master hard things, make what matters, and solve important problems through what we create. We're here to resonate with others, not just reach them, to change their perspective and spark reflection and action. In our pursuit of mastery and results, sprezzatura is the crowning achievement. (Get it? Because courts.) To me, sprezzatura isn't just the goal. It's the dream. You see, most sane human beings see the works of their heroes and think "Amazing! Wow, they make that look so easy. But that's so hard. I could never." That's a rational reaction to incredible people and their best work. But as creators and leaders and public voices, you and I have a different reaction. We those same people and their best work, and we are inspired enough and delusional enough to say, "Amazing! Wow, they make that look so easy. And I'm going to do that too." Right now, there's something you do which others find difficult. Have you figured that out? Forget being the only one who does it or even the best who does it. If you were in a room of 100 people you wanted to serve, what could you easily do which they find hard? This very question helped me turn my business around ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/r8uxdgo0egtoh3r0rq5f2hd005635toen0dovprx8rdw2n2nk002gp546kkkvqkk5ovrxemdogv8d2rlo8vpgpz62lw3e8vdzoo4erw9we0op43o79xkzwpkx92b4l5d7/kkhmh2unvk20oxtk/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVpbnZlbnRpb24= ). (I'm not the best speaker in the world, but I'm almost always the best speaker in the room.) Or ask another question: "What are the most impressive people in my network most impressed by, coming from me?" That one little Italian idea has such a big impact on your work AND your ability to grow a business and a career. People gravitate towards you, remember you, refer you. It helps you stop chasing attention and be the one others seek. You can get out of your head and merely be in the world. You can embody your ideas and hand them to others to have a real impact in the world. It's the goal. It's the dream. It's the work. As any true professional understands, making hard things look easy is the only real sign of true mastery. That's why we test and tinker. It's why we knowingly produce messy drafts and then work tirelessly to fix them. We gnaw and claw and scratch and snarl and sometimes skip and dance and twirl and laugh our way through all this ridiculous stuff which is required of us to be creative. It's why we endure all the trial-and-error, which can't be skipped, despite anyone selling you any kind of shortcut. It's all so that eventually, for even just a single golden moment, we feel what it's like to make hard things look easy. We rehearse the talk, write articles to no one, shoot video that goes nowhere, and practice our craft. We work tirelessly at work worth doing—work that is difficult. Because eventually, we make it look easy. But we know the truth. We know what it took to get here. Which is why we proceed with confidence, clarity, and the ability to charge what we're worth. When we can make hard things look easy, we see the journey. Others just see magic. Don't be fooled. The path is hard. But the results are undeniable, and the feelings you experience are intoxicating. Watch what I can do. Watch what mastery looks like. Watch THIS. 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While that will still be part of the show, it's clear that people benefit most when they see the work actively unfolding, being built, sometimes with established voices, sometimes folks figuring it out. The new show will be called Why They Resonate, and it will fit much more of the work I do with clients: premise development, story development, and speech development, as the real work is put on display and unfolds in real time on the show. Here's the cover art just for fun. 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Become a stronger speaker and storyteller, so you can compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/m2h7h6u3z8edolhl/amF5YWN1bnpvLmNvbS9uZXdzbGV0dGVy )​ ************************* A Look Inside My Business ************************* The image in my head is always the same. It's like an action movie. The camera chases me from behind, bouncing as I sprint out my front door. Then it swings up, following my gaze as I watch the sky burning, asteroids pelting the earth around me. It all burns down. Okay, okay, that's a little dramatic as a metaphor for my business collapsing, but (A) being dramatic sure is useful as a speaker and storyteller, and (B) it's genuinely how the start of the pandemic felt for me. I'd spent five years building my speaking business full-time. I lost it all in five days. My livelihood was built around travel and large groups. Few things are more perfect for a pandemic to destroy. (Maybe if you're in the face-licking business?) The thing is, when the world reopened and my peers went back on the road, I did not. That wasn't the plan even before COVID. I knew once we started having kids, I'd need to be less of a road warrior, so the plan was to wean off my travel-heavy work and build up a services business I could operate from home. Then the universe decided there would be no weaning to be had. In an instant, everything crashed down around me. I didn't have the option of slowly winding down one income stream and slowly building another. I needed to replace everything. Fast. Of course, I didn't. I spent a few years lurching around. In that time, I benefitted from great friends and mentors, cognitive behavioral therapy, two loving and supportive parents, and maybe a scoop or two of extra delusion that comes with being a creative entrepreneur. Which brings me to this moment and this update to you. *** For the last three years, I’ve rebuilt my business from my road-heavy speaking business (the largest thing I’d ever built—until recently) to a high-end advisory business ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/dphehmuen05lqxsl/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29t ). It's gotten so much bigger than I can handle alone that I'm starting to think about hiring (already working with a fantastic ops manager, Emily Cresswell ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/7qh7h2u95ozrovh9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL2VtaWx5Y3Jlc3N3ZWxsLw== )) and planning to string up a basic website under a brand name which isn't my own. This will likely launch in the fall. This advisory business centers on two things: IP development and public speaking excellence. I work with my clients and cohorts to help them articulate their expertise in the most compelling ways possible. They arrive with expertise and a mountain of ideas, and we turn that into 1 signature, influential idea (their premise) and the IP built on top of it which allows them to distribute, own, and monetize their expertise in more memorable, scalable ways. For some clients, we also work on their signature talk and their speaker success systems. About half my clients are paid speakers. The other half uses speaking as marketing. In both cases, they're typically in the business of expertise, selling some kind of service(s) or educational product(s). Thought leadership, public speaking, and business storytelling are direct lines to revenue, and my work with them makes it easier to win more and better clients at higher prices and with less friction. ****************** BUSINESS BREAKDOWN ****************** For the curious, here is a more detailed look at my business... REVENUE STREAMS (YTD % OF BOOKINGS) * One-on-one clients (48%) * Group programs (25.5%) * Brand deals (17.5%) * Speaker fees (9%) Last year, I had my second-biggest year in terms of gross revenue since I was a full-time speaker and basically broke myself in that year. It was all brute-force. I remember one week in particular, I was crushed to be leaving my then-18-month-old daughter for a full week as I traveled to Nashville, Whistler, and Atlanta in the same week. (I lived outside NYC at the time, though we've been back in Boston since 2019.) Last year was the second-highest grossing compared to that year, but it felt far more sustainable. To start this year, I set an aggressive revenue target, higher than last year's, and reader, I still can't believe the sentence I'm about to type: as of last week, my bookings for the year have passed my revenue target. That means before the end of April, I've booked more revenue than my entire 2026 goal. I am gobsmacked, but as my friend and business mentor Michelle Warner told me, "Welcome to product/market/founder fit. When the alignment snaps in, the universe tends to follow." As of this writing, my next opening for 1:1 clients is in August. Learn about my services here. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/owhkhwuwdro2rkuq/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NlcnZpY2Vz )​ My years of lurching around searching for a focus are over. I feel like collapsing and, honestly, crying. I can neither confirm nor deny that I've done both over the last month. (It helps that I went on a long overdue vacation with my oldest friends in the world last week, some of whom I've known since I was two years old, all of whom I've known for at least 26 years! The sunshine, the deep breaths, the laughs, and the long road to get here since 2020—it all hit me at once.) ​ REVENUE ANALYSIS The rise of group (The Green Room): I maxed out my 1:1 time to start the year, meaning I can't book any more advisory clients until August, which is a strange, wonderful, yet stressful thing to acknowledge to others. That means I've re-thought my group program. Previously, I ran something for $2,250 called Design My Signature Talk. This was an eight-week virtual accelerator to build your talk, and it appealed to a smattering of folks at all stages. But my 1:1 engagements are more expensive (minimum $5k/month for 3- or 6-months). Over time, my existing 1:1 clients started asking about group, while some 1:1-caliber prospects wanted to start with a group program. I had nothing for them. Complicating things, your success as a public speaker unfolds over the long arc of time, not 3- or 6-months. As of now, I've sold 8 of 10 seats into the new iteration of my group program. These are authors, speakers, former execs, and emerging thought leaders ready to go from one-off keynotes to sustainable revenue from the stage. Rather than eight weeks virtually, it's a full-year program, guided by a light curriculum, with two in-person retreats. It's meant for experts, authors, and speakers to build their paid speaking flywheels together -- the talk, the proof, the network, the systems. * I'm finalizing those last two spots this week. Reply if you want to see the sales page with all details. This group program will eventually become my signature offering, while the 1:1 advisory services become a premium-level secondary offering. Both are aligned with each other, serving the same audience in different ways, rather than splitting me across two different audiences. My previous group program showed me just how exhausting it can be to have up- and down-market offerings (or maybe up- and mid-market, given my prices). The Green Room will also allow me to remain application-based, instead of pay-to-join, which I prefer and existing members like better. I can also run multiple small groups and bring on other coaches to lead a group or two, scaling my revenue beyond what 1:1 engagements allow for. All in all, it's snapping into place with 1:1 and group being so aligned. ​ Current roster of 1:1 clients: Here is an anonymized list of clients who have hired me to develop their premise, IP, and signature talks, as well as their audience growth and speaking success systems: * A repeat founder launching a new company helping creators who are at scale stay safe despite how visible they've become. [Repeat client] * A former sales exec in the banking sector who now works with innovative fintech leaders to help them sell into financial institutions. [Also joining the Green Room.] * A former HR executive at global brands who now writes, speaks, podcasts, and consults about the future of HR. [Also joining the Green Room.] * An executive coach previously specializing in neurodivergent leaders expanding to include all kinds of execs and high-performers as a coach, drawing on her knowledge of systems and the brain. [Repeat client. Also joining the Green Room.] * A veteran brand marketer and strategist building her own agency and helping her clients rethink the power of actual brand strategy. * The CEO of a scaling startup empowering professionals through exam prep tools. * The EVP of a midsized software-and-services firm becoming the known, trusted voice for his organization. * A veteran podcast producer building his own agency, serving enterprise brands, learning to step into the spotlight to grow the business. ​ Speaker fees: Looking at my numbers, a few things jump out. Let's start with speaker fees, since that's what started this whole entrepreneurial journey for me back in 2016. My kids are 7 and 4, which means my wife and I can take turns traveling solo without the other feeling totally crushed at home. But it's still pretty exhausting—and not at all my preferred way of working. You can promise me a big bag of cash and a thousand people's laughter and applause, and that still doesn't come close to the feeling of simply being at home with my kids. As a result, speaker fees are where I want them to be. I should end the year with those right around 10-12%. They were 80% pre-pandemic. This year's totals are exactly aligned with the target I set for my speaker revenue when I began to reinvent things three years ago. Finally. The next five years will mean growing those slightly, but I have no plans to return to the full road-warrior mode. Much respect to my favorite humans who are doing that. I'm here to support you from behind-the-scenes! ​ Where speaking fits now: Today, while I can maintain some direct revenue from speaking, most of my speaking is the best possible marketing for my services—and most of those talks happen quietly, privately, to densities of my ideal audience (niche media groups, community groups, and collaborative webinars with complementary service providers, delivered as free sessions). This is a real advantage I've worked hard to earn, but only recently have I realized just how differentiating and powerful it can be for any of us who sell services. If building a keynote speaking business is like playing basketball on a 10-foot rim, defended by NBA players, then giving webinars feels to me like dunking on a Fisher Price hoop, completely alone in the driveway. The bar is SO low that if you can leap over them, some really impressive people want to hire you after a guest webinar. It helps that I can showcase the very same things I help others develop: my premise, my IP, and my storytelling and speaking abilities. (All this to say, if YOU run a media company or community of established entrepreneurs or executives, invite me to speak. I'll probably say yes 😊) Again, I'm still speaking regularly, just at lower volumes, but I'll do as many guest sessions virtually as the world will allow! ​ Upcoming talks: To give you a sense for precisely how speaking fits in my world today, here's a look at a selection of talks I'll be delivering: * PAID GIGS: Two private clients hired me to speak virtually to their marketing teams to set the tone at their off-sites. One is a media and entertainment conglomerate whose characters, properties, and parks help you wish upon a star. The other is an incredible team of marketers building at a leading agency specializing in TV advertising for its clients. For both, I'm giving my signature talk, Resonance Over Reach: How to Compete on the Influence of Your Ideas, Not the Volume of Your Marketing. * FREE SESSIONS: A few friends also graciously opened the doors to their communities of creators, where I'll be giving free sessions about the business of speaking, including Jay Clouse (he runs The Lab ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/z2hgh7uex3wq3kuz/aHR0cHM6Ly9qb2luLmNyZWF0b3JzY2llbmNlLmNvbS8= )) and Justin Moore (he owns Creator Wizard ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/p8hehqu4ozxnzdsr/aHR0cHM6Ly9jcmVhdG9yd2l6YXJkLmNvbQ== ), coaching creators on all things brand deals). * BOSTON STRONG: I'm also speaking at a couple events local to me (woo!), including BookThinkers LIVE ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/x0hph3ue0w35wdfg/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuYm9va3RoaW5rZXJzLmNvbS9ib29rLXRoaW5rZXJzLWxpdmUtMjAyNg== ) and B2B Forum ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/6qhehoule7om7dc9/aHR0cHM6Ly9tcGIyYi5tYXJrZXRpbmdwcm9mcy5jb20v ). * DANCING IN DENMARK: Lastly, I'm honored to be the opening speaker at a brand-new event for content marketers, launched this fall by a successful events organization in Denmark. I'll be traveling to Odense in October to give my signature keynote, plus a breakout about public speaking. ​ *************** WHAT'S WORKING? *************** Reinventing things was a slog. It got bleak for awhile, and I considered giving up and looking for a corporate job multiple times. That all ended about two and a half years ago when things started to click. I started to feel a kind of momentum I NEVER had, and this year, I'm holding something in my hand that's bigger and better than I ever imagined, just trying not to screw it up. So what’s working? Hard to say. A million little things, but a few thoughts: 1) Getting clear on my offerings. Crazy to say, but as I've suggested above, I couldn't really tell folks what I sold in my post-pandemic business until the last couple years. They could be huge fans and holding up wads of cash asking to hire me. I'd shrug and say, "You can hire me for ... things. Yep. Definitely things. Also stuff. Plenty of stuff. Mostly stuff having to do with things I write and speak about." Oof. When you sell high-ticket offerings, it's not about the cleverness of the offering. It's about the clarity. 2) Years of refusing to compromise my values and play the gimmicky social media game finally align with my offerings and market. The tactics to get “bigger” mainly repel serious clients capable of paying five figure fees. HAVING a big audience can help. GETTING to a big audience mostly means appealing to not very strategic or discerning people. Hard to sell premium things to premium people when you signal you aren’t. Some folks have approached me over the years to say something that sounds like, "I appreciate how you don't compromise, Jay. I can't wait until I have the results I need so I can stop playing this soul-sucking game." I tell them the same thing: Pick your clients, pick your future. If you know and respect me, it's only because I've always been this way. You don't play the gimmicky-game, then switch it off. You resist in order to rise. To the extent that I have or am a "personal brand" named Jay Acunzo, I feel like saying to these people: how do you think I became Jay Acunzo? My style, my vibe, my voice, my work's alignment with my values—that's not the byproduct of success. That's the cause. (Be right back. I need to take a shower after writing about myself that way...)​​3) Leaning into my speaking and my IP away from physical stages is paying serious dividends and turning sales calls into formalities. Webinars, podcast guesting, networking 1:1 and 1:few—relationship marketing 101. I mentioned this before, so I won't belabor it here, but a guest talk to 20 qualified people in a mastermind is much more valuable to me than social posts garnering 10k Likes or 1M views. The full embrace of relationship marketing has meant slower follower growth on social media and virtually no email list growth, but about 3x more leads from a much more valuable audience. It's not that my audience isn't growing. It's that I'm shedding folks who aren't relevant and aren't interested in my current focus while adding people who are. The result is an increase in value but not totals, as well as many more qualified people booking calls with me than previous years. This also means I spend more time on networking calls than carefully crafting social content. I still post to social media, but only because it's fun for me to express, poke the bear, and create. I also love to teach and field questions in my comments. I never had and still don't have a strategy for LinkedIn. Maybe that's a mistake. All I know is, the folks who have painstakingly scoped out their content strategy on these channels are constantly reacting, constantly stressed, and currently telling me how the algorithm is reducing their results. Meanwhile, my LinkedIn impressions are up 40% quarter over quarter. Engagements are up 34%. And that's the only time you'll catch me checking these numbers. Lastly, my relationship-focus (versus traffic-focus) has meant exceptional conversion rates. In fact, 70% of all prospects who schedule a sales call with me have hired me. By putting in the work earlier to meet folks as a speaker, writer, and trusted voice, someone booking a call with me is asking questions about timeline and specific work we'd do and how I'd tailor my ideas to their precise situations. The call is a sample of our work together and a means to check availability and alignment. It's not really a "sales" call. They're mostly convinced. 4) A return to my roots. Before the pandemic, I would freely organize groups to talk shop and chat with people 1:1 virtually and in-person. I was here to help. As my network grew and also as things got hard, I tensed up. I stopped focusing on being useful and uplifting and focused narrowly on trying to generate some kind of business result, which mainly looked like "survive." But now, I feel the joy in simply being helpful again. I've been organizing virtual meetups of keynote speakers (let me know if you want to join the next one). I've offered folks my time to talk shop a bit more freely. I've shared more advice and results from my own work and traction, not just big-think concepts. It feels good. If there's anything I wanted to say to you today, it's that. I've felt pretty bad for many years building my business. But today, the sun is shining, the people are kind, and I can see my kids tossing the frisbee with my wife just outside my window as I write this. And nothing is pulling me away from them. ------------------------------------------------------ I understand today's world is uncertain and stressful. ------------------------------------------------------ I know what I just shared might make me the exception. But I promise you, there is a future where things run smoother and get better. I don't say this because I'm in the business of self-help. I say this because I'm the beneficiary of others' help. I say this because I have scars I can point to and stories I can share. I'm here, telling you to keep going, because a little delusion is what you might need. I'm here to say it's possible to align your values and your business, to serve people you adore, and to not chain yourself to the feeds and the terrible decisions made by faraway tech executives who don't care about you or anything but themselves. I'm here to share a message from your future, spoken not as someone who skipped lightly around the world but the guy who sprinted out his front door to watch a sky on fire, convinced it was over. But as we know, that's not where the story ends. Keep going. *** Save or share this essay: ​jayacunzo.com/blog/reinvention ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/kkhmh2unvlmkl9ak/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvcmVpbnZlbnRpb24= )​ *** What else can I answer about my business? Ask me anything in a reply. *********** Bonus Bits: *********** 1) The biggest mistake speakers make when charging a fee. 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This talk is for people who are relationship marketing-curious and are ready to see the workflow in action to understand what it would look like in their business. * Join her live on April 27th at 2pm ET. Register free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/n4urxdk06dsvhx0zm4vf6h642pv7ru3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/25h2h9u3w2dk22i8/aHR0cHM6Ly90aGVtaWNoZWxsZXdhcm5lLmtpdC5jb20vcmVsYXRpb25zaGlwbWFya2V0aW5n )​ * PS: Learn from her format too. These "look over my shoulder" sessions are genius, and we can all run our own! * PPS: She also offers an actual bootcamp to build your relationship funnel. Here's the link to skip the line. 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IT CAN'T BE YOUR ADVANTAGE IF IT COMES FROM A BOX: Public speaking is the least technology-enabled skill you can master. I think about this all the time when folks ask me about AI. I don't know much, but I'm fairly certain your personal advantage will never be a tool that all your competitors can ALSO access for 20 bucks a month. (It doesn't matter the tool, by the way. Swap out AI for anything else.) Meanwhile, speaking is the most personal, transferable skillset which immediately and instantly enhances your value, perception, memorability, and odds of success everywhere you need to communicate. Though I can't force-rank the beloved skills I've worked tirelessly to master (storytelling and writing included), public speaking is arguably the least commonly mastered. There are more great storytellers and great writers in the world than there are great speakers. If you are all three? You can do whatever the heck you want in your work. You'll have a much easier time of it. This is why it has never made sense to me to watch people work tirelessly and invest serious time and dollars into learning a tool when they haven't done the same for foundational, evergreen, and ever-powerful skills. Listen, to hedge a bit: I don't "hate tech." Technology and specifically the internet has powered my creativity and business my entire career, and the majority of people who read, watch, listen to, or hire me right now would not know I existed without technology. I'm all kinds of tech-enabled. But I am also realistic. If you can access something with a credit card for the cost of a couple mediocre cocktails each month, and you can follow a checklist to make it even passable to use, then you aren't likely to benefit nearly as much as the people selling the thing want you to believe. As always, and perhaps more than ever, it's not the knife, it's the chef. It's not the gear, it's the talent. It's not the mic, it's the speaker. It's not the tool, it's you. It's f*cking you. 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Become a stronger speaker and storyteller, so you can compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/qdu2w5vr75f7h4p4798ilh8dpzx2qf972dn9pvlr5ln3o2o2kddoevwzqkkkpgkkw9plr7mn9ep5nol095pvev6qo03875pn699z7l3x37d9vz894xrk63vkrxobpdwn3/owhkhwuw9d4v5psq/amF5YWN1bnpvLmNvbS9uZXdzbGV0dGVy )​ ************************************* "I can't believe people can do that." ************************************* I want to live in a world where we value wonder more than attention. This goes both ways: * We experience wonder, rather than melt our brains into a tiny screen as we waste away our attention. This feels like growth and expansion rather than hiding or withering. * We create wonder in others, rather than constantly and aggressively scrambling for their attention. This feels like giving rather than taking. I want to live in that kind of world. I want to build that kind of world. And I think this happens once we start to realize where the most value and meaning actually comes from when we experience something. The source of something's power isn't really the thing itself. The source of the power is that people decided to make it. When I experience something, it carries more meaning and therefore does the job the thing is meant to do better because I can appreciate that people were behind this. In the same way a bot producing a sketch is less impressive than a human sketching by hand, it is human effort and striving and struggle that matters most when you create something meant to resonate. If you want to influence and inspire, if you want to build an audience of passionate fans and followers (at least one that doesn't make you want to walk slowly into the ocean most days), then we can't omit that part. The proverbial "journey, not the destination" applies here a little bit. But mostly, it's a realization your audience has about the journey which separates truly resonant work from commodity material. *** This week, I was grateful my family and I caught the livestream of the liftoff of NASA's Artemis II mission. (Thanks, Dad, for reminding me. I know you're reading this.) (That's not sarcasm. I'm nothing if not the byproduct of two supportive parents!) Anyway, in the moments leading up to the launch, you could hear astronauts, NASA representatives, and aerospace experts talking excitedly to the media about what to expect and why this was happening. Then, during liftoff and the moments thereafter, you could hear more chatter from people involved, whether from the control room or through additional media coverage. In all of that discussion, I was struck by something. They didn't celebrate the achievements of technology. They celebrated the achievements of humankind. After all, when Neil Armstrong became the first human to step foot onto the moon, he said, "That's one small step for [a] man, one giant leap for mankind." But I just loved what I heard from people involved in the Artemis II mission. It felt familiar, like hearing people talk about the Olympics. This was a moment for humans. They didn't applaud the achievements of metal and plastic. This wasn't a big moment for nuts and bolts. This launch didn't bring together a diverse array of rocket fuels to celebrate this milestone. This was about people. People did this. Wow. Incredible. In those moments, I felt a deeply rooted sense of wonder surround my person. What if we appreciated everything the same way? I'm so sick of people running around the internet going, "Look what AI can do!" I want to see what people can do. I want to see what YOU can do. "I asked ChatGPT..." I don't care in the slightest. What did you ask yourself? How did you answer? What did you find awaiting you, once you decided to examine the contents of your heart? What are the truths you're sharing about your flesh and bones existence? Give me THAT work. Let's build THAT world. I'm certainly going to try. Some people are impressed when an AI tool pops out an animation of a robot running through the woods. I'm not. Not in the slightest. Big whoop. It's built to do that. It was programmed. It didn't make choices or face friction or self-doubt or competing priorities or peer pressure to do that, yet it emerged triumphant. You know who did? The team behind The Wild Robot. That's why lazy uses of AI makes me shrug and that movie made me cry. Err, uh, I mean, it was raining on my face. I had dust in my eye. It was the dog. Shut up. Watching the Artemis II, I had a familiar thought. This thought pops to mind whenever something resonates with me: "I can't believe people can do that." This, my friend, is the true source of something's power and meaning. It's why I feel so much wonder at the world. It's not the thing itself, the "face value" of it. It's the fact that human beings made a decision to do something. Then, so much — so very, very much — went into making it happen. They made choices, overcame a ton of internal and external friction, then created something, achieved something, and made me think and feel something. That required a heck of a lot from them to do it. Meanwhile, we exist in a moment in the business world where content creators are effectively saying to others (as Brendan Hufford has said): "I deserve your time, but you don't deserve mine." What went into the work was virtually no effort, but people still expect others to spend time with it. That makes no sense. But then I encounter something that moves me, and I'm back to thinking, "I can't believe people can do that." The thing is, this thought evolves into two additional thoughts shortly after it arrives. The sentence sounds the same. What changes is the emphasis. At first, it's about the thing I'm experiencing on face value: "I can't believe people can do THAT." The emphasis is on the piece, the project, the experience, the THAT. But then rather quickly, I start to realize, "Wait a second, this thing didn't just exist. It had to be thought out, designed, developed, shipped." The emphasis changes: "I can't believe people can DO that!" Wait a second, they chose to do that! They invested their finite energy and time on this earth to DO that. That's incredible! Yes, the thing itself is great, but the actions required to make it real? That's where the meaning comes from. I'm more impressed and moved because others had such commitment to do it, to pursue it, to try and fail and learn and try again. They chose to DO that. My appreciation runs deeper and the meaning feels grander than the face value of the thing (the "THAT" of it all) because of that journey (the "DO" of it all). And so I think, "I can't believe people can DO that!" But then, dear reader, the sentence takes its final form. This is the best part. It's just ... delicious. Oh man. Oh, dearest reader of mine. It's THE best part. The BEST part. To understand the best part, I need to share one quick tangent. Earlier in the week, days before we watched the Artemis II, I was showing my first-grade daughter, Aria, a music video from Coldplay. We'd heard their song "Higher Power" playing somewhere in the world, and she loved it, so later that day, I found the dance video on YouTube ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/qdu2w5vr75f7h4p4798ilh8dpzx2qf972dn9pvlr5ln3o2o2kddoevwzqkkkpgkkw9plr7mn9ep5nol095pvev6qo03875pn699z7l3x37d9vz894xrk63vkrxobpdwn3/z2hgh7ue6xov06cz/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_bGlzdD1SRDNXT3dhMGxXRXo0JnN0YXJ0X3JhZGlvPTEmdj0zV093YTBsV0V6NA== ). We sat there together, gawking at it. It's here you need to know something about Aria: she's perfectly named. We couldn't anticipate it, but we gave her a name connected to music, and she's blossomed into the most musical, creative little human. She is obsessed with listening to music, singing songs, and dancing. She's also bizarrely fluid and graceful and advanced in her dance moves and her ability to mimic a singer on stage. (People reading this who have met me in-person or watched me give a talk are screaming at the screen, "IT ISN'T THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND, DUDE!" Yep, I get it: she got my wife's beauty and grace, and my desire for the spotlight. I love it.) When Aria turned two, she began using random things around the house as microphones. Her grandparents then bought a plastic mic and mic stand, which became her favorite spot in the house during the pandemic. We have a million videos of her tiny vertical ponytail bouncing up and down as she sang along to any song she heard. She'd close her eyes, furrow her brow, grip the plastic blue mic with both hands, and dramatically sing U2's "Stuck in a Moment" and Elton John's "I'm Still Standing." (Thank you, Sing soundtrack.) Once she got a little older, Aria discovered she could sing AND dance at the same time, and so she'd find literally any reflective surface and perform. This means for the last few years of my life, about three or four times a week, I stand at the kitchen sink washing dishes and receive a private musical performance courtesy of Aria, tearing it up in front of her reflection against the back door. Between at-home performances and now dance classes and recitals, Aria has been all-in on musical performances. As she told me the other day, partway through popping and locking across the living room: "Daddy, I love to dance because it's how I EXPRESS." My heart almost exploded out of my chest. Back to the video. Aria and I watched the "Higher Power" dancers, and her jaw slowly dropped. She stood perfectly still for two minutes—an eternity for a seven-year-old. Then she asked me an important question: "Are those people really doing that?" Not because she thought it was fake, but because she wanted to know: Is this really possible? You can move like that? You can make a video like this? You can have a job like theirs? You can EXPRESS like they do? Yes, Aria! Amazing, right?! Satisfied with my answer, she shared the tiniest smile and softest giggle, then started twirling around the room. That was two weeks ago. I've been thinking about that moment nonstop as I encounter things I love in the world. I'll watch a favorite show. Then a moving film. A YouTube video of an author delivering a keynote. I'll read a book. Then a newsletter from a friend. I'll see a clever caption on an Instagram reel. I ate dinner at a local sushi restaurant on a Wednesday and tried on a new jacket for date night on Friday. I enjoyed a latte with foam art. Munched on a pastry from the local bakery. Sifted through some drawings from my kids. Drifted to sleep playing to some music. The Artemis II takes off. "I can't believe people can do THAT." Then the same thought starts to evolve. "I can't believe people can DO that." Then, dearest of all the readers, the most meaningful realization yet: "I can't believe PEOPLE can do that." And there it is. The source of the meaning and power of a moment, a piece, a project, a mission. People can do that. People. "I can't believe PEOPLE can do that." Because, hold up, wait a second, do you know what that means? I'm a people. You're a people. Aria is a people, albeit more graceful and beautiful than the other 8 billion. My son is a people too, although he's a much sillier little goober than the rest. Your audience? People. That crowd for your keynote or webinar today, that prospect or customer, client or colleague? People. "I can't believe PEOPLE can do that." This matters, because it means WE matter. It's meaningful, because it means WE can create meaning. If PEOPLE can do that, imagine what YOU can do. Imagine what WE can do. When I think to myself, "I can't believe people can do that," the meaning and value I receive shifts from the thing itself to the journey to create the thing to the creators of the thing. PEOPLE can do that. That's when I feel the deepest form of wonder at this world. And that's the kind of world I want to create for myself, create for others, create for my kids. If PEOPLE can do that, that means *I* can do that! *YOU* can do that! *WE* can do that! Look at what we're capable of. Look at what's possible. We can do THAT. We can DO that. WE can do that. So what are we waiting for? 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What is life, if not to die a glorious death?” The Viking leader stood at the back of his ship, barking at his men as a storm threatened to overturn them. “Fear not, for tonight we drink in the halls of Valhalla! Row! Awaken, and welcome death!” Seconds later, their ship tumbled over a waterfall... straight into a man’s mouth. Millions of people laughed. Those people were watching the Super Bowl, and those Vikings were part of a commercial for Death Wish Coffee. Television airtime during the big game carries a hefty price tag—upwards of $5 million per thirty seconds—but Death Wish ran this ad for free. For the average small business, a free Viking-themed Super Bowl ad would be the most surprising thing about them, but if we were coffee experts, we might point to something else. If we were coffee experts, we might be surprised to learn Death Wish is able to survive at all, let alone thrive as it is today. In fact, if we were coffee experts, an early decision made by the company’s founder might seem so unconventional, we’d consider it unthinkable. And here’s the thing: It is unthinkable. Until you hear his side of the story. Death Wish founder and CEO Mike Brown mostly wears black hoodies, jeans, and work boots. He has short brown hair and a close-cropped beard—both touched with gray—and a broad, warm smile. Although he loves the work he does at Death Wish, he didn’t set out to start this company. He didn’t set out to work in the coffee industry whatsoever. His journey began in Saratoga Springs, New York. It’s one of those classically northeastern American towns. Squat, brick buildings with local shops and restaurants dot the main street, and plenty of leafy green neighborhoods weave all around it. Lots of blue-collar workers call the area home, while lots of New York City residents, living 200 miles south of Saratoga, call it “that place with the horse racing.” In 2008, Mike Brown felt like his career had stumbled out of the gate. He’d earned a master’s degree in accounting because he figured that’s what a successful professional does. But after landing a job following graduation, he realized he hated accounting. He was miserable, so he quit. After a few weeks of lounging around local coffee shops without any prospects or ideas, Mike decided to start a coffee shop of his own. He called it Saratoga Coffee Traders. As you’ve probably experienced firsthand, most coffee shops look the same. Sure, there are a few incremental differences: a pristine white display case, a new twist on a familiar drink, and, wait a second, is that some extra exposed brick I see? (My millennial senses are tingling!) But for the most part, every coffee shop experience feels identical. Mike knew this all too well. After spending countless hours in those establishments, growing increasingly frustrated with the commodity feel, he decided to build something different. Unfortunately, simply aspiring to create something exceptional doesn’t guarantee you will. You still need to make the right decisions to succeed, and despite Mike’s admirable intentions, he was making some terrible decisions. For instance, to liven up his menu, he decided to sell twenty-five different blends of coffee. Even worse, he carried more than two hundred different types of candy. (Yes! At a coffee shop!) So in one sense, I guess Mike succeeded in building a different kind of experience than the average coffee shop. Of course, as he soon realized, it’s not enough to simply be “different” than the average. Because Mike was tanking his business. “I pretty much ran it into the ground,” he said. He’d been open for less than a year, and he was already in danger of closing shop. “I actually painted out the worst-case scenario. If I lost everything—if I lost all my savings, and I had to sell my house and sell my car—what would be my worst-case scenario?” He figured, God forbid, if all that happened, he’d move back in with his mother. He’d be damned if he’d return to accounting. He’d rather sell all of his belongings and move home. “And that’s exactly what happened,” he said. “The exact worst-case scenario that could have happened, happened. It was even a little worse than that too. I had to borrow money from my mom to pay my employees.” To turn things around, Mike did what many of us would do in his shoes: he sought the advice of experts. Everyone he met, plus all the research he conducted, pointed to one fatal flaw in his business. Without realizing it, he had committed a mortal sin in the coffee industry. Mike was roasting the wrong type of coffee bean. This realization, and Mike’s subsequent reaction, would ultimately spawn the wildly successful Death Wish Coffee brand. But to understand what happened next and why it was so unthinkable to industry experts, we first need to know some basics about coffee beans. The two most common types of coffee beans are called arabica and robusta. Arabica beans represent more than 70 percent of the world’s coffee crop each year. That cute little cafe on the corner? They serve arabica. That bag of beans from the grocery store? Arabica. That grande-skinny-half-caff-Guatemalan-Casi-Cielo at Starbucks? Yeah, arabica. This makes sense, since arabica is delicious. Robusta, on the other hand, can be borderline torture to drink. You typically encounter robusta beans in instant coffees, like those little sleeves of grounds you see in hotel rooms—the stuff you mix into hot water as you sob quietly over your mug. Robusta coffee is the kind of coffee that makes you weigh how badly you need your fix against how willing you are to have Nasty Old Man Breath for the next twenty-four hours. In the minds of coffee experts, there is a right and a wrong bean to roast, and our friend Mike was roasting the wrong one. He came to the conclusion that if Saratoga Coffee Traders was going to succeed, he had to roast arabica beans. That’s the best practice. That’s what he should do. One day, a customer walked into Mike’s struggling shop and asked, “What’s the strongest cup of coffee you can make?” The customer was a truck driver about to embark on another long journey, so he told Mike he wanted something strong and dark. However, after all the research Mike had just done, he knew that “strong” and “dark” usually don’t mix. (Despite what you might think, lighter coffees are more caffeinated.) So Mike did his best to satisfy his customer, pouring the truck driver the darkest roast he’d brewed that day, and the man went on his way. As the shop fell quiet again, and Mike’s anxiety about his business began to creep back into his mind, he realized he’d heard that request before, always from the same type of person: truck drivers, construction workers, and all these hard-charging, hardworking individuals. They would march into the shop and demand stronger and darker coffee. Mike wondered, “What if I surprised that group of people?” He set his sights on a new goal: Mike would create the world’s strongest coffee. That’s a great aspiration, right? But more than merely sounding good, this aspiration helped Mike make good decisions in a very concrete way. By stating his aspiration out loud, he turned that previously vague desire to do something great into something specific he could create. Before that moment, he’d tried everything and anything to figure out what “better than average” meant. Once he was able to articulate it, however, Mike regained a sense of clarity that he’d lost along the way. Without realizing it, Mike had unhooked himself from the endless cycle that we each face whenever we make decisions at work. We’ll explore this cycle in more detail later. For now, just know that it’s the reason why so much commodity work exists today. This ubiquitous approach to making decisions is why so much work and so many careers plateau. Mike, on the other hand, eventually bridged the gap between commodity work and an exceptional career. How can we do that too? WHAT DOES YOUR “BEST WORK” EVEN MEAN? Have you ever stopped to wonder what it really takes to do your best work? What does it take to do anything exceptional compared to the typical stuff shared around your industry? A lot of ink and many more pixels have been used to explore the traits of successful people. The idea here is that, if we can mimic them, we can be successful too. I’ll admit, many of those books are well-intentioned and quite good to read. Unfortunately, most are crap on a cracker. Attempting to learn from others only goes so far. It’s the same as simply relying on conventional thinking. All of this merely provides us with possibilities, not answers, and then it’s up to us to vet those possibilities to ensure they’ll work for us. That’s what ultimately matters most, isn’t it? Unfortunately, vetting ideas or advice is not something most of us have been taught to do. It’s not something we spend much time doing, either, especially when you consider how much time we put in learning from experts, looking for shortcuts, or even tinkering with the latest trends or tools. Rarely do we stop to wonder if we’re making the best possible decisions for our specific situations. By the end of this book, that’s what you’ll be able to do. As we embark on this journey together, unlike most advice books, we’re not looking to learn what it takes for “anyone” to do their best work. Instead, we’ll focus on a much more important question: how can you start doing yours? To figure that out, Mike Brown articulated his aspiration out loud to himself and to others: “I’ll create the world’s strongest coffee.” With that statement in mind, he could begin to vet his ideas, as well as the endless advice of others, to make the best decision for his specific situation. Using that aspiration like a litmus test, he could more easily and confidently understand which idea or approach made sense, and to what degree. For example, when experts told Mike to stop selling twenty-five types of coffee and two-hundred types of candy, he instantly agreed. That advice made total sense for his situation. If you’re going to create the world’s strongest coffee, you can’t be distracted with the cost, logistics, and marketing required to sell hundreds of products. On the other hand, when Mike was told to roast arabica beans instead of robusta, he confidently bucked the trend. Arguably, using arabica coffee was the most widely-accepted approach among coffee businesses in North America. Doing anything else would be foolish, almost crazy, but to Mike, roasting robusta beans seemed like the best decision for him. Why? It turns out that roasted robusta beans contain more caffeine than roasted arabica beans. According to the Coffee Research Institute, one robusta bean is more than 2 percent caffeine, while one arabica bean is just over 1 percent. On average, a single cup of coffee made with robusta contains 83 percent more caffeine than the other stuff. If your aspiration is to create the world’s strongest coffee, this information is pretty darn useful. So, yes, in general, you should roast arabica beans for your coffee. But Mike isn’t operating in a generality. He operates in a very specific situation, just like the rest of us. For Mike, it made more sense to reject the conventional approach and roast robusta coffee. As we know already, the last thing he wanted was to create another average coffee shop. However, only once he committed to creating the world’s strongest coffee did Mike know what “better than the average” meant to him. In our quest to do great work, Mike’s aspirational statement holds a clue for how we might start our decision-making process. In later chapters, we’ll explore the idea of aspirations in more detail and learn about a powerful heuristic called “aspirational anchors.” For now, ask yourself: When you say you aspire to be exceptional instead of average, what exactly does that mean? In a world full of best practices, what are the right practices for you? What is your version of the robusta coffee bean? Once Mike decided to roast robusta beans, he broke from experts in a stark way. But admittedly, conventional thinking still holds some value. It can tell us what worked in the past or what works for others, and when we need results, we’d be wise to consider that information. The whole “stand on the shoulders of giants” maxim feels valid, doesn’t it? So if you’re Mike, and you’re going to break from what experts say to do, you better be damn sure that you’re well-informed. In other words, it’s not enough to merely break from conventional thinking. The goal is to understand our situation enough to know whether or not the conventional approach is right for us. When all Mike did was fight against the commodity coffee shop experience, he tanked his business. Not until he could explain why his way was better than the typical way did he actually see any results. If he started as a rebel without a cause, he then transformed into a rebel with a purpose—and that purpose was something coffee experts could never have anticipated. Working behind the counter at Saratoga Coffee Traders that first year, Mike got to know who his customers were and what they wanted. His customers were truck drivers, construction workers, entrepreneurs, service workers and stable workers at racetracks, and other lace-up-your-boots and pick-up-your-pail types. Mike realized that these customers viewed coffee the same way they viewed Red Bull or Five Hour Energy: as a means to an end. Mike reasoned that if his customers wanted strong coffee, and they viewed coffee as a hasty transaction instead of a long, leisurely activity, then the chocolatey or fruity flavors promised by arabica roasts weren’t as important. For Mike’s customers, the goal was the outcome, not the experience. They wanted the ends, through whatever means necessary. So what “ends” did Mike’s customers want? In finding the answer, Mike was inspired by that simple ques- tion from that one truck driver. Remember, he wanted a dark and strong cup of coffee. What this man didn’t realize, however, is that those two traits don’t typically go together. You see, as all coffee experts know, darker roasts tend to be weaker. That’s because the beans have been roasted for longer, removing more caffeine than in lighter roasts. But if Mike had shared this fact with the truck driver, in addition to losing that customer thanks to a rather condescending reply, he would have made two faulty assumptions that industry experts often make. First, in claiming that “strong” and “dark” don’t typically go together, a coffee expert is assuming that the coffee in question is arabica. You can’t create a dark roast that’s also strong since, to get arabica coffee dark enough, you end up roasting away much of its caffeine. The second assumption is that the other common type of coffee, robusta, isn’t a viable option, given the more bitter flavor and small inventory in North America. So now you have two choices: create a dark roast or a strong roast. You can’t do both. On average, these assumptions are true. But Mike isn’t operating in an average situation. He didn’t act like an expert, embracing what works in general. Instead, he acted like an investigator, looking for evidence of what could work in his specific situation, with his specific customers. His customers drank coffee like those chemical-flavored energy drinks. Robusta beans are fine. Darker and stronger coffee is possible. I’ll create the world’s strongest coffee. Mike’s aspiration was both personal and logical. He wasn’t a rebel without a cause at all. Next, Mike extracted an insight from his data to ensure his aspiration matched what his customers were willing to buy. His data was simple, if qualitative: customers kept asking for strong coffee. Therefore, it’s easy to make the assumption that customers want stronger coffee. But that’s not a true insight—not yet. Instead, acting like a true investigator, Mike kept asking questions. Why? Why do customers keep asking for stronger coffee? What is it about them in particular? Well, obviously, they want more caffeine. No? Sure, Mike thought, but why do they want more caffeine? Well, clearly, they want more energy during their day. Right? Yes, but why do they want more energy during their day? What are they doing all day? It’s here that Mike found a useful insight—one that could challenge industry-wide assumptions of what works “in general” and help him tailor his decision-making. (When the answer to “Why?” stops feeling obvious, you know you’re on the right track.) So, why did Mike’s customers want more energy? Well, he thought, they’re truck drivers. They’re construction workers. They’re racetrack workers. They’re hard-charging and—wait a second—hardworking individuals. Aha! There it is! These people don’t want stronger coffee. They don’t want more caffeine. They don’t even want more energy. No, in reality, Mike Brown’s customers want the ability to work themselves to death. So that’s exactly what he sells. That’s why the name “Death Wish Coffee” makes sense, although we laugh and shake our heads just hearing it. That’s why Mike’s aspiration is strategic, not fluffy or foolish or rebellious. That’s why robusta beans are safe instead of risky. Mike had informed his aspiration with a fundamental insight about his customers. His customers work their butts off, and they reach for coffee for the end result, not the experience. They want the ability to work themselves to death, so that’s what Mike should sell. When we operate like Mike, like investigators, we stop acting like a commodity and become the exception. 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Become a stronger speaker and storyteller, so you can compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/e0hph0u76335d4f7/amF5YWN1bnpvLmNvbS9uZXdzbGV0dGVy )​ This year, two clients have given me permission to publish details from my 1:1 advisory engagements publicly with you, so you can see what it takes to refine a mountain of expertise into 1 signature idea, powerful IP, and signature speeches and stories. In this series, you’ll learn to diagnose why you might feel scattered in your messaging, why your ideas or posts aren’t creating passionate fans, and what it really takes to earn bigger and better stages, both literally and figuratively. These individuals arrive with plenty of competence. The goal is to help them achieve greater resonance. Like you, they are genuine experts in their industries. Also like you, they’re realizing it’s possible to be deeply respected in your field but still feel replaceable or constantly stuck reacting and chasing. There’s a big difference between being great at Your Thing and being a trusted voice who shapes how people think about the very same topic. If you’re ready to differentiate easier and resonate deeper, if you’re tired of the hamster wheel feeling and ready to grow with more momentum in the market, this series is for you.​About once per month, you’ll get a front-row seat as I help them (1) experience breakthroughs in clarity and memorability, (2) craft frameworks, stories, and speeches, and (3) face the unexpected challenges and regular realities that come with growing a business based on your expertise in a world drowning in advice content, competitor services, infinite noise, and even more infinite (not a thing, but go with me) AI hype. To get started, let’s meet our entrepreneurs… ​Kevin Leahy ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/z2hgh7uen220mnsz/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL2tldmluLWxlYWh5LTkwMjVhMDUy ) is the founder of the podcast strategy and production firm Podcast Pointman ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/kkhmh2unr004o0tk/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucG9kY2FzdHBvaW50bWFuLmNvbS8= ). He’s a former producer for Guy Raz (the famous ex-NPR host who created the shows How I Built This and The Great Creators). Kevin previously helped Guy build his production company before he started Podcast Pointman, and today he has achieved real revenue and built a small team. But he’s feeling pressure from all angles: * Can he keep the team invested and growing? * How should he reconcile his pride in being a deep technical expert in podcasting with his need to speak to his client’s business and brand realities? * Can he remain a good CEO and business-builder while still supporting his family’s needs, his goals as a dad, and his family’s upcoming cross-country move—from 1 expensive US city to another, even more expensive city? * How should he grapple with shrinking client budgets, while competing with tons of similar firms and freelancers and even (say it with me now) AI? ​Susan Boles ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/z2hgh7uen220mmtz/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cubGlua2VkaW4uY29tL2luL3RoZXN1c2FuYm9sZXMv ) is a former COO and CFO who then spent several years running her first business, a consulting and education firm called Beyond Margins, helping entrepreneurs run calm companies. In 2026 however, she moved beyond Beyond Margins (heh…) to start a new business, Unpublic ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/6qhehoulz8804vh9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cudW5wdWJsaWMuY28v ), offering services and education to help creators stay safe online as they get more visible. She’s feeling the stress of navigating an unending list of existential questions: * Looming largest is her topic. Safety and dealing with audience members that tip from fans to stalkers isn’t exactly a sexy idea. Most scroll past or want to spend less time thinking about it, not more. How can Susan stake a claim to the idea and build an entirely new brand around it? What tangential topics or broader topics might need coverage across her platform, but without distracting from her core ideas? * What should she keep and what should she kill from her last business, when there’s so much overlap in her focus on “calm” businesses? * How can she juggle the need to win and service clients right now while also modelling out repeatable offerings, signature IP, and all the various projects (website, content, diagnostic tools, webinars, keynotes) that help her actually grow her business? * Will people want to hear about topics like safety, security, and risk? The value they see in working with me is similar, like increasing feelings of clarity and momentum, seeing more passionate support of their ideas and clear impact in their market, and winning ideal clients at higher prices and with less friction. However, each of them have some unique challenges we’re facing together, which will become clear as this series unfolds. Because I work exclusively with folks who already bring expertise and a history of results, I don't shove clients through one "simple system." Part of what I want to put on display is how I’m tailoring and personalizing my approach to different people—so you can take the same techniques and frameworks and apply it in your own situation too. After all, YOUR business, YOUR speeches, YOUR ideas will be unique to YOU. Before Kevin and Susan began working with me, one thing was already clear: * They’re smart enough. * They’re expert enough. * But their IP isn’t strong enough. Through our work together, we’ll ensure they’ll both be able to compete on the impact of their ideas, not the volume of their marketing. This will allow them to truly own their ideas publicly (an empowering feeling) and to “get off the spreadsheet” of competitive vendors and voices. No more chasing attention. They’ll become the experts their clients proactively seek. ----------------------- Their Unique Situations ----------------------- Kevin is scaling. His business, Podcast Pointman, has been going for awhile. Now he’s ready to make growth easier. Kevin is also stepping outside his comfort zone. He’s used to client delivery. He loves it. He told me, “I’m much more comfortable fulfilling the work.” I told him, “That’s great. Let’s make sure you have fulfilling work too.” Kevin is getting ready to become a more known, trusted voice, while leveraging the depth of technical expertise and the nuanced thinking he’s used to build his career and business. Unlike Kevin, Susan isn’t scaling something. She’s starting something. As an entrepreneur, she’s very experienced, and in her industry (safety and security), she’s quite an expert. But her business is brand new. She wants to start strong, having experienced the power of a premise for her last business. (Susan previously hired me to develop her premise and IP for that business too. She’s felt the difference between talking publicly about relevant topics and actually owning your ideas.) ​View a larger version. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/68unrgv8kgf8h5r5g3vcohp0qzz0khemk4qeplr0nrq7vkvkw44v6l2gxwwwpzww2epr0moqe6pnqvr3enpl6ldxv375mnpqdeegmr787m4elg5e980wd7lw08vcl0wmz/qvh8h8udzmmq32hg/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWFnZXMuc3F1YXJlc3BhY2UtY2RuLmNvbS9jb250ZW50L3YxLzVmZWNhMzA1MzFhMTk4NDcyMjdhZjNiYi9hNDY0NjE1NC0yMmVmLTQ4NmQtYmIwNS1jZTg2OWFiOTU0MjMvRGltZW5zaW9uLnBuZz9mb3JtYXQ9MjUwMHc= )​ ​ ----------------------------------------------- The Difference Between Competence and Resonance ----------------------------------------------- In the end, both our experts will emerge with higher-impact ideas, and they’ll understand how to clearly and consistently communicate those ideas in ways that ensure others actually see them as higher-impact too. It’s one thing for each of us to be convinced of our value and our originality. It’s another matter entirely to convey that to others. What you know might matter, but it’s what you say and how you say it which determine whether others care. With both clients, we’re working across a few key needs for their public platforms: * Premise development (extracting their perspective and shaping it into a logical, long-form argument to buy into their thinking, plus the medium-length language they’ll need to message their premise and the short-form, repeatable quotes that stick in people’s minds and get shared reliably) * IP development (packaging their expertise and advice as branded terms, signature frameworks, repeatable methodologies, and more) * Signature storytelling (turning examples or metaphors about others and from their own lives into their go-to stories, reusable everywhere they go) * Public speaking (deploying what we build as signature talks, and the success materials and systems they’ll need) * Content strategy (making the switch from checking boxes to exploring and owning their ideas in the market) --------------------------------------------------- The Gift and the Burden of Being as Good as You Are --------------------------------------------------- The trouble is, when you’re like Kevin and Susan, you’re far from a beginner. You bring a mountain of material and expertise to this moment. Yes, it contains some gold, which you’ve watched others praise before. That has you excited. But you’re likely also feeling a bit suffocated, because you keep tinkering on language, keep wondering what you are and who you are, in a business context. You can’t figure out what THE idea should be, let alone how to articulate exactly “it.” So you’re searching, you’re feeling scattered, and you’re watching folks get more or better opportunities, as your internal narrator grumbles, “I’m better than them. That should be me.” We’ve all encountered individuals who seem to put all the parts and pieces together. They have real expertise AND a personal style. They have depth of insight AND connect interpersonally. They’re visible yet substantive, like the keynote speaker who is a great performer and storyteller AND wildly practical and useful AND changes how you think and execute forever AND— Those people weren’t gifted that ability at birth. It was learned. Their talks, guest appearances, books, posts, and overall public platforms are higher-impact because they knew how to refine their thinking into the right ideas and assets to elevate their position in the market. Not only that, they figured out the right way to message those things so others deeply care. They understand that the purpose of their marketing isn’t to “get in front of others.” That’s not why we communicate. We communicate so that others might care about the same things we care about. Again, that’s a craft you can learn, but it starts as a choice you must make. The world has enough pretenders who are full of hype (and full of other stuff too). My job is to equip people like Kevin and Susan – people like YOU – with the tools and language and assets needed to stand out and resonate. For that, we need good frameworks and a more focused, repeatable practice. Kevin and Susan have benefitted from their mountain of expertise. It’s gotten them to this point. But to get where they’re trying to go, they need to package and communicate their expertise in more repeatable, scalable, resonant ways. You can do the same thing. Don’t market more. Matter more. When you matter more, they need to hustle and hype less. Think resonance over reach. Don’t be the best. 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Become a stronger speaker and storyteller, so you can compete on the impact of your ideas, not the volume of your marketing. Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh60e466b9hzdmlg2va0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/08hwhgu2vn33q3ap/amF5YWN1bnpvLmNvbS9uZXdzbGV0dGVy )​ ******************************************** Stop Filling Feeds. Start Owning Your Ideas. ******************************************** There's a big gap between having a good idea and actually owning it publicly. Whenever I work with a client ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh60e466b9hzdmlg2va0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/8ghqh3uozwmmkril/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NlcnZpY2Vz ) to develop their premise, we inevitably arrive at a sticking point: whether what we've developed ever gets deployed. There are any number of ways your signature idea shows up and benefits your platform: * Messaging * Public speaking * Guest appearances * Client diagnostics/engagements But making it smaller for a moment, let's focus on your content. When you want to claim ownership of your ideas in the minds of the market, it's not enough to just aimlessly talk topics or share expertise. You have to actually explore your premise in public. That's where things tend to fall apart, as old habits and existing commitments get in the way, plus the pressures of the modern marketing world (aka "checkbox marketing," as Brendan Hufford calls it). Here's how to stop checking boxes and start exploring (and owning!) your premise in the minds of your ideal audience: *** First, let's remember we're not creating content for content's sake. We're using content as athinking tool and IP development system. When you consistently write or speak about your premise, you improve your thinking and language ... while also figuring out elements of your thinking you can use everywhere, like frameworks, branded terms, stories, and more. When I work with clients, I let them know: you won't check boxes or "fill feeds" anymore. Instead, you'll inform your thought leadership content by pursuing focusedcontent “arcs”— multi-week explorations of a single theme, question, or concept pulled directly from your premise language. ------------------------------------- Each arc follows the ARC methodology: ------------------------------------- * A = ASK the logical questions that flow from your last idea and/or from recurring language in your message * R = REFINE your thinking by creating multiple pieces of content exploring that question from different angles * C = CODIFY your ideas into ownable IP Not all ARCs will lead to something as crystallized and memorable as a framework or branded term or a signature story, but they always help you achieve some crucial outcomes, including improving your thinking, internalizing your own language, and building an audience along the way. For example, I might look back at my message and realize, "Okay, if I keep telling folks to think resonance over reach—if THAT is my premise—then to actually message it well and get buy-in from my audience, I need to go explore the idea through content. So I'd follow this ARC: * A = ASKING the logical questions that flow from your last idea and/or from recurring language in your message* “I keep saying resonance. What does that word mean?” * “What is reach in relation to resonance? Opposites? Connected?” * “Why does it matter that we think resonance over reach anyway?” * R = REFINING your thinking by creating multiple pieces of content exploring that question from different angles* Taking just the first question above, posts and pieces I could create include 1 post to define resonance, 1 to explore how resonance works in the sciences (and what we can learn in our world of work), and 1 post pitting resonance vs. reach or showing their relationship. * These might be published initially as 3 different newsletter editions, which can then fuel social posts (smaller passages lifted from each piece, posted natively to LinkedIn’s feed, for example). * All of a sudden, instead of random acts of content, I have a coherent mini-journey to understand 1 idea, improve how I speak about, and cement my ownership of these themes in your mind. Lastly, we arrive at the end of the ARC: * C = CODIFYING your thinking into ownable IP (branded terms, frameworks, definitions, stories)* By the end of the ARC, I have my own definition of resonance that applies to my audience and my business: the energy to act your audience feels when your message aligns so closely with them, their thoughts, feelings, and abilities feel amplified. This is part of my IP. It is my expertise, packaged and communicated in repeatable ways built to resonate. * While there are no signature frameworks from this ARC, maybe I leave with a signature story in the form of a metaphor to illuminate my premise, which only popped to mind because I forced myself to write about resonance for multiple weeks in a row. * I might also leave this ARC with some signature “bits,” i.e. repeatable ways to explain my concepts, which are useful in talks, interviews, and writing (e.g. I'd follow up the definition of resonance by saying, “Reach is how many see it. Resonance is how much they care. We all need our audiences to act, but they only act if they care enough to do so. If they don't act, we don't see results, so it's really resonance that drives results. For as much as we obsess over reach, it's resonance that leads to revenue." *** ------------------------ The Strategy in Practice ------------------------ Here is what I advise clients and how I help them create their own content ARCs. Your mileage may vary based on your own ideas and expertise, and if you haven't tried to develop your own premise, maybe start here ( https://e663a8f1.click.kit-mail3.com/92ulr5gn65unh60e466b9hzdmlg2va0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/vqh3hmuolmzz8qfw/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LXRvLWZpeC15b3VyLW1lc3NhZ2UtZmFzdC10cnktdGhlLWRpYWxvZ3VlLW91dGxpbmU= ) instead. But this is what I tell my clients... First, read the narrative argument we developed together. As you read it, save the ideas it sparks. Sometimes these are a direct reference to the language (e.g. a paragraph you want to share elsewhere or explore in greater detail). Other times, something you read will lead to an entirely new idea for an advice post, a story, a framework, or something else. Save your ideas, all of which will be "on-premise" for you. Second, take another pass with greater intention: think of the logical questions that emerge from what you're reading. These are questions YOU have plus questions you anticipate getting from others. For example: * “I keep saying ‘teach the market how to buy you.’ What does that actually mean? What are the steps? What does it look like when done well vs. poorly?" * “I mention ‘The Category Conundrum’ as a concept. What exactly IS this? Can I define it crisply? What causes it? What are the symptoms? Is there a spectrum that leads to the moment the conundrum begins? Is that spectrum a possible framework of mine?” * “I say ‘innovative leaders’ vs. ‘commodified competitors.’ Do these terms work? Do they need better labels? What are the actual differences?” This part of the exercise will likely lead to some common types of ideas for your content, such as defining words you commonly repeat, anticipating objections from the audience, branded terms you coin to help name a problem or solution, visual frameworks to explain the journey, and signature stories or personal anecdotes/metaphors. Third, create content to refine your thinking: Over 1-2 weeks, write, record, and post multiple pieces exploring the questions and ideas from above. Articles published on your own site are useful for hyperlinking to them in future pieces and for sending links to prospects and clients. (I don't think about SEO at all, so I can't comment on that benefit.) Native social posts are useful for discoverability and audience engagement, but it's worth noting that early in your journey, you're writing to clarify things to yourself. The audience feedback loop is secondary, but it starts to matter more the longer you do this work. On both your site and your social channels, cycle through all the possible pieces and posts relating to that single ARC, rooted in your initial questions and your "on-premise" ideas. Finally, consider if anything is worthy codifying into IP. Consider the IP pyramid below. If you’ve had a breakthrough in something along the way, what elements can you create to help you teach and own the idea? What pieces of your latest content ARC should be packaged into something repeatable and/or visual? ​ ​ ...then move on to the next ARC! *** ------------------------------------- Fair warning: discipline is required. ------------------------------------- This only works if you focus, focus, focus. I don't want to hear that you're distractable as a person. I don't want to hear that you've got writer's block. Clarity of messaging only comes from picking a focus area, then sticking to it, writing or communicating messily ... until we aren't. Consider that if you had a train ticket for this Wednesday at 8am, you'd find a way to get on the train. You get on that train because you said you would and because it's 8am on Wednesday—not because you feel inspired. * Commit a couple of weeks to one arc (no jumping around topics randomly—focus, focus focus) * Publish a few pieces per arc (you need multiple attempts to crack the code on your ideas) * Actually codify your thinking into IP at the end (don’t just “move on”—consider what needs to be developed into a reusable asset ... then publish that too!) * Source arcs from your premise language (not random ideas or "relevant keywords") The temptation will be to say: * “Oh, I should talk about that latest trend or viral news." → NO. Stay on the arc, at least at first. You need evergreen IP, not random spikes of engagement that die and never generate real revenue. Later, you can press trendy things through your premise, because you've internalized your ideas to such a degree you can now color everything using it. * “I have this other idea” → GOOD. Add it to a notebook for safekeeping. Pursue it later. * “This arc is getting repetitive” → GREAT. That’s when you and others both start to internalize your ideas. ------------------------------------ Need a prescription for your output? ------------------------------------ Try this: Start with a longer-form piece to explore the big question or idea. Don’t judge it. Don’t worry if a lengthy article encompasses multiple ideas that you think might deserve their own pieces or even their own arcs later. Just create an earnest first attempt to understand. Write or speak from the heart. Create 3-5 social posts over a 2-week span. Life them from the initial long-form piece if it's easier, but ideally, these will be the natural follow-up questions or ideas from that first piece, or a concept from that piece that deserves a dedicated post. End with another longer-form piece as a kind of book-end to the arc. This can be a revision of the first piece, because now you actually understand your ideas better and bring sharper language to them, or it can be a kind of "so what?" or "what's next?" article. For instance, in an arc about resonance, I might begin by defining the term, then I might end by finally and clearly explaining the relationship between resonance and reach—and I'd of course mention the definition once more. Or maybe I'll end the arc with a visual spectrum to explain something I was just exploring across all my content for two weeks. Regardless, I'll end with another longer-form piece to cap off the arc. Again, that's just a prescription for your next arc (long-form piece, a few short-form posts, another long-form piece), but make it your own! Focus is a strategic advantage. Writing is thinking. Content is both distribution for proven ideas and a means to work out even stronger thoughts. We hear these ideas often, but when it comes to executing them, we often trip or fall. Remember to think and publish in ARCs: ASK the logical questions based on previous content, existing messaging, or your distinct, ownable premise. REFINE your ideas through active exploration and creation. It's the best way to find clarity and sharpen your words. Finally, CODIFY the strongest bits and ideas, as you package your expertise into reusable elements of your thought leadership: branded terms, teachable methods and frameworks, signature stories, and more. In 3-6 months, you'll have developed significant IP, developed, validated, and internalized your premise, and helped orient your audience around certain key themes, all while winning passionate fans along the way. Like you, these fans will emerge with better, repeatable language that they can also use to distribute your message for you. No more guessing. No more checking boxes. Stop filling feeds. Start owning your ideas. *** What do you think about this approach? Reply to reach me directly. 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Don't market more. Matter more. Think resonance over reach. Don't be the best. Be their favorite. New here? Welcome! Subscribe free. ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxmv96os6h6ww0wgga3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/wnh2h6uqnkmgmgbl/amF5YWN1bnpvLmNvbS9uZXdzbGV0dGVy )​ ************************** The Metaphor and the Magic ************************** It's been a good long while since I've had a good long rant. *Cracks knuckles.* Let us begin. *** -------------------- Part 1: The Metaphor -------------------- Imagine you have just invented the car. (Great job, by the way.) Once the invention is ready to show off, you drive it to a field where a bunch of people are playing. "Behold!" you declare. "I give you the car!" "WHOA!" they shout. "You CREATED this?" "Why yes, yes I did," you say. "You're so smart!" they declare. "Why thank you!" you chirp. "This is incredible!" they shout. "Aw shucks," you reply. "This thing has FLASHLIGHTS on the front?!" they squeal. "Why yes, this—wait, what?" you stammer. And then all the marketers in the field run around shouting about the flashlights and how you'll never need to manually hold one again and if you don't use these flashlights, you'll be left behind, and they post about 27 Flashlight Prompts to 10x Your Business in 10 Seconds. If that happened to you as the inventor of the automobile, you'd watch in disbelief at the way the world interpreted your life's work. "Yes, the car 'has flashlights on the front,'" you'd groan. "But it's also A CAR. Can we PLEASE focus on the very many CAR-LIKE things it can do?!" This, dear reader, is how I'm viewing generative AI today—or really, the discourse about it. There are SO many use cases for these tools, and the most rinky-dink in my opinion—in other words, the least valuable and the most groan-worthy—is to create content with it. Because sure, it can create content, but it's a content generator in the same way that your car is a flashlight. This myopic obsession with pumping out generic content isn't new. AI just kicks things into high gear, like tossing a Mentos into a bottle of Coke. There's a reason I'm not a "content marketing" speaker or writer these days. It's stuff like this moment that drives me too insane to handle anymore. Longtime subscribers may recognize that for someone who became "known" (at least a little bit) for the idea of content marketing, I don't say the phrase anymore. Maybe that's because the industry has changed and "content marketing" became simply "marketing." But even if that's true, I also consciously changed my focus. I'm glad for it too. The way folks approach generative AI didn't cause my shift, mind you. It's just the latest, loudest symptom of an illness that has plagued this field forever. We don't think about the audience experience enough. Once I left the corporate world of content marketing behind, I spent those first few years as an independent voice beating the same drum, now uninhibited by corporate norms or metrics. I continued speaking about marketing-related themes, but I stood louder and prouder behind my beliefs. My keynotes, my first podcast (Unthinkable), and even my first book ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxmv96os6h6ww0wgga3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/8ghqh3uoz2w9wzil/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2JyZWFrLXRoZS13aGVlbA== ) centered on the ideas of quality, craft, creativity, and giving many damns about the work you create. Then a funny thing happened. My tribe came to me. Yes, some are marketers, but most are not. My audience is full of entrepreneurs and coaches, consultants and speakers, public speakers, lawyers, accountants, HR pros, ops and finance specialists, sales leaders, startup CEOs, YouTubers, podcasters, and more. We're bound together not based on a niche or job title but by shared beliefs. They were already aligned. They just needed someone to articulate what they felt. That's when it clicked for me: when you stop trying to convince an entire industry and simply stand tall in your ideals, the right people come to you. I stopped shouting into the storm and started speaking to those who already saw what I saw. I'm proof that you can disagree with the popular discourse, the trending tactics, the cultural norms of a space, and still build a thriving, growing audience, business, and career. It just might not look like the cookie-cutter path you were sold in school. What might happen if you stopped trying to convince everyone and only focused on connecting with the right few someones? Which brings me to the magic. ----------------- Part 2: The Magic ----------------- To me, debating whether or not generative AI creates good content is kinda missing the point. Because "good" is subjective. It's about the intention behind the work and the perception receiving the work, and AI alone has no "intention" other than to obey its programming (which isn't really intention per se). Its programming isn't focused on making something "good" because, again, what does that mean? Really, its programming is built to match a spec, which humans provide. Sometimes that spec is provided by the creators of the tool. Do this, this way, for every user, says the programming. Other times, you decide the spec. Do this, this way, for me. Getting something to spec might mean we say it's "good," when really, all we can claim is that it's accurate. When the objective is to meet spec, improvement doesn't mean you make things better, not really. Improvement means you get things "more correct." That's what AI does. That's what it's built for. Not making good things. Making "correct" things. But we don't write or speak to "correctly" arrange words. We don't illustrate things or film them to "correctly" construct scenes. We do these things to (A) make sense of this world and our relationship to it, and (B) to connect with the audience. The folks screaming about how great AI is at creating content rarely think about the role of A and seem to forget that the point of this work is B. Getting something we create to look or sound "more correct" isn't ever the point. Getting others to CARE MORE is. And listen, correct things can be useful. Getting things to spec does indeed matter. But when something is only as good as the spec it's given, it's still at the mercy of subjective judgment, and it's that very notion of subjective judgment that people who obsessively support AI as a content creation tool never talk about. Because subjective judgment passed on your work is what has to happen when you hit Publish, and it's only then that someone can decide if the work is "good" or not. Said simply: Creating correct things is not the same as creating effective things. And our jobs depend on us creating effective things—things others deem "good." We can't decide it. Only the audience can. The world of content marketing and indeed all types of content creation need to center more fully on serving the audience, not ourselves. Because they decide. They pass the judgment. Yet they are rarely considered in the debate over whether AI is any "good" at creating content. When toeing the waters of the Great AI Debate of 2026, always remember this simple fact: Generative AI is about making logical predictions to arrive at something as correct as possible. Human creativity is about making emotional reflections to arrive at something as resonant as possible. Notice that in the first sentence, you (i.e. the AI user) decide if AI is doing a good job. Is this correct? In the second sentence, others (i.e. your audience) decide. Does this resonate? And THAT is the missing piece way too often. How are others actually RECEIVING your work? How do they FEEL about it? Ishiguro said it best. He was talking about storytelling, but it applies to anything self-expressive: "Stories are like one person saying to another, 'This is the way it feels to me. Can you understand what I'm saying? Does it also feel this way to you?'" For as excited as people get to create stuff with AI, they sure do forget that, eventually, others need to experience it. Absorb it. FEEL IT. Unfortunately, in my world, once content marketing became a big thing, it attracted people who don't much care for the act of creating content at all. They just saw it as a thing that "works." The idea of human expression isn't something they reflect on much, if at all. Content marketing and social media made writing and recording and speaking and storytelling so important to building a business and so ingrained in our everyday work, we find ourselves in a moment where tons of people are doing those things while also being pretty darn uninterested in any of it for its own sake. They seek to create content as a tactic to transact others, rather than a vehicle to transform (themselves and others). But as with anything creative, the people who are better at it are the ones who make the process the point. They're intrinsically motivated by, even giddy about, the act of creation in and of itself—which in turn makes what they create more effective. There's a word I uncovered years ago that I always return to: "telic." When something is telic, it's done purely for the end result. Another, more negative name for it is a chore. Sweeping your floor is telic. The objective is not to enjoy a good sweep, right? As a result, what do we do? We don’t do it, or we do it poorly,, or we wonder if this new floor-cleaning technology will save us like they promise it will. But really, something else would actually save you: if you somehow enjoyed the process of sweeping. If that was you, you’d have cleaner floors. But sweeping your floors is a chore. It’s telic. Eating ice cream is not. That’s paratelic. It’s done for the process itself. It’s intrinsically motivating. The process is the point. Nobody turns to a friend and says, “Here, eat my ice cream for me. I really just want a dirty bowl.” Nobody heads to their local ice cream shoppe (always spelled that way, obviously), buys a cone, but then wishes they could just … absorb the cone straight into their stomach. No! Because the process of eating it is the point. The experience is the objective. Feeling full is not. Eating ice cream is not telic. It’s paratelic. And as a result, good things happen. We seek it out MORE, and we find ways to do it BETTER. We eat ice cream in extra large cups and extra large cones with extra large amounts of toppings. (Don’t get me started on adults who order kiddie sizes. Kiddie sizes are for quitters.) This is how I’ve always felt about writing, speaking, recording things, telling stories, and creating content in any form or fashion. The process is the point. As a result, I seek it out more. I find ways to do it better. I want it served to me in extra large cups and extra large cones with extra large amounts of toppings. Because this shit is the good stuff. It is not the stuff to skip or delay or outsource. To me, the experiencing of the creative process itself is my objective. I’m not purely focused on seeing outcomes. But as a result? I get great outcomes. I get outcomes most people creating content tell me they’d LOVE to get. That’s how this works. My hack is joy. My secret is fun. My advantage is loving this shit. The business world struggles to make content into a tactic because by definition, it’s not. It's a process, and if they dislike the process, what do they do? They don’t do it, or they do it poorly, or they wonder if this new content creation technology will save us like they promise it will. How in the WORLD do you expect others to enjoy consuming your work ... if you aren't interested in or excited by the process of creating it? If you dislike that part, they can tell. So we return now to AI. The lazy uses of AI more specifically: punching a button and create mediocre content at scale. This is just the latest attempt of a certain kind of person to attain outcomes without enduring the process. Because that's how it feels to them: as something to endure, not enjoy. I see how they talk about AI. The argument is always the same when I question their approach. They point to how close the writing is getting to "correct" writing. Look! You can't tell it was AI! This writing sounds like writing. It didn't hallucinate. It met spec. Because for those people, the process was NEVER the point for them. Just the outcome. Get things to spec. Don't challenge the convention, don't seek to make better things or make the world better. Just transact, with greater velocity. The process isn't the point, just the outcomes, and as a result, they get worse outcomes. Those people were ALWAYS uninterested in the great and terrible power creativity and storytelling. They always wanted to reach more people but never stopped to consider whether their work actually resonated. When finding fault, when struggling to see results, they never point to their own ideas and how others experience their work as the reason the work isn’t working. They always find fault with the channel, the distribution plan, the budget. Never the creativity. Never the story. Never the experience. Because they don’t think about that part. They treat this work like a tactic, rather than what it is to me: a calling. If someone told them that jumping out from behind your customers' bushes was the next great approach to marketing, then they'd stop creating content, stop telling stories, and start doing that instead. But not me. Not you. For us, it’s about the experience. WE want to experience the process, and we want OTHERS to experience something great, something different, something valuable, something original. Something that connects. Something magic. *** Save or share this essay: ​https://jayacunzo.com/blog/my-take-on-ai-in-2026 ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/n4urxdk06dsvhxmv96os6h6ww0wgga3gdp83q6k2ok89vdvdrppv465zerrrqnrr53qk2g7834qo8vkm3oq646xevm9wgoq8x33zgk909gp36zw3l02rx96r20viok984/m2h7h6u3vq2e2pcl/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvbXktdGFrZS1vbi1haS1pbi0yMDI2 )​ *** BONUS BIT, because I can't help myself right now: I spoke with a fairly senior person at Meta this week. Did you know they have an AI mandate? They require everyone to use AI in some form or fashion, no matter how useful it actually is, and they track it. You are goaled against it. That's right. Goaled against using a tool, not getting outcomes or upholding values. Nope. Tracked for how often you use specific tech. Like you're in preschool and have to pick up the blocks enough times to be on-pace for your age. This is wild to me. I have a visceral reaction to this. I feel it in my stomach. As an entrepreneur, I know I'm overly sensitive to corporate norms, but this feels too far even for corporate employees who have found happy careers working for larger orgs. Predictably, all the employees hate this, and so they game it. They find the simplest, least-intrusive way to use the tools so they can get on with their real work as usual—the AI equivalent of opening Slack and wiggling your mouse cursor so people think you're actively working when you're home. 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What we DO about them can make or break our ability to speak clearly, confidently, and in ways that captivate. *************************** How to Navigate Your Nerves *************************** Here's a screen shot from some video footage of a talk I gave in 2014. What do you notice, besides my ... unique ... fashion choices? ​ See my left hand? It's crammed into my pocket! As you skip ahead in the video, it remains stuck there. It looks sloppy, and it conveys to the audience that I'm not quite comfortable up there, no matter how my voice sounds. Indeed, watching it back, the hand comes with other symptoms of my nerves: I'm talking too fast, correcting myself often, and apologizing for not being able to include every detail but if you just head to my website or google my name and this other phrase you can find everything you need and in fact there's this really great author who— I remember seeing that footage for the first time. I was horrified. I had NO idea what my hand was doing the whole time. I thought I looked and sounded calm, confident, captivating. I didn't. I could tell, too, even before the speech ended. I remember seeing eyes glaze over and phones coming out—not to take pictures of my slide but to do ... what? Anything but watch me fight for my life up there. Later that day, I got coffee with a friend who'd been speaking for many more years than me. I complained about the audience and how they weren't warm, didn't respond well to my lines or jokes, didn't seem engaged. "So Jay," he said softly. (He lacked today's meme language: "I'm going to hold your hand when I say this.") "So Jay, if an audience isn't engaged, that's not their fault. It's yours." Oof. It was so hard to hear, but I neeeeeeded that advice. I needed to take responsibility for things beyond the value of my advice. I needed to actually do the job of a speaker, which is NOT to be a walking, talking blog post or wall of smarts. The job of a speaker is to transform in the room. Speeches are unique vehicles, tailor-made to break patterns. You challenge the conventional wisdom and replace it with yours. You give them a better way to think and execute. All great speeches create a before-and-after moment with the audience, no matter if you give keynotes, breakouts, workshops, webinars, or share ideas as pitches to clients or internal presentations to colleagues. To do the job you're meant to do, you need to deliver one, seamless experience. Once the audience sees the seams, once they see little missteps or clear signs you're uncertain or haven't internalized your material, they get confused or frustrated and they back out. My hand in my pocket was a small symptom of that. The content could be great! But my posture removed some of its (and my) impact. These small things cause the audience to check out mentally and emotionally, so I can't do my job as effectively. The onus was on me, not them, to ensure they felt like they were in good hands the whole time. And thanks to what MY hands were doing? They didn't. *** The moments before a speech begins is where we all need to step into the posture of a leader about to take the stage or hit Go Live on the webinar. But that is also precisely the moment when your nerves can kick into high gear and cause you to some funky things on stage—whether you put your hand in your pocket, crack a bad joke, fumble to the start, or face-plant onto the stage (literally or, more likely, metaphorically). Sometimes, you feel those nerves in your chest. Your mouth goes dry. You start to sweat or fumble. Other times, you don't think the nerves are controlling you, but watching back, it's clear they are. Wait, I sounded like THAT? I was doing THAT? Uh oh. That's what happened to me. I was enjoying myself up there. I felt confident. But I still let my body's natural reaction to the unnatural act of public speaking get in the way. It's no surprise that this is the single most-common question I get from people of all experience levels, including folks who adore speaking: "How should I control my nerves?" My answer: don't even try. Instead, learn to control something else. Nerves only become a problem for the audience's experience when they change the experience. Sounds obvious, maybe, but we don't often consider how, precisely, they change the experience. Nerves negatively affect the experience because nerves affect your pace. That's how they manifest. If you want to navigate your nerves better, think less about nerves and more about pace. Your nerves are an involuntary reaction, and even though advice exists for handling that reaction, I find it's far easier to address something less involuntary and more controllable, i.e. your pace. When we're nervous, we speed up. This is true whether your nerves manifest as fear or excitement. Me, I'm SO pumped to give a talk each time that I can't wait for the person before me to end so I can get up there. I'm sitting there thinking, "Stop it. Stop the talk. Go away. I wanna go. My turn! Can it be my turn?! MY TURN PLEASE!" (If you couldn't already tell by the everything of me, yes, I'm the eldest child in my family. Cousins included.) So, when we're nervous, we speed up. Unfortunately, the advice we get in response is rather unhelpful: "Slow down." This is unhelpful because it doesn't give you anything to shoot for. It just tells you what NOT to do. "Don't go THAT fast," they seem to say. Okayyyy, so how fast SHOULD I go? ​ "Your pace isn't right." Yeah, I've picked up on that, thanks. So what IS right? Where along the entire spectrum of speed should I be? Here's my advice instead. I think this is more helpful because it gives us a tangible target, and to change an involuntary behavior, we need something to consciously shoot for. If you feel nervous, go slightly slower than you're comfortable. ​ ​ There's this strange phenomenon you experience when you start showing up publicly as a storyteller and speaker: YOU don't hear yourself the same way THEY hear you. There's a gap, and the way you close it is to give a ton of talks and watch yourself back a lot. Only then does the voice YOU hear in your head match the voice THEY receive. This is true for speaking, but it's also true for recording audio and video, sitting on a panel, and even chatting with a client, prospect, or employer. The way you hear yourself is different than the way others hear you. So if you think, "My pace sounds just right," but you're not highly practiced yet, then chances are good you actually sound a bit too fast to others. Nerves will naturally speed you up, in ways you didn't sense. 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But over the past half year or so, I've begun creating more resources narrowly focused on all things speaking. * I wrote about how to pitch ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/e0hph0u7mvppomc7/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL2Jsb2cvaG93LXRvLXBpdGNoLWV2ZW50cy10by1zcGVhay10aGUtc3RydWN0dXJlLW9mLWVmZmVjdGl2ZS1waXRjaGVz ) yourself to event organizers * I created a central hub of resources for keynote speakers ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/owhkhwuwx9kkd9bq/aHR0cHM6Ly9qYXlhY3Vuem8uY29tL3NwZWFraW5nLXJlc291cmNlcw== ) specifically * I've been investing more in YouTube, which will continue (so please subscribe!) and started analyzing speeches ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/p8hehqu4r633o0br/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1ZSEhMaW01UkcyYw== ) and coaching others on their material ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/x0hph3uek2rr0vhg/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1fY09SeVd3Yzg1SQ== ) for all to see. * You can even watch my full keynote ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/6qhehoulxrkkemu9/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cueW91dHViZS5jb20vd2F0Y2g_dj1FQ2hVOGlYT2RYQQ== ) about public speaking from a conference last year. So why am I doing all of this? Why the sudden, concerted effort to teach you these things? Because in this era of endless advice, infinite experts, and of course (say it with me now) AI, public speaking is the great differentiator and unfair edge. I'd go so far as to call speaking the last great advantage. *** The other day, I got an adorable voice memo from my friend Jay Clouse. (The cuteness came from his daughter babbling in the background, though Jay does have a certain boyish charm to him. Anywho.) If you don't know Jay, you should. He's one of the good ones in the creator economy. As the founder of Creator Science ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/92ulr5gn65unh64838kh9hzoxm933b0n59603qz24z6gx5x5k99xoqrmdkkk3ekkr03z2n860o346xzp043qoqvdxpgln436v00mnzg7gn90qml0w72kvgqk27xbg74wq/kkhmh2unzwddvxuk/aHR0cHM6Ly9jcmVhdG9yc2NpZW5jZS5jb20v ), he's become one of the most trusted voices teaching creators to build smarter, more sustainable businesses. Jay's increasingly loud assertion to the creator world is that trust matters more than attention, and I agree. Along those lines, Jay went down several AI-related rabbit holes, and as he was resurfacing, he sent me a voice note with one major conclusion: the rise of AI also means the rise in importance and appetite for in-person interactions and groups, and along with it, the increasing, critical importance of public speaking as a skillset. Jay ended his voice note: "Nobody's putting a Claude terminal on stage at their event, know what I'm SAYIN?!" Yes, my adorable friend. I know precisely what you are say-un. I've been framing speaking all wrong. Develop your thinking, your stories, your IP, then worry about speaking. That frames the idea as a "vertical." You do the horizontal things, develop the horizontal skills, then apply those things to all the vertical stuff you must do to build a business or improve a career ... including give speeches. Nay-nay, says Jay-Jay. (Do I mean Jay Clouse? Do I mean myself? Do I mean some weird talking-head combo, blending the scientific method with storytelling excellence? YES PLEASE.) Speaking is NOT a vertical thing. It's a horizontal skill. It informs and enhances everything. It increases your value everywhere. It's one of the most personal and transferable and transformational skills you can develop. And it just got urgent that we all do so. It doesn't matter your job function, your seniority, your business's traction or stage of growth. You could be speaking to an audience of one or 1 million. If you're a human, you should become a great public speaker. It will supercharge you, everywhere you go—and separate you from everybody and everything, including and most especially AI. Professional speakers and world-class communicators (and adorable Jays) understand this. They invest more in developing their speaking skills and their signature material than in learning any tool or technology. They also benefit from using certain repeatable processes and techniques to ensure their speaking isn't a one-off or a lightning strike moment. It's not a vertical for them. To make something a true horizontal, it must enhance everything, which means it must be internalized by you first. See, it's not just the ability to speak scripted words well. That's not what I mean by public speaking. It's everything that goes into it: shaping tons of ideas and advice into a single, signature idea; crafting and delivering stories; interviewing and telling "my story" reliably and in ways that connect; performance on a stage; charm in the meeting; everything and anything and all the things that go into you showing up in the moment with proven material AND improvised thoughts ... all of which deeply resonate. When you become a stronger public speaker, it pays dividends in formal presentations of course: keynotes, breakouts, workshops, webinars, team meetings, job interviews, client pitches, and board presentations. But the skill of public speaking also transforms you away from your presentations too: podcast hosting and guesting, conference hallway chats, coffee and Zoom meetings, job interviews and client pitches, internal meetings and external networking—you name it. It's like an "Enhance Value" button. Or a supercharged super-suit you're always wearing. You press it or step into it (pick your favorite metaphor), and suddenly EVERYTHING gets better and easier. And in a world where people will use AI to do so many things (too many, if you ask me), ain't nobody putting a Claude terminal on stage. Yanno what I'm SAY-UN?! Master the skill and develop the materials, and you've mastered the ultimate differentiator in your career and business. You instantly increase your value everywhere you go, and in this moment especially, it's increasingly clear: you preserve that value for years to come. Sharpen your ideas. Develop your stories. Design your signature talk. Become a stronger public speaker. It's no longer a nice-to-have thing. It's The Last Great Advantage. ​ ----------------------------------------- 2 ways to become a stronger speaker ASAP: ----------------------------------------- 1/ Join me for the 3rd of my 4 webinars in collaboration with my friends at Wistia in a series we've called Host Better Webinars. 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You might also call this "show don't tell" content: * Recorded coaching calls you publish for all to see * Breakdowns and analysis of examples you find * Documenting the process of improving something for someone else, which you share as a story or step-by-step guide We're exiting the Advice Era and entering the Application Age, where people want to see how you would apply the advice you always share to people like them—or even directly to them—before they trust you enough to hire you for your services. Today, I wanted to share two new examples of this approach which I recently published and which I feel especially excited about. Both are found on my YouTube channel. 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Speaking in ways that earn their active interest is the goal. If you're like most of the experts I work with ... the explanation takes too long. You start with your background, pivot to your services, maybe throw in a client example or two. Or maybe you reach for your LinkedIn title, written as we all tend to say it: "I help [people] do [action]." It's not terrible. It's just ... okay. Then you hope and pray they want to learn more, instead of what you really wish happened: they crave it. Your explanation was fine, which means it was forgettable, which leads to a third F (frustration) which leads to a fourth (muttered to yourself in the shower later when you replay this interaction over and over and over...) We've all been there. (Me too!) You think, "I know I'm good, I know I'm valued, I know I'm articulate, but I can FEEL my explanation losing them while I'm speaking." Now imagine this instead: What do you do? "Oh, I help SaaS companies fix the part of their product where users give up and never come back." Or: "I remind fashion designers that their products are for their customers, not their peers, so they can build sturdier businesses." Or: "I work with leaders who are successful by every external measure but feel misaligned with their values." Mine? "I work with experts who have a ton of competence but need resonance to see results more easily." One sentence. Clear. Memorable. Interesting. The coffee break at a conference is just one place where you need to explain yourself. Maybe this week, you're not at an event. Maybe you're guesting on a podcast or interacting on social media or getting introduced to a potential prospect or partner. There are dozens of moments where you're required to tell others about yourself, which is really a question of why you and your business are valuable to others. Unfortunately, if you're like most people, the moment you get asked, it feels like your heart decides it's time to disrupt your head. It was sitting there quietly pumping away in a cozy chair, when suddenly it looks up from the latest issue of Cardiac Quarterly: "Did they just ask what we do? Welp, time to get to work!" It tosses the magazine aside, leaps onto the treadmill in your chest, and punches it to 11. That is ... if you're like most people. Someone who has built themselves a signature talk is not most people. Someone who has internalized their own message and stories (it's in their bones, not their brain) is no mere mortal of communication. They're unstoppable superheroes of storytelling excellence, including and especially when asked to tell others, "What do you do?" I remember the feeling in my own career. Once I had my signature talk built, every other interaction got better and more effective. EVERYTHING felt easier. I felt more confident. People responded more positively. It didn't matter if it was a hallway chat or podcast appearance, a blog post or a keynote. I felt it. My impact increased ... without increasing my effort. At a conference, the same people capable delivering from the stage are often the same calm, confident presences walking the floor. That's not a matter of ego. That's a result of them feeling so comfortable in their own ideas and, more importantly, how they communicate their ideas, that they give off this undeniable energy. They cruise, rather than hustle. On the other hand, the people who struggle and stress in those same interactions? They're stuck grappling with what I call "expertise without architecture." Expertise without architecture looks like this: You have years of experience. You've shared seemingly infinite advice in content and conversation. You've got genuine proof you're at least halfway decent at what you do, with at least some fans and supporters willing to vouch for you. Maybe you've even got a folder of presentations you've given over the years—each probably custom-built for a specific audience. New talks every talk. You're good at what you do. People value your work. But when someone asks what you're known for ... you don't have a crisp answer. You have context. You have nuance. You have, "Well, it depends on the client..." or maybe, "I do this, but really, it's so much more..." or perhaps the ever-tricky stance to take: "I'm a [job title I made up for myself with a little TM on my website which if I'm honest nobody really understands]." That's expertise without architecture. You've got the goods. But the scaffolding and structure and sturdiness and impressiveness are ... let's say emerging, not absent? Expertise WITH architecture looks like this: * You have one core idea, a signature concept you own—your premise—that everything ladders up to. Others talk about similar topic and sell similar things. But you can quickly and confidently convey why you're different and specific. That means you resonate. * You have stories that illustrate the premise. Frameworks to make complexity accessible. Clear messaging and pillar projects online that cement your idea ownership, and a reliable, well-developed talk that fully captures your premise and gets buy-in from others, both in their heads and in the buyer's journey you can measure. * So when the coffee break begins, it feels like dunking on a kids' hoop: you spent so much time doing all the other, harder stuff, that THIS? This is easy, even fun! While your peers get asked the same question, they struggle to pick up the metaphorical ball and nudge it awkwardly through the hoop, with their confusing or meandering or forgettable explanations. Whereas you calmly respond with a 360-degree windmill dunk. 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In the case of your public appearances, guesting, and speaking, it all gets better (more fun, more consistent, more lucrative) because conference organizers know exactly what you bring and why you're different and audiences can't wait to approach you afterwards. Your signature talk isn't just a presentation. It's the architecture that holds all your expertise together, everywhere you go. So here's my question for you: What would you calmly, confidently say during the coffee break? Does it make them lean in? Call over a friend or two? Whip out the agenda and find the room where you're speaking later? Or do you have expertise without architecture? Stop explaining. Start inspiring. No more "walls of smarts" or paragraphs of hedging where a memorable, singular concept is needed. 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This was exactly what I was looking for."—Michelle Pollack, 2025 cohort participant (executive coach and former creative exec at CBS) ***************************************************************** How to Turn Your Public Speaking into a Marketing and Sales Engine You and Others Genuinely Adore ***************************************************************** ​ In 2017, I became the youngest speaker—and by far the least famous person—to open one of the world's biggest, best-known events for marketers, Content Marketing World. On Day 1, I delivered the morning keynote to 4,000 people. For years, I'd watched as actual celebrities and business leaders with mainstream fame graced that same stage: Tina Fey, John Cleese, Casey Neistat, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, the CMO of GE, the EVP of Innovation at LEGO. I was neither a celebrity nor mainstream-famous. I was barely known in my niche. I was also not an executive at a famous brand whose logo could help the event sell tickets. But what I did have, my friend ... was a dream. Just kidding. (Though I did!) No, what I had ... was a better speech. A signature speech. I had a speaking product I’d worked hard at consistently refining, customizing, delivering, until I could reliably deliver it to any crowd and predictably generate follow-on opportunities for myself and my business. In 2016, the year before my opening keynote, I’d delivered my signature speech in a breakout room at CMWorld, and I became the #1-rated speaker at the whole event that year, according to audience surveys, among 140 total speakers. This earned me an invite to open the entire event the next fall, from the main stage, and so I busied myself in developing another signature talk throughout the year, which I built, tested, delivered countless times to validate and improve, to once again perform at a high level when CMWorld 2017 arrived. In both cases, 2016 and 2017, my speeches (my signature speaking products) were responsible for my results much more than anything I did online, and I went on to use those two talks to generate hundreds of thousands of dollars in speaker fees on stages across this country and several others. My friend, I am here today to make the case that investing in the speech itself is the key to your speaking success. Your ideas need to be so high-impact and your speech so proven, you’re undeniable in every room. It’s not just a nice creative exercise to build a better talk. It’s your highest-ROI business activity. Unfortunately, for one reason I'm about to explain, most entrepreneurs, execs, and business leaders refuse to see this and insist their speech is good enough already. This actually gets worse the more success a person has had in their career, even though it happened away from speaking. I want to change your mindset around this one issue, so that you can book more and better keynotes, charge a fee or raise your rates, and feel less friction and more momentum in building your speaking pipeline. The success of your speaking depends more heavily on your signature talk than anything you can do to market or sell it. Most people think it’s an awareness problem or maybe a lack of marketing and sales systems. But no, the tough reality is this: Your speech isn’t as good as you think it is. Lest you think, "Jay's a creative, so here he goes, extolling the craft again,” I want to assure you that while I adore the craft (and you should too), this is an essay about sales, marketing, lead-gen, and revenue. This is also about sequencing your revenue-generating work so you focus on the thing that matters most ... first. If you want better talks, create a better talk. If you want more opportunities, less friction, more revenue directly through fees or indirectly through leads, your speech isn't a critical part of the machine. It's the engine. It’s not just about creative excellence. It’s because of a strange issue most professionals don’t understand when they start to pursue keynotes more fully: ---------------------------- Speeches are sold backwards. ---------------------------- I can break my speaking career in two main halves: my years earning a living mainly on the road as a ​keynote ​speaker ( https://e663a8f1.click.convertkit-mail2.com/27uqx5zk05soh8leoxku3hgz5m744h0pn620z4vqmv2drnrnl66r84e3xlllzwlle0zvqp7208zm2rvo0mz4845xrodkpmz25003pvd9dp6043k0g9ql5d4lq9rbm0r9d/x0hph3uexqnvm7tg/aHR0cDovL2pheWFjdW56by5jb20va2V5bm90ZXM= )​​ and a podcast or docuseries host for branded projects, and then the years since, in which I completely reinvented my business to stay home with my kids. 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They arrive with plenty of competence, and I help them achieve greater resonance through premise and IP development, signature speeches and speaking success systems, and doing my best to be the Rick Rubin of business storytellers. In all this time, I’ve seen how nothing kills someone’s success quite like the failure to recognize how sustainable, lucrative speaking happens. Whether you get paid directly or create follow-on interest in other offerings (or both), the same mistake rears its ugly head: they think the problem is their marketing and sales process, when really it’s the speech itself. They tell me they’re focused more on speaking, so they want to build a better speaker page. Create more social videos. Build a flashier speaker reel. Figure out their sales process. You know, the business stuff. As for their speech? "Oh, no, that's pretty much there. I mean, I've been winging it for years, and it works fine," or maybe, "It's probably 80%, and I know it can always be better by a little bit BUT," and then they land where I know this plane was headed all along: “I'd rather focus on getting more and better gigs now." Here's what I've learned: That "little bit" accounts for a huge amount of missed bookings and revenue. It’s the difference between being one of a few dozen breakouts who speak for free at that conference … and being THE keynote who commands a fee. When it comes to keynote speaking, “good enough” is anything but. Because speeches are sold backwards. The problem isn't that these people are lazy or that they don't understand the importance of quality. The problem is that everything they've learned about building a successful business has wired them to approach speaking in the exact opposite way they should. ------------------------------------------ Your marketing instincts are betraying you ------------------------------------------ Think about every other successful thing you've built. Your consulting practice. Your agency. Your course. Your SaaS product. Whatever it might be. You sell these offerings in the same order: Create irresistible marketing → Convert prospects into buyers → Then deliver the experience. As a result, you learned to write copy that speaks to people before they've experienced the product. You've built funnels that nurture the relationship and earn trust over time, in order to get them to buy after. You've crafted messaging and built your brand to create a premium perception and justify charging premium prices, all of which they understand before you close the deal. And you got good at this. Really good. Good enough that you arrived to this moment, where speaking can even be considered a viable next chapter—or at least a major piece of this one. That's precisely why keynote speaking breaks your brain. Because keynotes operate on a completely inverted commercial model—one that betrays every instinct that made you successful everywhere else. Here's what actually happens as a keynote speaker: Someone books you to speak. Breakout, workshop, webinar, or keynote. Online or in-person. Big crowd or tiny group. It doesn’t matter. You show up. You deliver your entire product—live, in front of an audience. And sitting in that audience are your next potential buyers. What's more, these people aren’t merely run-of-the-mill leads. They are your best leads and the single-greatest unlock to creating a sustainable, monetizable speaking engine. The people who already saw you speak close faster. They want your speech in front of their group. You can charge a higher rate, too, if you charge a speaker fee. They “get it.” Deeply. And they want everything you’re selling. Badly. They buy your books or say yes to your upsell of a bonus workshop bundled with your keynote for just a small additional fee. They offer to buy your course for their teams or community members. They invite you onto their shows, quote and link to you around their content, and refer you to others you "really should know" and "gotta meet" because those people need your ideas or even your speech. Your best leads providing the highest possible lifetime value and the most sustainable path to more lucrative speaking are the people who have already experienced your entire speaking product first. This means, when we pursue speaking as the thing we sell (for free or a fee), we must shift our mindset from optimizing for this model: * Create irresistible marketing → Convert prospects → Then deliver the experience. To designing for this one: * Deliver an irresistible experience → Convert prospects → Then deliver the experience again. The people who see you speak and follow-up with you or refer you to others are called "stage-side leads," and if you want an easier time or greater results when it comes to your speaking, you look backwards for answers, not forwards: * "Why didn't my last gig get me 3 more gigs?" * "Why isn't my speech yielding more invites to speak?" * "Where are my stage-side leads?" Sometimes they rush up to you then and there or in the weeks after. Sometimes they contact you a year later. Sometimes, you get an email: "Hey, my buddy Steve saw you speak in Phoenix and said you were great! Would love to talk about having you speak to our group..." It's a tough truth to embrace, but it matters: compared to other things you can sell, speeches are sold backwards. They get your product first, then decide to buy it. Even when you pitch cold, it’s not meant to merely book “a” gig. It’s meant to book a pipeline-feeding gig, one that can branch off into tons of lifetime value—and many more speaking opportunities. If you find yourself pitching, pitch strategically: pitch to kickstart the flywheel of stage-side leads. Target events like industry expos where people sitting there need speakers or know others who do. Because speeches are sold backwards. It's like a restaurant where customers eat the entire meal before deciding whether to pay. Or a student attending a school all semester long before choosing whether to enroll and pay any tuition. It's backwards to every commercial interaction you've likely ever experienced and worked hard to master yourself. That's why your marketing sophistication—the very thing that built your success and prompted you to want more keynotes—is now your biggest liability. The entrepreneurs who struggle most with this process and who resist my advice the hardest aren't the ones who don't understand marketing. They're the ones who understand it toowell. * They're proud of their funnels. * They've built successful lead magnets. * They have an attractive online presence and large following. * They've optimized their site with copy written to convert. * Maybe they even have branded frameworks or concepts people know and share. But what got you here won't get you there. What worked to sell other things doesn't work as well to sell keynotes. Because speaking flips this model entirely. Because (if I say it enough, maybe it'll stick this time) speeches are sold backwards. You are completely at the mercy of what you can deliver in that room, in that moment, with those future buyers watching. Jerry Seinfeld put it perfectly: He has said he only gets about five minutes on stage to just "be Seinfeld.” Then he HAS TO deliver. That's the gig. No coasting on prior success. No feeling special because everyone online has complimented you and your success. You're exposed up there. You've got nowhere to hide. Now show me what you've got. The closest analogy to selling speeches (the “backwards” approach) might be a free trial of a software product. But even then, both sides understand the product is for sale and the trial expires. Buyers begin the experience knowing, "This thing is for sale, and I am experiencing it first for free while also deciding whether or not I want to buy it at the end." Audiences attending your speech aren't thinking that way. They may have no intention of evaluating you. They just want to learn, feel moved, feel entertained, and implement a lasting change in their work or lives. It's different than software free trials. When someone sits down to watch your keynote, they're not thinking, "I hope this is good so I can decide to book them." Which means you also need to be so good that they think, "Wow this is so good and I need to book them!" You have to be so good that, partway through, they're already wondering if they can book you—or afford you. ("Surely, they'll charge a pretty penny to speak for us. Worth it!") That story you just told on stage was the last straw: they immediately search for your contact form. The framework you presented earned you a follower. (Check those DMs. There's an invite to speak for their group awaiting you!) The premise you shared changed their perspective so much, they're already emailing their people. ("We need to book them!") You've heard the phrase, "Be so good, they can't ignore you," right? In keynote speaking, unless you're an actual celebrity, you have to be so good, they want to book you. Speaking is much more democratized than we might think and less about fame or marketing systems than we might want to admit. Because it doesn't feel as controllable. Yet it very much is, so long as you invest in the right things, in the right order, testing and validating along the way. Your speech isn't the creative part that comes after the business work. Your speech IS the business infrastructure. Moreover, every mediocre speech you deliver actively works against you. That event organizer or business leader who was considering you? They just watched you deliver something forgettable. That podcast host who might have interviewed you? They're not going to stake their reputation on what they just heard. We've all encountered the most impressive people whose online platform and business feels like a 10 out of 10, then they start a speech that immediately feels like a 4. We immediately recoil. It's SO jarring and SO uncomfortable—and SO bad for their speaking pipeline. Stand-up comedians understand this instinctively. They don't write a set and then immediately focus on marketing themselves to bigger clubs. They work out the material. They test it. They refine it. They know that the act or set itself is the marketing. But entrepreneurs bring a different operating system. One that says: "I've built successful businesses by creating good-enough products and marketing them brilliantly. Why wouldn't that work here?" Because here, they watch the whole product before they buy. And no amount of marketing sophistication can overcome a product that doesn't deliver transformation in real-time. That’s why I tell clients: ---------------------------------------- 🚨 An 80% speech is a 20% business asset. ---------------------------------------- This isn't about being precious with the craft. This is about focusing on and investing in the things that yield the best results first and most ... then worrying about the rest. Your marketing brain tells you: "Make the sizzle reel more compelling. Write better copy. Build a better funnel. More social media videos! Automated emails! More pitches! MY AIR GAME CAN STILL GET ME GIGS!" To that I say, yes, it definitely can. But that’s not the most efficient or effective approach, and that stuff should come later, once the rest is humming. No sense pouring new water into a leaky bucket. When I book a gig, I want to turn that into more gigs. I’m a squirrel already on a tree trunk—why wouldn’t I follow the branches? That’s easier than hurling myself back to the ground and hoping I find another trunk. The ground is a horror show. Again, investing in your signature talk isn't just a creative exercise. This is about focusing on your highest-ROI business asset. ****************************************** Where to focus your time, energy, & money: ****************************************** ​ Start with what drives results. Stay close to the revenue engine. Improve that. Then move outward. The bullseye in the middle is the signature talk. One ring out is the before-during-after process. Then keep going. Each outer ring depends on the efficacy of what came before it. Chances are, if you're starting your speaking journey or wondering how to book more and better opportunities, you haven't yet nailed the bullseye. When your speech isn't dialed in, pick your poison: * You’re forced to constantly cold-pitch, agonizing over deadlines and competitive speakers. You don’t get invited to speak nearly enough to earn from the stage, or at least make free speeches sustainable. (Here’s a hard truth about paid speaking: Breakouts pitch. Keynotes get invited.) * Your fees stay capped. Event organizers can't justify premium pricing for something that feels "pretty good." They need to see clear, undeniable transformation and tons of audience chatter about your speech in the room and around the event. If they can't articulate exactly what their audience will walk away with, they'll default to paying you like everyone else. Hence, you need your one signature speech pivoting off your distinct premise. * Your positioning stays fuzzy. Without a signature talk, you're “another expert on X” rather than “THE person who does Y.” You might be great, but you're not distinct. And in a world of infinite choice, distinct wins. * Every opportunity takes more friction. Instead of organizers quickly vetting you and giving you a fast pass to a contract, they're asking for more calls, more references, more assets. They take more convincing. Your marketing has to work harder because your product isn't doing the heavy lifting. This process can take hours of active communication and weeks or even months of time overall. Meanwhile, other speakers can give their 45-minute speech and earn multiple additional gigs. But when the speech IS dialed in? Everything flips: * The speech becomes your most powerful sales asset. Organizers watch it and want that for their audience. Not because your website copy told them you’re great—because the thing itself proved it. Show, don’t tell. Show them what you’ve got. * Marketing becomes easier. The speech does the selling most notably, but all your materials now serve a stronger product, with higher-impact assets around your platform (video, testimonials, a speech description, etc.) * Premium fees become justified. Clear transformation = clear value = easier yes. * Compound returns kick in. Every time you kill it on stage, you generate the next opportunity (or several). Referrals multiply. People come inbound because their friend saw you speak last year. Or a friend of a friend who saw you speak last year has been quoting you to everyone they know. You’ve created an army of advocates—thanks to your speech. Your reputation builds momentum, and things come easier. You stop chasing. You’re the one they seek. The skills that got you here—your ability to craft compelling positioning, your instinct for conversion-focused messaging, your talent for selling before delivering—are the things which got you into the position of even asking me about keynote speaking in the first place. But they're the wrong tools for the job at hand. We have to embrace what speaking actually is. This is not “a one-off talk.” And while it’s nice to hear nice things about your speech, they should also arrive with nice opportunities. (That’s even nicer.) The bulk of your time, energy, and even budget should be invested into the things that sit closest to your revenue results. In the case of speaking, that’s your signature talk. The speech you consistently refine, customize, deliver, and reliably use to generate stage-side leads. The combination of your premise and IP, plus a smart and gripping structure, valuable and original content, and an undeniable performance. In every other context, you market and sell before you deliver. Here, your absolute best leads—the key to sustainability and growth—experience everything before they decide to buy. You don’t need a different funnel. You need to play a different game. Play the game you’re actually in. Stop trying to market an 80% speech. 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